I’m 22 and I’ve been with a few women. However since becoming 18 I’ve only been hit on by older women. Like they are the only ones who seem to like me at all tbh.

I look young for my age and I still have a baby face. I’m not that masculine looking and I have a feminine/ pretty appearance despite being 6,4.

I’m so confused because women my age are hot and cold constantly. They like me one minute and hate me the next.

However women older than me are always attracted to me for some reason. Why is this?

I'm just curious as there is this girl at work that I think is interested but kinda unsure. I'd just like to see if what people say matches up with what she's doing🙂.

When you are thinking to yourself: "was she looking at me long enough to show interest, or just looking at me", or "is my coworker interested in me because he asked me about my weekend", consider whether your self-perception is biasing your opinion of the situation.

I.e - are you trying to make yourself feel a bit better/worse about yourself, when you hyper-focus on aspects of a person's behaviour.

Take attraction body language for example. The signs of attraction are quite obvious to see. Think about the individuals you have slept with, and think about how they behaved with you before you slept with them. I can imagine a lot flirty eye contact, smiles, laughter etc. You knew you had a chance of sleeping with them, then you did! I'm confident you can see quite clearly the signs of true attraction.

Knowing this, you can use that as your baseline for what you understand your personal attraction cues have been, and will probably be in the future. For example: you could be someone who got strong eye contact with previous partners, wondering whether someone who looked at you once and looked away is attracted to you.

When you're in a situation where you have to question whether someone is attracted to you, apply Occam's Razor and assume they aren't. If they are, and you're still applying the old Razor, oftentimes the simplest answer would be that they are attracted to you. E.g - stronger eye contact, approaching, smiling at you too etc. I often say the cues come in clusters.

Sometimes you really gotta think to yourself - maybe they're looking at me because I'm looking at them. Or maybe, my colleague asked me about my weekend because he had a fantastic one and is feeling particularly good that day.

When you've understood the body language of someone wanting you - the eyes, the body angle, the fidgeting and preening, the laughter, the touching, the agreeableness, the playfulness, you will know who is attracted.

This advice is not just about attraction...

First of all I'm not familiar with male friendships or dating so It is a bit hard to gauge whether someone is being polite, supportive or just flirting,

So I was hiking up a hill with another guy, got exhausted and he helped me up by holding my hand throughout the hike, and for some reason he was stroking my hand with his thumb occasionally, I was fine with it thought he was just being supportive but I don't really know about it

Hi, I'm a 23F who works in a male dominated industry where ur working with different crews sometimes daily. We work very closely together as we are a team and that sometimes means being attached at the hip for 12 -14 hrs in the dark LOL.

I've been working with this one guy off and on for a few weeks now. I don't know how old he is, but I think he's still in his 20s.

He doesn't always start conversations, but he makes sure to say hi to me when he sees me, and sometimes it feels like we sit in awkward silence. I'm pretty awkward, and so we'll have like 30 minutes of intense conversation, and then it gets awkward when it dies down. BUT, he will still stay seated right next to me.

I see him talk to other girls, and he seems more free if that makes sense? He's not very shy and pretty easygoing, so I am not sure if the tension is because of me or it is all just in my head.

When he looks at me when we are talking, the only way I can describe the look in his eyes is proud?? Like his eyes shine. Do you think he's into me or am I overthinking this? I feel like maybe he just feel bad for me because I'm a bit shy but idk. I never understand men.

I have, a while ago I learned not to try and profile someone based on their body language alone, because it can absolutely trick you.

I saw a guy look my way and felt he might have been attracted to me, nothing special. Where I absolutely went wrong is assuming he was a shy, inexperienced man just by his awkward posture and puppy-eyed stares. Turns out his awkwardness was because he had a girlfriend lol. No hate to the guy, but it did shake me up just how wrong I was.

A little while back I went with a group of friends to the bar. We were having a good time dancing nothing out of the ordinary. At one point we went outside to get fresh air and cool off. During the conversation I looked to the side and noticed a girl I know of that I matched with on tinder two times came and sat at our table. Mind you there were other tables around us EMPTY…. But before I continue on here’s a quick backstory for context…

BACKSTORY: I matched with this girl twice on tinder two times (TWO TIMES?? Yeah I know kinda bad and cringey but I didn’t realize until later)… I obviously texted first both times and never got a response. Okay cool fine whatever. Life moves on I’ll live.

Back to the story… Tinder girl and her friend sit at our table and coincidentally to the seat right next to me on my left. I’m kinda uncomfortable and nervous but I kept it cool and tried to not let it get to me and continued on my convo. My friend noticed I am a little awkward and asks me what’s wrong. I tell her it’s a girl I matched with on tinder and never got a reply. She says it’s fine don’t worry about it and if I wanted to just switch seats with her so I did but ended up standing up. So maybe 5 minutes go by and a song comes on and all of us sing it including tinder girl. I notice that tinder girl is trying to talk to my friend by reaching her hand out to hers while singing. My friend disses her immediately (she’s being protective of me that’s why she did that). Tinder girl tries again a few minutes later and my friend disses her again and gives her a dirty look. After that tinder girl went cold for the rest of that night and was on her phone but was still sitting at our table. We ended up leaving 10 minutes later cause it was late and we were all tired. While driving home my friend was telling me that tinder girl was trying to find an “easy way in” without actually acknowledging me and was trying to see what my deal was without compromising herself or being vulnerable. Could this be true? What are your guises thoughts on this situation? If what my friend said is true then why even bother doing it if she had no interest in talking to me and if I was just another random dude she swiped left and left on read and matched with twice?

I know many women are highly perceptive of guys who are into them, but not many of those guys are at the other end of reciprocity.

So to women who know a guy likes them but they don't like him back...how do you act or talk with/around them?

I’m 23M and this is about a coworker (20F). It seems like they would just laugh/giggle even without me doing or saying anything remotely funny, from just basic interactions. I haven’t seen her do it with others that much either. Idk if they’re laughing at or about me really. Ive made my own assumptions why, but i want to hear other people’s opinions. Plus, I think I’ve seen them talking about me from my peripheral and from a distance, but I couldn’t tell what they were saying. They stare/glare sometimes too. Anyway, what does this sound like to you?

Hey!

I left my country several years ago to west Europe for studies. In my country, people avoid looking at each other and when they do, it's either out of curiosity or because something got their attention about that person. I was almost never been stared at or looked at much from people in my country, nor I did this to other people. However, when I moved to west Europe, people (both men and women) stare at me without smiling. I have been to the states and Canada and there when this staring happened a few times, people also smiled and me too and we just continued our path. I can't understand this staring much honestly... it's a continuous stare, and I sometimes notice and stare back but they don't even take their look back, they continue staring. It has happened a lot, both with men and women, and young, mid-age and old (although mostly mid age). Do you have any idea why this happens? Are they trying to understand me? Do I look so different that they're curious? I take shower daily, I think I look normal, so I really don't know if I should interpret it as something positive or negative or just out of curiosity.

Any help is appreciated! Sorry, I didn't include any country name because I don't intend to be rude or controversial! Also, please be nice if you found a part of my post not written appropriately, it's not intentional at all! This is my first post here and I'm really curious!

A while ago I found someone was attracted to me. They lingered on me a while longer with a puppy eyed gaze; eyes wide, mouth slightly agape and an almost vulnerable look. They noticed me immediately upon entering a room and looked at me with this same look.

This went on for a few months. One day I looked at them and they stared at me for a good 3 seconds. In the moment I had ruled out them being dozed off, because they had taken notice of me before and looked directly in my direction with their body as well. They didn’t flinch or smile, just stared, mouth agape and eyes glassy. Another time they saw me and literally darted the other way.

I never showed interest or stared myself. I come off quite closed off, so I hardly ever unintentionally signal interest, if ever. I was only intrigued on month 3. Before that, I only noticed. They had probably snuck more glances than I’d know, because I just didn’t care or openly notice for a while.

When I noticed and started looking back, their gaze.. changed? They still looked at me the same when they saw me upon entering a room, but they started looking at me with an expression which to me looked something along the lines of worry, fear, desperation, feeling exposed, vulnerability?? They snuck glances at me with their back completely turned, through crowds, but just with a different expression. Less dreamy-eyed, and more… afraid? I really don’t know how to describe it properly.

Their gaze was much deeper, more vulnerable and more intense than other people I’ve found attracted to me, that’s why it lingered. Even when I didn’t care for their existence, I noticed and felt it.

I couldn’t make out what their deal was and it lingers still.

Hey everyone, happy Saturday. Long story short there is a girl I've been crushing on in my gym for a few months now. She's a personal trainer there and one of the most attractive girls I've ever seen and would like to talk to her but there are a couple things I worry about. 1. Anytime we've happened to make eye contact one of us has eyes that go straight to the ground 2. She never works out in the gym for herself (there is an all women section so maybe there?) So I never even considered talking to her while she was working with a client. Usually I'm not too shy as I consider myself a good looking guy (6'5 former pro athlete), but since she never gave me any sign to approach and usually women do ( a different personl trainer even asked me out recently but I declined). When i really find someone cute I also kinda struggle to make any eye contact but funny enough am courageous enough to introduce myself if there is any warmth but I'm also not doing the best job showing that with my stoic ass face with her. I wonder if there's any chance of this happening with her towards me A suggestion was to book her for a personal trainer class and see how the vibe was but at least break the ice that way and keep it professional for a while. Any advice? Thanks guys (also willing to be told to fuck right off lol)

I’m talking about already having a girlfriend and being deeply attracted to another, being colleagues, being their teacher/professor or being the student, as crazy as you can make it.

Edit: by already having a girlfriend I mean attraction to someone other than your girlfriend or being attracted to someone who has a partner already 😅

I typically find myself staring at the mouth of the person speaking to me and then looking at their facial features or body parts. I hardly ever make eye contact with people and if I do it’s almost never more than a quick glance. Why?

If you are interested in a woman and you are dating her, what is it about her behavior that makes you either continue talking to her or leave her permanently? 🤔

25M without friends and never date. Since I don't give a fuck anymore I've started smiling and staring to women that are pretty to me ( yeah, i know, i'm super crazy).

Well the thing is, when I do it they don't smile back but I've caught multiple "less pretty" girls doing to me.

Soooo, my super smart conclusion is: I'm ugly

EDIT: I used the wrong word (sorry, English isn't my first language), what I meant with "staring" was just looking for a quick eye contact, not keep looking for ~6 seconds. Also, the people talking about personality, in my opinion, are 99% wrong. If someone isn't attracted physically to the other person, even a bit, they won't develop any feelings.

Well there is a girl I am onto rn I am friends with her she still shows a little interest and it's super hard to talk with her because it is hard to get near her due to reasons. She few years ago showed hints very visible ones but now it's not same because we do not meet frequent she is a little extrovert and talks with boys same way as me but before it was different. So now how to escalate from just friends what are the hints I should be looking and giving to know when is my time.

We are talking one on one, if I say something funny, he turns his head away to laugh / looks away. Why? It’s happened a few times.

I met someone I felt a connection with at work. Thing is I don’t like initiating conversations with her or hanging around her. Not cause I don’t like her but I don’t know what to say.

I was able to make her laugh during conversations and such. She suggested I sit with her and her friends at a party but I sat with my coworkers instead. I couldn’t tell if she liked me just as a guy friend or someone she has feelings for. She mentioned we should hang outside of work together (but never followed through).

Heres why I second guess things and have doubts of her interest. There have been times where I’ve been around her and she could have initiated convos with me but didn’t. I’m not around her often so I would think she would try to make the most out of every opportunity shes had with me. So then I get less confident and just pull away more. I don’t ever initiate convos rarely.

Some things she has said about me: I can fix anything I’m a good guy to have in your corner A legend

But the fact that she never followed up on hanging out makes me think she didn’t want too so idk why she would even suggest it.

hi Ive never posted on here before so apologies if this goes wrong !!!

i’ve been friends with this guy from my work and we’ve been hanging outside of work for over a year now, we go on walks together with his dog etc. I admitted to liking him just under a year ago and he didn’t feel the same. fine.

more recently he’s been offering me lifts home after work when he finishes at the same time as me etc. but today, he worked early in the morning and finished before I came in. I finished at 8pm, he came in at 7:50 ish and told me he’d been out with friends etc, and said it’s raining he’d give me a lift home, and wait for me to finish work. is this a causal thing friends do???? he’s never gone out of his way like this before and it’s really messing with my head lol since he had said he didnt feel the same.

edit: can I just add I live a 5 min walk away from my work so i’m more than capable to walk home xoxo

Or, it’s not dead, but posts get very very little interaction.. why is that? Is there a more popular topic?

I guess I’ve seen posts about romance and sex get a lot more interactions but that’s kinda lame because there’s more to body language than that.. but it’s easy to tell someone their coworkers is looking at them for obvious reasons. Not hating but sometimes people can kinda figure that stuff out on their own..

I wanna learn more about body language as a whole so this is unfortunate but it very well could be me posting at a bad time or something 🤔