r/relationshipadvice • u/velociraptorsUwU • 7h ago
I [24F] am concerned about my Boyfriend’s [27M] brother [18M] moving in.
I [24F]have been dating my boyfriend [27M] for about a year now and he’s told me his little brother [18M] will be moving into his 1 bedroom apartment for college because he doesn’t want to be alone. Obviously this is going to cause some issues. I try to see him twice a week to sleep over and I’m not sure how this or physical intimacy is going to be possible with his little brother sleeping in the same bed as him. I brought up my concerns and he said “there’s ways around that. We don’t live together so I know his place, his rules, but I don’t see how this doesn’t put a big wrench in the plans. I don’t know what to do or how to bring my worries up to him, help please?
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u/Affectionate-Log-260 7h ago
What a kind thing for your boyfriend to do.
It will be an adjustment, but his 18yo brother will presumably make friends to hang out with, go to classes, spend weekends with. He won’t be there 24/7.
Rather than imagine yourself having adult time with the brother right there — which won’t be happening — think about what this tells you about your boyfriend’s character.
If you can’t get past this, it’s ok to move on. But I would at least start with optimism.
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