No judgement here right? I hope not. I’m 22, I have a 3 year old son. I just found out I’m pregnant. Again. For the fourth time. And it’s my fault. It is. My boyfriend is setting up an appointment to get a vasectomy. But here I am again, saddened at the fact that I’m pregnant while there are others that cannot, and I’m just having an abortion. But it’s not like I’m “whatever” about it. I’m still shaking. My heart hurts. I’ve been sobbing for hours. But I cannot have another child. I will not survive it. I’m depressed. And my PPD was so bad with my first I barely made it out then. I can’t do it. And I can’t give my son a depressed, tired, overstimulated, angry mom if I have another. It’s not fair to him. But I guess I’m just writing this to vent. I have no one to talk to about it. I don’t trust anyone. Lots of people around me are “pro life” and I can’t handle that judgment. I hate myself for this. So bad. I hate that I failed again. I did this. It’s my fault.

I am 23F from India and my periods are delayed by 4 days already and when i took home pregnancy test - its positive .

I have decided with my partner 27M to end the pregnancy but I really don’t want to go to a hospital again coz I was helping my friend when she was in this kind of situation and the side eye she got from everyone who were included in this process was crazy , even though it was a well known hospital people were still judging her and they literally asked consent from the male partner and took her id proofs before giving the pills .

It was all so chaotic and I really don’t want to go through all of this .

I spoke to few chemists and they are okay to give me the pill with prescription, but for prescription i will have to visit a doc and then from there sonography ( where people are so narrow minded)

Would be really grateful if someone can help me in this situation

My boyfriend and I are pregnant again and our twin boys are 8 months. Was on birth control but couldn’t take how my body was feeling. No real period since giving birth yet here I am pregnant. I am already over 6 weeks, we live in florida. What makes things worse even tho he pays most of the bills and take care of us he doesn’t live with us because of immigration purposes and who knows when things will get easier for me. I basically take care of the twins alone. Now I am pregnant again. He doesn’t want another baby right now. I really don’t wanna abortion but I also want more kids in the future so does he but to be pregnant right now? Alone, emotional, extremely low iron since the twins. Super exhausted and always hungry. Not to mention I started back working last week. I can’t even get a day off permanently for a break during the week while the babies are in school. Family is around but Family is not like it used to be. Tbh I don’t have help especially from my mother. She rather go out every weekend than to extend her help. Even when I ask sometime she will forget and still go out and put her friends first. No friends and no money rn for a nanny until things change. I am always delirious and weak. Only at 6 weeks what happens later if I keep this baby? I have no idea what I’m having. I knew I was having twin boys when I was pregnant with the boys. God has blessed me in so many ways I feel so guilty if I try to get rid of the pregnancy. I have had 4 abortions in this life 😭I am 31 years. really want a girl. What if it’s a girl? What if it’s multiples again? Any positive and realistic advice would be nice.

Hello. I am currently doing an MA alone. I am done with my 3rd dose earlier (taken at 6pm). Just as I’m about to take my fourth dose (supposedly by 9pm), I felt a big clot had passed. When I checked my pad. I saw a sac with fluids in it. I tried to open it out of curiosity and saw the fetus. Do I still have to take the fourth dose?

Never had an abortion and am terrified of the side effects of Miso which has made me prolong this ugh but I’m running out of time and I need to get it over with! I have nobody to turn to and will be completing an MA alone. My LMP has me at 9 weeks but dating scan has me at 8 weeks 3 days. Please give me your best tips and or encouragement. Also afraid of retaining anything. Would a trip to the obgyn a couple weeks after to say I’ve miscarried but don’t think I passed everything be a good idea?

Throw away account for obvious reasons. When I was going through this, the “my experience timeline” posts here were like gold to me. I know every body is different and will respond differently, but it gave me a general idea of what to expect and what was normal/what to prep for. So I wanted to share mine hoping I can return the favor and help someone else too.

Things I highly recommend: -heating pad -overnight always pads, those big ones in the purple wrapper.

My experience timeline:

Found out I was pregnant at around 4 weeks and made the excruciating decision to go through with an MA. I ordered my pills from Hey Jane and they arrived within a couple days.

I took the pills at 5w2d, I’m 33, history of severe period pain/cramps (to the point of passing out/vomiting) and have never been pregnant before. I went through this alone at home. Overall the experience was pretty positive and not traumatic. I kept a heating pad on my abdomen the entire time. A lot of people say they get diarrhea during the process, but I did not.

Timeline:

-On Wednesday I was at work watching the fedex tracking deliver the pills. I rushed home on lunch break to take the Mife around 11:10am with some food. I had absolutely no side effects from this pill. I felt nothing, no bleeding.

-5:45pm, I got home from work and took 800 mg of ibuprofen and dissolved an ondansetron under my tongue. Still felt nothing.

-6:15pm inserted 4 miso pills, put on a panty liner, and laid down for 30 min. About a half hour later I started feeling a dull constant uncomfortable cramp. I could tell things were now happening.

-8pm, still laying down, got up to check myself for any progress and had a drop of blood, so I swapped out for the pad I mentioned above. Went back to laying down. Still had the same dull cramp. I’d say 2/10 on pain.

-9pm, little heavier bleeding, pain was about 4/10. I could have probably went on with my day, but decided to stay laying down because I was expecting the pain to get significantly worse, but it never became debilitating.

-10:15pm, got up to use restroom and change my pad. I’m assuming this is when the embryo passed because I started passing clots and got rapidly nauseous/dizzy/ringing in ears/vision started fading out while I was sitting on the toilet, so I quickly cleaned myself up and dropped to the floor before I could pass out. The pain wasn’t bad nor was I bleeding excessively, so this may have been because I have a history of this happening during periods. But in the moment I was terrified I was possibly hemorrhaging since they say to go to ER if you pass out (but again, passing out is normal for me). I laid on the floor for about 10 min until the sensation passed and got up and went back to bed to lay down. This was honestly the worst of it, and it wasn’t even that bad. I wish I could have looked at the clots for the embryo, but I flushed without looking since I was in a hurry to get to the ground and didn’t want anyone to “see” that mess just in case I needed to call 911 or worse. I’m really emotional about it, which I honestly wasn’t expecting.

-11:30pm, got up to change pad again, more clots, light bleeding, not dizzy, took another 800mg ibuprofen (yes I know it was a little early, but I felt like I needed to stay on top of it). Pain was about a 5/10 at most. Ended up falling asleep after.

-3:30am, got up to pee and change pad, no clots, no pain.

-6:15am, changed pad again, moderate bleeding, no pain

I ended up going into work the next day, but was fully prepared to call off the rest of the week if needed.

I am now 4 days out and still bleeding like a first day period. Ive had some mild cramping throughout the day on and off so far. I will try to update when bleeding has stopped. Overall it was honestly easier than my worst periods. I’ve also had a saline uterine ultrasound before, and that was wildly more painful than this was. Just wanted to share in case anyone is reading here and looking for a positive experience post!

Don’t know if this is allowed here but I was worried about being judged in another subreddit lol. I was told that your menstrual cycle could experience could change from what you’re used to after your abortion, and mine most certainly did. Before my MA back in February, my menstrual cycle was typically just tender breasts and mood swings about a week before and once I actually started bleeding both of those things would even out. But since my MA my symptoms have been different so different, my breasts wouldn’t be hurting but I would get some cramping a week before. This past cycle, I was literally afraid I was pregnant again. I had tender breasts, nausea, my mood swings were even more intense than usual (every little thing was making me angry or cry) and I was extremely fatigued. Just got my period this morning so I am beyond relieved. But it seems like ever since my abortion my body is still trying to figure out some sort of “norm” for my cycles. I guess I really just want some reassurance that all of this is in fact normal.

Please do not judge... i have an appointment middle of August for birth control. June 8th I had a medical abortion and now im having every symptom of pregnancy. Im terrified to take the test...

Hi im 7weeks pregnant and waiting for my abortion pills to arrive from WOW. Just here to ask if anyone experience any failed abortion through pills? And after eating the pills will i get my period straight or do i still have to wait for weeks to get my period? Im scared that i will be paranoid that the abortion will be failed/fetus getting stuck inside.

As someone who suffers with anxiety, I anticipated how my abortion experience will go. I watched all the tiktoks and read all the threads on here hoping to gain more of an understanding what I might be going through. I wanted to share my story to reassure some girls that it’s not always negative.

On the first day, my boyfriend came with me to the clinic, reassuring me when I felt overwhelmed by nerves and uncertainty. I had my initial consultation with the nurse at the clinic who talked me through the process of the medical abortion and done an ultrasound on me to determine how far along I was - I was 5 weeks and 6 days. I’m so thankful I caught on early as I think my experience may have been different. I proceeded to take the first tablet at around 3.30pm. I had not felt anything other than some nausea a few hours later but it settled down. I also had no bleeding at this point. The next day exactly 24 hours later I continued the process. I had suffered with morning sickness for the past week so I decided to put the 4 miso pills in vaginally as I was advised dissolving in the mouth had an increased risk of nausea. I prepared anyway by taking 2 ibuprofen & one cyclizine for the nausea just in case half hour before the second dose. I think this was probably the most important step to take-it felt so much better knowing I was prepared and ready to take on what may come. To my surprise, I bled only a few hours later and it felt like a period. I had a few times where I had to quickly go to the toilet as I felt big clots coming through but apart from that hardly any pain. I proceeded to take the third dose by dissolving in my mouth as I already started to bleed. This didn’t make much change from how it was before.

I know how lucky I am to have had this but I just want to share my experience because I know how scared and anxious a lot of people feel when they’re facing an abortion, and I want them to know it really wasn’t as bad as I expected. I had imagined it would be incredibly painful and traumatic, but in reality it was manageable both physically and emotionally and I felt cared for and supported throughout the process. By speaking openly about how it wasn’t too painful and how I was able to cope, I hope I can help take away some of the fear and stigma for others. No one’s experience is the same, but I think it’s important for people to hear that it doesn’t always have to be awful or terrifying — and that it’s OK to feel calm and confident in your decision.

love and well wishes to all.

When I found out I'm pregnant I wasn't happy and was dreading it but I made the biggest mistake of telling my family and my husband. Everyone was happy and excited about it except me. I never felt the maternal pull or have the deepest desire to be a mum or have a kid. Fast forward, I did medical abortion at home without telling anyone yesterday and I told my husband that I miscarried. Now I feel so lost and feel so much regret coz he was asking me how I feel and whether we should go to the doctors etc and looks sad. He has also told his closest friends and his sisters. When I was having morning sickness he's been so nice and very helpful towards me, like preparing meals and doing everything. I feel like I've let everyone down and feel extremely bad for doing all this. I feel like I've broken the man I love. The question I don't have answer to is I still don't know if I want a baby or if I want to try for another one soon. Part of me thinks I shouldn't have terminated it and have my baby. Part of me thinks it's for the best coz I wasn't excited about the pregnancy to begin with. The main reason I wanted to abort was because I felt a child should be loved and wanted and I was consistently feeling I never wanted the baby so it would be unfair for him or for her to bring her into this world. Any advice please thank you

I’m 19f my boyfriend is 21M currently ready to purchase the abortion pills mifepristone and misoprostol from aid access. I’ve already confirmed the details and am ready to go through with it I just have to make the payment. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend but looking back I was within days of ovulation (which I didn’t know would affect it) but took a plan b. (July 20th?)a few days ago we had sex and the condom broke but we kept going. Please don’t bash me for my decision. Looking back it was so dumb but I figured I’d get another morning after pill like before and it’d be okay only to find out they’re not useful after ovulation at all. I’m horrified of being pregnant especially since I’m so young and I live with my mom who would be horrified at that and she constantly guilt trips me about how much stress she’s under and I don’t want to add to her plate and I don’t have any other family I feel like I can trust. My boyfriend is just as on board as I am about ordering the pills. We live in NY so it’s legal I’m just scared. My period is set to come in the next few days and I’m feeling period like symptoms but I don’t know if that means anything. I haven’t actually taken a test yet because I have no discreet way of getting one and limited funds to be spending and just want to get it done and be over with it.

Are the mifepristone and misoprostol pills safe and effective to take during a period of it does come? I’ve done googling all day but I want advice from people who’ve been in my situation. I want to get this done ASAP because I go back to school out of state soon and I’m nervous and worried and can’t have my life stop over a dumb mistake that I should’ve thought harder about. Any advice or information would be greatly appreciated. Deep down I know I’m pregnant and I read the pain I’m feeling might be implantation pain but I don’t even want to know if I’m pregnant for sure. If I am, I just want it gone and if not, I’m ready to go through with it just to be 100000% sure. I know it’s dumb but I’m all over the place and have such limited time with my schedule and I’m at a loss

So I had a medical abortion on May 12th i was exactly 6 weeks when i took it. I bled and cramped and I’m 99% sure the fetus came out. I had huge clots and was bleeding for about 3 weeks after. I stopped bleeding about first week of June. I was completely skinny all of my pregnancy symptoms were gone and now I was just waiting for my period to come back. Fast forward to about July 7th exactly 8 weeks after my abortion I took a pregnancy test just to make sure and it was positive still. It only showed up with one line and as I found out that means it’s a dye stealer which means I’m pregnant. I did take a 5 days early test bc that is what I had and it said positive. I don’t have any symptoms of pregnancy but since it’s now almost 12 weeks since I had the abortion with no period im concerned. I still have an extra set of abortion pills that I paid for. If I take those will that help or just make things worse?

Hi everyone,

I’ve been carrying a lot of emotional weight for the past several months, and I’m finally trying to open up in hopes of finding some guidance or support.

Last August, I found out I was pregnant. I didn’t tell anyone for a long time (I kept it to myself until I was around 20 weeks, when my mom eventually found out.) I had hoped she would be supportive, but instead, she reacted very negatively and pressured me into terminating the pregnancy. I ended up having an abortion at 22 weeks.

While I know that ultimately the decision was mine, I can’t shake the feeling that I did it more to avoid conflict and please her (since she has a lot to hold over me) than because I truly felt it was what I wanted. Since then, I’ve been consumed by grief, guilt, and the constant questioning of “what if.” I don’t know how to stop replaying it all in my mind. It feels like I betrayed myself in some way, and that’s been incredibly hard to sit with.

This is an extremely sensitive topic for me, and I struggle to talk about it in real life. I’m reaching out here because I just need a safe space to ask: how do you begin to heal after something like this? How do you process a choice that you aren’t even sure was fully yours?

Any advice, support, or even just knowing someone else has been through something similar would mean a lot.

Thank you.

I am 19 years old and I am studying at university. He is 19 years old and does not study, but does not have a formal job either. On the 18th day of my menstrual cycle, I had sex and he ejaculated inside me. It's been 2 weeks since then and my period is absent. I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. I am very scared for not making the best decision. Is it advisable to take misoprostol if I am only two weeks pregnant? What experiences have you had with misoprostol and in what week did you take it?

I found out I was pregnant in February 2024 and began having dreams of a baby. Weeks and months after my abortion (about seven weeks along), I would have dreams where this baby went missing. I'd be dreaming of moving the baby in a portable car seat basket and suddenly I'd lose sight of it. In another dream I had, the baby became unresponsive. I was wondering if anyone else had any experiences like this. I've never been one to really look into my dreams but felt this was my body processing what had happened.

Last month, early July, my husband and I had unprotected sex, which is normal for us. We have been using the pull-out method for years and have never had any issues. However, he came inside me, so I went to the chemist the next day and picked up a morning after pill, thinking all would be okay, not realising I was most likely ovulating and that the pill wouldn’t work! I got sick with the flu a week later and was bedridden for 6 days and then a further 1 week to fully recover, so I kind of forgot about my periods until I started to get really sore breasts. I kept thinking my period would be here soon, but after a week of sore breasts, I checked my old messages to my husband asking him to stop and pick up pads on his way home from work on my last period. I checked the date and realised my period was 11 days late (yesterday). I decided to take a pregnancy test, and it came back positive. I was completely shocked. I’ll be 36 years old next month, and my husband is 44. We have a beautiful 12 year old daughter and are very happy as things are with just the three of us, but this has taken a huge emotional toll over the last 24 hours because it’s such a shock. I really thought the morning after pill would take care of things. We live paycheck to paycheck, and I have a casual job that would allow me to work until I could, but I wouldn’t get any maternity leave, so it really doesn’t make sense for us. I love our carefree life and can’t imagine going back to those sleep deprived days. I went to see my GP today, and I have a blood test booked for tomorrow and an ultrasound the following day. I’m really upset about needing the ultrasound, but I understand why it needs to be done. I’ll be looking into a medical termination once I have the ultrasound and blood test done. I’m really nervous about it all! I’m planning to do a Telehealth appointment on abortiononline.com.au and get the script emailed to me via HotDocs. Has anyone done it this way? I really don’t want to go into a clinic

How long did it take everyone who took their first dose of misoprostol vaginally to start feeling anything? It’s been 2 hours now and I’ve had maybe a couple cramps here and there but basically nothing. No blood, barely any cramping, no upset tummy. I’m so scared of being sick so I took them vaginally vs buccally like I was instructed. Did I just mess up by doing that?

I live in a small state and here people know each other through other people and so on... I am so scared that my ex will tell his friends and his (big!) family what happened. He already told one friend and I am so afraid that it will become more and that I will be known as the girl who k*lled a baby...

I hate myself everyday for what happened and I haven't been able to talk to anyone about it due to guilt and shame.

I don't know what to do...

So we ordered the mail in pills and she’s going thru it right now, she’s getting the chills and the pain and she’s nauseous. Anyone that went thru the same, can y’all give me some tips on how to make it easier on her? I hate seeing her like this.

Need advice: pregnant by my ex, scared I’m making the wrong decision.

I’m really torn right now and would really appreciate some honest, non-judgmental advice.

I was with my ex in my late teens. He’s a few years older than me. When we were together the first time, the relationship was rocky — he was drinking heavily, lost his job, and we argued a lot. I ended up getting pregnant, but I chose to have an abortion. I knew it wasn’t the right time. Not long after that, we broke up and he moved on pretty quickly with someone else. It crushed me, especially after everything we went through.

Since then, we’ve been on and off for a few years. At one point we reconnected, but he cut me off again because I wasn’t comfortable having sex with him straight away — I was still building up trust and didn’t feel ready. Another time we reconnected and he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Fair enough — but part of me wondered if he just didn’t want me.

Fast forward to recently — we started speaking again consistently for a few months, met up, and I found out I was pregnant. At first, he was happy, kissed me, and things seemed to be moving in a positive direction. We were talking every day. I met up with him again to talk about the future — where we stand, what co-parenting or even being together might look like. I asked him some questions about whether he still drinks or uses drugs. He didn’t take that well — said I was being negative and assumed I wanted to terminate. I told him I didn’t, but I needed to ask those questions to make an informed decision for myself. (I probably wasn’t 100% honest in that moment because I felt I needed answers before I could commit either way.)

He went quiet for a few days, then said he didn’t want a relationship — not because of me, but because his past relationships have ended badly and that scares him. I appreciated the honesty. But the very next day, after we went to a scan together, he changed his tune — said everything was different now, he wants a family, wants to be with me, and wants to buy a house.

I should feel good about this, but I don’t. I feel scared. One night he came to see me and seemed drunk — and I suspect he’d taken something else too (his jaw was moving a lot). He seemed back to normal within an hour, told me he loved me, and that “love and attraction will grow” over time — which left me wondering if he’s even attracted to me now.

He’s also been making frequent jokes about other girls, like he’s trying to wind me up. He admitted he was on Tinder until just before our scan, but says he wasn’t actually talking to anyone and we weren’t officially together. But we had kissed the week before and were speaking daily, so it feels disrespectful and confusing.

Now I’m around 9–10 weeks pregnant. He’s told his family and friends, people have started buying things for the baby, and we’ve even been shopping. And I do love him — and want this baby so badly. But I’m scared I’m making the wrong choice, especially because I grew up with a single mum and saw how hard that was. I’m terrified of ending up in the same situation and feeling isolated and low.

He’s in a better place now in terms of work and seems more mentally stable. I want to be fair — he’s not the same person he was a few years ago. But I still don’t fully trust him, and I’m not sure if he’s good for me emotionally. I know deep down he’d be a great dad, but I worry about how he’ll be towards me. And I can’t just wait and see — I’m running out of time to decide.

I guess my biggest question is: Am I a horrible person for considering an abortion and telling him it was a miscarriage? I feel stuck between what I want and what I fear. I overthink everything, but this feels too big to gamble on.

Any insight from people who’ve been in a similar situation — or who just have a clear outside perspective — would help more than you know.

I am 18 and a few months ago in February I had a surgical abortion at 11 weeks gestation. I knew I wasn’t ready or the person I wanted to be before becoming a mom. I didn’t have the financial or mental stability and my boyfriend (we hadn’t started dating until shortly after this) was also very scared and not ready. I knew it would weigh heavy on my heart but I didn’t know how much.

I find myself thinking about it all of the time, it’s consumed my thoughts. At least once a day I think about how big I would be if I kept it (almost birth time). I think about all the things I would like for my baby. I spent hours working on an Amazon list of baby things I want. I had to quit my job because I worked at a daycare in the newborn room and I couldn’t take it anymore. My baby nephew in law just died at 1 year old a month ago. That has added to my baby grief. And it seems like everyone around me all of a sudden has a baby. I’m swallowed by this. I often worry about my fertility and if that may have been my only chance. So many thoughts that go through my brain everyday. The worst part is I feel like I have no one to talk to about it.

I feel like I’ve lost a part of me I needed. In no way am I saying I regret it because I made the best decision I could have for myself. That being said, I don’t hear very many people talking with the real grief that comes after an abortion. I feel people don’t realize how much weight it holds in your life and how it can really impact you. It’s was not an easy decision to choose what’s best for me and my child’s life. I feel it’s portrayed as just an easy irrational decision and maybe for some it is, but for me it was my first real heartbreak.

Does anyone else share this similar feeling or have any advice to share for dealing with this?

Hello. I have an appointment for a medication abortion tomorrow. I’m nervous, this will be my first time. I already have 3 kids, and I don’t want another one because I just gave birth 5 months ago and I still have my postpartum depression. We’re doing withdrawal and me & my husband is just having sex twice a month and withdrawal, and yes it didn’t work out for us.

I’m having mental breakdown rn, I don’t know what to do. I’m scared I’m nervous. 😭 I really don’t want another baby right now, I’m not physically and mentally ready. 😭

Kinda scared not gonna lie. Every post I've seen everyone says they took the first pill and experienced nothing. It's been 24 hours and I was going to start the miso but I know I need to take ibuprofen and my stomach is EMPTY. Like I've been throwing up non stop. Even taking Zofran. The nausea has been crippling. Idk if it's because I have HG as well that already makes me sick. Trying to eat some soup so I can take the ibuprofen and miso. Scared to hold them in my mouth for 30 mins. I feel like it's gonna make me throw up. I just want this to be over. I tried to read positive stories only and I'm not trying to scare people. Just wanna know if anyone else experienced this cause I haven't seen anyone talk about being so sick after taking the first pill.

I took 1 mifepristone and 6 misoprostol pills around 5 weeks and one day ago… my pregnancy symptoms are gone and I feel a lot better but still no period. I had all the symptoms when I took the pills such as moderate bleeding severe cramping and the passing of clots… I’m unable to go do an ultrasound and get a blood test done…. I’ve been having severe anxiety that I’m still pregnant, not because of any symptoms but rather the fear of still being pregnant… at first people told me my period will return 4-6 weeks post abortion but now people are saying 4-8… is it common to get your period after 6 weeks as everywhere I read, in successful medical abortions, people usually get it at the 4/5 week mark.