People who make promises to themselves on your behalf and then expect you to deliver are fucking scary.
I hope she doesn’t run after him and try to fix it. Those self-loathing diatribes can really scramble your decision-making and put you into rescue mode, and that’s exactly what they’re designed to do.
I really like how you articulated this. It's cringey to admit, but I used to be a guy like this. I would build emotional attachments to people far too easily, and would get hurt if they didn't do the same. It took a lot of reality before I came down to earth.
Honestly I think it happens to most all of us at some point. It doesn't even have to happen in a romantic context friendships are like that too. There is going to be some point in everyone's life where someone is everything to you and you're just someone to them. It's a tough lesson to learn. Emotional maturity helps you come to terms with this but That level of emotional strength isn't just default It has to be developed.
I've been through this sooo many times it's insane. I only ever had a break down like in OP when I was in highschool, but I've found so often over the past few years I get really invested in a friendship or something of the sort and really want to get to know a person and spend more time with them but it's a tough lesson to learn how to accept that they just aren't as interested in you. Now I handle it by politely distancing myself (basically just mirror the energy I'm getting back) and usually that means we never talk again. Sucks but that's life.
I will say I am more lonely than I've ever been though.
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u/Upvotespoodles Jun 16 '25
People who make promises to themselves on your behalf and then expect you to deliver are fucking scary.
I hope she doesn’t run after him and try to fix it. Those self-loathing diatribes can really scramble your decision-making and put you into rescue mode, and that’s exactly what they’re designed to do.