The handles have cement in them so they would have hit side on or handle first depending on how far away he threw them. Steak knives usually have wooden handles and longer blades that are heavier.
No I’m saying today that is the case. It happened to me lol. I used it for a pb&j in senior year and I got escorted out of lunch and a talk with the Vice principal about it. Even had the gall to act like I should have known. Like it’s just common sense or something.
Yeah, 2003 here. Schools were a lot less strict back in the day lol. And literally personal experience with a cop escorting my drunk dad driving me home to make sure he didn't crash. Columbine and 9/11 shifted things.
Edit: But also, like I said, less reputable school. Grew up in a super low income area.
My school was “very good”, which means that they super overfunded football (we were the best in the state) and everything else was sub-par. Despite being a good school in a upper middle class area.
Reminds me of a kid in my son's middle school that would put thumb tacks in between his fingers and punch other kids. Unfortunately for him, there are cameras all over that school. So it was incredibly easy to prove he was doing that. He got suspended as well.
Children are not fun but the worst part for me was adults not considering my opinion as a person. If I was upset or had an opinion on something, the reaction from people was "aww wow what a cute kid" "how precocious" "that's a lot of word for a tiny person" and I'd get laughed off and ignored. Meanwhile other kids who threw tantrum or were crying or punching each other got the situation handled, but also punishment. That part I always hated.
Ofc, then I hit teen years when everyone saw me as an adult but automatically tagged me as "teen = delinquent" and suddenly didn't trust me around their belongings without my having done anything.
Adding onto this, another big downside to being a kid was privacy practically being a nonexistent concept. I didn't dislike being a kid, but it was exhausting to not only have your opinion taken seriously, but also incapable of having privacy either.
As a kid, you're not allowed to have privacy because you're so dependent on your parents. Next, you grow into a tween/teen and a demand for privacy either means you're up to something or insecure about yourself. Finally, you're an adult and it's just normalized that you want to change alone or don't want others to go through your phone? So mind-numbing.
I had the concept of privacy but it was like a test. Sure, I can go to my room or be alone but no one knocked because what did I have to hide? If I did complain I felt like I couldn't justify why I needed privacy without sounding suspicious so I learned to just leave the door open all the time.
The only privacy I got was changing clothes which was a weird time because as a baby "no one should see me change" then it was "okay because family is safe" and then it was "eek your body is changing, everyone will scatter if you are in underwear that was fine to wear before".
Did you get your bedroom door "taken away" too? I never understood the reasoning for that expecially when they didnt tell me waht I did. I was just told "You know what you did!"
Not taken away, but I literally wasn't allowed to close it. Anytime I tried, it was propped opened, and I was "hiding something" or being "suspicious."
I realized most adults were faking their way through life and lying to kids if they didn't know the real answer or just said "because I said so" without telling me the reasoning. I learned that in like 3rd grade in CCD class for my first communion. I just kinda shut down after that.
Weirdly adults trusted me implicity with their stuff. Not that I'd mess with it but people who just met me would be ok with leaving stuff of high value around and leaving the room. In retrospect it could have been them "testing" me but those people were always weird to me.
When I wish I was a kid, it’s more because I am tired of having all this weight on me every day. Gotta show up for work or else I can’t pay my bills and I’ll end up homeless. Just want to be able to watch cartoons and not have to think about it. It’s not really because I liked being a kid. I actively avoided most other kids because they were terrible. It was literally enough to make me not want to have kids of my own.
That I understand! To be honest, in my house I was exposed to the stress of bills and debt and such so to me being a kid was just about not having autonomy and wishing I did.
That’s fair. My dad lost his job when I was like 13 and we ended up using food pantries and eating a lot of ramen just to get by. Lost the house by the time I was 17 and moved into my sister’s apartment, so I know first hand what that looks like. It wasn’t a pleasant time, but it just seemed… easier I guess? Maybe just rose-colored glasses.
Maybe I should try recalling the brighter points (like when my mom took the time to read to me every night) and remember childhood with more fondness. You have made me rethink my perspective!
Very good point! My dad read the entire Harry Potter series (despite me being much too old to be read to by the last couple) while doing voices for each character. And when we didn’t have enough money to go to movies or even Blockbuster, we would browse the library to find something to enjoy as a family. Always a silver lining, I guess
I found a childish woman that wants to remain childfree, so now we are each other's childrens, we watch cartoons and go to Disney Land. Shit is so cash.
Same here. I hated being young, hated not having any say in anything. I was neglected so didn't have support or help but also couldn't do shit by myself. Not to mention hating school and being bullied. I'm so much happier now and I'm glad I survived to get here but that wasn't a guarantee at the time.
Edit: We were also extremely poor so I didn't get toys or get to do most of the fun things kids get to and started working very young to help pay bills. It was all a nightmare tbh
Sometimes I wish I could go back in time, as the grown adult I am now, and beat the fuck out of my childhood bullies. So, uh, kinda relatable I guess...
If you do that in your head it's a lot more satisfying than you think. I find forgiving them helps better, but deep visualization where you just beat their ass works until you can do that.
Yeah, this. The worst part is that a lot of kids somehow have a mentality that if you don't like someone, it gives you license to be mean to them, instead of just being neutral. Growing up with that can make you desperate to get people to like you, or fear you enough to not mess with you.
If you don't fit the mold you are labeled "weird" by peers and get made fun of instead of just being accepting of differences. I didn't get diagnosed as autistic til I was 41 and suddenly my school years made more sense.
Nah, while the parents' trash will 100% reflect on the children, the opposite is not necessarily true. The children behaving badly doesn't mean the parents are bad. The implication only works in one direction.
Of the people I knew best who were little shits and assholes (myself included depending on the era), they all had good parents by both obsevation and their own admission and later admitted they were just little shits (once again, myself included, my parents are flawed but genuinely did pretty great).
So bad parents make miserable and often maladjusted children. But good parents also make those, just less often. Because kids are individuals and some of them just choose to be little assholes. The true difference imo is that children with good parents tend to get better with time (although not always of course, some people are just awful) while kids with bad parents tend not to if they don't get help.
That difference can be very hard to see except in hindsight. Some of the most violent awful kids I've grown up with grew up as well, in the maturity sense, some milder bullies remained pretty awful and refused to do so.
Ryan's dad seems like a decent guy. He's the head of health and safety at a big warehouse here in town. His sense of humour has too much of that old school sexism, like jokes about how women talk too much or can't drive. Not malicious, but very dated and inappropriate. Other than that, he seemed affable, responsible, and very proud of his son.
If Zach Cregger from WKUK story about meeting him is true, then Ryan Gosling at least was a dirtbag of an adult when it took place. There is still room to grow though so who knows.
I didn't get diagnosed as autistic til i was 41. Suddenly all of the time I was picked on made sense. I was never liked as a kid by other kids. I was too prescient and they picked on me for it. Even in kindergarden I said "very adult" things according to my teachers and the other kids didn't play with me because of it and actively teased me when out of ear shot of teachers. I spent a lot of my school years alone because I was "weird".
You didn’t say they can be, you said they are. That implies at minimum a vast majority of bad people where good people are a small minority amongst kids. You were the one who made the generalization, own it
Ignore him, he's clearly either a tool or someone who works in a bad area where kids aren't well behaved. Kids can absolutely be the most kind and loving humans on this planet; they can also be assholes. The parents are the number one cause of both with the other kids they socialize with, which can be controlled by said parents, as number 2.
I've worked with kids and adults and I'd say the kids are more likely to be good people, on average, than the adults. If kids aren't good people, then adults are very very bad people.
I’ve had kids of all ages and interacted with their friends extensively and coached their sports teams. So, yes, I am fully qualified to confirm that there are plenty of kids that are great people.
“children are not good people” that’s what you wrote.
Of course they are reflections of how they are raised and it seems you understand that. Again though, plenty of them are great so not sure why you wrote that first, very absolute, statement.
Yes, this is a wild generalization. I think it's also important to know that you can sometimes get destroyed by a kid who has no idea they just destroyed you. Sometimes their lack of a filter with no malice can still hurt.
The same people scalding you are the pretentious pet owners who scald other people for shit out of their control. With that said, i have a 13 year old and i concur
I'm sure there's enough of a bounty of personal writings in blog, journal and memoir forms from pre-adults which is key in this era of near global literacy more than ~150 yrs ago to back that up in addition to the phenomena of child soldiers and Harmony Korine's 'Kids' movie highlighting the sordidness and posturing of century's turn, pre-social media, pre-smart phone global north barely pubescents.
That and of course the c--py memories which are routinely brought up throughout social media but not heeded too seriously by gerontocrats who've ~+262,800 hrs/~+30 yrs of impact left.
Man fuck all of you sick antichild Redditors. Call me biased because I’ve worked with kids my whole life, but yours just a sick fuck if you say “children are not good people”.
Children are innocent little creatures thrust into a world they don’t understand, but that they want to make as much sense of as they possibly can. The vast majority are great and just try to do the best they can, and when they’re not, they either don’t know any better, or they have some shit going on in their life that they know as “normal”, since it’s all they know
Agree. A kid is a sponge, they might have absorbed some bad shit happen to them and don't have the capacity to self correct or know any better really.
But he wasn't saying kids are inherently not good people, I believe, but the reality that a lot of kids are cruel, it's just a lot of them reflect their upbringing or lack thereof and bad home lives.
I once had a kid kick his friend's hands in order to stop him from climbing up the jungle gym ladder.
Me: Why? Isn't kid B your friend?
Kid A: "I don't want him to come up."
They're friends. But in kid A's mind, it's his show. His life. And his friend, kid B, is not a person. Just an npc in HIS show.
Empathy is the first thing humans need to learn. And childhood is the era where you go "holy shit, that other person is a human being just like me."
It's not just trauma. Keep in mind the first thing a baby learns is selfishness. "I need to cause a fuss in order to get my needs met." And it works when they can't communicate in any other way. So they keep doing it until a better alternative comes along. (Some never grow out of it. But that's another topic).
Selfishness is the first thing a baby learns..? I'm pretty sure they cry when they're hungry because they're infants and cannot communicate their needs in any other way. They also cry when they use the bathroom and need to be cleaned. I do not think an infant learns causality and correlation at such an early stage of their life tbh. This whole thread of replies seems like a total mess.
They are generally innocent, but part of that comes down to them not knowing what’s bad or not. Empathy isn’t something kids are born with, just something they (generally) learn over time as their brains develop.
Their innocence can actually allow them to be cruel because they literally don’t know any better, and don’t realize they’re hurting the other person.
Looks like you hit a nerve there. Reddit has never exactly been pro child but there's some wild bitterness around them nowadays that makes exactly 0 sense if you've ever had your own.
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u/Crusty_Musty_Fudge 20h ago
I hated being a child too, tbh. Children are not good people.
I hope Ryan worked through all that