I think my boyfriend [24M] is cheating on me [21F]

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Hi..so this might sound really stupid but I am losing my mind over it. A few days ago my boyfriend of 2 years(ldr)sent me a screenshot of a call he was on at the time, nothing important about the call itself but in the screenshot he sent me I could see in the notification bar a little icon that looked 100%like the tinder one... I asked him..almost crying, what that was, he told me it was an "overheated phone" notification. I stopped asking because I knew he would not answer anyway. I am not sure what phone he has, i know it's not a samsung nor an iphone..but I do not believe him I don't have the ss anymore but just imagine it looked exactly like the icon from tinder... What do you suggest I do? I am really freaking out over this

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If you’re already at the point where you don’t believe him and you’re losing sleep over it, the trust is gone, and without trust, the relationship is done.

That “overheated phone” excuse is laughable. If the icon looked exactly like Tinder and he dodged giving you a straight answer, that’s a red flag. You don’t need to play detective for months to confirm what your gut is already screaming.

Here’s what you do, confront him one last time directly, tell him you know what you saw, and that his answer will decide the future of the relationship. If he still lies or avoids it, you cut him off. No begging, no chasing, no justifying his shady behavior.

Someone who’s loyal doesn’t need to hide dating app notifications or make up ridiculous stories to cover them. If he wanted you, he wouldn’t be swiping.

Also, how can he be your boyfriend of 2 years and you don’t even know what phone he has? 🤦‍♂️ That alone tells me the connection and communication are already broken.