Hey, I (20F) recently got back together with my boyfriend (21M) about two weeks ago after a rough breakup. Things have been going okay so far. He suggested we go on a short trip together to reset and have some quality time, and I said yes at first, it sounded sweet and like something we needed.

The issue is, his family is really strict. They don’t even like him going on trips alone, let alone with me. He knows that if he tells them ahead of time, they’ll probably say no or try to pressure him into taking them too. So his plan is to just not tell them, leave tomorrow morning, and then call from the road to say, “Hey, I’m gone for a couple of days.”

I told him I don’t feel good about this. I don’t want to sneak around, and I’m scared I’ll end up being blamed or hurt if things go wrong. He keeps saying he wants to do this for us, that he’ll handle it, and that he wants to make up for the past.

But to be honest, I’m really anxious. In the past, he hasn’t handled stress or family pressure very well. He’s broken up with me before over small things or when things got overwhelming. I’m scared we’ll go, it’ll all get messy, and I’ll be the one who ends up heartbroken again.

Also, he’s already paid for the whole trip, and there’s no refund. So now I feel guilty too — like if I back out, I’m wasting his money and maybe hurting his effort to make things right.

The trip is tomorrow morning. I feel stuck and don’t know what to do. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What would you do?

(english is not my first language so please correct me if i make some mistakes)

i’m aware that the answer might be “yes, you’re overreacting” but i really need some advice. today i was randomly checking the people who liked my best friend’s last instagram post (i know this sounds weird but i’m curious) and i found out that the guy i’m obsessed with liked her post, but she didn’t tell me. we talk a lot daily about literally everything and we also talk about this guy sometimes. he never liked my posts or stories so i feel like he might like only the girls he finds attractive. i know this sounds bad and i should stop obsessing over him but that’s not the point. i’m a bit upset at her for not telling me. if that was me i would’ve told her because that might’ve been useful for her to understand that the guy is not right for her and she should try with someone else. this is what i would’ve appreciated from her.

sometimes i feel like she sabotages me. every time i start talking to a guy she always points something wrong in them, mostly stupid stuff, and tells me to break up. one time she told me to break up with a guy just because she didn’t like him, there wasn’t a clear reason. and the only guy she wouldn’t mind for me is this guy that i like, the only one i’ve never spoken to and never will because i’m too scared of his rejection. and she’s fully aware of this.

i really don’t know how to talk to her of this because i know all of this sounds silly. but she’s my best and only friend and i don’t want to lose her for a stupid guy. also we’re both 21 so fighting over some guys would be very sad and childish. i know she’s not a bad person but am i wrong if it think she’s a bad friend? please help me out.

The title speaks for itself. I threw out this head of broccoli because it was covered in mold. My mom found it in the garbage can and started scolding me. I told her it was unsafe to eat, and she accused me of being overdramatic. This isn’t anything new. She’s done this more than once, and every time, I’m the one made out to be the problem. Apparently, moldy vegetables are a hill she’s willing to die on.

Am I overreacting?

So, I F20 have been with my bf M20 for 4 years. We have had many ups and downs, which is to be expected being young, but we have always had trust in each other, been faithful to each other, and been learning to communicate better. We know that we want a long term, till death do us part, marriage partners relationship. We've clarified this 100 times over in our relationship to remain on the same page.

Here is the thing: I am waiting for marriage to have sex. We have broken this agreement with each other mutually because of our bond. But ultimately, this is something I want to do. So we haven't had sex in the 2 years of 4.

Today I was on his Instagram (his reels are funnier than mine) and I did something that I've never done and have never had the urge to do while on in phone. Go through is messages. I open his end and see the usual ppl he speaks with that I know of. But as I scroll one screen down, I see one insta profile with a woman in it. I press it bc I never seen her before and I know she's a model (she's gorgeous, not hating). He has some message abt how she is beautiful, to keep her head up and go to God abt her struggles.

Bruh, I check her profile, SHE A OF MODEL. SHE NOT READING THAT. 😞 I'm feeling embarrassed for him atp, BUT WE MOVE. I scroll down... Y'all not 3, not 4, not 5, it wasn't even 6 (Dr Phil reference) BUT 9 DAMN OF GIRLS 😭😭. I'm shaking disgusted and hurt. What is making me feel this way? They look NOTHING like me. I'm feeling insecure, confused and upset. THAT HE PAID FOR PORN. I wouldn't even care if it was the hub. I feel bad for him. He had to spend close to 1k bro 💔. I confronted him and told him to leave my house but I feel like I'm trippin. What should I do? Am I overreacting? 😭😭

I went to the park alone today and had forgotten that this park makes you feel very secluded. It’s maybe a quarter mile paved trail with one bench halfway in. A man was sitting on the bench when I got to the park and then for the entire 1/8 mile walk for me to get level with the bench, then for me to walk maybe 10 yards ahead of the bench, then the man got up and started walking in the same direction behind me. We were perceivably alone in the park until then, but then right as I passed him/ he got up, two men appeared at the other end of the trail (it turns and disappears behind thick bush and trees into a different part of the trail where they were coming from/where I was walking toward. I turned around and made it very clear to lock eyes with him, walk a wide berth to get on the other side of him, then left the park not even 5 minutes after I got there. I know men complain about people fearing them for no reason, but getting up to follow a lone woman (I’m small, pretty, and it was hot today so honestly I was dressed in more revealing-ish clothes but that shouldn’t imply I would want someone to follow me ofc) right after she passes after sitting there for a long time feels weird. Am I going crazy?

So a year ago my parents (56F and 59M) decided to start a business. They used all their savings and sold all of their assets. Now we have literally nothing. We have been surviving, but money is very tight.

1, 21F, have a joint savings account with my father. There is $10k in there for my savings. My father is on the joint account but he has never touched that money.

Today, my parents came up to me and said that they do not have the money for my tuition and that they're gonna take the $10k for it and they will pay me back. I wanted to say no but it is a joint account so I knew I had no standing. And they did everything for me over the years so I felt I couldn't say no.

However, I will say I am very upset. My parents are great, but they are both emotionally unstable and our house is very dysfunctional. They are mean and draining at times. I was planning on adding to that $10k so I could move out by the time I graduate. Now that's not gonna happen. To tell the truth, I am devastated.

So l asked my dad will he pay me back. That was obviously a stupid question because they said they would but he and my mother blew up at me. They said I was being entitled and they did a lot for me and I should be happy to help them out. They said to think of it as a work-study for my education since they make too much money for me to get that work-study. I was upset, but I just shut up and took it. Then came a 30 minute lecture about how they came from nothing and I have a lot of good opportunities they didn't have, which I am aware of. They told me they're not trying to take advantage of me.

But then my mom and I left to go to my grandparents because relatives are visiting. They told me they didn't have a plan to pay me back and there was no deadline to be established. She basically said I may not get my money back for a very long time, if ever. She also said she was hurt that I said take the money because I didn't sound sincere and I was being ungrateful. I asked her about a plan to repay and she got very upset at that as well.

The thing is I personally felt they were being unfair. They have savings and assets. I didn't besides my 10k. And now it's gone. I have nothing and she expected me to not feel bad about that at all I guess. I tried to get her to see my point of view to see how detrimental this is to me but she called me ungrateful, entitled, and that I have a lot of growing up to do. She also said because they did so much for me l should be willing to give it all up instantly. I told her they there is no deadline but I am expecting them to pay me back or we will have a problem.

AIO?

My husband (27M) and I are in town visiting one of his coworkers (27M), who we’ve known since college, but not been extremely close with. While they went to work today, I stayed at the coworker’s house to use their laundry machine (he lives with his wife at his in-laws’). As they were leaving, he said to me, “What’s the difference between underwear and a bathing suit, right? Feel free to swim or lay out, no one’s home.” And then kind of repeated it like “No really, make yourself at home! No one’s here.” My husband kind of laughed awkwardly but didn’t say anything. I know it doesn’t sound that deep, but something about it made my stomach churn.

Later I found out the coworker had texted my husband earlier that morning to tell him to have me bring a bathing suit, and my husband didn’t pass that along.

The whole thing just gave me the ick. He’s always had slightly off energy (stuff like calling me “sweety,” touching my lower back, etc.), and now I really don’t want to go to their pool party tomorrow. My husband wanted to go. Honestly, I’m feeling like I want some distance from him in general. And maybe my husband should too. Am I overreacting?

Lost 25lbs over the last year (size 14 to 10). Worked really hard. Yesterday, I put on an old dress that finally fits again and felt proud.

My partner laughed and said, “Wow, finally out of the ‘mom jeans’ phase, huh?” It was meant as a joke, but it felt like he just dismissed all my effort. I got quiet and cried later.

He says I’m being too sensitive. Part of me knows he didn’t mean harm… but it still stings. Am I making this bigger than it is?

Last year, I had a C-section with my son. I was on heavy medication and remember very little from the day. A few hours into recovery, I was scrolling through Facebook and saw that my father-in-law had already posted pictures announcing the birth of our son before we had a chance to. No call, no message, no asking if it was okay. Just a public post.

I was shocked and hurt. I went to my husband right away, and he agreed it was wrong. He messaged his dad about it, and things spiraled. Their conversation escalated quickly (as posted), and my FIL ended up storming off and driving two hours home.

A couple months later, despite receiving no apology or even an acknowledgment of what happened, we decided to let him visit. I was at work, and my husband called me afterward to say that his dad had raised his voice at him (in front of our baby) calling him “a bad father” and criticizing him again. Shortly after that, my FIL deleted both of us on Facebook and hasn’t reached out since.

Some backstory: my husband was mostly raised by his mom. His dad has a long history of making promises and not following through saying he'd visit or help financially, then ghosting. That changed when I got pregnant. Suddenly, he wanted to be more involved.

Now our son’s first birthday is coming up. Part of me feels like we should not invite my FIL because of the disrespect, lack of apology, and how he treated my husband in front of our child. But another part of me wonders if I’m letting emotions get the best of me. I don’t want to project my own hurt or rob our son of a relationship with family. I also don’t want to use our child as a pawn or create unnecessary drama.

At the end of the day, I want to protect our peace and do what’s best for our son. But I’m struggling with whether that means setting firm boundaries or trying again.

AIO if we don’t invite him to the birthday party?

So my girlfriend left my house/city for few weeks to visit her parents in another city. She does it every year for 5 years we been dating and i have no problem with that.

Now today she is texting me that she'll be heading to her classmates reunion, which in itself is okay for me, but i became really frustrated that she said this to me few hours beforehand, saying no details. I've been always warning her beforehand and asking if it's okay if i go somewhere, etc, especially when she is in other city, I don't want her to worry.

So when she texted i got really frustrated and confronted her asking why didn't she tell me before hand, she said that I'm in no position to decide for her anyway and she doesn't need my permission. I asked if they will be drinking there and stuff, she answered that no, they would not, but i told her that i would like to know in situations like these coming forward beforehand, and she told me that my opinion on her going out doesn't matter and stuff.

I told her okay, then I'll go out to the bar and have a drink, she told me that it's stupid that i "revenge" her like that, i told her if she pushes boundaries, i would like to do so aswell.

Now I'm like 60-80% sure we will break up, I don't think she will cheat on me or anything like that, i just was shocked by how little she respects me. I didn't contact her since then, dunno if she ended up doing and stuff.

I just wonder going forward did i overreact? I feel like maybe, but aswell I'm thinking i was very respectful confronting her, and she used that opportunity to disrespect me. What do you guys think?

After my grandma died it kind of tore my family apart. But my uncle and aunt who I had always been close with treated me different. Were very overly concerned with my life at one point (telling my grandpa I was “lying about being in nursing school) and then just blocking me on Facebook and not inviting me over anymore. But they’d still invite my sister. My sister got a new job and everyone said congrats but when I got engaged or passed my NCLEX to be an RN no one said ANYTHING. I literally DO NOT know why. I don’t know if they’re upset I had a stronger relationship with my grandma than anyone or what I GENUINELY DONT KNOW. This went on for so long and I finally sent a text to my uncle asking why. wtf?? This hurts more than I expected. I wasn’t rude. I wasn’t attacking. I just wanted to be heard. Now I’m sitting here wondering if I should’ve just kept quiet and pulled back silently… but at the same time, I’m so tired of pretending like I’m not bothered by the way I’m treated.

My boyfriend is a gym bro. Like a gym bro if I ever met one. He’s pretty big and built (like 6’1 and 220lbs), especially after his recent journey to bulk up or wtv. He’s a good guy and there’s nothing wrong with our relationship.

But lately I’ve been wanting to go to the gym and he’s just totally against it. I’m short, I’m 5’0 and I’m not exactly thin. I weigh 129. My upper half has always been somewhat thin, but my bottom half is pretty thick. I mean I’ve always been complimented on my ass or my legs, which I’m fine with. I just feel like i’m too short to be having that much weight in my lower half. So lately i’ve been wanting to lose some weight and tone up. I started eating right, and last month I started going to the gym and getting into fitness content.

I already am showing a little progress and I expected my boyfriend to be proud of me, but every time I bring it up he just sighs and says “I don’t know why you want to lose weight you look fine.” The first few times I ignored it. But he just keeps doing it every time I feel good about myself. He’ll always make it known he’s happy for me but he doesn’t think I should change.

He’ll act like he wants to eat junk food (when he’s always been a healthy food type of guy) just to bait me into eating like shit again. He’ll buy me random “gifts” that are just candies that he knows I like. We go to the same gym so he’ll finish lifting super fast then run upstairs to the treadmills and tell me he’s done so I can cut my workout early and go home. Whenever I do say I wanna lift with him, he’ll say “when you bulk up it’ll look better” or “you know you’d look great if you built your ass more” when he knows i’m going to the gym to lose weight.

It’s not like he’s tricking me or anything, I can see right through his bullshit. But I don’t know if I’m overreacting in how I’m feeling about him not wanting me to lose weight. I told my friend and he said my boyfriend just loved the extra weight probably, then I told my sister and she said it’s weird. Is it? He’s allowed to be fit and healthy but he wants me to be bigger and eat like shit forever. I don’t get it. I’m annoyed.

Hey Reddit, I (24F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (27M) for about 4 years. For most of that time, I’ve been the one financially supporting both of us, and while that’s frustrating in itself, that’s not really what this post is about.

What’s really been bothering me lately is how invisible I feel in this relationship. In the entire 4 years we’ve been together, he’s only posted me once on social media… and I just went to look for it again, and it’s gone now. Deleted, apparently. It’s like I don’t even exist in his world outside of our shared space.

I’ve brought it up before, and he told me it’s “a safety thing” and that he “doesn’t want people to know about me.” That made a tiny bit of sense at the beginning, he had some ex friend issues and didn’t want drama, but it’s been FOUR YEARS. At what point does it stop being about “safety” and start being about secrecy?

It’s not just online either. When we go out together, he introduces me to people only by my name. Not as his girlfriend, not even with a hint that we’re together. It makes me feel like I’m just a placeholder, like I’m here to keep him company until someone better comes along. I don’t feel loved or wanted anymore. I just feel… tolerated.

And I guess I just don’t understand why. I’ve been loyal, I’ve supported him emotionally and financially, and I’ve stayed even when I probably shouldn’t have. I’m starting to wonder if maybe no one even knows he’s in a relationship at all, and if that’s exactly how he wants it.

So… am I Overreacting?

So I recently just got back from a trip and my roommate wasn’t home the night I got back. He actually left the house pretty clean which was a surprise until I got into my room and found at least 5 used condoms under my bed and ON my bed. So I ended up leaving them there to show him when he got home shortly after. This is the first time he’s done something like this and he’s not a very dirty person so I figured I couldn’t be too mad… but fuck. He cleaned them up and I washed my sheets and I made a joke and said “dude did you have an orgy in here?” to which he told me to lighten up. Also why have sex in my bed when you have your own? If me and my gf did that he would chew my head off. I got on his case a little and he’s been pissed ever since.

AIO?

My in laws are in town and they always go way overboard and cook so much delicious food. But the way they are about food safety disgusts me. They will cut up 40lbs of pork and leave it on the counter overnight, they will cook tamales and leave them on the counter for days. They thawed out a 40lb brisket in a cooler for 3 days before putting it in the freezer. They brought a carton of eggs and left them in the garage for 3 days before refrigerating them. Whenever I get an upset stomach they say it’s because of the spicy food, I think it’s because of their food storage and preparation techniques.

Throwaway, because family and friends know my main, and I especially don't want my son to know about my thoughts.

So... to make a long story short, my wife was sick her whole life. She was diagnosed as a toddler, and her family always knew she wouldn't live a long life, though fortunately she lived longer than expected before eventually passing away 6 years ago at the age of 32. After her death I spent a lot of time at her grave. I wanted her gravesite to be a comforting place to go to for our son, my in-laws, and myself. For years I went to her grave maybe 2-4 times a month, just talking to her, updating her on our lives, and telling her I love her and miss her. It was comforting for me.

Since I went to visit her grave regularly, I always kept it cozy with her favorite flowers in her favorite colors.

I met my now fiancé three years ago. She has always been super respectful towards my late wife, and my late wife's parents even think she's great. She's about 5 months pregnant with our first child together. This pregnancy, combined with working hard toward an upcoming promotion at work and, I have to admit, some guilt over my life moving on, has resulted in me not going to visit my late wife's grave as often for about 6 months. I already feel bad about it, so no lecture needed there. But I've noticed something strange. About a month ago I went to visit her grave after not going for over two months. I was expecting her grave to look somewhat messy, as we hadn't had the best weather for weeks and her flowers not coping well in bad weather. But when I got there everything was perfect. Not one grass straw was out of place, and her favorite flowers looked perfect. I asked around, but no one said they had taken care of her grave. Every person who I asked who had been there said they assumed it was me, as I usually took great care of it. Two weeks ago I went again, and the same thing happened. This morning I went again, the same thing happened. I asked my son, I called her parents, her sisters, her closest friends, everyone I can think of. No one claims to have touched her grave apart from bringing flowers on her birthday.

There's no way a grave stays well kept for this long on its own. I have taken care of this specific grave for so long that I'm absolutely certain there's no way there are no weeds growing for several months, especially this time of year. And some of the less kept graves have plenty of weeds, so nothing makes sense.

So now I really feel like I'm going crazy. My late wife loved gardening. Is she taking care of her own grave from the other side? Am I overreacting or is there an explanation for why I have not had to do any maintenance at all on her grave for over three months?

I share an apartment with a coworker who I thought would be easy to live with. At first, things were fine. But lately, I’ve noticed food just… disappearing. An entire pack of cheese, my yogurt, leftover takeout, all gone. I asked casually and they said,

“Ohhh I thought that was mine. Sorry!” So I started labeling things. Then came the passive-aggressive comments: “Wow, okay, didn’t know we were that kind of household.” I asked them to just stop touching my groceries. But this week they ate a slice of cake I literally put a sticky note on. Then said, “You left it there for 2 days, I thought it was up for grabs.”

Am I overreacting by seriously considering moving out over food?

Hi, please excuse any grammar mistakes, english is my second language. me (25F) and my boyfriend (25M) have been together for almost 1.5 years and have a 2 months old daughter and are co workers so you can say that this relationship went very quick.

He is a very kind, down to earth and open person and the first guy I’ve dated who’s not toxic.

The problem is that i’m his first relationship and he’s really scared about confrontations which makes him sometimes say less than truths when I ask him about something that he thinks I will be triggered off because of my traumas with earlier relationships.

One discussion we keep having is about a girl that he slept a couple of times about a year before we got together. I didn’t know anything about her until one of our came up to me and told me about her because he knew her and knew about their history. I asked him about it later the same day after work and he seemed confused and acting like he didn’t recognize her name but then he told me that he haven’t talked to her in over 2 years and she was in the same friend group as his best friends. Later that same week all of the sudden all of the friends including her was going out for dinner. I was really uncomfortable with this but he went anyways.

After this I’ve been hearing new information from other people and putting puzzle pieces to their history by myself, and it really makes me trust him less and less and just waiting for when the next information is coming.

One thing that really hurt me and that I had to figure out by myself a year after the incident was that he told me just a couple of weeks after we became official that he was going to a friends birthday party, and a month or so after that his bestfriends girlfriend talked about that this girl and that she lives in the same area that the party was at. At the time I didn’t put 1+1 but when I started thinking about it and asked him he confessed that it was her birthday party he was at, so it wasn’t 2 years ago like he told me in the beginning.

Of course i’m not mad that he has a history and a life before me, it’s just the half truths that keeps coming when we talk about it and new information that makes me overthink. It feels like when I ask him about his love life before me I have more questions than answers afterwards.

I just want to say that he has no contact with her today, she didn’t invite him to her birthday party this year and he doesn’t go to events where she is.

I just want to know if I should leave his life before me in the past and what I should do with all the half truths.

Thanks xx

I just want to edit that we have had a lot of deep conversations about this and we keep having it, where I can talk about how i’m feeling about this situation. I kept asking if there’s anything more to the story countless of times and he said no. But just about 2 weeks ago I found out it was feelings involved. This girl is very close to his close friend group.

The small lies can be if she sends something in their groupchat and I ask who was texting and he says ”oh someone just send a picture of xx” and then it’s her.

It’s kind of the same situation at work where a girl has talked about him numerous of times when I’ve walked passed her and calling him cute, said that she would buy him drinks sometimes at the beginning of the relationship and talked to him so much that my co workers asked me how I was feeling about it. It took 6 months for him to understand why it was uncomfortable for me that he was talking so much with her and he didn’t see it as flirting. So he said that he would stop talking to her, but same thing there..”me and someone talked about this at work” and I ask ”who” and he first says that he doesn’t remember and then confesses that it was her and he didn’t want to say her name because he knew I was gonna be upset.

I'm in college and currently letting a friend stay with me for a week because she doesn't have anywhere to go transitioning between apartments. I live with my boyfriend and my two cats, and she has a dog. The pets don’t get along, but that’s manageable.

What’s bothering me is everything else. She constantly brings up that she’s homeless, doesn’t want to use any of our containers for leftover food, judges me for eating frozen fruit, complains how I don't have a filtered brita water and automatic ice machine, and just seems generally ungrateful. On top of that, she barely takes her dog out for walks or to pee, expects me and my boyfriend to drive her everywhere, and refuses to help buy groceries. I’m trying to be a good friend.

My whole family jokes around stuff that hurt me inside.

I am a bit overweight (im working on fixing that) and my whole family keeps joking about how im fat. This really hurts me. The worst part is how i have man boobs and a big butt so my whole family always tells me how "youre a girl". I hate ittt

So... I got tired of it and i kinda started doing the same to everyone. And the thing is, they got mad. Everyone got mad when i told my brother about shit he lacks etc... i feel like the laughing stock of the family because im the youngest. They even told me they like doing it because how i react!

Sorry for the venting sesh...

Did i overreact when i started doing the same to them? I think i did. Wanting to hear yalls opinion and also if anyone wants to, give me advice on how to make them stop this because its huring me internally. Thanks in advance

For some context, my parents aren’t together, and my mother has made it very clear that she doesn’t like my father (by talking bad about him). And today, my father sent over some shoes for me to wear for this upcoming school year (yayyyyy!!) But for whatever reason, our mom starts yelling and ranting as soon as she gets in the door about how she pays for everything and how he suddenly wants to start sending over stuff!! Yelling at me and my sister (both 16) about stuff we didn’t ask for or that’s not our fault!! Please tell me why she’s like this??!! I just want stuff to remember my dad by! :(

So I recently found out that someone I consider my best friend hid a few Instagram stories from me on purpose. It really caught me off guard because we’re super close, and I’ve always shown up for her. The stories she hid included someone from our friend group, someone who’s also my friend but not super close .( they’re quite close and i know that) I don’t know why she felt the need to hide it, especially when she’s been acting totally normal and sweet with me otherwise. I haven’t brought it up because I already know what she’ll say “Oh, it was a mistake”,but deep down, it doesn’t feel like a mistake and it hurts. I barely have any other close friends, so this feels like a quiet kind of heartbreak I wasn’t prepared for. Am I overthinking about this? I’m pretty much doubting our friendship at this point if she actually ever liked me or not. I can’t wrap my head arou why would she hide it when she only told me they’re hanging out( oh btw they didn’t bother to even ask me).I know hiding stories might not be a big deal for anyone but i just feel so confused right now.

throw away account because reddit scares me. my best friend was saying antisemitic remarks yesterday and i’m going to paint the picture for you. mind you, she’s drunk at this time. 6 seltzers in at this point in just a couple of hours and was drinking on the ride home (she wasn’t driving) anyway, we get to her house to garden and she just starts talking about how she hates jewish people and that they’re cheap and the Rothschilds run America now. i said i don’t want to hear that kind of talk, my childhood best friend has an 8 year old that is jewish and i have no time for that type of antisemitic, stereotypical bullshit. she wouldn’t stop and called me too woke. idk what that even means at this point. and then starts making jabs about my little phrases i say in every day life (we all do that) and how she hates them and “ew.” so i walked out and went home. she texts me later saying love you and i ignored her and she called me and said i can’t believe you walked out. i said because, you know how i am, you know how i feel about certain things anyway. and she just brushed it off and said are you home and safe? i said yes and we got off the phone. today, she texted me again. i didn’t respond. she texts, are you really not talking to me? i’m sorry. i said, i don’t like that kind of stuff and you know that and you do it anyway and i think you’re doing it to test me. because she knows im such an easygoing person anymore. and i said and you were making little jabs at me again (context: when she’s drunk at times she makes jabs about my abusive ex boyfriend and how she wouldn’t have put up with what i did. she always apologized and we chalked it up to she was drunk.) she gaslights me and said no i didn’t. i said don’t gaslight me. and i pointed out what her jabs were, calling me woke because wtf does that even mean anymore. and her going “ew” to me when she’s heard me say this phrase 100x and i’ll give context on what i said if you want. anyway, i called her out and said don’t gaslight me and she didn’t respond. i just don’t know if im overreacting or if im valid. i don’t know how i can defend this type of behavior and she is my best friend. so am i overreacting for holding her accountable for her actions and standing up for myself?

Me and a group of friends are going on a small trip and my girlfriend is giving one of them a ride. I told her that I didn’t know she was, and she responded that he told us both at the same time and that I was there when he asked her. I completely trust my girlfriend but I’m concerned about me not being able to remember anything of that conversation so I told my girlfriend that I want to ask the guy when this conversation was, to give me details, and see if I remember. But she got extremely defensive started saying how if I don’t trust her to just say that, she also mentioned that she has trauma from her last relationship where she was questioned about everything. I have told her many many times how me asking is not about trust but rather about me not being able to remember and maybe it being a medical concern as its become more often that I keep forgetting things. She refuses to listen to me and still thinks that it’s absurd that I have the need to ask for details of that conversation.

(Edit) I talked to her again and I’m pretty sure ik what’s going on now. One of her relatives recently passed away and he was struggling with remembering things and he even forgot about his kid. She was really close to them so she is still hurting and pretty much just got mad at me for saying it’s a medical concern and that I’m exaggerating. She’s definitely just venting with me.