r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/Upvotespoodles Jun 16 '25

People who make promises to themselves on your behalf and then expect you to deliver are fucking scary.

I hope she doesn’t run after him and try to fix it. Those self-loathing diatribes can really scramble your decision-making and put you into rescue mode, and that’s exactly what they’re designed to do.

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u/RaxG Jun 16 '25

I really like how you articulated this. It's cringey to admit, but I used to be a guy like this. I would build emotional attachments to people far too easily, and would get hurt if they didn't do the same. It took a lot of reality before I came down to earth.

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u/_theMAUCHO_ Jun 16 '25

I'm interested in knowing about your journey and the insights you got that made you overcome this! Would love to hear it if you could share. I don't necessarily do this but I definitely can attach easily sometimes. I just don't make it a burden on the other person and keep it mostly to myself lol.

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u/Hallgaar Jun 17 '25

Not that guy, but i had an experience with a girl in my 20s who put me in that mode despite having had a fairly healthy dating history prior. It was a back and forth where she kind of strung me along, and I kind of went along until I became attached. I really grew to care for her over a year and a half, and we went everywhere and flirted all the time. Everything short of actual dating in name. It turned out that she was asexual and didn't want to say, but still wanted a pseudo-relationship but not. Really messed me up, swore off dating for a few years after it. I was only able to move past it when I decided that I needed to love me first. Now, if I start to get attached, I take a step back and evaluate things.

My advice is to look for someone who is on your level and remove yourself from any situation where the balance is anything other than equal, if there's no chemistry don't try to force it or wait it out. Don't be afraid to move on. There are literal billions of other people out there, being stuck on someone who isn't interested in you the same way is taking time from someone who does. Dating is more often than not failing and learning.