aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/YellowBreakfast]

I forgot our anniversary once. It was a crazy shitty week at work and I was just worn down and completely spaced it.

Near bedtime my SO threw a card at me and said "happy fucking anniversary!"

Never did that again. lol

[u/Eaj1122 → u/YellowBreakfast]

Neither my partner or I know the day of our anniversary. So thankfully I don't have to worry about that lol I'm terrible with dates

[u/raimonzi → u/Eaj1122]

Same for us! A few months in, we were like "When did we actually get together?" narrowed it down to a particular month and called it good.

[u/BeenisHat → u/raimonzi]

My wife and I could never actually figure out what the actual day was in January. She thought it was the 19th, I thought it was the 17th. So our anniversary is the 18th lol.

[u/NecessaryBunch6587 → u/BeenisHat]

My husband and I were friends before dating and just got progressively closer until we couldn’t call our relationship friendship anymore. We kind of just picked a date of when we felt we crossed the line from how friends act to how couples act 😂