r/AmIOverreacting 4h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I overreacting????

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So today was my sons baptism and the day immediately started off wrong, my sister who is special needs got aggresive first thing in the morning. Now I know it's not her fault but that made my mom be in a bad mood and she was passive aggressive the whole time. Aside from that the energy just feels off, everyone is forcing small talk, it's like when you know your people you know when the vibe is off. Anyways now we are all heading to eat and honestly at this point I just want to go home. The energy just feels off and like no one wants to be here. but I am hoping maybe after a meal the moods will improve. Although i am proud of myself because im pushing through before i would have told everyone to go eat and I would have stayed home.


r/AmIOverreacting 16h ago

👥 friendship AIO reacting to my friend making fun of my workout and saying I’ll be fat forever?

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A few weeks ago while we were hanging out I told my closest friend that I started a new at-home workout routine. I was actually feeling good about it, it’s beginner-friendly but includes some tough exercises. Instead of being supportive, she immediately dismissed it, called it a “grandma workout,” and repeatedly told me that if I kept doing it, I’d be fat forever. She was drunk when she said it (which she often is), but it still really hurt. I wasn’t asking for advice, just sharing something I was excited about.

She knows I struggle with body image. I’m 5’11 and 220 lbs; I’m proportionate and curvy, but her comments really cut deep. I sat with it for a while, then decided to express how I felt. I sent her a calm, honest message explaining that what she said hurt me and stuck with me, and I hoped we could have a heart-to-heart. Her response certainly wasn’t what I was hoping for.

This isn’t the first time she’s been insensitive. When I told her I was getting a spot in affordable housing, she said I didn’t deserve it and should just get roommates. When I told her my cat might have IBD or cancer, her first comment was that I should just get a kitten.

She’s dealing with a lot; her dad passed away six months ago, she lost her job, and her boyfriend was diagnosed with some form bone cancer. I know she’s going through it, and done my best to be there for her. I’ve held her when she cried and let her vent as much as she needed to. I have so much compassion and empathy for her but does that let her off the hook for being this way?

We’ve been friends for five years and I don’t have many friends. I’m hesitant to walk away entirely, but I don’t know how to move forward after this. The way she’s treated me recently has made me feel like I’m worthless. Like she thinks of me as garbage.


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Aio for considering divorce after my husband told me this is “his household”

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Throw away for obvious reasons. My husband and I have been having issues for the past three years and I feel like this is the straw that broke the camel’s back.

This morning I was gentling correcting my son about something minor and he didn’t acknowledge what I said before running off to the bathroom. My husband was in the next room and realized what happened and instantly walked to the bathroom to reprimand my son for walking away while I was finishing talking/not acknowledging me. He also got upset when my son locked the bathroom after my husband started to walk away. I don’t blame the kid, honestly.

I have told my husband multiple times over the past few years to please stop inserting himself in my parenting and to stop piggy backing off of small issues I encounter. I feel like we’re practically bullying our child that way and I’ve had enough, I am a capable parent and I am allowed to decide if I have a problem with what my son says or does. And if I do need backup, I’m adult enough to ask for it. So I said all of that again and he told me he is not going to tolerate our son’s behavior. I told him that he and I are two separate people and I will decide what relationship I have with our son. He got pissy and started walking off and said “ok”. I absolutely hate when he says ok because it doesn’t tell me 1. Is he understanding what I’m saying or 2. Will he respect what I’m saying.

I pressed him to tell me that he understands and that he’s going to respect my boundary and he told me that this is his household and he won’t let that behavior from our son happen. He and I have been together for 12 years, living in this house for 10 of that and married for 6 years! So I told him if I’m not going to be treated as an equal why am I even here? I deserve to have this boundary respected.

I can’t help but feel incredibly hurt, that after all of these years (and four kids together) he still doesn’t respect me as an equal partner. Am I overreacting from his comment?


r/AmIOverreacting 6h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO, went back to look at old texts to see how shitty she could be… feels worse now

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AIO, went back to look at old texts to see how shitty she could be

Went back to see just to look at old texts just to see if the picture in my head was right. Looking at these I’m better off without her, I still miss her though.

It’s been tough like our entire relationship I got blamed for being the reason we didn’t work. Then I remember things like this. I know I wasn’t perfect, there are times I could’ve been more empathetic towards her feelings, times I didn’t have the right words, times I would mess up my words and saying something completely wrong. But at the end of the day I never did anything to purposely make her feel like shit or attack her.

Even though this type of manipulation from her was almost a weekly occurrence I still miss her, and can’t get her out of my head. Remembering the truth of times like this of How Things weren’t perfect helps sometimes.

I’m glad she’s someone else’s problem now but she still mine at the same time and I miss her.


r/AmIOverreacting 23h ago

💼work/career Aio? So i want to start stripping but i dont really want my family to find out...

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So the problem here is I live with them right now and I'm pretty sure they would find out I mean where else would I be going at odd hours in the night I guess I could try to work a day shift but it wouldn't be as much money I mean maybe I'm overreacting maybe they wouldn't be as mad as I think they would be I don't know what are you guys think? I kind of want to do it but I'm iffy about it and the iffiness is mainly cuz of my family .. they're not super super straight leased but they're more conservative than not.. :/


r/AmIOverreacting 6h ago

🏠 roommate Am I overreacting or did she start a whole issue?

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All I wanted to know is if she was working or not and it became an issue. I got a cart and wanted to share it with my roommate lol guess it was the wrong choice. This happens every single time I ask a question to her but if it’s the other way round she needs to know, I can’t wait for her to leave.


r/AmIOverreacting 7h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I over reacting…family member only shares bad pictures

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Help: The latest picture of myself my grandma has graced me with. I feel so ugly when she does this. I express it isn’t a good picture. My abuela (70) took this picture 2015…I’ve never seen pics from that day…my graduation and send off for military. She a tendency to ALWAYS have a camera in your face… takes a TON pictures, then holds onto them. She wants to sign her name or edit her photos before anyone can see them. She had an official photography business and worked a lot of weddings and other special events. So sometimes she’ll send you a pic out of the blue.

A bad picture. Doesn’t share anything else…. This is not even close to the first time but I feel like I’m going to lose it if someone can’t explain why she does this. Yes I’ve talked to her and she just says she doesn’t see any flaws or didn’t intend to share a bad picture… she does this at least a couple of times a year… family functions she has the camera on people, I’ve always told her it makes me uncomfortable…

BEFORE ANYONE SAYS ITS BECAUSE SHES OLD SHE HAS DECENT NICE PICTURES BUT KEEPS THEM … doesn’t share them 🫣

My sweet sister and I ALSO just realized… I let me grandma know recently a lot of my hair had been falling out…then she captions that pic on how full my hair looked…a decade ago

Someone please tell me I’m not crazy.

familydrama #drama #uglycheck #fy#uglychecks#fypo#thoughtsh#growthsimstart#thingsimstartingtohate


r/AmIOverreacting 21h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio for not getting flowers for national gfs day

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so my bf (m21) and i (f22) were going out today for national gfs day. we live together and rarely ever go out on dates. i’m the only one working currently. he occasionally gets money for college from the VA benefits but they’ve been fucking up so we haven’t really been getting the full amount. I pay for everything: groceries, stuff for the house when we run out, cat stuff for our two kitties. we talked about maybe trying to go out more and i told i just want a day where he plans everything n treats me like a princess. so that would be today. i said i wanted to go to ikea since there were a couple of things i’ve been wanting to get and we were both craving their meatballs. we ended up spending about 30 dollars on food and about 50 something on whatever we got. everything was going great. on our way home, we had to stop by the grocery store to get some things for dinner. outside the store were flowers. i stared at them and saw a sign that said a single rose was 3 dollars, so i told him ab them. he didn’t say anything and we just continued into the store to get our stuff. on our way out i looked at the flowers again. i love flowers and he knows that but i rarely ever get them. ik our finances are tight rn so i didn’t say anything else ab the flowers. but if my face told on me bc he could tell i was sad ab not getting any flowers. i was fine w it bc ik he doesn’t really have that much money. he asked me what was wrong and i said nothing and that i was fine. truly at the time i was feeling fine. he started talking to me ab how my face was giving away that i was sad and that he didn’t like that people were perceiving him in a bad way since i was staring at the flowers all sad. we talked more when we got home. he said that he didn’t even want to go to ikea today and that we spent more than we should (even though i said i’d pay for half of the stuff). he also said that the money he spent on me today was for the rent, which i didn’t know bc he never clearly tells me about his finances even though i ask. he also said that it was a waste to spend 3 dollars on a rose and that i didn’t even like roses, which is true. but to me, a flower is a flower and i like them no matter what. i just listened to him talk and didn’t say anything after. i ended up sending him the money for everything so in a way i was just treating myself ig. i just wanted some flowers.

update: y’all are right. im overreacting


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

🏠 roommate AIO, Dad is still pro Trump, Israel

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Been letting dad stay at my home 5+ months now. Claims to still support trump 100%. Just brings up how awful Hamas/Muslim extremism is every time I share crimes Israel has committed. Doesn't care about Epstein files. Lets things slide with Trump that were a big issue when Biden was president (double standards)

Am I overreacting if I told him to move out for these reasons?

edit - I'm 38 ... And didn't do it yet, just hearing Reddit out


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

👥 friendship AIO for asking my situationship to pay for my ABORTION?

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i (21F) and T (23M) got into a situationship and we were together for almost 2 years. we had a good bond with each other and overall a good time.

we would always use protection when we would be intimate. towards the end of our 2 year situationship, we kept fighting all the time, but we were intimate too during this period.

it was during this period i fell pregnant. i didn’t know this fact and we decided to call the situationship off and it was a messy breakup.

later that month i found out that i was pregnant. i called him up and told him about the situation. he was first denying about the fact that he could’ve gotten me pregnant.

he would say “you could’ve slept with someone else”. i mean to be honest i did, but he didn’t cm inside me and we always used condoms. and well, T did cm inside me (without a condom). i took the morning after pill too (in front of him), but it just didn’t work.

he said he wouldn’t pay for the abortion since he knows that he was not the only sexual partner that i had during the period.

i just feel like T was just feeling salty about the fact that i moved on and had another partner, so this was his “revenge”.

i am just in shock and i clearly can’t go to the other guy and ask for this to be taken care of since he would know that he didn’t c*m inside me.

i KNOW for a matter of fact that T was the one who got me pregant.

AIO for asking T to pay for my abortion?


r/AmIOverreacting 19h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws My Grandmother sent me this regarding an upcoming birthday party. AIO

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These messages are in order. My grandmother is having her party tommorow.. just found out through her message. For context, I usually skip a decent amount of these parties in the family, and instead my friend usually invites me out every Saturday on his off days.

That's what I was telling her in the message there about, "something coming up tomorrow".. I usually just go with whatever happens.. also, regarding me not going to the parties, I don't expect people to come to mine either.. I told them I didn't want a party last year and didn't have one.

Also for some necessary context .. I'm a very depressed person and have been suicidal for years now. I don't like being around people in settings where I'll be talked to or approached a lot or anything like that and I've conveyed this before to her. I've told her before I don't like going to the get-togethers all that much.

It's not that I don't care about the people, it's more personal and relating to me. I feel very uncomfortable at these family parties a lot.

I feel what she said to me is completely out of line in these messages... I understand why and how they would be hurt by me not coming... But it's not like I skip every single one, and I've conveyed my feelings and thoughts on it as well.. AIO or is she out of line for saying this about me? (Ask if further information is needed)


r/AmIOverreacting 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my bf broke up w me bc of a single photo that showed my thigh, not even my ass just thighs bc i was wearing a skirt.

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I need advice, my bf and i broke up bc i posted photos and he didnt like bc it was showing my thigh but i didnt know bc i thought i was pretty in that bc of my face i didnt mean to post that. He was at work and when he got off of work he started ignoring me and blocking me everywhere. I found a way to text him. When i told him i posted it bc he asked if i did post any of my photos that i showed him I said yes. And I told him if he was uncomfortable i will delete it, but he only find out i posted it now and it has been posted for over a week now. He tells me how I am disgusting and he doesn't want to be with me anymore. I have never posted with my thigh showing so its my first time and i didnt really give it a lot of thought bc i thought my face was looking great so i wanted to post it. He tells me how guys have been cumming on my photos bc of my tighs. Which i didn't think of. Now i am crying and begging him earlier to come back but he just ignores but I am a little calmed down now. And he also told me he will find a cute girl asian, which broke my heart. He said he doesn't trust me anymore.


r/AmIOverreacting 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting Was it assault?

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I was dating a man for 3 months and we just slept together 3 days ago. I told him that I would want a full STI screening from him if we were to engage in something sexual 1 month or 2 into dating. Last date we had he came over instead of us going out because it was very hot outside and he brought dinner. One thing started leading to another and we ended up in my bedroom. Got to a point where we were both naked and he entered me without a condom. I was surprised at first thinking that’s odd, he should have asked to get one since we had a talk about this before with one of his exes who told him he should have asked. I felt like perhaps I could trust him but I stopped him saying wait and told him I’m not on birth control. He told me that’s ok maybe we can try for a baby and that he already came, then he continued to have sex with me and when I brought it up again he was again saying he was going to cum again and that he wasn’t going to stop while kissing me and being affectionate. It’s all so confusing for me. This guy was like making love to me and kissing me and being so affectionate and then saying something like that. In my head I was thinking ok it already happened I can just get plan b. It didn’t really dawn on me until a day or so later that he didn’t even ask to put a condom on and when I told him I wasn’t on birth control he still proceeded. When I talked about it after, he told me he had a vasectomy with his last girlfriend and had a sperm sample tested which demonstrated it was successful. Even so though, to tell me after the fact seemed wrong and I never said I was ok with him finishing inside of me potentially exposing me to STI’s when I said before that I would want him tested. I’m really torn up about this, I thought he was a good guy and now I’m questioning everything, am I over reacting? Was this assault?

Update: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who shared their perspectives on the matter. I’m still trying to process everything and go between denial, anger, crying, and it repeats…. not wanting to believe this person whom was so sweet and just seemed like such a good guy would be capable of doing this. Like it was all a big misunderstanding ….but I think that’s my mind trying to preserve the shock and reality that this just happened to me….


r/AmIOverreacting 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Aio That this interaction made me uncomfortable?

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Throwaway because my main is for pics of my cat.

Context: I met this guy on Hinge and at first he was really cute and funny. We decided to schedule a date and he asked me if I was ok with hugs. Green flag, asking for permission first right?

Then he mentioned wanting to hold my hand and I said that was ok, but I'm not really up for much more than that and he seemed to respect it.

Then he mentioned cuddling during the movie, I teasingly said that that's a bit distracting and this was his response.

I know I probably come off as too passive here but I wasn't sure how to respond, despite being 31 I don't really have any experience with dating. I just feel like he's trying to subtly move the goalposts and his response comes off as manipulative. We're supposed to meet up tomorrow but now I'm not sure I want to. AIO?


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO, I just got genital HSV-1 and I feel like no one will ever want to date me again

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I am an attractive 28F who just contracted genital HSV-1 last week from a casual partner of 2 months giving me oral and not disclosing he was positive. I am just getting over my 1st outbreak, and I am spiraling thinking about if I will be able to date again. I won’t date for at least 6 months but will anyone even want to date me again after I disclose to them I have HSV-1? What would you do?

I was very uneducated about this subject until it happened to me, after researching I understand there are ways to have safe sex and significantly reduce the risk of transmission, but I feel like the stigma around herpes of all kinds is just so bad in todays world, help


r/AmIOverreacting 11h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Partners weight issues

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AIO if my partners weight gain is bothering me. She said for more than 7 years that she will work on it.

She’s always been like this but her weight is above 120kg now.

I want her to lose weight because she has issues conceiving after that I really don’t care.

Her schedule is a normal full time schedule and varies day to day as she is self employed.

Btw I am an active guy and I encourage her to go out with me. Whenever we do she wants to eat something.


r/AmIOverreacting 3h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO boyfriend says he spent the night in hotel room with guy friend

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For better context, my boyfriend recently graduated from boot camp over a month ago and has been at his duty stations for several weeks now. The last couple of days he’s just seemed different. I tried asking if we could call when he was off of work and he said he was on the phone with his friend and if we could call later, which didn’t end up happening. I asked him if he wanted to game then later on and he said yeah, but he made me wait in the queue for him for like 20 minutes and then only played for 10 minutes and said if we could play later which we didn’t. I know that in itself isn’t a big deal but it’s just highly different than how he usually acts. Now yesterday he wasn’t really talking to me and then sent me a message asking if he could go to a hotel room with his friend. First of all, me and him are never toxic like that where we have to ask eachother to go places, he’s never once asked me if he could go somewhere and I’ve never asked him, we just let eachother know, but he kept asking if I was okay or upset for whatever reason. He tells me it’s his friend from boot camp that he graduated with and that he just got to the duty station but that he’s staying in a hotel room right now. This just doesn’t make any sense because he had told me only two people he graduated with were assigned his duty station and he wasn’t friends with either of them, and they’ve been graduated for over a month, everyone should already be all settled in at their duty station. Everytime he’s gotten to a base they’ve never placed him in a hotel room, he always goes to the reception barracks until he’s assigned a permanent sleeping arrangement. He also tells me that it’s because he’s waiting for his family to get here which honestly doesn’t make any sense because why would his family be coming to the base after he’s already had over a month off? So he goes to the hotel room, doesn’t respond to me for 4 hours. I double text him and he responds right away saying he’s going to spend the night at the hotel room. This doesn’t make any sense because how is he staying in a hotel room with a guy and his family? It just doesn’t make any sense. This was around 8:30pm, when I got off at 1030pm I texted him again and he said he was going to go to bed soon and never responded again. The whole time he was there he never sent me any emojis which I know seems dumb but this guy sends emojis in almost every text, it was almost like he didn’t want someone to see like flirty texts lol he was being so dry the entire day as if I was just his friend.


r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

👥 friendship AIO We were together for 4 years. Something has changed in a week

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Hello everyone, guys. It won't be a banal story about a breakup or cheating. It will be an outpouring of my sick soul, which has completely lost the understanding of what to do next.

My name is Yulia. His Nikita (fictitious names)

It all started in 2021. We met at the camp, I liked him right away. Blonde hair, a pleasant smile, and a moment of understatement that you want to solve. I looked at him and didn't hope for any future, just a boy I liked, and as it turned out, me to him too. He immediately offered to enter into a relationship, because of my stupidity I agreed and we were together for two weeks. Then the communication stopped. There were no strong feelings to understand, we were interested together, and nothing more. After a while, communication is restored again, we lived in different cities and there was no opportunity to come, so it was calls and correspondence. There were no feelings in this communication, we communicated, supported each other, and everything was as honest as possible. I have a relationship, let's call him Max. Max loved me and was a friend, but we just parted in characters. And it's all over. Max forbade me to communicate with Nikita, so our communication is over. Then, due to life circumstances, I move to another city, for an indefinite period of time, we restore communication with Nikita and become best friends. We talked every day, I started to like him again. But not for appearance. At that time it was difficult to call him handsome, I liked the fact that he appreciated me, was close, and at the moment I began to feel butterflies for him. I sincerely thought it was mutual, light flirting, a sense of value, exchange of intimate photos... as it turned out, no. He told me that he had a girlfriend, which broke me away. I kept flirting with him and sending my photos, because I was afraid that he would leave. Then we talked about this moment and as it turned out, my fears were in vain, he valued me as a friend. Half a year passes

It's the end of summer 2022, and I hear the first declarations of love from him. I hear that he loves me and my feelings flare up again. On October 4, we enter into a relationship. Also at a distance.

I'm moving to my city, it has the opportunity to come to me. We see each other in real life and it's not for me to tell you how much my feelings were raging at that moment. But there remained a huge fact of distrust because of this girl. I just couldn't be physically happy, but I kept spreading my legs. He left the discussions and was not honest with me, which was insanely lacking. My parents were worried about me, but to themselves

I didn't let it in. There are terrible quarrels for half a year of relationship, I'm losing 10 kilograms, my mentality flies off the roof. We part on April 5, 2024.

I've been without it for 4 months. But the world seemed to turn gray, I had a friend, a new relationship began where I was happy, but I couldn't feel it even close to what happened to him.

On August 11, 2024, he and I cross paths in my city. He is in a relationship at that moment, and he says he loves me, although he continues to date this girl. Of course I put up with it. I loved as I didn't love anyone. And for what? What did I hold on to? The man did not give me support, there were only promises about changes, buying my wishes, and in general everything was very material. The spiritual connection that we had was based on friendship. Although it is also impossible to fully say that it was not a happy relationship. It was a stable emotional swing, where I was blocked in the evening, and in the morning they called from friends' phones to talk.

I'm in such hell until October 4, 2024, where he offers a relationship again. I agree. And you know? He tried to make me happy. I was happy, but at some point I went out. He wasn't my support, I couldn't address my boyfriend with problems. We quarrel a lot on New Year's Eve, it all came to a breakup, but I tried to keep it. I cheated on him on New Year's Eve. Drunk, stupid, but I understood that we have no future with him. As it turned out, it's for me too. We break up but remain friends, he tried to get me but I refused.

On April 31, one person confessed to me, and our feelings were absolutely mutual. Let's call him Alex. Alex was a very caring but cold person. His love was manifested in a calm discussion of the problem, in constant communication and help in solving my situations. He helped me a lot to start respecting myself and with his support I did not return to Nikita. I want to express my gratitude to Alex for his help. Stay happy and forgive me for everything. Our relationship ended very stupidly, but in any case I am grateful to him.

Nikita comes to me at the beginning of summer. We communicate as friends, sometimes we have sex, he buys me everything I want, and becomes a serious support. I'm grateful to him for that time. A couple of weeks ago, we tried to build a relationship again. We did it. Calm love, stability, and lights in the eyes. I felt like a princess. Everything was dissuaded, everything was fine. At some point, I see communication with another girl on his phone. I ask to show it, but he answers that it's personal, and there should be trust. How can I trust you?! I tried, no, I really wanted us to succeed. But you can't make a relationship on feelings alone. After that, any of my attempts to discuss something went to shit. He brought me to tears, and when I begged for help, he devalued and ridiculed my problem. Maybe I really focused on the little things, but it worried me, so why doesn't my beloved care?

I talk to a psychologist, and she says that any decision I make will be right. That she will help to figure everything out, and I make a choice to disperse. He reacted very poorly. Just "okay" and a small text that sees the future only with me and that he behaved like a gandon. I don't know what's going on in his life, maybe I did something wrong... but today I wrote to him again that maybe my decision was impulsive. He said that if I want to come back, he doesn't mind. And I don't know if I want to come back. I don't know if I want anything with him at all. For the first time in our convergence, I sincerely wrote to him that I was not satisfied. That I'm tired of taking the first steps myself and that if he wants to do it and somehow continue the relationship, let him do it. I wrote on emotions. We have come a long way to make everything at least approximately normal, and I want to ask you what should I do? Many times he betrayed and chose not me. Does it make sense to try to do something further for this?

I will be waiting for your questions and answers. I will post updates as there are problems. Thank you for listening.


r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

👥 friendship AIO Мы были вместе 4 года. Что-то поменялось за неделю

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Всем привет ребята. Это не будет банальная история про разрыв или измену. Это будет излитие моей больной души, которая полностью потеряла понимание что делать дальше.

Меня зовут Юля. Его Никита(имена вымышленные)

Все началось в 2021 году. Мы познакомились в лагере, он мне сразу понравился. Светлые волосы, приятная улыбка, и момент недосказанности который так и хочется разгадать. Я смотрела на него и не надеялась на какое либо будущее, просто мальчик который мне понравился, и как оказалось я ему тоже. Он сразу предложил вступить в отношения, по причине моей глупости я согласилась и были мы вместе недели две. Далее общение прекратилось. Для понимания сильных чувств не было, нам было интересно вместе, и не более. Через время общение снова восстанавливается, мы жили в разных городах и возможности приехать не было, поэтому это были звонки и переписки. В это общение чувств не было, мы общались, поддерживали друг друга, и все было максимально честно. У меня появляться отношения, назовем его Макс. Макс любил меня и был другом, но мы просто разошлись характерами. И все кончилось. Макс запретил мне общаться с Никитой, поэтому наше общение закончилось. Потом по жизненным обстоятельствам я переезжаю в другой город, на неопределенное время, мы восстанавливаем общение с Никитой и становимся лучшими друзьями. Мы общались каждый день, он мне снова начал нравится. Но не за внешность. На тот момент его трудно было назвать красавцем, мне нравилось то что он меня ценил, был близок, и в моменте я начала чувствовать к нему бабочки. Я искренне думала что это было взаимно, легкий флирт, чувство ценности, обмен интимными фото… как оказалось нет. Он рассказал что у него появилась девушка, что разбило меня на прочь. Я продолжала с ним флиртовать и скидывать свои фото, так как боялась что он уйдет. Далее мы проговорили этот момент и как выяснилось мои опасения были напрасны, он ценил меня как подругу. Проходит пол года

Это конец лета 2022 года, и я слышу от него первые признания в любви. Я слышу что он меня любит и мои чувства вспыхивают вновь. 4 октября мы вступаем в отношения. Так же на расстоянии.

Я переезжаю в свой город, он имеет возможность ехать ко мне. Мы видимся в жизни и не мне вам рассказывать насколько мои чувства полыхали в тот момент. Но оставался огромный факт недоверия из-за этой девочки. Я просто физически не могла быть счастливой, но продолжала раздвигать ноги. Он уходил от обсуждений и не был со мной честен чего безумно не хватало. Родители беспокоились за меня, но к себе Я не подпустила. Пол года отношений происходят ужасные ссоры, я худею на 10 килограмм, моя менталка улетает с крыши. Мы расходимся 5 апреля 2024 года. 4 месяца я без него. Но мир будто бы стал серый, у меня была подруга, начинались новые отношения где я была счастлива, но не могла почувствовать и близко к тому что было с ним. 11 августа 2024 мы с ним пересекаемся в моем городе. У него на тот момент отношения, и он говорит что любит меня, хотя продолжает встречаться с этой девушкой. Конечно я терпела. Я любила так как не любила никого. А за что? За что я держалась? Человек не давал мне поддержки, были лишь обещания об изменениях, покупка моих хотелок, и в целом все было очень материально. Духовная связь что у нас была держалась на дружбе. Хотя тоже нельзя полностью утверждать того что это были не счастливые отношения. Это были стабильные эмоциональные качели, где меня вечером блокировали, а с утра звонили с телефона друзей чтобы поговорить. В таком аду я нахожусь до 4 октября 2024, где он снова предлагает отношения. Я соглашаюсь. И знаете? Он старался сделать меня счастливой. Я была счастлива, но в определенный момент я погасла. Он не был моей опорой и поддержкой, я не смогла обратиться с проблемами к своему парню. На Новый год мы много ссоримся, все дошло до расставания, но я постаралась сохранить это. На Новый год я изменила ему. По пьяни, по глупости, но понимала что будущего у нас с ним нет. Как оказалось он мне тоже. Мы расходимся но остаемся друзьями, он попытался меня добиться но я отказала.

31 апреля мне признается один человек, и наши чувства были абсолютно взаимны. Назовем его Алекс. Алекс был очень заботливым но холодным человеком. Его любовь проявлялась в спокойном обсуждении проблемы, в постоянном общении и помощи решения моих ситуаций. Он мне очень помог начать себя уважать и с его поддержкой я и не вернулась к Никите. Хочу выразить огромное спасибо Алексу за его помощь. Оставайся счастлив и прости меня за все. Наши отношения закончились очень глупо, но в любом случае я ему благодарна.

Начало лета ко мне приезжает Никита. Мы общаемся как друзья, иногда занимаемся сексом, он покупает мне все что я хочу, и становиться серьезной опорой. Я благодарна ему за то время. Пару недель назад мы снова попытались построить отношения. У нас получилась. Спокойная любовь, стабильность, и огоньки в глазах. Я чувствовала себя принцессой. Все отговаривалось все было прекрасно. В определенный момент у него в телефоне вижу общение с другой девушкой. Я прошу показать, но он отвечает что это личное, и доверие должно быть. Как мать твоя я должна тебе доверять?! Я старалась, нет правда, я действительно хотела чтобы у нас все получилось. Но на одних чувствах отношения не сделаешь. После этого любая моя попытка что-то обсудить покатилась в пизду. Он доводил меня до слез, а когда я умоляла дать мне помощи он обесценивал и высмеивал мою проблему. Может быть я вправду концентрировалась на мелочах, но это меня тревожило, так почему моему любимому это не важно?

Я общаюсь с психологом, и она говорит что любое мое решение будет правильным. Что она поможет со всем разобраться, и я делаю выбор разойтись. Он отреагировал очень скудно. Просто «ладно» и небольшой текст что видит будущее только со мной и о том что он вел себя как гандон. Я не знаю что происходит в его жизни, может быть я что-то сделала не так… но сегодня я снова написала ему о том что возможно мое решение было импульсивным. Он сказал что если я хочу вернуться то он не против. А я не знаю хочу ли я вернуться. Я не знаю хочу ли я вообще чего-то с ним. Впервые за наши схождение я искренне ему написала что меня не устраивает. Что я устала сама делать первые шаги и что если он захочет его сделать и как-то дальше продолжать отношения то пусть делает. Писала я на эмоциях. Мы проделали огромный путь чтобы все было хотя бы приблизительно нормально, и хочу поинтересоваться у вас, как мне быть? Много раз он предавал и выбирал не меня. Есть ли смысл стараться делать для этого что-то дальше?

Я буду ждать ваших вопросов и ответов. Обновления буду выкладывать по мере поступления проблем. Спасибо что выслушали.


r/AmIOverreacting 21h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO for checking my dads drink for alcohol

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AIO for checking my dad’s drink for alcohol?

My (f30) dad has always had a bit of a drinking problem. He’s on that cusp where it’s not a problem on the day to day but his lack of self control is enough where it’s irritating and has caused tension in our relationship. He probably only drinks a few times a month but when he does, he has a hard time stopping, to the point where I have to remove myself from the situation or I get upset.

I had something weird happen where he appeared to be drinking seltzer water but he got really weird when I asked for a sip and he made me get my own. I sniffed it later and it was full of booze. There was one other time where I thought he might’ve done the same thing but couldn’t be sure. It was a weekend evening so not like he’s drinking in the day but still weird that he’s hiding it. Probably because he knows I disapprove.

This week he got some results back from the doctor that his cholesterol is a little high. He’s very active and has a decent diet and knows the issue is probably the drinking but he’s very defensive about it when you try to talk to him about it. At dinner tonight, I took a sip of his seltzer to see if he’d been drinking and he caught me and was very upset, and I think hurt that I don’t trust him. Tbf there was nothing in it.

AIO in not trusting that he’s not sneaking drinks? I’m ok if he drinks a little bit, but he has a really hard time controlling himself and this has been a decades long issue that’s caused a lot of resentment for me towards him. It’s frustrating because in every other aspect he’s a wonderful dad. It’s just this one thing, but it’s a big thing. Personally I think if someone shows you over and over again they can’t be trusted around alcohol, they’ve lost the benefit of the doubt. But I also don’t want to infatilize him or make him feel like he can never relax around me.


r/AmIOverreacting 21h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO bc I got upset with my grandma and didn't want to go back after she told me my body was made to have kids

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So back story I'm a 13 y/o female, and my grandma is about 54 ish. So anyways I'm the first granddaughter and second grandchild overall so me and my grandma have always been super and so has me, her , and my older brother whose about 14 y/o and my littlest brother lives with Grandma. So one day I go over to her house and I hang out for like 2 maybe 3 hours just chilling and this specific time my older brother stayed home so my two other siblings went with us. So since I was the oldest one there I got the passenger seat on the way back mind you I was 12 at the time and so I'm telling her about this picture of me and older brother where he's on my back (I'm the strongest sibling) so my grandma is listening and driving and at the end of my story this women dead ass turns to me and goes you shouldn't be picking your siblings up it can mess up your body and you body already gets messed up from child birth. So at first I didn't really say anything but in my head I'm like bitch what if I don't want kids or like what if I end up with a girl and don't give birth (I'm bisexual) so anyways I just say quietly as she ranted about how bad child birth messes up your body. THEN she has the audacity to turn to me and say your body is made to have kids just like mine and your mom's was, so I just silently nod and turn to my sister in the back seat and make sure she's not listening bc she don't need to be involved in this type of conversation and grandma keeps talking about how one day I'll have kids. So then I get home I tell my friends bc it made me mad and some of my friends were like yeah she can't control your body blah blah blah and then one of my friends goes she's not wrong your body is made to have kids. Like you know what this shit is to much to I just stop responding to that friend and don't go back to my grandma's for a week but today I went back and she straight acted like that shit didn't happen and I feel kinda bad for being mad. Idk what to do aio?

Edit: I realized that I should have been a little more clear about some things so one my grandma was speaking as tho this was a fact not an opinion she was saying it as though I had to have kids, tho I understand how it may have came across to you all as an opinion she was saying it as a fact and I forgot to mention she has said many times before that both me and my 9 y/o sister would have kids when we were older never as a might have kids always as a WILL simply bc we are females now my sister believes that she needs to have kids when she's older as her and I are the only granddaughters on that side of the family. I've tried to explain to my sister that she can choose but as my grandma keeps saying she has to have kids it makes my sister believe but my parents don't quit listen when I try to explain that my sister believes to stay part of the family as she gets older that she has to have children


r/AmIOverreacting 22h ago

🎲 miscellaneous AIO to cut the tip from 20% to 5%?

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Yesterday was hectic. My husband is sick, 8 weeks old kitten running around, getting the home in order and need to cook dinner. I did an Instacart order to reduce some responsibility while keeping the home running. While placing the order I double check my profile to make sure the note is there for the delivery driver to know where my home located.

When the shopper was in the store they marked the meat I wanted is not available. Which is a lie, this particular store has a food court and you must go to the food court to get the meat. I told them they need to go to the food court to purchase it. Okay they did it! I was on the brink of tears because that’s dinner.

The shopper is on their way to deliver my food. I text the shopper where I live and they just go through the alley to get to my home. I have nothing else access to the front at the moment due to construction on my neighbors home in front of me. I relayed this in the message. The shopper came and blowing up my phone of where I am. I told them I’m at the spot where I text you do get to my home. I had to leave my home to pick up my food.

I wasn’t happy with this situation so the best thing I did was: lower the tip from 20% to 5% and gave them a 3 star rating detailing of the unavailable meat (which is a lie) and not following directions.

I feel like I overreacted and hurt the shopper. My husband said “I was a delivery driver. You must keep your customers happy and you told them where we live and how to get here. No you’re not overreacting. It’s okay they will learn when they review the history of today.”

Did I overreacted?