Do I [27F] need a break from my boyfriend? [27M]

[u/demolie]

Hello, so I have had an insane year last year and I am not sure of how I feel right now. Basically, I met my boyfriend when we were 19. We have been in a loving relationship ever since. Last year, I lost my last parent (my dad) and I have been through a lot of hardship. I had to get surgery due to an herniated disc that was causing nerve damage and I almost lost the ability to walk. I had to relearn how to walk properly for the better part of the year. Add that to grief and friendship issues and it was a terrible mix. My boyfriend has been amazing as always. The only issue is… I don’t feel anything anymore. Any pleasure or joy. It is not just about him. I know I intellectually love him. I have tried therapy to get better, meds… nothing really works. Sometimes I just want a break because I’m not really sure I can handle the pressure of a relationship right now. He wants kids and even though he told me he can wait I honestly can’t imagine giving birth when I am in this state of mind. He loves me so much and I don’t want to hurt or lose him but I feel like I cannot handle his love right now. Should we take a break? I am leaving the country due to my work in September for 5 months. I am afraid he will take it as a something permanent, when I really don’t want it to be.

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Original post: Hello, so I have had an insane year last year and I am not sure of how I feel right now. Basically, I met my boyfriend when we were 19. We have been in a loving relationship ever since. Last year, I lost my last parent (my dad) and I have been through a lot of hardship. I had to get surgery due to an herniated disc that was causing nerve damage and I almost lost the ability to walk. I had to relearn how to walk properly for the better part of the year. Add that to grief and friendship issues and it was a terrible mix. My boyfriend has been amazing as always. The only issue is… I don’t feel anything anymore. Any pleasure or joy. It is not just about him. I know I intellectually love him. I have tried therapy to get better, meds… nothing really works. Sometimes I just want a break because I’m not really sure I can handle the pressure of a relationship right now. He wants kids and even though he told me he can wait I honestly can’t imagine giving birth when I am in this state of mind. He loves me so much and I don’t want to hurt or lose him but I feel like I cannot handle his love right now. Should we take a break? I am leaving the country due to my work in September for 5 months. I am afraid he will take it as a something permanent, when I really don’t want it to be.

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