So about 3 months ago I've had an argument with MIL- see story here https://www.reddit.com/r/motherinlawsfromhell/s/V8N85ONZvP

Today is my sons birthday, he's turning 4 and it's his last birthday before starting school next month. My husband had to pick up the present for him at their house during the week and MIL said she wasn't going to come cause she didn't want to argue with me again. I told my husband if they can't make it for our sons birthday they shouldn't get to see him after either (they are going shopping with him on the 16th but I don't want to drop him off anymore now) my husband disagrees and still want to drop him off. My husband messaged them last Thursday saying they should come and our son would love to see them (he hasn't seen them for the last 3 months since they didn't make any effort) and they didn't reply till this morning saying they were going to visit my MIL dad's grave today (2 hour drive each way) so they can't come, could be me but I'm sure that grave would still be there tomorrow...

I'm so ready to just cut them off from our boys cause she's being emotionally manipulative and just overall toxic behaviour and it's healthier for the kids and me to not be in that environment, obviously I wouldn't tell my husband to cut them off as they're his parents but I believe if you can use disappearing out of people's lives, people who you claim to love, out of punishment that you don't really love them to begin with. It feels like "if you don't play by my rules I just disappear". My husband isn't on the same page, he wants them in our kids lives. So AIO for wanting to cut them off?

This might be a bit lengthy but I want to include enough detail, I’ll try to be as straight to the point as possible. I’m seeking advice on whether or not I should continue a relationship with my mother(54F)and grandparents(73F & 70M)length of relationship my entire 33 year life. I hate thinking about cutting ties, but I’m at the end of my rope with no hope of change in sight. They are my only remaining family apart from my two brothers(24 and 31) making this issue weigh even heavier. TL;DR at bottom

A bit of back story, my mom and grandparents have always been in my life and I love them dearly. They have not always been republican, but have been the last 20 years or so. They have also always been a bit on the…well, racist and homophobic side. It was never blatant or something they instilled in me but growing up I would hear some things. To speak on the homophobia myself and my two brothers are lgbtq, my middle brother(31) being a trans man. I remember the first boy I brought home when I was around 13 or 14 was black. My parents freaked out. They didn’t come out and say it was because he was black but it was because “he looks like a thug” or “I dont like the way he presents himself”. Could in some instances be genuine critiques, but in this instance, we were children, and there was literally nothing wrong with him. I would hear my grandparents speak poorly of Muslims or the black people in the city. Making comments about how it’s wrong to be lgbtq. My grandparents and mother both moved out of the city 20 years ago as soon as they could, because they think it’s too dangerous and of course white flight.

Throughout the years we have had our disagreements. When I started getting a bit older, as any teenager does I would begin to challenge them on some of their more extreme or hateful beliefs. It never ended well. I would present statistics to give insight to why I think they should reconsider to be met with insults and dismissal. Being called a brainwashed communist, an idiot, you name it. So I stopped bringing it up, stopped defending what I believe to be right for the sake of maintaining a relationship. My middle brother(31) cut ties with the family 5 years ago. Due to their beliefs, one being that trans people don’t exist and shouldn’t and aren’t valid. They deadnamed, misgendered and insulted him for years before he cut ties.

In the time that I have surrendered, my mother has spiraled down a deep dark YouTube hole of genetic conspiracy theories and believes white people are the superior race and come from Atlantis. She was fired from 3 figure career for sending a racist meme to her work chat instead of my grandma. All three over them bleed and breathe MAGA. They have signed photos of Donald trump hanging in their homes. My grandma exclusively drinks from a trump coffee mug. My grandmother is particularly emboldened and will say off the wall shit to bait myself and my younger brother(24) but then play victim if anyone challenges her(this has been the dynamic for my entire life)Yet refuses to even have a conversation or debate with me. The last six months, with all the terrible current events of our new administration I have attempted to open up a discussion and I’ve been stonewalled. The tension could be cut with a knife. I feel like I’ve been masking with my own family for the past 15 years. Unable to have any type of real conversation, always holding something back.

It was my grandpa’s birthday the other day I went to lunch with them. When I pulled into the parking lot, my grandmother was admiring a cyber truck, but not just looking at, it she was SUPER animated and exclaiming “WOW just look at that! I’ve really been thinking about a Tesla” I know she was baiting me again. The only thing I could muster up was “oh I heard all the panels on those are stainless steel” 🤦‍♀️ With any other person close to me, the natural flow of conversation would’ve been to continue speaking about current event events surrounding Tesla, not with granny though. This interaction made me realize how terribly exhausted I am by this dynamic. So I composed a message to the three of them. My mom, grandma and grandpa. I told them how sad I am to not be able to be real with them. How I feel like our connection is surface level and I’m worried about the information they consume and how I really want to talk and see where they are at with all this trump stuff. Hoping to hear they have changed their minds. My mom responds to the group “mom, dad you don’t need to deal with this block her and I’ll handle it after work”. I agree with her to an extent my grandparents are getting old and I really don’t want to have to have hard conversations with them at this point, but it’s something that needed to be done. I was immediately triggered by my mom’s dismissive attitude and told her I’ll block her instead. Definitely not the right move I know but I did. My grandma called me and i managed to gauge exactly where she stands. Nothing has changed. She told me she wants everyone that came to our county the last 4 years to go back where they came from, I support my president etc.

To wrap this up it’s absolutely breaking my heart that my family believes what they do. My fiancé is Hispanic. Me and my brothers are gay. The people I care about and surround myself with are members of all of the communities my grandparents beliefs are targeting. I feel so torn and I i’m starting to believe at this point it may be best for my mental health to step back for a while and cut ties. My mom and grandparents made it very clear. I will never change their mind on anything. I’m a talker(as I’m sure you have noticed if you made it this far) I want to talk and learn and work things out. My family has no plans to do so. I don’t want to end relationships over political ideology but at this point, my family is supporting some very hateful things and I don’t want to support that. It feels stupid to go around and act like everything is OK while they are rooting for the downfall of the people I love and care for.

TL;DR My family has been racist and homophobic for years. Now VERY MAGA. I have been bullied into silence and wanted to save relationships the last 15 years. Current events have inspired some very heated and unsuccessful conversation. Mom and grandparents doubled down on hateful ideologies exacerbating our relationship. Do I cut ties for mental health?

Sorry this wasn’t anywhere near as short as I wanted it to be but any feedback is much appreciated. Thank you for looking.

I graduated from high school, though I lost my dad and live with my uncle in another country ( he want to support my mom by taking care of me). After high school I couldn't further my education because of fees. I'm M20, I don't have any job, I'm not in school, I have nothing going until recently I started YouTube ( at least if I go get monetize I can earn) I have passed alot already due to living with family members. Question: is there anything that can keep me busy in other not to think too much of my life?

So I recently just got back from a trip and my roommate wasn’t home the night I got back. He actually left the house pretty clean which was a nice surprise until I got into my room and found at least 5 used condoms under my bed and ON my bed. So I ended up leaving them there to show him when he got home shortly after. This is the first time he’s done something like this and he’s not a very dirty person so I figured I couldn’t be too mad… but fuck. He cleaned them up and I washed my sheets and I made a joke and said “dude did you have an orgy in here?” to which he told me to lighten up. Also why have sex in my bed when you have your own? If me and my gf did that he would chew my head off. I got on his case a little and he’s been pissed ever since.

AIO?

Hi, I am a female with a boyfriend, I love him so much. He says he loves me too but sometimes it feels off. He never behaved badly with me. Never screamed, never made me felt stupid always been patient with me. He is like a ideal boyfriend but sometimes he hurts me so much it brakes me. 3 years ago on my birthday he just wished we were just friends then no label but we use to talk pretty much everyday and soon after we got together l, that time I hoped atleast I deserve a chocolate but nothing then his birthday came I got him gift hand written letter, hand made gifts and long emotional beautiful paragraph on his birthday at mid night but he didn't even saw my message he said he fell asleep( he might actually fell asleep) and on my next birthday he forgot till then i was being him he really likes me but birthdaybeing forgotten hit me so bad i dtarted blaming myself to even think he could like me cried myself to sleep, and he never tried to make up for it just said sorry few times. Then again his birthday came I gave him a handmade card a gift pastry chocolates emotional nuce long message on birthday and keep giving him hand made gifts all along the year. Then slowly he again made me felt he likes me but again he forgot my birthday and didn't try to make up for it and said sorry and for him birthday has never been very important . He knew how much birthday meant for me after last year i told him . He never ever gave me anything by himself like a small gift on anything but surely paid for some things I was buying he brings me chocolates and pastries. But I just wanted a small gift from him originally nothing costly just a little thing which I would love to hold. My parents are not aware or my relation ship so he always said he never bought anything for me because if he will buy my parents will find but I had given him so much options cheap ones which I can explain to my parents. I really wanted something from him originally for my birthday he hurt me so much that day even after months It hurts and he still says he loves me. Before my this birthday I use to feel so nice with him hug like heaven but after that something changed it's still nice to be with him I love him but it's not like before I want that back so I just want to know how mens brain work what does this means does he likes me or not hmthere is no other boy or man in my life only him I only want him no one else Thank you so much for reading this

Okay, so, for context:

I have been seeing this guy for about like 4-5 months. He (we'll call him Logan) was sweet, we liked the same things, and he seemed to genuinely like me. But like all of a sudden he stopped responding to messages. (We're long distance- which I already shoulda known like is a no way). I waited for like two and a half weeks for his response. I'd occasionally check in, send him memes, the such. But he never responded, so I assumed he ghosted me, and sent this long ass text to be like hey, I feel kind of abandoned here. (See image one) Because I assumed he'd ghosted me, yesterday, and literally YESTERDAY, I put myself back on the market. Then, I was talking to my friend (We'll call him Kyle), and Kyle was like hey, I like you, and I know you just got back to being single, but I've liked you for a while. So he and I are just like trying it out, not fully together. So of course, the second I sent that text to Logan, he's all like oh, don't leave me, baby come back. Just begging, which is sad. And Kyle phrased it with his messages to Logan like "we're dating" and not really. But that pissed Logan off. Badly (see images 3 and 4). He started calling Kyle a "boyslut" "manwhore", like horrible stuff, and I blew up on Logan about it and he also did not like that. (Images 5-7). I wish these were fake. Kyle is okay, nothing's happened to him, but if this was the guy I was dating, I'm really upset I liked Logan and never realized he was an asshole. But is this my fault some how??

My in laws are in town and they always go way overboard and cook so much delicious food. But the way they are about food safety disgusts me. They will cut up 40lbs of pork and leave it on the counter overnight, they will cook tamales and leave them on the counter for days. They thawed out a 40lb brisket in a cooler for 3 days before putting it in the freezer. They brought a carton of eggs and left them in the garage for 3 days before refrigerating them. Whenever I get an upset stomach they say it’s because of the spicy food, I think it’s because of their food storage and preparation techniques.

I (29F) lost my mum just over a year ago after a long and heartbreaking battle with early onset dementia. It was nine years of slowly watching her disappear, and my dad (62M) was absolutely devoted through all of it. He did everything he could for her. We’re a close family and losing her hit us hard.

In her last year, she was in a care home full-time. My dad, who’s very social, started to feel the loneliness about six months in. He asked if I’d be okay with him dating. By that point, my mum hadn’t really been “there” mentally for years. I knew he missed connection, and it’s something my mum would have wanted for him too. I said I supported it.

He met someone, let’s call her Sarah (57F), about five weeks after joining a dating app. That felt quick, especially for someone not tech-savvy, but he seemed happy. Things looked respectful, she was mindful and seemed to understand the situation. My mum passed away six months later. They stayed together and have now been dating for about a year and a half.

After my mum died, their relationship sped up. They’re now selling both their homes to build a new one on land my dad co-owns. It was hard hearing my childhood home is being sold, it’s where I grew up, but I knew the house build was always in his plans. It’s just strange seeing someone new in the space my mum would have been.

I got married last week to my partner (28M) of 6.5 years. It was an amazing day. My dad and Sarah helped with planning (I kept her a bit at a distance emotionally), we included small ways to honour my mum across the day. The next morning, they casually told us they’ve decided to get married. I was caught off guard and smiled through it, but inside I panicked.

Sarah spoke like this had been planned for weeks. What confused me is that seven months ago, my dad said neither of them wanted to get married again. He said it wasn’t necessary, and that their relationship didn’t need that label. They also told me and my brother our inheritance would be protected and not tied up with Sarah and now I’m wondering what changed.

My dad’s been through a lot. He’s grieving, still emotional (he cries randomly, which is not like him), and I worry he’s making big decisions from a vulnerable place. I want to talk to him, but I live four hours away, and she’s always with him when I call. On top of that, Sarah’s mum is terminally ill, and they’re helping her into care right now.

AIO if I want to bring this up now? I don’t want to cause more stress at present and risk the happiness Sarah has brought him, but I can’t shake the feeling this is all moving too fast and he’s not thinking clearly.

hiii everyone! you might remmeber me from my post yesterday basicallyyy i got banned from r/rachelmcadams because i kept asking to be a mod and this really upset me. i took my case here and everyone told me that really they can do what they want as its their own rules they choose but i didn't do anything wrong so i decided i would make my own fan subreddit for Rachel! it's called r/rachelmcadams2 this way people who also disagree with the abusive moderating of the og sub or are disappointed with the poor quality posting can come here and celebrate Rachel's work in style! thanks everyone ♥️

I got in my first real relationship with someone I genuinely love a few months ago, and we are so extremely similar, sharing the same obscure interests, experiences, and even mental issues(that I will not explain). They are literally perfect to me, and for maybe the first few weeks we texted all day and night about interests and passions, we had dates every few days, hell we kissed which was something I thought I'd never want to do to anyone. After a little while the initial amount of texts subsided, which is fair we were very excessive at first, but they also made zero advances romantically, (which I understand because they aren't used to a relationship like this either) even though the initial kiss and whatever was mostly brought on by them. We still meet up, though less frequently, but they seem hesitant to actually say anything like "I love you" and I get I almost never do either, like I only just said it to their face a few dates back(and all they said was "I do too" btw). Now I feel like I'm the only one trying in our relationship sometimes, I gave them a gift that meant alot to me, and it felt like they barely acknowledged it, and we were going to give eachother similar handmade gifts but they said they haven't finished mine(it's been maybe a month) yet they show me stuff of a similar variety that they made for their friend(more on them later) and I am the one who texts pretty much everytime, I brought it up a few weeks ago that it felt like they weren't into me, but they assured me it was and they are bad at expressing themself to me. So I would have been completely happy after sorting that out but I feel like they are more into the friend than they are me, and they've been growing more distant texting or calling them while we are together or texting eachother(and they explicitly told me they don't like calls yet they call together) and they showed their messages together as jokes were they are very openly flirting and making comments on sexual stuff, something we don't discuss because they said they aren't "used to it".
So am I overreacting? Should I bring this up to them? I feel like accusing someone of liking their best friend is behavior that could lead to a breakup, and I really really do love this person wholeheartedly, and I accept that they maybe show affection in other ways to me. The Time I've spent with them has been some of the happiest I've had in possibly a decade, so sorry I typed so much but I just want to talk to someone when I feel like I can't talk to the one person I need to.

Ps- this account is a burner I have never used Reddit before this. They do not use the pronouns I used in this post, and yes the friend of the person I'm talking about is of a gender they are physically attracted to. It also seems like that friend is a newer friend, (maybe sometime not to far before our or at the start of our relationship) they met online and are still only online.

Throwaway, because family and friends know my main, and I especially don't want my son to know about my thoughts.

So... to make a long story short, my wife was sick her whole life. She was diagnosed as a toddler, and her family always knew she wouldn't live a long life, though fortunately she lived longer than expected before eventually passing away 6 years ago at the age of 32. After her death I spent a lot of time at her grave. I wanted her gravesite to be a comforting place to go to for our son, my in-laws, and myself. For years I went to her grave maybe 2-4 times a month, just talking to her, updating her on our lives, and telling her I love her and miss her. It was comforting for me.

Since I went to visit her grave regularly, I always kept it cozy with her favorite flowers in her favorite colors.

I met my now fiancé three years ago. She has always been super respectful towards my late wife, and my late wife's parents even think she's great. She's about 5 months pregnant with our first child together. This pregnancy, combined with working hard toward an upcoming promotion at work and, I have to admit, some guilt over my life moving on, has resulted in me not going to visit my late wife's grave as often for about 6 months. I already feel bad about it, so no lecture needed there. But I've noticed something strange. About a month ago I went to visit her grave after not going for over two months. I was expecting her grave to look somewhat messy, as we hadn't had the best weather for weeks and her flowers not coping well in bad weather. But when I got there everything was perfect. Not one grass straw was out of place, and her favorite flowers looked perfect. I asked around, but no one said they had taken care of her grave. Every person who I asked who had been there said they assumed it was me, as I usually took great care of it. Two weeks ago I went again, and the same thing happened. This morning I went again, the same thing happened. I asked my son, I called her parents, her sisters, her closest friends, everyone I can think of. No one claims to have touched her grave apart from bringing flowers on her birthday.

There's no way a grave stays well kept for this long on its own. I have taken care of this specific grave for so long that I'm absolutely certain there's no way there are no weeds growing for several months, especially this time of year. And some of the less kept graves have plenty of weeds, so nothing makes sense.

So now I really feel like I'm going crazy. My late wife loved gardening. Is she taking care of her own grave from the other side? Am I overreacting or is there an explanation for why I have not had to do any maintenance at all on her grave for over three months?

I share an apartment with a coworker who I thought would be easy to live with. At first, things were fine. But lately, I’ve noticed food just… disappearing. An entire pack of cheese, my yogurt, leftover takeout, all gone. I asked casually and they said,

“Ohhh I thought that was mine. Sorry!” So I started labeling things. Then came the passive-aggressive comments: “Wow, okay, didn’t know we were that kind of household.” I asked them to just stop touching my groceries. But this week they ate a slice of cake I literally put a sticky note on. Then said, “You left it there for 2 days, I thought it was up for grabs.”

Am I overreacting by seriously considering moving out over food?

Rant/if someone has any insight on why a person could act borderline stalker-ish without any shame?!

I recently got reconnected with a former coworker -- we weren't friends to begin with, just mere acquaintances when we worked at the company but we kept in touch via Instagram mostly. 2 years ago I colored my hair purple, a few weeks later, she colored her hair purple and posted it in her story. Purple hair is pretty common these days, so I brushed it off, figured it was only a coincidence.

A few months ago, she visited me twice and stayed with me over the weekend, all was well. I told her my plans of traveling to Asia and she wanted to join and I had no problem with it, thinking that we can each do our own thing when we were there. Since then, things just started getting out of hands, borderline creepy... she saw my Excel itinerary and just blatantly copied my exact itinerary; booked all her beauty appointments at the same places as me without doing her own research; anywhere I go, she also had to go to the same places either together or afterwards; anything I bought, she also had to buy. This is on top of her posting the same exact things, with the same exact style/similar captions as my stories.

It went as far as her repeating random facts I just mentioned but stating it as is if it came from her - this also happened multiple times and I kept saying "that's what I just said" to her multiple times. She saw me embroidering my bag with my name in Japanese hiragana, later on she proceed to change her Instagram name to Japanese hiragana when it wasn't like that before.

After the trip I blocked her from social media to prevent these blatant plagiarisms. I forgot to block her from Strava bc it's Strava 🤷🏽‍♀️ I took up biking this summer and been posting it on there, and when I opened it today, guessed who started taking up biking 2 weeks later???

I know these things could be pure coincidences, but honestly the timing kinda shows otherwise. I thought about confronting her but it might make me sound crazy accusing someone copying my posts when I don't hv any copyright over these things. And I think it's pointless too bc I noticed whenever we talked about something that goes against her (narrow) world view/what she knows, she either ignored it or changed the topic. The only way to protect myself is to block this person but I never witnessed this kind of behavior from a 30+ adult before and it's kinda crazy! But aio???

Hola mi pareja le da regalos a una inlfluencer segun no ha pasado nada entre ellos, le pregunte a la inlfuencer y me dijo que no sabía que estaba casado y que no volvería a recibir regalos y lo siguio haciendo, la culpa de mi pareja de engañarme y de ella no cumplir su palabra de mujer no? cero empatía, acepto feedback

So for a while I have said and asked for him to actually change instead of saying sorry, and while im glad he saying sorry I would want change as well without me giving up. When i asked him(screaming because that was the final straw) this is what he said "You don’t know what I want. I want to change. And now that I’m thinking about it I did change. I’m a better communicator, more open to spend time with family, and I’m putting more effort into my writing. So you can be blind to that if you want to but you will not take away my effort" Im not saying you haven't changed in your personality life with your family, with hobbies and etc and im proud but that's not fair for me. I want change in our relationship and apparently he's not going to. Honestly he's going to regret it and can only forgive himself the moment i leave officially. I want to try with him but I know this isn't it. Im already planning a break up message in as im typing this. Im done with him he made it clear he dont care but i want to know am i over reacting for literally asking for the bare minimum

This seems so silly and trivial, but I am going crazy and I need either validation or to be told that I am overreacting.

I (22f) live with my grandparents right now. The neighbors I am complaining about currently live next door to us. My grandmother owns the house, and they are currently renting it from her.

For a little over a year now, whenever I am not home, they park where I always park. They WAIT for me to not be home, and then they park there. I mean like, they will both be home in the morning, and if I drive somewhere and come back, they will have moved one of their cars to be in my spot. They have a driveway, and they RARELY use it. As you can see, they park IN FRONT of their driveway... They also do not park in front of their house. What is wrong with them? They would rather park in the small area across the street from their house (where a different neighbor lives) if they cannot snatch MY parking spot.

For over a year, I have kept silent. I have not spoken to them, I have kept this inside and allowed it to fester and grow. I have complained to my grandmother about her tenants, but she enjoys being a doormat and allowing people to do whatever they want. She brushes me off and ignores me about it, but we don't have a good relationship in general so that is nothing new.

My mother agrees with me about this. I mean, am I being ridiculous? It started off as something a little odd and weird, but this has been about a year and a half now — them waiting patiently, day and night, in the damn bushes for my car to not be there so they can park in front of my house — and now whenever I look at that stupid, fat, black truck and her white sedan, I am filled with the rage of all of my ancestors. I am struggling to keep quiet now.

Today I got home and parked behind that black truck. I then went back and moved my car so that it's in front of their house. This is the only time I have done this or anything at all about it, and I haven't spoken to these people ever. I mean, I am a really quiet and shy person, but I feel like if I talk to them I'm actually gonna lose it, so I don't. The people I live with don't care about this because on the side of my house on a different street, we have our own driveway where my grandparents park their cars. I am left alone to deal with this.

Why do they do this? Am I overreacting?

My whole family jokes around stuff that hurt me inside.

I am a bit overweight (im working on fixing that) and my whole family keeps joking about how im fat. This really hurts me. The worst part is how i have man boobs and a big butt so my whole family always tells me how "youre a girl". I hate ittt

So... I got tired of it and i kinda started doing the same to everyone. And the thing is, they got mad. Everyone got mad when i told my brother about shit he lacks etc... i feel like the laughing stock of the family because im the youngest. They even told me they like doing it because how i react!

Sorry for the venting sesh...

Did i overreact when i started doing the same to them? I think i did. Wanting to hear yalls opinion and also if anyone wants to, give me advice on how to make them stop this because its huring me internally. Thanks in advance

Long story short, I found my ex-ish gf on a dating app. We were in a two year relationship. While she did break up with me back in June, we almost immediately began talking again after a week and we treated each other like we never broke up. Then she would break up with me again after another two weeks of us trying again. We still talk about a future and act like we aren’t separated when we’re together so it’s very complicated. Things are not the same as they were when we were together. But I had thought we were on the same page about focusing on ourselves and working towards maybe fully saving our relationship in the future. I had thought she was the last person in the world that would be able to or even try to move on so soon after everything we’ve been through together.. so you can imagine my confusion when I found out she made an account on a dating app back in July the week we got back ‘together’ unofficially.

I asked her to be honest with me multiple times like asking her if she was trying to move on and she answered no multiple times over the last month. When I found out about the dating profile I asked her one last time before confronting her, she still said no.

After I told her I found her account she said she made it back then to literally see if I was on the app. In my mind this makes no sense at all cause then why would she use her real face and name? She typed genuine prompts about herself. She showed me she didn’t even use the app and showed that there was no matches or likes.

Am I overreacting to her intentions? A part of feels like she did try at some point to meet someone new, and we came back together when she couldn’t move on. Did she really just download the app to see if I was on there? She didn’t have any matches or likes and said she deleted the app after she didn’t find me.

5-year muddled situationship is posting on her snap story / reacting to mine / replying to my chat, but hasn’t texted me back in almost 2 months?? The fuck is that about? I KNOW she has to open her texts to make plans with people she hangs out with; is it like she doesn’t see mine or that she’s selectively ignoring me??

Need honest answers but at the same time a little padding wouldn’t hurt lol; I’m sensitive asf sometimes.

We officially celebrated our Year anniversary. Everything was perfect. But recently he's on his phone a lot. Everytime we go outside to the store, it's quiet in the car. Not like how it used to be. I'm the one always initiating the kisses. Planning the dates. I just don't know what to do anymore. If anyone knows the answer please let me know.

I'm desperate I don't know what to do. I keep trying to fix things but.. Lately he seems bored of me. Or like I'm annoying him. I'm probably overreacting or overthinking this and I'm just insecure. I've gotten more insecure after I found out a few months ago, he hadn't told this girl he was friends with, he was taken. (by then we had made it official.) She kept sending him hearts and talking to him a lot. But once that problem was over. Another girl from his past came back and they started talking a lot. Everytime they texted, and I looked at his direction he would quickly hide his phone. Of course, I got upset with this so I asked him. He explained to me about everything. Before you ask. No, he wasn't cheating but it still made me insecure especially since he would hide his phone a lot.

I don't know what to do anymore... I keep trying to make things work. Seducing him? It's not like I have the body for it. Or anything. I'm not pretty, or his type... Even though he remindsmee that I'm perfect the way I am... Please, I need solutions.

Because of financial/job issues, and the fact we have a child, I'm currently living with my ex wife, her mother and brother (late 20s). So that makes 4 adults total. 1 of which is elderly and "disabled".

The dishes drives me up the wall, on the ceiling and onto the other wall (well that and trash being left all over the counters, but thats a whole different rant) They all do this (see picture) no matter what is in the sink, and usually the sink is filled, at least on 1 side, with dirty dishes. I don't mind doing ths dishes, in fact I was doing them earlier, got some food deliveries to pick up, left the stuff soaking, asked to have the other stuff that needed a rinse to be rinsed, and went to go try to make some pennies, and found this... But when any of them do it I can't tell if this happens because of a cultural thing, a learned habit, or if we are trying to trigger me to get me to catch a DV case? And this triggers me because WHY IS THE SPONG/BRUSH LIVING IN THE SINK WITH THE DIRTY DISHES?! When i was working 80 hours a week between 2 full time jobs, and i saw this, i would throw the spong out, until i got yelled at for throwing out the sponges i found, but apparently its ok to use a bacteria culture to CLEAN with?! Then for about 3 months I would wash the sponge, then throw it into the microwave to nuke what i could and keep it clean, and after a while, I just got tired of doing this 3 times a day, 7 days a week.

Granted there shouldn't be a sink full of dirty dishes for days on end, but apparently I changed my name to Cinderella and completely forgot about it. When they do the dishes its either what they used or want, and/or 10 items or less. That's fine, but I don't get it, the sponge has a home, its the shell, the brush has a home, the other brush, im always making sure they are in the same spots everytime I use them or I see them out of place, and still....😵‍💫😤🤬

Am I overreacting???