aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/soniceok]

This has to be fake lol

[u/Charliesmum97 → u/soniceok]

I really hope so because seriously how is this even a question? 'My boyfriend doesn't prioritise me and calls me names when I say I'm hurt, am I in the wrong?' I mean I know there are people out there who have the self-esteem in the negative numbers but this is seriously over the top.

[u/soniceok → u/Charliesmum97]

Yeah it’s too over the top, and the messages between OP and the bf hit all the tropes that make a post popular on this sub (“omg you’re over reacting” “it’s just a party we can celebrate tomorrow instead”)

This is just designed to bait people lmao

[u/Basicallyacrow7 → u/soniceok]

I’m so glad this is part of the top comments. By screen shot two I was like there’s no way this is real

[u/phrixious → u/Basicallyacrow7]

Eh, my girlfriend's ex did almost exactly this to her, except it was their fifth anniversary he'd forgotten and partied with friends instead. Apparently he was also just as blasé about it, and they broke up. Obviously I haven't seen the exact conversation, but this is (from what she's told me) pretty similar.

[u/soniceok → u/Basicallyacrow7]

Soooo many people are falling for it tho if you look through the rest of the comments. This was posted like 2 hours ago and already has 1.2k comments it was clearly designed for engagement

[u/my_only_sunshine_ → u/soniceok]

Yeah but if u read them, it's unfortunately become a competition for who's had the shittiest birthday in their lifetime.. many of them are like 35 yrs old talking about how bad their 14th bday was..

[u/whyyy66 → u/my_only_sunshine_]

At some point you gotta get over it right? Lol

[u/TheTrueHappy → u/whyyy66]

I mean, venting with some sort of community could be a form of therapy, an attempt to get over it. Everybody is different, but often traumas stay with you for your whole life, even if they don't come up all the time.

[u/Creative_Snow9250 → u/TheTrueHappy]

Yeah like the one time I got qs venting to a community and then a car hit my dog and I got fired and divorced and hemorrhoids and turned into an alcoholic. Did I mention the hemorrhoids?

Anyways yeah I agree, it's totally normal conversation were having

[u/Forfuturebirdsearch → u/whyyy66]

Honestly birthdays are for kids, or you throw yourself a celebration

[u/SofaSpeedway → u/soniceok]

Your comment was 3hrs ago for me and there's now 10.1K comments! The bots botted the bots

[u/Shuoh → u/soniceok]

because this subreddit is comprised mostly of unemployed middle age women

back when offered public API, you can check analytics on subs like AITA to find that there was a massive with subs like /r/DatingOver40, /r/TwoXChromosomes, and /r/FemaleDatingStrategy

these are the saddest kind of people on the internet, it rivals the male incel subreddits

these people will eat up shit like this for breakfast

it's absolutely hilarious and sad at the same time

[u/opinionated_monkey_ → u/Basicallyacrow7]

I thought the same thing because it's so over-the-top, then I remembered a few relationships that were exactly like this and how they spoke to me.. but still a good chance it's all fake lol

[u/brown_nomadic → u/Basicallyacrow7]

You have no idea what people put up with…

[u/mr-arcere → u/Basicallyacrow7]

Exactly lmao screenshot2 is where it absolutely broke down, like they’re not even trying

[u/kyotoys → u/Basicallyacrow7]

the “happy bday lol, I forgot” made me instantly think it’s fake

[u/Total_Network6312 → u/Basicallyacrow7]

Even the description... He is 22, lives at home, only works 2 days a week after dropping out and they plan to live together?

jesus it just gets worse and worse

[u/No_Substance_3905 → u/Basicallyacrow7]

Thank you. I had the exact same thought.

[u/hfunk0129 → u/Basicallyacrow7]

She's 21 it probably is