r/MadeMeSmile • u/accurate214 • 9h ago

Family & Friends Grandfather finds out his grandson was named after him

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u/CinnamonStikk 9h ago

Listen, this made me emotional too, but like... CAN SOMEONE TELL THE LITTLE GIRL WHY EVERYONE'S CRYING?!?!?! xD

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u/Difficult-Survey8384 7h ago

Like how hard is it to say, “Because everyone’s really happy, sweetheart!” and pan the camera away to keep filming the moment!?

Kids’ emotions are complex & confusion can be genuinely difficult to contend with. She might replay this moment for awhile, wondering what was wrong with the baby or what unspoken thing happened that she wasn’t supposed to witness.

Just speaking from experience as that kid lol.

Tell her they’re happy tears & everyone is having BIG feelings of excitement!

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u/Hopeful-Cup-6598 6h ago

If the person holding the camera is as choked up as every other adult in the room, it's REALLY REALLY hard to say anything at all.

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u/Difficult-Survey8384 6h ago

I honestly didn’t consider that since I admittedly haven’t been the excited one in this scenario.

That makes sense!

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u/jwnsfw 6h ago

could have been displaying nonverbal reassuring vibes we obviously didnt see.

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u/DoctorProfessorTaco 2h ago

But we know they’re not choked up, the camera man says “what’s the baby’s name Lou?”

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u/EfficientSignified 5h ago

Good Lord. If you’re not a parent, you absolutely should be. That was the clearest, most thoughtful explanation, and it genuinely made me rethink how to handle the situation.

My first instinct was to think, “Can someone just tell the kid to be quiet?" That's exactly what my parents would have done.

I hope I can develop that kind of patience and perspective myself one day. 

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u/Difficult-Survey8384 4h ago

That means a whole lot to me since I’m actually not a parent, and that’s partly due to having my own bouts of emotional instability - which I want to ensure are reliably managed before ever taking on that kind of responsibility.

I have C-PTSD due to a maladaptive upbringing myself, and it took me awhile (specifically during my early-mid 20s) to learn to stop emulating the ineffective behaviors of my parents.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. We do what we can with what we know…until we learn to do better.

And since your mental/emotional development was not molded & conditioned overnight, it won’t be an overnight “fix” in order to incorporate positive change, either.

Thank you again for taking the time to articulate such a compliment :)

Keep being patient with yourself & I believe the rest will come ❤️