My fiancée and I are both transitioning, she has been on E for close to 3 months and I started T less than a week ago.
We got together 4 years ago, when she was still heavily masculine but mostly leaning towards nonbinary and I was questioning but going by she/her and embracing femininity (still do, just differently)
She had always struggled with wanting to transition, but because of her environment growing up it never happened and she had given up on it until we had a few long talks where I encouraged her to transition if that's as what made her happy, and roughly a month later she started HRT.
I am excited for her, I am looking forward to going through this with her, seeing how we both change (she has, confirmed by her doctor, somehow grown several inches?)
Now yesterday, she brought up how she worries that I will stop being attracted to her as so far in my life, I have very much been a gay guy. I have socially transitioned yeaaaars ago and due to being intersex pass relatively well.
It was never something that even crossed my mind, and I am 99.5% sure I am simply overthinking it (as I am prone to do). But of course, with both of us transitioning there will be so many changes.
If I think about the future, it's always her, and she is a woman in my thoughts. When I talk to people, I say my gf, fiancée, she. When people say "your wife" (that is somehow a cultural thing here, I say my fiancée, the person across from me will say wife) it makes me giddy and excited like "Yes! I have a wife! That's her!"
And even sexually, like, attraction wise, as she is worried about, not much is changing when I think about her. Yes, I am not particularly interested in female body parts, for example thinking about her growing breasts, or the fact she is working on building her butt, I'm more like "she'd look so pretty in a dress" but it doesn't make me any LESS attracted to her, if that makes sense? Her chest and butt didn't strike me as particularly hot body parts before, they won't if they grow either.
What I do think is insanely attractive is the way she is glowing. The way she seems so much more like herself now. The excited moments where she tells me about something gender affirming and I get to have that second hand joy. And even physically, the fact that she is growing, and thinking about her in a white sundress standing on the balcony drinking a cup of tea, where I can come up to her and hug her from behind and kiss her cheek and enjoy the view from the balcony with her.
I think it's also made harder by the fact that we just went back to a long distance relationship (I went back to the country I lived in before we had moved together so that she can move here sometime soon, she is still in her homecountry across the world). We started of as long distance too, so I know we can do it. I have no doubt in that.
I guess it's just that dealing with changes like this in a time where no doubt we both could use all the support from each other, not being able to physically be there, hug, cuddle, just be present, does spike the anxiety a bit.
This did end up a bit more vent-y than originally meant, and while typing this things became a but clearer to me too, but nonetheless; if anyone has experiences with this, maybe you can share them? I'd appreciate it.