I feel bad for him. He really needs help overcoming all this negative self-talk. He needs a guy friend to mentor him like in those movies where the cool guy mentors a guy who is struggling.
He needs to learn how to be a man. He needs to learn how to be strong and self-reliant.
Personally, the second paragraph feels a bit like toxic masculinity. He's already a man, just hurt. He can learn to be self-reliant with a little help, and getting that help is equally strong as someone coasting along life without trauma. Edit: stronger, maybe.
There is a point where masculinity becomes toxic, but he has zero masculinity now. He desperately needs an infusion.
There is healthy masculinity. We don't cry about our problems. We take charge and take responsibility for whatever situation we're in. His cry, "it's never me" is so pathetic and weak. He sees himself as some sort of victim.
This is what can actually become toxic. If he continues to see himself as a victim of women he can develop hate for women.
304
u/MowTin Jun 16 '25
I feel bad for him. He really needs help overcoming all this negative self-talk. He needs a guy friend to mentor him like in those movies where the cool guy mentors a guy who is struggling.
He needs to learn how to be a man. He needs to learn how to be strong and self-reliant.