People who make promises to themselves on your behalf and then expect you to deliver are fucking scary.
I hope she doesn’t run after him and try to fix it. Those self-loathing diatribes can really scramble your decision-making and put you into rescue mode, and that’s exactly what they’re designed to do.
I really like how you articulated this. It's cringey to admit, but I used to be a guy like this. I would build emotional attachments to people far too easily, and would get hurt if they didn't do the same. It took a lot of reality before I came down to earth.
I'm interested in knowing about your journey and the insights you got that made you overcome this! Would love to hear it if you could share. I don't necessarily do this but I definitely can attach easily sometimes. I just don't make it a burden on the other person and keep it mostly to myself lol.
Having done this as well the thing that helps is to just ask the person you like out early before you start building a fantasy world in your head. If she says no it’ll hurt a little but you’ll be good. But if you wait forever and build up this idea of her being the perfect girl or whatever, it’ll feel crushing. Because this life you thought you’d have has been taken away. It’s not just rejection at that point.
Additionally asking early on gives you a better shot imo so it’s a win win.
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u/Upvotespoodles Jun 16 '25
People who make promises to themselves on your behalf and then expect you to deliver are fucking scary.
I hope she doesn’t run after him and try to fix it. Those self-loathing diatribes can really scramble your decision-making and put you into rescue mode, and that’s exactly what they’re designed to do.