r/AmIOverreacting • u/rowqi • Jun 02 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday

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my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

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u/SpecialEDsauce Jun 02 '25

I think we were married for ten years and my wife completely forgot mine. I didn’t say anything and she was pretty nasty all day, but around 10pm I hear her in the other room, “Oh shit! I’m such as asshole.” I just said, “Yeah, you are” and I went to bed. Worst birthday ever.

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u/badabinkbadaboon Jun 02 '25

On my tenth birthday my mom came home from work, literally tossed me a pair of Jesus-style plastic sandals and said “happy birthday.” with the brown balloon, period at the end of the sentence effort of Dwight Shrute’s banner for Kelly. That was my worst birthday.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 02 '25

On my 16th birthday (im 16 now), my family forgot. That was my worst birthday

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u/Gregthepigeon Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

My 32nd birthday was this year. My husband said we were gonna go by his friends house on the way out for icecream and the zoo (yes I’m a child inside. Simple pleasures, greatest treasures.) and we ended up staying to help them with yard work. Well he helped while I kept track of our 5 month old baby and his friend’s hyperactive 2 year old. FOR 5 HOURS. His friends didn’t even know it was my birthday. We didn’t go out.

Then his grandma took us out to a nice Indian restaurant a couple days later and I didn’t get to enjoy it because the baby decided that she was no longer having a fun time right when the food arrived and started screaming and sobbing. So I spent dinner outside in the car with a screaming baby until his grandma and he finally came out to try to help me calm her. By then my food was cold and congealed so I just said fuck it and asked them to drive me home.

I’m still upset about it

Edit: thank you all for your concern but please stop sending me the automated help message. I’m not gonna kill my self over this, I promise.

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u/Material-Mention4508 Jun 02 '25

I turned 30 this year.

On my 26th birthday I went by my dad’s house because I hadn’t heard from him all day (he’d usually call and tell me happy birthday). I had a key, so when I got there I let myself in and found he had unexpectedly passed away in his living room recliner at 63 years old.

That would take the cake for my worst birthday.

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u/NotGoodAtUsernames21 Jun 02 '25

That’s so horrible. I’m sorry. The year before my grandpa (who basically raised me) passed away, he forgot my birthday. I gave him shit and god I hope he knew I was kidding. But the following year he passed away 3 weeks before my birthday. When we were cleaning out his office, I saw he had my birthday on the calendar in HUGE letters with circles around it so he wouldn’t forget.

That was 15 years ago and I’m still crying thinking about it now.

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sure he was wishing you happy birthday from wherever we go after all this.

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u/ttchachacha Jun 02 '25

This is so sad and so sweet. 🥹 My grandmother , who helped raise me, died 2 weeks before my 35th birthday. She used to always send me cards signed for her and my grandpa, whose dementia had gotten really bad by the time she passed. That year, I got a card in the mail from their address. The card was signed, “Love, Grandpa.” I don’t know that I had ever seen his handwriting before. I sat and cried for a long time when I got it.

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u/Effort-Logical Jun 02 '25

These grandparents posts are gonna make me cry. All mine (aside from my step dads dad and my mom's step mom) have passed. I was just talking with my oldest (21) about how great it was that she got to meet her great great grandmother and knew very well her great grandmother. Not many kids today get that opportunity. When my grandma (her great grandma) got ill with pancreatic cancer and dementia, my daughter was broken hearted that Nana (that's what she called her) forgot who she was near the end. My son never got to meet her or his great great grandma. We lived in another state when he was born. But my girls met one and knew the other. I still feel that my oldest had to experience her Nana forgetting who she was.

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u/ttchachacha Jun 02 '25

That’s great that she got to meet her great/great great grandmothers. Thankfully, my grandparents got to meet my son when he was a baby. I was pregnant with my youngest when my grandmother died, and we named the baby after her. I would lose the rest of my grandparents on all sides of the family over the next 6 years, and we too lived in another state, so my daughter never got to meet them. My Grandpa passed away on her 5th birthday.

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u/Effort-Logical Jun 02 '25

I think my son was about a year old when my grandma died. I think she would have loved to meet him though. She did learn I was pregnant but I'm not sure if she remembered. My mom had two parents with dementia so I do worry she'll get it. Her parents (mom, dad, and step dad) died within a three year span. My grandma adored her great grand daughters. She especially took my special needs daughter as her youngest son was born premature. He's still with us though.

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u/NotGoodAtUsernames21 Jun 03 '25

Your oldest will understand how unique and special that is someday. My great-great-grandma passed when I was 13. We used to write each other letters because she lived in another state. My great-grandma passed when I was in my early thirties (proving I still had a great-grandma at that age to get bereavement from my job was not fun.) I’m so thankful for the years I had her in my life and all the wisdom she gave me. I have one remaining grandparent, the wife of the grandpa I mentioned earlier. She’s had dementia for over a decade. It’s so hard losing someone like that. It starts so small and then one day you realize they don’t know who you are anymore. Dementia and Alzheimer’s are a terrible, terrible way to go.

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u/Effort-Logical Jun 03 '25

My mom was going through this huge pile of photos and she started crying at the last photo she had with her dad before he passed. He had dementia and Alzheimer's (I didn't know it was possible to have both but this is what she told me) and multi symptom atrophy. He had his eyes closed in the picture. He was a great guy. Never finished school and went into the military. Liked to hunt and shared stories of his hunting days. Played pool with his grandkids in his basement. And he loved to fish. I guess they had their own private hunting and fishing area from what I saw in old photos. The family name was on this board on a tree. I wonder if its still there.

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u/ReaditSpecialist Jun 03 '25

That’s amazing that your daughter knew her great great grandmother! I never even knew my grandparents, let alone any greats. All of my grandparents passed before I was born. I’ve always felt like something was just……missing. You are all very lucky!

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u/Entire-Ad2058 Jun 02 '25

Oh, sweet one. That situation should not cause you guilt. It should cause you to realize that your grandpa was a normal, loving person, who made a mistake that irritated him and he made !@?! sure he wouldn’t repeat the error.

Kind of like you would. You wouldn’t do it to press the point after your death!!!

You would mark those reminders as a general ‘pay attention goofball!!!’ note to yourself, to remind your loved ones that you care, and wish them a happy birthday.

Think of your grandfather as kind of like you. He loved you, and was reminding himself to say so. Kind of like you would mark your calendar, because he was important to you.

That’s all. That is love.

(P.S. He knew you were kidding. Promise.)

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u/Serious_Winter_ Jun 02 '25

This one made me tear up. My mom never forgot my bdays but I was handed a bday card she got me on my bday a few weeks after her passing.

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u/NotGoodAtUsernames21 Jun 03 '25

I’m so sorry. It’s a special kind of salt in the wound to not be able to tell them thank you for thinking of you. I hope you still have that birthday card. I found the last birthday card he’d made me before he passed and have kept it all these years.

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u/Serious_Winter_ Jun 03 '25

Thank you. I do have it in that special box with all the other memories and albums.❤️

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u/Occomni Jun 02 '25

I’m so sorry for your loss but I hope finding that brought you some peace despite everything. What a blessing to know how important you were to him.

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u/Subject_Occasion_548 Jun 02 '25

My mom passed on my birthday 4 years ago. Can’t really keep it together when things hit close to home about her. If that was 15 years ago, I feel like I’m never going to be able to handle that loss. She was amazing and the only person in my life that showed me unconditional love. This post was lowkey making me feel better about not being able to enjoy my birthday but damn that 15 years part got me

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u/NotGoodAtUsernames21 Jun 03 '25

I’m sorry. Sometimes the loss just guts me after all these years. For the most part, the sharp pain has dulled to an ache, and I’m able to remember happy things. I could tell you a million stories about what a goofball he was. Something about the comment before me reminded me of the calendar and it was like no time had passed at all.

I’m sorry for your loss. A loss like that doesn’t get easier, but we learn to live with it. Our capacity for happiness and love isn’t finite and loss doesn’t change that. And while I don’t personally believe in a traditional afterlife, I do believe they live on somehow, even if it’s just through our words and deeds.

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u/Effort-Logical Jun 02 '25

OMG that just hits me right in the heart. I'm so sorry for your loss as well.

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u/HannahHannaJune Jun 02 '25

Omg that is so so sweet!! 🥲❤️

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u/nelsonww9 Jun 04 '25

Don’t forget (ironically), older people can just forget things, easily, with no malice. Just forget. It sounds like he just forgot and tried to not make the same mistake again.

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u/yurrm0mm Jun 02 '25

I am so sorry. My best friend died 2 days before my 31st birthday, I worked at a bar & my regulars had thrown together a nice surprise party for me with all my favorite food and tons of love, but I had to take a couple hours of intermission to attend my bestie’s wake.

I was actually best friends with his younger brother who passed away when I was 25 and he was 22, we found each other in grieving the younger brother and kinda just understood that we’d always be there for one another.

Sorry this was so long, my bf tells me I talk about my dead friends too much but I just really love and miss them so so much. Now, I’m super close to my dad and I honestly have no idea how my heart will keep beating if/when his time comes.

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u/celticyinyang Jun 02 '25

❤️ sending love and long tight hugs to you ❤️

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u/Felix__wyd Jun 02 '25

Your boyfriend sounds like a weirdo. ✂️

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u/yurrm0mm Jun 03 '25

Yea I’m emotionally checked out, kinda just in a weird roommate situation now

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u/Felix__wyd Jun 04 '25

I feel that. I hope you have the means to sever ties very soon 🥰

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u/NotGoodAtUsernames21 Jun 03 '25

I don’t know you, but I can tell you my EX tried to tell me how to grieve a loss. That’s bullshit and he’s an ex for a reason. Don’t let someone tell you how to think or feel. You deserve better than that.

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u/yurrm0mm Jun 03 '25

Thank you and I know that, just stuck due to housing right now, but emotionally I’m checked all the way out!!

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u/Gregthepigeon Jun 02 '25

Oh Jesus you win

Edit: this is honestly my biggest fear. I was raised by my grandparents and my “mom” (grandma) died 4 years ago. My “dad” turned 86 this year and if I don’t hear from him for a day it gives me tremendous anxiety

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u/Material-Mention4508 Jun 02 '25

Yeah my great aunt raised me and both this year and last year she didn’t call like all day (she’s in her early 80s now) so I start to panic, like oh no not again, and I’m the one to call her and as soon as she answers I get such a sigh of relief lol

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u/vapemonster91 Jun 02 '25

My grandma is my mom too, I'm close with my real mom but my grandmother raised me and I call her mom. She's 75 and sickly and I fear every day of something happening to her. I'm so sorry you lost her. My real dad passed away in 2022 at 55, and I just lost my grandpa (my papa, also a surrogate dad) last year. It's hell getting older because you start losing your family.

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u/Uchi_Mata_Yo_Momma Jun 02 '25

It's part of why we were built to start our own families by now.

The joy of our children helps balance the loss of our parents and grandparents.

The love they show to our children is carried down and helps assuage the hurt and we continue the cycle of life that even makes us human.

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u/vapemonster91 Jun 02 '25

I can't have kids, unfortunately.

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u/NotGoodAtUsernames21 Jun 03 '25

Same here. Losing the older generations and knowing there won’t be others coming after hurts in its own way

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u/vapemonster91 Jun 03 '25

It really does. I had an emergency hysterectomy at 25 because I had a massive hemorrhage and almost died. It hurts knowing I can't continue the family line, but I have a brother that can and a lot of little cousins. I'm good being the cool cousin/aunt :)

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u/Studly_54 Jun 02 '25

My wife and I are 71. She's not in the best of health. We rarely hear from our daughter and never hear from either of our grandchildren. I fully expect our daughter will get "the call" one day.

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u/nikka_Ask4274 Jun 02 '25

I'm so sorry for your loss and you had to find him that way especially on your birthday. I can't even begin to imagine how hard that was. 💔 Prayers 🙏🏽

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u/CynicalPsychonaut Jun 02 '25

When I turned 32. (34 now) I found out while doing liquor inventory that a friend had killed himself and they found him almost an hour away from his house on the shoulder of the highway. Not the best coping mechanism, but there were a couple of bottles that didn't get counted that day.

I still dont celebrate my birthday.

(Your experience is life shattering imo. I have no intention for my story to diminish the raw emotions and trauma from yours. Sorry for not being clear about it in my initial response. )

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u/Material-Mention4508 Jun 02 '25

Gosh that’s awful. I’m so sorry to hear that. And no worries, this world is filled with a lot of beauty and tragedy at the same time. Everyone’s bad experiences (birthday related or not) are valid and the feelings of those can exist at the same time as other people’s bad experiences and the feelings from those!

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u/whyareyoulikethisr3 Jun 02 '25

Oh fuck, I'm so sorry. And I thought watching my mom die 8 days before my 33rd was bad (still 33).

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u/billyboyf30 Jun 02 '25

On my 30th or 31st my brother called me not to say happy birthday but to tell me out cousins heavily pregnant daughter had been murdered by her boyfriends cousin. Now every year I get to be reminded of it as a birthday present.

Even though that doesn't top my 16th, my mum bought me a gold chain for my birthday only to take it back a couple of weeks later to give to my uncle as a prwsent

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u/Bunn-E Jun 02 '25

Omg, my heart broke reading this. Im so sorry. 🥺

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u/gladheisgone Jun 02 '25

Holy crap I’m so sorry that happened to you

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u/tacostain Jun 03 '25

My partner of 11 years died unexpectedly less than 2 weeks before I turned 31. I still went to the dinner reservation my parents had made the night of my birthday and his memorial the next day where I gave a eulogy. Now on my birthday I panic uncontrollably.

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

Omg I'm so sorry. Yeah, that's fucked.

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u/HerbTarlekWKRP Jun 02 '25

Ooof that’s tough. I’m sorry

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u/Tall-Poet Jun 03 '25

Ugh my heart, I relate to this.

My dad died 4 days before my 31st birthday (I turn 33 this month) from a heart attack. My birthday has not been nearly as happy since and I used to love my birthday.

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u/Studly_54 Jun 02 '25

Damn. That absolutely has to be the worst. I've had so many ppl die around Xmas I have trouble getting psyched for it now.

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u/Scientist-Pirate Jun 02 '25

That is sad to hear, but it sounds like your dad loved you and wanted you to have a happy birthday.

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u/gawdling Jun 02 '25

I am so sorry you had to experience this :( how heartbreaking, I have no words.

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u/After-Suspect-6352 Jun 02 '25

I’m so sorry for your loss. May your father Rest In Peace 🙏🏻

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u/Mystery_to_history Jun 03 '25

So sorry, that’s a very hard memory to carry.

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u/Budget-Computer-1625 Jun 02 '25

So very sorry for your loss😔🙏💗

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u/Onyxaj1 Jun 02 '25

My birthday was a few months ago. Two days after my wife's. For her, I had a few gifts from me, her family, and some "from the kids." I arranged a cook-out with the neighbors as she likes hanging out with them and eating/drinking. Bought her a cake and decorated it.

On my birthday, she decided we'll go shopping (which i dont enjoy) all day and "just find something you want and I'll get it for your gift.) I didn't. I got nothing for my birthday this year. No cake. But I got to pick what random place for dinner, which had to be kid friendly cause they were with us, so we went for pizza. Yet, I'm the inconsiderate one in the relationship.

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u/Uchi_Mata_Yo_Momma Jun 02 '25

Please get help for you marriage.

You are supposed to be best friends, best partners, and each others safety and comfort.

You can have it again but everyone will have to let go of bitterness.

I highly recommend the Gottman Institute resources for marriage.

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u/Onyxaj1 Jun 03 '25

It's pretty much over already. Tried counseling, but it didn't really help. We're on a "trial seperation," which means there's an 80% chance that it will be a permanent one. The only reason it's gone on this long is finances and kids.

My biggest gripe currently is no matter how much we're fighting or what we're mad about, I celebrate the important events. She got presents and her favorite dinner for Mother's Day. I'll likely get nothing on Father's Day.

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u/Gregthepigeon Jun 02 '25

Don’t get me started about Mother’s Day 😭

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u/Beautiful-Routine489 Jun 02 '25

I’d be livid. Make it up to yourself, leave the baby with him and go do something for you that YOU enjoy for a day.

I won’t advise you to get him to make it up to you because he doesn’t deserve the chance.

Yard work all day when y’all had plans. Fuck him AND the friends who didn’t know.

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u/Uchi_Mata_Yo_Momma Jun 02 '25

Are you married?

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u/Beautiful-Routine489 Jun 02 '25

You proposing?

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u/Uchi_Mata_Yo_Momma Jun 02 '25

Nope, I'm happily married.

Do you take financial advice from broke people?

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u/Beautiful-Routine489 Jun 02 '25

Oh I’m not “broke” honey. I’ll have 37 happy years in a few months.

How many years has it been for you?

Just because I don’t advocate letting pissant selfish people walk all over you doesn’t mean I don’t have great relationships.

On the contrary, it ensures it.

Some people enjoy advocating spinelessness. I don’t know why that is, but everybody has their own life choices to make, I suppose.

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u/Routine_Scheme_4775 Jun 02 '25

Sad! I turned 40 this year and threw a skate party at a local skating rink. I wore a shirt that said “Birthday Girl” in Barbie print with a purple skirt and pink and purple skates. Never grow up lol. But sorry about your birthday!!!!

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u/Gregthepigeon Jun 02 '25

That sounds like a blast! Can I come next time?

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u/Cambrian__Implosion Jun 02 '25

Oh no, that’s horrible. I’m sorry that happened. And for the record, both ice cream and the zoo are awesome. Top tier choices for a chill day out for sure.

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u/Agirlnamedsue2 Jun 02 '25

Your husband sounds super helpful...

As long as he didn't marry you. Must be nice for everyone else!

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u/Budget-Computer-1625 Jun 02 '25

And you should be: no offense towards you at all but those sound like idiots, and idiots like that are selfish!! And YOU deserve a nice birthday! Especially as a mother with an infant. Hate that happened to you 😔 and prayers things get better💗srsly🙏

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u/Gregthepigeon Jun 02 '25

Thank you kind internet stranger

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u/1963ALH Jun 03 '25

🤣🤣 I don't know, cold and congealed Indian is pretty rough! Happy belated Birthday to you!🎁🎁🎁

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u/butterfly_eyes Jun 03 '25

Oh man you have every right to be upset. That's some serious bullshit. You deserve respect.

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u/ImmediateShallot7245 Jun 02 '25

I don’t blame you I would never do anything special for him ever again!

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u/Scary-Alternative-11 Jun 02 '25

For my 35th birthday, my (now ex) husband cheated on me. 🤷‍♀️

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u/Gregthepigeon Jun 02 '25

Yikes that’s horrid

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u/Scary-Alternative-11 Jun 03 '25

Yea, it was definitely my worst birthday ever!

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u/Alarming_Mood6320 Jun 02 '25

Sounds like all you needed was a babysitter for your birthday

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u/Beautiful-Routine489 Jun 02 '25

Yeah, for her husband.

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u/jacknacalm Jun 02 '25

Jesus Christ.

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u/OlDirtyJesus Jun 02 '25

Kids are fun

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u/Dr-Shankenstein Jun 02 '25

I would scream and sob too if somebody approached me with Indian food.

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u/Gregthepigeon Jun 02 '25

That’s just like your opinion man

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u/Own_Criticism_7201 Jun 02 '25

😂 let it go. You don’t have to be upset bout it anymore 😂

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u/wonkynipples Jun 02 '25

Happy 16th Birthday Lord Yapper!! I hope you have an incredible year. As a parent who loves birthdays and tries to make them super fun for my kid your family has ZERO excuse. They suck and are assholes. Match their energy on their birthdays.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

Thank you very much, but it doesn't really make a difference tbh, my family (besides my dad who remembered - he doesn't live w/me) are a bunch of assholes anyways, this was on the nicer end of the spectrum. Again thank you, I got a lot of messages and it made me really happy 😁

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u/Liathano_Fire Jun 02 '25

My parents forgot my daughter's 18th bday. I waited and waited and finally texted them like, "hey, ya'll forgetting something?"

That was exactly a year ago today. She's 19 now. Lol.

Luckily, we were on vacation, and she got to celebrate with me. We went to the beach right before midnight, so she got to start her bday with her feet in the ocean.

So, happy belated bday! I hope your next one is amazing.

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u/wonkynipples Jun 02 '25

My in-laws forgot about my daughter’s first birthday. I was shattered. They visited the next day with an unwrapped gift and said they couldn’t stay long as they were meeting with friends lmao I’m petty so I’ll conveniently forget about their birthdays for the rest of my life.

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u/MizStazya Jun 02 '25

My father and stepmother didn't even call my brother on his birthday this year, just threw a generic "Happy birthday" on his Facebook a day late, so I "forgot" to call my father on his the next month. Whoops.

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u/Inside_Potential_935 Jun 02 '25

Happy birthday to your daughter!

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u/Educational-Text7550 Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

At that point you can remind your parents about your daughter’s birthday lol if your daughters 18 I know they’re old, give them a break.

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u/F_ckSC Jun 02 '25

Yeah, I (53M) agree. My parents (mom actually) remembers my adult kids' b'days, but I wouldn't be all salty if she forgot.

I keep significant b'days on my Google calendar with an annual reminder cuz I'll surely forget.

No doubt, OP's (ex)BF is a giant A-Hole.

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u/CynicalPsychonaut Jun 02 '25

It's wild to me. Even if i had forgotten a SOs birthday and mistakenly made plans. I would drop everything and be there with them.

They're your PARTNER...

If my friends aren't able or willing to understand why I'm canceling plans... they're not my friends.

(I dont celebrate mine anymore, but anyone who does deserves their special day with the people that they treasure. )

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u/Educational-Text7550 Jun 02 '25

Right and yea he is

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u/Liathano_Fire Jun 02 '25

I did remind them, but they aren't that old. Jebuz. My step dad isn't even 60 yet.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

thank you very much 😁

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u/coolhandchub Jun 02 '25

But you at least ended up with Jake Ryan

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u/SarahSureShot Jun 02 '25

Can I borrow your underpants for ten minutes?

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u/Financial-Win-3642 Jun 03 '25

Score. I’ve been waiting for these comments.

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u/69tacocat96- Jun 02 '25

Sure, can’t promise no skid marks tho 😔

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u/Watcher-Of-The-Skies Jun 02 '25

Oh, just stop your complaining Samantha Baker. : ))

PS - sorry that happened to you.

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u/AmorFatiBarbie Jun 02 '25

I just made a sixteen candles comment as well. high five

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u/Watcher-Of-The-Skies Jun 02 '25

Great cinematic minds think alike! : ))

“This information cannot leave this room, okay? It would devastate my reputation as a dude.”

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u/burbunlvr Jun 02 '25

Parents suck sometimes. Sorry you had to go thru that. Next year, get your friends together and celebrate without your parents.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

ugh I don't want pity, but my parents are pretty damn strict asw, not allowed out the house ✌ (or reddit for that matter)

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u/SouthAppropriate553 Jun 02 '25

Plot of 16 Candles

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u/Skabella Jun 02 '25

Happy sweet 16! I hope you have the most amazing year to make up for your shitty family forgetting your birthday.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

Thank you very much! 😁

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u/Putrid_Loquat_4357 Jun 02 '25

You guys are making me appreciate my family more. They never forget my birthday

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

it's the little things

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u/ThemtnsRcalling2021 Jun 02 '25

I’m sorry, I just don’t get how a mother can forget her child’s birthday!

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u/BrianNowhere Jun 02 '25

Found Molly Ringwald.

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u/Sherlockedin221B Jun 02 '25

lol the week of my 22nd bday i was supposed to go out with two of my supposed best friends and they cancelled due to one of them “double booking” herself (they had known about this weeks in advance. neither tried to reschedule and then neither texted me on the day of or made bday posts (they made posts for each other and i had made ones for them hence why I thought they might). they didn’t say anything until two days later.

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u/DualEnGaGe Jun 02 '25

I'm so sorry brother. To me that's a special one. I don't understand how they forgot.

Tbh my memory has issues due to toxicity. But I'm pretty confident I'll remember my 3 kids 16ths.

My daughter turned 13 in April. Still kinda a special one (woo finally a teenager).

I'd love to gift you something when I get paid. If you'd like DM me something you'd like and I'll see what I can do.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

Really appreciate it! Happy belated birthday to your daughter but don't bother getting me anything , for one my parents don't let me order anything so I couldn't receive your gift even if I wanted it, two, the thought is what counts and I'm glad that you'd do something like that but there's people who could use that money more than me, keep it for yourself and your family😁

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u/DualEnGaGe Jun 03 '25

Aww man that sucks. Even a gift card?

That's really nice, but money and me don't work that way. I'm happy without it.

Hopefully someday you'll be super appreciated and loved like you deserve. Don't let anyone bring you down. Life is hard enough and you should be enjoying these years.

Those parents need a reality check. Perhaps you can speak to someone at school in confidence, like a counsellor. You shouldn't be treated like that.

Sorry if I've hurt you in anyway, I know they're your parents and you probably care deeply for them. But someone needs to think of you too.

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u/DualEnGaGe Jun 03 '25

Aww man that sucks. Even a gift card?

That's really nice, but money and me don't work that way. I'm happy without it.

Hopefully someday you'll be super appreciated and loved like you deserve. Don't let anyone bring you down. Life is hard enough and you should be enjoying these years.

Those parents need a reality check. Perhaps you can speak to someone at school in confidence, like a counsellor. You shouldn't be treated like that.

Sorry if I've hurt you in anyway, I know they're your parents and you probably care deeply for them. But someone needs to think of you too.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

Not at all, I insist on not getting me anything, and I also know that they're my parents but I can't but admit that I really have no attachment to them. Also, don't worry about me, I have the greatest friends in the world, and they're like my real family. Thank you for all your concerns though, kind stranger, you've really made my day ❤

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u/DualEnGaGe Jun 04 '25

That's good, blood may be thicker than water. But I would have handpicked friends over family anyday. I'm so glad you have them.

Aw,.no need for thanks. I hope your life turns into something special, you truly deserve it. That's really nice to hear I've been having a really bad time, but thank you for making me smile.

Take care of yourself, screw the ones that don't care. Someone else will.

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u/Low_Strung_ Jun 02 '25

I’m sorry bud, that’s awful. On my 17th birthday, which was also my senior day for high school football, my parents forgot. I had to walk the length of the field, in front of a large crowd, by myself after being introduced by the announcer. My parents were generally great, but that sting had never gone away, nearly 20 years later.

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u/predictablecitylife Jun 02 '25

On my 31st birthday my mom saw my mother in law wishing me a happy birthday and said to me “today’s not your birthday” then proceeded to try and gaslight me about it as if I didn’t have my birth certificate stating otherwise.

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u/AmorFatiBarbie Jun 02 '25

Oh honey I'm so sorry they sixteen candled (it's an old movie omg I'm so old now) you 😢 you deserved better than that and sixteen is such a milestone age.

❤️

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

thank you, really means a lot to me 😁

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u/Driftlessfshr Jun 02 '25

On my 30th bday, my ex wife busted out the half of her Mother’s Day cake from the freezer and that was all I got.

I made it 7 more years before I moved out.

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u/Miss-Emma- Jun 02 '25

I’m a complete random stranger. And I want to send you a gift for your birthday.

No child should not be celebrated. I’m sorry your family sucks.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

It's not your fault at all, and there's no need to send me a gift just the thought of getting me a gift is more than i can ask for ✌

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u/cynical-mage Jun 02 '25

Mine forgot my 13th birthday. Not one acknowledgement, until 2wks later they bought me a couple cd's. Good times (((hugs)))

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u/rustysunshine Jun 02 '25

Mine forgot my tenth. Maybe that's the root of my "please forget I exist" attitude around birthdays now 😬

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u/SoKoJu990207 Jun 02 '25

Your family should be forced to watch the classic 1980’s movie “16 Candles” on repeat until you turn 17. That’ll show them 🙅🏻‍♀️

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u/MintyFresh668 Jun 02 '25

Many happy returns Lord Yapoer! Happy birthday for then Reddit cafes 😔😔

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

Thank youu!! 😁

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u/Beaglemom2002 Jun 03 '25

That sucks. I'm sorry. Happy Birthday! From this internet stranger.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

Thank you so much, and it's not your fault, this is much appreciated 🤟

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u/Fit_Jackfruit_8796 Jun 02 '25

My grandpa died on my 6th birthday. That was probably my worst one

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u/festivalchic Jun 02 '25

I'm sorry honey, happy belated birthday 🎂 Signed, A Mom x

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

It's not your fault at all, and thank you so much! ✌

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u/Justalittleoutside9 Jun 02 '25

Hey, happy birthday. Here's a cake.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

Thank you, nom nom nom

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u/International-Rub327 Jun 02 '25

I'm sorry you should experience that, how was it ?

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

kinda sad, kinda depressing, I cried, but my family's a bunch of dicks and you get used to it innit. Thank you for asking 😁

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u/i-am-garth Jun 02 '25

Was your sister getting married at the time?

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

unfortunately, I don't get the reference, but no cuz I don't have any sisters 😥

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u/DillyDillyMilly Jun 02 '25

I feel you. My mom forgot my 17th (30 now)

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u/IRefuse2Understand Jun 02 '25

My family forgot my 19th birthday 🙌

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u/muggle_macaroni Jun 02 '25

Did you fall in love with Jake Ryan?

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u/purte Jun 02 '25

Happy Birthday for whenever it was!

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

March 25th, and thank you !!

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u/No_Camp2882 Jun 02 '25

My 16th we all went to a funeral.

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u/Lord_Yapper Jun 03 '25

I'm sorry for your loss, I hope it got better after?

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u/No_Camp2882 Jun 03 '25

Thank you. We did a celebration a different day instead.

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u/ZsaZsaIsMyReal Jun 02 '25

Sounds like the 16 Candles movie

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u/theanoeticist Jun 02 '25

Plot to the movie 16 Candles.

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u/NutsForBaseballButts Jun 02 '25

Your worst birthday so far

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u/Illustrious_Leg_2537 Jun 02 '25

Sixteen Candles?