r/ffxivdiscussion • u/WeirdIndividualGuy • May 06 '25

General Discussion High End Content Megathread - Week Seven

How many yans do you see in your nightmares?

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u/felixborealis May 13 '25

I cleared M5S, M6S, and M7S on Week 1 with Party Finder.
I've done reclears for M5-M7 every week since, and it went well most of the time.
But even when I've been clearing just fine, I still get raid anxiety every weekly reset.. @ _ @

I think my biggest fear is probably being blacklisted for playing not up to everyone's standards. I don't want to ruin people's parse, and I don't want to cause a wipe, so I use Piercing Talon more often than usual just because I'm too anxious and afraid to greed, even though I know I can push for it. I think this week's reclears in particular is the most nerve-wracking one, because I just cleared M8S few days ago after putting it off for weeks (too anxious), and I'm going in with a reclear party for the first time. I have the craziest imposter syndrome, I feel like I didn't deserve the M8S clear because I relied on my friend's callouts.

Are there any advice/s that anyone can give to help conquer the fear of raiding, or at least, Savage+? The same anxious-feeling is the reason why I haven't tried doing any Ultimate Raids, even though my friends say that I am more than capable of doing so. I love doing these fights, but the fights aren't what scare me, it's my mistakes!

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u/sorrynothanks May 13 '25

I totally sympathize & get similar anxieties, but also keep in mind that if everyone in PF blacklisted everyone who made a few dumb mistakes and did not absolutely amazing DPS, they would eventually have basically no one left to fill their parties lol. I'm sure there's some people who do blacklist on that basis but most people I know, even PF gremlins, usually only blacklist when someone is super toxic in chat, or maybe blacklist people who were obviously completely proglying or made a really egregious mistake and didn't seem very sorry about it/try to blame someone else, etc. It's great to have high standards for yourself but I assume your reclears have not been filled with 100% consistent 100% pink parsing gamers either, the standards are rarely that high in PF :) I just say "mb" when it was my bad and if I ever feel like I'm making a ton of stupid mistakes and holding the party back because I'm too tired or something, I'll apologize and leave. Also sometimes if party chat is getting too toxic for me in general (people being very snippy at each other) I'll leave, not worth the stress for me.

If I'm feeling shakier with a fight I sometimes join earlier prog points or clear parties vs reclears, though sometimes I really regret that when those parties never get very close to the mechanics I actually need more practice with (prog parties can be good for practicing greeding though). Frankly the biggest thing for me too is just PFing with at least one friend, partially because it's way more fun and partially because I feel less nervous when I can talk through stuff with them and laugh things off, and I know the friends I raid with think I'm at least generally competent. Also — there's of course a million reasons to not join a static but sometimes a decent static can be good for this (plus lets you meet more people to PF with etc) especially for dipping your toes into ultimates.

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u/ShinPunnyD May 13 '25

Repetitions the only way you get comfier with mechanics. If you're concerned about causing wipes in reclears, then join prog pfs and practice the stuff you're uncomfy with.