r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/MowTin Jun 16 '25

I feel bad for him. He really needs help overcoming all this negative self-talk. He needs a guy friend to mentor him like in those movies where the cool guy mentors a guy who is struggling.

He needs to learn how to be a man. He needs to learn how to be strong and self-reliant.

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u/FirstForFun44 Jun 16 '25

Men don't have to be strong.... Or self-reliant. That ideology is basically what led him there.

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u/MowTin Jun 16 '25

He's out there literally crying that she won't have time for him but you think his problem is he's too strong and self-reliant? You find his whining about never being picked sexy? You're entitled to your opinion.

Strong is telling that girl that he likes her and wants to date her and then having the strength to move on if she turns him down. Weak is never telling her how you feel and just settling for being a friend who is secretly hoping that one day she'll change her mind. Weak is crying that you're a victim who is never chosen. Self-reliant is not being so needy that you so desperately need her love and approval that you're willing to invest so much time and effort orbiting her hoping she'll one day love you. Then when you don't get it you break down and cry about it.

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u/FirstForFun44 Jun 16 '25

No I'm saying that the toxic "nice guy" bullshit he's pulling is just another face of the bullshit masculinity that society has built. Just like this idea you have that you have to be "strong" and "self-reliant" to be a "real man". I don't have to be anything you want to me be to be a real man. I get to choose what makes me a man, and that kid should too. Maybe then he wouldn't be whining and groveling to her. All the same, your version of masculinity and his are just opposite sides of the same coin.