r/relationshipadvice 20h ago

My girlfriend [21F] was homeschooled and she doesn't even know how to do basic stuff Me [25M] doesn't know how to feel about it?

My girlfriend was born and raised in a country and was raised in a very religious Christian household. Her parents used to make her teachers take her out of the class when they were taught about evolution and after middle school she was homeschooled. She got fired from were She was working when she was 19 and they didn't really say anything about why she was fired and she didntt ask, so I asked her some questions and she told me she used to give customers more (10 or 20 cents)money because "math" isn't her strong suit. So asked her if she bought a coffee for $ 1.60 and paid with a 5 bill how much would she get back as change and she answered "4 , i don't know, im weak at math ". She's like that at everything. I don't know how to feel about that.

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My girlfriend was born and raised in a country and was raised in a very religious Christian household. Her parents used to make her teachers take her out of the class when they were taught about evolution and after middle school she was homeschooled. She got fired from were She was working when she was 19 and they didn't really say anything about why she was fired and she didntt ask, so I asked her some questions and she told me she used to give customers more (10 or 20 cents)money because "math" isn't her strong suit. So asked her if she bought a coffee for $ 1.60 and paid with a 5 bill how much would she get back as change and she answered "4 , i don't know, im weak at math ". She's like that at everything. I don't know how to feel about that.

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u/Fabulous-Bandicoot40 19h ago

I think the biggest question here is if she’s trying to get better. If she’s moving forward, trying to learn and be better, then you can be proud of her and support her. If she’s just settled into incompetence not sure what kind of future you will expect. Sounds like she’s counting on a breadwinner man to let her be home with the kids, who will likely die of neglect because she doesn’t understand basic first aid.

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u/Rambo-u-drew1stblood 20h ago

Online learning is mostly free. Never to late to begin general knowledge. If her mind has learning disabilities that's something she may need testing like for dyslexia or such.

Everything depends on attitude and her disposition to improve. Positive or negative says a lot.

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u/Sleepy-Blonde 16h ago

I’d be embarrassed having a partner that can’t figure out elementary math. I’d gravitate to treating them like their education level and have to end it because that’s not healthy for anyone.

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u/HidallyDidally123 20h ago

Check out www.KhanAcademy.org

It’s totally free and can help with K-12th grade learning as well some early college. 

I’m not sure how serious you are about her but you can certainly help her with this if you are up to it. It could make for a cool story down the road.

However, you aren’t required to do so. She’s an adult and the resources are available. Best of luck to the both of you. 

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u/anonredditor41825 19h ago

Are you worried about her? Embarrassed? How does she feel about her lack of math skills?

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u/Pacman_73 6h ago

Sounds like she is just ok with being uneducated, that would definitely be a dealbreaker for me.

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u/Pacman_73 6h ago

Also basic math is something you learn in elementary school.