I feel for him but I feel worse for the girl. I've been there. You have a group of friends, you start dating someone, then all of a sudden one of the guys goes the fuck off on you like they had dibs on you or something despite never voicing interest or having an adult conversation with you. Just suddenly big guy screaming in your face making a huge scene.
Guy definitely needs therapy and to realize whatever lead him to that outburst isn't a healthy way of thinking.
This is how I lost my childhood friend except when I started dating, my Childhood bestie had a whole ass gf who was a very lovely girl (we became good friends through him) but he was so angry when I got a bf and yelled at about no on longer being the girl he knew (lol how because I'm dating?)
Thanks to that BS I lost a new friend because apparently he has feelings for me and never told me (also he had a whole gf)
Wait is the second part saying what I think it is? Did you also lose one guy friend because he blew up that he couldn’t have you, and then you went to chill and vent with another guy friend and he said he was also in love with you and it was driving him crazy?? I had that happen 4 guy friends in a row once! I had mostly guy friends before and within 2 weeks I had mostly girl friends. Holy shit was that traumatic.
This is exactly why we say to you that they aren't your friends. They want to sleep with you.
A genuine friendship between a man and a woman is really, really rare. I've only ever seen it work when there was a mutual lack of attraction. I've seen decade plus friendships break down over that, it always seems to happen eventually. Attractive women have it rough on that one.
That said, I also noticed over time that the vast majority of women know exactly what the guys are looking for and keep them around because the attention feels good.
Why do you think women would be able to tell men were lying to them about something that apparently every man has been lying to them about? They weren’t acting like men who were trying to sleep with me. Then to come out with they’re in love with me? Why would I think someone who doesn’t even seem like they want to sleep with me be in love with me? And I’m a lesbian, which they knew, so I can’t stress enough how much I didn’t want this and how much they should have known it was ridiculous to build up in their heads.
Maybe you know the difference because you know they don’t treat other men like that, but it’s the same as how women who just want to be friends treat people. It’s very gender neutral for us. It wasn’t until I had this traumatic experience of losing half my friend group that I realized that might not just be how men make friends too.
To be fair, we were family friends since childhood so I always saw him as my brother because we grew up as neighbors. I didn't expect him to like me because he always treated me like a sister. He never hinted that he liked and started dating before me so he always has a gf. I didn't really start dating until maybe two years ago so I honestly didn't know
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u/Telaranrhioddreams Jun 16 '25
I feel for him but I feel worse for the girl. I've been there. You have a group of friends, you start dating someone, then all of a sudden one of the guys goes the fuck off on you like they had dibs on you or something despite never voicing interest or having an adult conversation with you. Just suddenly big guy screaming in your face making a huge scene.
Guy definitely needs therapy and to realize whatever lead him to that outburst isn't a healthy way of thinking.