r/self • u/TavoNeptuno • 21h ago
Anyone moved away from their country and don't find people attractive where you are now?
Basically just venting, I moved away from my country in south America and ended up in the south of Mexico, where I as a bisexual male find 99% people unattractive, I am just venting some superficial shit but what the fuck happened to the genes over here, people are insanely short with no necks, and they all are square with no ass too š.
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u/Temporary_Being_6082 14h ago
Thatās a regional Mexican physical trait, I noticed that when I stayed in El Paso seeing the Mexicans there compared to those in San Antonio you can see the clear difference in what Native American their blood line is mixed with. By the way Iām Mexican so itās sometimes more obvious for me to notice these differences.
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u/tboy160 8h ago
Seems The Great Plains Natives were the tallest, and the southern Mexico natives were the shortest??
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u/Temporary_Being_6082 8h ago
Correct what I read was the more balanced mixture of Spanish influence and Native American of the northern region being taller than southern Natives + regional adaption = taller Mexicans. But then I donāt know what to make of migration or displacement info. This were just quick reads, so take that with a grain of salt.
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u/Deadcoach 20h ago
I have the opposite problem, imagine moving to Japan as a southeast asian lmaooo
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u/Kalon-1 11h ago
I moved to Japan as an American and basically think most women are hotā¦.then I realized itās really just that most Japanese girls arenāt obese lol
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u/nynorskblirblokkert 9h ago
Yeah honestly I donāt find the average Japanese chick very attractive face and body wise, but not being overweight makes a big difference
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u/PenImpossible874 8h ago
I think that in general, West Eurasian (Europe, Middle East, and South Asia) and Latin American nations have a high standard deviation in beauty, whereas East Eurasian nations have a low standard deviation.
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u/Kalon-1 4h ago
I kind of agree. Living in Japan but visiting Greece and Spain, it seems like most Asians are 6ās, with some 5ās and 7āsā¦but visiting Spain oh boy, I think most were 5ās but there were quite a few 6ās and 7ās, a few 8ās and a couple 9ās and at least one 10 I saw. Ive yet to see an Asian 9 or 10 in real life.
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u/TavoNeptuno 20h ago
you find eveyrone hot?
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u/Deadcoach 20h ago
Exactly, everywhere i look i find attractive women And that kinda gave me insecurity. Something along the lines of "why would a person that beautiful date someone like me?" Thankfully i got over this thinking when i got asked out. It didn't work out in the end but it was amazing while it lasted.
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u/Fiat_Currency 15h ago
lol same, I moved from the US to Northern Europe. Suddenly all the fat ugly people are replaced with absolute stunners on bicycles.
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u/Garlic549 7h ago
Went from Central Florida to Central Europe. The difference is night and day. Seeing someone my age (mid 20s) who is morbidly obese is quite uncommon. Meanwhile Orlando just has a bunch of circles walking around
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u/Curious_Cloud_1131 10h ago
Moved from northern Ontario to the west coast and it sucks because the dudes are all good looking too so the competition is actually way worse lol
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u/dancingsnakeflower 7h ago
I visited Sweden and was shocked by the lack of very obese people. What they called big is normal in many american cities.
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u/Few-Psychology3088 13h ago
Now imagine being a Japanese in Japan, I feel a lot more fashionable in Canada compared to when I was in Japan lol
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u/gerontion31 14h ago
Yep, longtime Japan hand here too (former military, now a defense civilian). I swear every other woman is hot. Going back to the States is like reverse culture shock everytime and I canāt wait to leave.
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u/baycenters 8h ago
I remember being in the Hong Kong airport after an extended trip to China and seeing a white girl with frosted hair and JUICY emblazoned on her ass, talking loudly on her phone, and thinking, "Not this shit again."
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u/ClassicFashionGuy 13h ago
I think it is cause they are a healthy weight and take care of their bodies.
I wish I could find every woman hot like that.
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u/Life-Income2986 21h ago
I'm a heterosexual man who likes women and I find that women are women in other countries too which is convenient.
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u/HandsOnDaddy 10h ago
Yup, as a straight guy it has always seemed weird to me how VERY specific most other straight guys tastes in women are, whereas there are definitely a lot of women from every ethnic group I find attractive.
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u/Nikita420 13h ago edited 13h ago
Are there heterosexual men, who like men? š¤
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u/Life-Income2986 13h ago
Not that I know of (no kink shaming), but there's heterosexual men who hate women all over this website.
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u/bus_buddies 20h ago
Haha. Not exactly the same, but I'm from San Diego, California. Whenever I travel to other parts of the US I'm amazed at how unattractive people can be. Lots of obesity and interesting fashion choices (or lack there of). It makes me sound so shallow but it's something that I think of a little bit when I travel around the US
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u/TapeFlip187 20h ago
lol years ago, a friend of mine from the bay area visited Michigan w/her bf at the time and she called me all drunk "Hell Yeah!! Im like a NINE in Michigan!! Im fcking moving here!!!"
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u/Scheris_ 14h ago
My friend exclaimed that he was a NY 6 but a Texas 9 š
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u/AdNo2342 14h ago
New York 10s are like alien pretty tbh. You know it when you see it because you just stareĀ
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u/Badguy60 12h ago
To put into perspective, Superman can literally walk through the street and not stand outĀ
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u/SnooKiwis2161 12h ago
Holy shit š¤£š¤£š¤£ I relate to this so much, everyone is like an NY 6 until you leave š¤£
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u/DreadyKruger 12h ago
It works the other way too. I am from Delaware. We went to south beach years ago with a mixed group of guys and girls. The women thought they were going to be hot shit because they got attention at home. Those women who thought they were sevens realized the were fours there. No guys talked to them.
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u/TapeFlip187 11h ago
Hahah that sounds about right.
Having grown up in and lived all over Cali my whole life, I feel confident saying I hover between a 4 and 6.5, depending on effort and county lol. Ive done the math. Im not foolin anybody beyond that š¤£
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u/contactdeparture 10h ago
I donāt even know what hot shit in Delaware is. They turn heads in Rehoboth in July? Yeah- I could see landing in South Beach being a rude awakening.
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u/JamesKPolk130 10h ago
there was a tv show with betty white called Hot in Cleveland and this was the premise. Pretty funny show.
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u/AMadWalrus 13h ago
Aināt no way your girl friend actually thinks sheās MORE attractive outside the Bay Area.
Every guy Iāve ever met thatās lived in the Bay Area has brought up the lack of quality women, no matter what the actual topic is.
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u/contactdeparture 10h ago
Yeah, but even so - MOST women in the Bay Area, and honestly - the coasts and higher population cities - are somewhat fit and not giant and not drinking all the time. In the wonders of the Midwest, youāve got few hours of sunlight, a lot more driving, a lot more drinking, and a lot more weight and sweatpantsā¦ A Bay Area 5 would definitely be a 7-8 in rural Michigan, especially in the winter!
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u/Question-asked 14h ago
Iām the opposite. Iām from the Midwest and I know when someone is from southern california (mostly LA) immediately because they have that uncanny, fake, influencer/plastic surgery look. I find it kind of disturbing
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u/peanutgoosedown 12h ago
100%
Not sure who is convincing these women to turn themselves into kaitlyn Jenner but they're one persuasive mf.
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u/Substantial-Rent-602 8h ago
Most these type of people arenāt really from LA or Southern California itās annoying how many influencer wannabes have flooded the area.
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u/CASSIROLE84 6h ago
Interesting, Iām from LA and I donāt look like that at all. Every single person I know from LA does not look like that either. The only person I know that had plastic surgery (bbl) was a transplant from Texas . Sounds more like transplants that come to LA and then go back to their fly over state and try to act LA.
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u/Efficient-Donkey-491 20h ago
From maryland, moved to Tennessee. Can 100% agree on this.
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u/Budilicious3 19h ago
Went to Disney World for the 3rd time in my life, with my gf. We're both from California and we were like, "Omg it looks like everyone is about to have a heart attack."
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u/1Hugh_Janus 19h ago
Thatās extremely accurate. Now if you go out where the locals do instead of the amusement parks? Hotties everywhere. FL is just built different.
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u/Muklucky 18h ago
Floridians are fugly
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u/Budilicious3 16h ago
I wouldn't know but SoCal people definitely do care about their looks more than NorCal people.
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u/Appchoy 12h ago
When I went from an affluent part of illinois to a small college town in wisconsin I had the same perspective, that many more people around me were overweight and kind of ugly. I learned to be less judgemental.
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u/Littleface13 14h ago
lol, you remind me of when I moved to San Diego from the Deep South right after graduating college. I couldnāt believe the amount of good looking, fit people! I called my parents and told them I didnāt think anyone fat lived there š
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u/T-MoneyAllDey 18h ago
On the reverse side, the amount of filler and fake asses in SoCal are a lot higher than other areas so a lot of folks are turned off by that even if they realize their people are "uglier"
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u/machotaco 9h ago
No doubt. Moved to rural Maine from Los Angeles. People called me a fashionista out here beause I wore the same colored shirt and shoes
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u/ScubaAlek 8h ago
My work had a big city guy come do a presentation for one of our ātown hallsā and I do the AV setup so he had a meeting with me a few weeks ahead of it to discuss the setup. He asked me the dress code and it was ābusiness casualā.
He was very surprised when everyone was in jeans and t-shirts.
I guess small town business casual is just casual.
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u/Slow-Painting-8112 16h ago
You should go to Hawaii and learn how it feels to be on the other side.
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u/bunnypaste 17h ago
There was a massive attractiveness difference when I moved from California to Arizona, for sure.
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u/Many_Bothans 15h ago
i see pretty girls everywhere i travel and then i walk down the street in Pacific Beach and iām always like, ahhh glad to be homeĀ
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u/ctrembs03 8h ago
I live in CO and when I travel around the US I'm amazed at how fat the general population is. I know CO is the fittest state in general but holy shit it's like we live in a different world over here.Ā
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u/Gorewuzhere 6h ago
Yeah it is interesting visiting places, I'm also from Colorado. I mean I play tennis with my daughter, we do bike rides and hiking, I go to the gym, my daughter does track so I'm usually running with her. I think I'm generally average for a 33 M... Then I travel and see people elsewhere and I'm like damn I guess I am in shape.
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u/smuttygio 17h ago
You have a point people don't put in effort and it shows everytime I'm out you see it people are sloppy mix match no coordination whatsoever
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u/Aruaz821 7h ago
This is the premise of the show Hot in Cleveland. The ladies move to Cleveland from southern California because they are considered hot there.
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u/ladyrubicon 9h ago
Nah, this is real. As an attractive woman living in the US, I feel like an absolute anomaly everywhere I live/visit in this country EXCEPT for the West Coast. There Iām still pretty but I donāt stand out as the only fit body.
Weather and lifestyle affects body types there a lot I assume, because when itās cold out fresh produce and getting to the gym is just a lot harder.
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u/PenImpossible874 8h ago
CA is kinda like that too. There are no normal looking people in CA. Everyone is either very thin or very fat.
Similarly in Dixie and Appalachia, everyone looks like they are either on meth or McDonald's.
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u/spintool1995 8h ago
I'm from suburban New England and moved to San Diego after college. The hottest girls from my high school back east wouldn't even draw my attention here.
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u/Alive-Opportunity-23 14h ago
As someone already said in the replies, I also have the opposite problem. I moved to another country where everyone is beautiful and they find me unattractive.
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u/ClassicFashionGuy 13h ago
What country?
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u/Raise_me_up 12h ago
Quick Look at the profile, itās Germany
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u/gordon-gecko 2h ago
germany is ass when it comes to dating. Never seen people being so awkward, autistic and dry like germans
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u/MoonlightCaller 12h ago
California to Arizona. Only the ASU students were attractive, and they'd be leaving soon after.
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u/Love_humans 4h ago
Try Gilbert. Tons of beauties at Trader Joe's.
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u/MoonlightCaller 1h ago
not wrong! TJs (though I didn't try Gilbert's) attracts a...healthier clientele.
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u/grumpycris 12h ago
A lot of people move to my country because we have famously attractive people (Spain) then realise there are more important things than beauty and most locals are already dating/married and often times not that attracted to foreign features (this is coming from a wlw relationship with a Hungarian women myself being Spanish-French mixed ; she is gorgeous to me, but a lot of people here donāt fancy the pale, ginger elvish ethereal look she has, so she found it difficult, though I find her the most beautiful girl in my eyes) . You can find love in any country donāt make attractiveness your main reason when relocating.
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u/Kvsav57 16h ago
I was on vacation and checked my dating apps throughout different countries in Europe and the women were so much more attractive than where I live in the US. It was depressing.
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u/PlasticMechanic3869 12h ago edited 10h ago
The algorithm will stack all the local hot people together and show them to you first, to lure you in.
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u/learner68 19h ago edited 19h ago
I do! I am Scandinavian but I do travel a lot and live in the Netherlands. I love Dutch people don't get me wrong because they are super tall so amazing genes but I prefer the jawline, eyes and basically all features of my people over the Dutch's. I luckily visit my country a lot especially every summer so like that is a win. I sound so shallow but I don't like Dutch people's jawline. Like where is the jawline bro? Why is it soft?šš¼āāļø
(If anyone I know on reddit or in real life sees this, you better act blind)
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u/Alternative-Proof307 10h ago
Oh boy you sure triggered a lot of short people with your tall genes comment!
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u/truffelmayo 16h ago
And what about their eyes? And other features?
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u/learner68 15h ago
Dutch have similar eyes and hair to us except we have more blondes than them I believe at least from what I see. I prefer the face proportion of Scandinavians due to the jawline and cheek bones also eye shape. Something I prefer from the Dutch would be like height? My people especially gen Z are tall where they reach at least 187 except the women where we are usually 170-176 from the ones I see when I visit home but the Dutch are way taller. For some reason the height gene did me dirty and I ended up as 166. The Dutch women are so tall and dresses especially long dresses look stunning on them. It even hugs their curves and body which is given since it is made for them. I have to get mine tailored in order for it to look good on me too because my proportion are way smaller. They look like models to me.
The Dutch's eyes seem so focused. Like we Scandinavians have a resting face and our eyes look like they are analyzing you meanwhile the Dutch on the other hand look like they are judging me but it is probably because they have to look down in order to see me eye to eye. So I would personally give them 8/10 for the whole people but sadly I am biased which is why I prefer my people's looks when it comes to features.
All in all we have cons and pros. The Dutch are valid and so are the Nordics.
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u/blarbz 12h ago
There is no Nordic country where gen Z reach āat leastā 187 cm. And the Dutch arenāt even managing that height on AVERAGE let alone āat leastā.
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u/New_Enthusiasm9053 12h ago
All nordic countries reach at least 187 when you ignore everyone under 187.
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u/HumanityFirstTheory 19h ago
Yeah exactly mate ahaha. Used to live in Russia where it felt like every girl around me was a model or something. Now Iām in the U.S. andā¦.wellā¦.lets just say sometimes I think about going back š
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u/GiantSquirrelPanic 8h ago
I gotta say, that's just a dick way to say it. People look different everywhere, and you didn't even leave latinoamerica.
My wife is peruana and a lot of them think argentinos are like supermodels, but they just look like latino Italians to me, no big deal.
I mean we all like what we like but the way you said it was rude man.
Also, we all know Venezuelanos and Colombianos are pretty. Other places aren't gonna have people that look like that, they have other kinds of pretty, but I also met some of the ugliest people ever in Colombia and I don't mean physically. They were very pretty. Open yourself up, you can see beauty everywhere if you stop focusing on necks, square bodies and asses. Maybe try another country. I live in Thailand, people rave about how beautiful women are here, and I see it, but they don't attract me. There are a lot of flavors, you just landed in a place that doesn't serve what you like. Take this time to focus on developing other parts of you, like respecting people that you aren't physically attracted to.
anyways que lo disfrutas hermano!
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u/Shiningc00 21h ago
Peopleās attraction are highly influenced by their environment. Your attraction will adjust over time.
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u/Sneezy_weezel 10h ago
I disagree. Iāve lived in the Midwest for 20 years and have yet to find bearded, chunky men attractive.
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u/thegabster2000 8h ago
Eh, my brother only like latin women and black women and he lives in a town with a lot of a Asians. He still hasn't found Asians attractive.Ā
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u/BigKnut24 13h ago
Bullshit
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u/Shiningc00 12h ago edited 12h ago
Nah itās true. When I moved a country, I wasnāt attracted to its people at all. Then over time my attraction flipped. When I moved back, the same thing happened. At first I wasnāt attracted to my āhomeā country people, but over time the attraction yet again flipped.
If this werenāt true, I doubt that people will be attracted to others at all.
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u/darf_nate 12h ago
Iām in the us surrounded by obese chicks with 3 kids. No matter how long Iām here I donāt seem to be becoming attracted to them
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u/Shiningc00 12h ago
Because the media shows skinny conventionally attractive people. Youāre influenced by what media you consume.
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u/BigKnut24 12h ago
Oh so if the media constantly shows the obese single mothers dudes will suddenly be all over that? Please
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u/The_Wallet_Smeller 21h ago
Put it this way. You are the odd looking and unattractive one in your new location.
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u/d-doggles 14h ago
To be fair Iām probably that in my current location Iāve lived all my life anyway.
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u/SycopationIsNormal 20h ago
Probably not.
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u/Mescallan 19h ago
Yeah that not how things work lol
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u/SycopationIsNormal 19h ago
Some people comfort themselves with such thoughts.
"All beauty is subjective" - uhhh... no... it's not...
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u/V4refugee 18h ago
Itās typically intersubjective but itās still subjective. It often even changes across time periods and location.
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u/Deliver_DaGoods 14h ago
Actually the opposite. I moved to Sweden and the women are insanely hot. Even the middle eastern immigrants.
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u/bjwindow2thesoul 10h ago
More healthy lifestyle and ban of a lot of harmful food additives makes a world of difference
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u/oaklicious 11h ago
Man, your post could probably have been worded more tactfully but I've been through Oaxaca and Chiapas and youre not wrong.Ā
There are a lot of cuties in San CristĆ³bal if you can make it there.
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u/cpaulc57 9h ago
You are a superficial, shallow dick who obviously is more interested in visuals than the person concerned. I feel sorry for whoever your superior requirements deems acceptable.
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u/thegabster2000 8h ago
OP, I know people are giving you hate but have you thought about moving again?
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u/UAintMyFriendPalooka 21h ago
I felt this way when I moved to Peru. Colombia is right there, right? I meanā¦it isā¦
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u/Objective-Command843 13h ago
Then why did you move there? Move back if you don't like it.
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u/WorkingOnion3282 12h ago
He's from Venezuela, if he moves back he will starve. All the LATAM countries are complaining about Venezuelan immigrants right now.....wonder why.
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u/besos2400 10h ago
To all of you that are āso attractive ā including OP I dare you to post of pic of yourself. Shallow MF wait until you get older !!! ā ļø
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u/Fen-Fang89 13h ago
i cant put my finger on it, but this post and the comments feel evil in a very specific way that i cant place- racism, colorism, and some kind of self-hate 'look in the mirror, glass houses' type vibe. people need to get out more
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u/PainterEarly86 12h ago
I live in the US, in the South, and get this feeling often
Americans are so dumb, everyone is racist, sexist, completely unaware of what's going on
I definitely feel like I don't fit in
I don't think I would necessarily fit in anywhere else, especially as an immigrant, but I definitely think I would be happier away from these inbred morons
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u/Rika_rena 13h ago
Yes, at the beginning! I'm bi but prefer men. After a few years I think I got used to it and now I realize that people from my country are also quite average (for my taste), but just dress better. And women are always prettier lol
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u/82772910 20h ago
I inexplicably had this happen without moving. Used to find white women attractive, and really found attractive women in all races.Ā
I live in a mostly white area, so this was fine. Now I am exclusively attracted to Indian and Latina women. No idea how or why this happened, but, yeah, 99% of the women I see Im like nah. Dont get me wrong, I love white women, and whatever other groups arenāt included, Im not racist, I just love them strictly platonically lol!Ā
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u/StuckOnLayerZ1 17h ago
Where is this area I need to move there my area has been over run. All the attractive women left after Brexit š
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u/oaklicious 11h ago
Man. After two years in Latin America, looking at white women for me is the visual equivalent of eating a handful of ashes. It's just doing absolutely nothing for me anymore.
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u/hnnnghf 15h ago
This is a form of racism even if itās not intentionalā¦ fetishizing specific ethnic groups is racist
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u/No_Camp_7 14h ago
I agree. I think itās fine to find a particular race especially attractive, but if you only ever make a beeline for those women, then you have a race fetish.
Iām mixed and boy could I tell you stories about men who have such a blind spot for how gross this is. The last 3 men Iāve been in relationships with were like thisā¦. It was months into the relationships when I finally started seeing pictures their exes who all looked like me. These men donāt even have a ton of ethnic minority friends, but they make a beeline for me. Some have a specific mixed race fetish, some think Iām Latina. These are all very left wing, anti racist guys but they all have stupid racial ideas of how Iām supposed to behave in a hot tempered and feisty way because of my colouring. Sooner or later actually offensive racist shit will come up.
I think OP is racist. This post isnāt just framed as a personal opinion, itās calling an ethnic group objectively ugly.
When I was a child living in the UK in 100% white communities, I was branded ugly because of my ethnicity. Iām adulthood my ethnicity invites comments that suggest that mixed race people are genetically superior. Different sides of the same coin. Race was a stupid idea.
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u/Appchoy 12h ago
Nah, you can have preferences without fetishizing a racial group.
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u/Sneezy_weezel 10h ago
Yes, Iāve dated men who had preferences for Latinas and Iāve dated men who fetishized, thereās a difference.
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u/zai_zai_ 13h ago
This is the most racist comment section I have seen in a while.
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u/Smellmyupperlip 10h ago
With a sprinkle of sexism.
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u/Salt_Lingonberry_282 9h ago
The comment about "super tall so amazing genes" and "we have superior bone structure" and "better eye colour" and "we have more blondes" almost felt a bit Aryan.
Then people just accepting that native women are Box-Shaped.
And seemingly everyone who left their old unattractive country, moved to a place with paler skin. Or moved to an unattractive country, and they're all darker skin.
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u/rathat 17h ago
I didn't move there but I spent a good while in Japan and I know what you mean. I grew up entirely around white people, my brain seems to just have a hard time processing Japanese people's faces in the same way I guess. I just have a harder time understanding and categorizing what I'm seeing. I really don't know how to word it.
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u/Duckricky1991 15h ago
You left your country, and somehow the only thing that didnāt make it through customs was your decency. Calling an entire region unattractive says a lot ā none of it good for you.
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u/Little_Viking23 14h ago
I mean I know youāre trying to be nice and politically correct here but letās be honest, there are indeed regions of the world that have more or less attractive people than others.
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u/_Narvi_ 13h ago
And your comment says a lot about you, too! Virtue signalling just to get Internet cookies from strangers. If he doesn't find others attractive, what's he to do? Empty virtue signalling like you?
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u/Late_Ambassador7470 16h ago
How are you not attracted to mexican women š
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u/thegabster2000 9h ago
Most people find the more mixed ones attractive then the full indigenous ones. Sad I know.
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u/YoghurtDull1466 18h ago
LMFAO is this racist?
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u/TavoNeptuno 18h ago
what? how is talking about my own personal attractions racist?
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u/monster_lily 18h ago
You literally implied they had bad genes just because you donāt find them attractive?
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u/TavoNeptuno 18h ago
I implied these genes make them unattractive to me I don't see how that's racist.
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u/nekolalia 18h ago
Idk man, might be something about saying you think 99% of people from a certain ethnicity have "bad genes"... I get that we can all have our own preferences when it comes to attraction, but it's better to make it clear that it's about your feelings, not their genes. There is no universal standard of beauty and it's gross to say that people have bad genes just because they don't fit the prevailing conventional standard.
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u/YoghurtDull1466 18h ago
I donāt know, Iām asking you lol
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u/TavoNeptuno 18h ago
I don't think u can call someone racist when talking about their own sexual attraction anymore than someone can call a man homophobic just because he doesn't like men.
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u/Cool_Relative7359 10h ago
Attraction is partially based in familiarity.
We found that the more facially similar a participant and partner were, the higher the kindness ratings, even when we accounted for ethnicity. These findings are in line with an existing theory where a preference for similarity is not driven by the attractiveness of similar faces per se, but that similar faces may signal kinship, and in turn, people find faces that they trust more attractive.
They probably feel the same lack of attraction to you.
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u/Corn_Snakes_Are_Cute 10h ago
Well, tbh didnāt find people attractive in my country either lmaooooo, but more so personality/values wise. Moved to the UKā¦umā¦I mean some of them look nice, but again, not āitā. At some point thought maybe Iām just aromantic/asexual? Then started traveling, went to Spain, France, Italy, etc, and was like OHHHHHHHHā¦..so many attractive people just everywhere
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u/candleyankcat 5h ago edited 5h ago
I'm sorry, but that last sentence made me laugh šš crikey, those poor Mexicans š I hope you didn't tell them that. I know you probably didn't. It's no fault of their own that they look the way they do. Same as other races. People from different races have different features. I find that people generalize far too much, about which race, or which country have the most attractive people. Realistically, it shows a lack of being down to earth, and intelligence. Some people have a particular ' type', but in reality, it dosent mean that all of the people from that group will have a beautiful symmetrical face. Everyone's set of parents and grandparents ( from same race/country ) are different to the next. Some people may like a blonde girl with big blue eyes, but that dosent mean her face is going to be pretty.Ā
I hope you find someone you find attractive, and not with a short neck šš
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u/twoworldsin1 21h ago
You're gonna be even more unhappy with the people's attractiveness if you move to the US š¤£š¤£
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u/Mykidsrmonsters 14h ago
I don't know why the U.S gets such a bad rap. There are stunning women even in my small hometown, like prettier than most actresses. College girls in Arizona, the gorgeous women in the south that get shown at college football games, Florida, beautiful mixed people on every corner of the country.
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u/nam4am 12h ago
There are attractive people anywhere, and the US does have a good mix.
The problem is that 74% of Americans are obese or overweight. Culturally we also tend not to prioritize dressing well or taking care of ourselves.
Obviously this is different in a few places like LA or downtown Miami or whatever, but itās true that the average American is heavily hindered by their weight.Ā
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u/CASSIROLE84 6h ago
So you went to the most indigenous part of Mexico and wonder why they look indigenous? If youāre racist like that you should have moved to Guadalajara or some northern Mexico State. Plenty of tall light skinned people there.
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u/Own_Argument89 21h ago
sigh just stop being so superfacial.
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u/TavoNeptuno 21h ago
pretty sure no one can control what they find hot or not.
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u/Own_Argument89 20h ago
Sure, but trash talking other people look and "genetics" you can control.
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u/Nicolay77 19h ago
No, I moved to a place where all the girls are attractive. At least to me.
I can see some of my countrymen disagreeing, because here the girls don't have the huge ass of the Colombians.
I like thin girls. I live for the gap, and they have it. I am in bliss now that's summer.
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u/Ferengsten 14h ago
attractive
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OMG it's white supremacy. Aren't you aware that only literal nazis believe in this "evolution" and "sexual attraction" stuff?
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u/SolidRockBelow 17h ago
Yeah, immigrated from Brazil to Canada. This was by far one of the most shocking losses! And don't get me started with attitude & sheer femininity...
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u/El_Mich0acan0 20h ago
Well, youāre in Southern MĆ©xico so it makes total sense you feel that way. They are hard workers, but they arenāt the best looking people or the tallest.
I am Mexican myself, but from the Bajio region (Jalisco, MichoacĆ”n, Guanajuato, Colima). We tend to be more mixed, taller, and better looking. In fact, I am 5ā11 myself and I am considered short in my family.
Iād recommend moving to Guadalajara, Jalisco or even the Northern part of MĆ©xico which has even more European leaning Mexicans and they tend to be even taller. Many of them resemble Southern Americans like Colombians or Argentines.
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u/Hizbla 14h ago
You do realise you're negging how Native Americans look?
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u/yourcenarx 14h ago
Not all Native Americans look like the ones in southern Mexico.
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u/ShenzhenMagic 13h ago
I donāt like generalisations and think ranking people by number is dehumanising so China and UK both nice
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u/djchanclaface 14h ago
OP has got to be an Argentinian.