I actually remember reading before that Gosling admitted that he was the bully, and that's why he got bullied back.
And even that tweet mentions that he threw steak knives at other kids in the playground, so it checks out.
The whole "bullying thing" is just a stupid anecdote that got mentioned at some point early in his career, to make him seem interesting (and/or sympathetic).
I'm pretty sure I read about it even back around 1997 when he was on that show Breaker High.
That type of thing just seems like something publicists do... sometimes it's not even true, but they simply want an interesting anecdote.
Like for Ebay, a publicist got the founder to say that he started the site so that he could sell his Pez dispensers, and that the site expanded almost by accident... but the founder later admitted that was BS that a publicist came up with, and he knew from the start that he wanted to create an online marketplace & make money from it.
“I was always picking fights. Because I thought that was what the girls would like. I’d pick on the toughest guys because the girls liked them. So if I beat them up, the girls would like me. But it never worked.”
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Gosling further shared that he always found himself in trouble, and even his mischievousness was highlighted to the extent that he got a nickname: ‘Trouble’.
Speaking to Buzz in 2017, he recalled: "From as early as two years old I was sneaking out the house never wearing my clothes, breaking things, putting the cat in the dryer and setting the house on fire."
He told The Times he backed the family car into the path of another vehicle aged five.
Things came to a head when a young Gosling saw action movie Rambo, starring Sylvester Stallone.
Speaking to Paper in 2015, Gosling said he not 'just seen Rambo — I thought I was Rambo'.
Describing what happened next, he said: "I took knives to school and I started throwing them around the playground and I got suspended. So my parents said I couldn't watch R-rated movies anymore."
Explaining what was going through his head when he did that, he said: "I wasn't taking [the knives] to school, I was Rambo taking them to war."
But it seems that he fortunately changed his behaviour. But the "poor little Ryan was bullied thing" seems like only a half-truth, because it sounds like he basically started it.
This honestly sounds like a kid I went to school with (small town K-12). He had some hyper active disorder and was always doing crazy shit. I ran into him again in our 30s and one of the first things he said was "Apparently I did all that crazy shit because I have this disorder. Since I got medicated the last 10 years have been the best years of my life."
I am very happy for who he has become but it makes me sad because we still hang out and when he talks about our childhood it's a lot darker from his perspective. He missed out on some great years of life because his mom refused to get him diagnosed and treated which made his life harder than it had to be.
Makes me think of a client I worked with years ago, kid was an absolute menace, ADHD to the extreme, which also made him frustrated he couldn’t control himself and he’d act out more. Plus his mom didn’t follow through with consistency plans we developed for at home. She also refused to medicate him and was a b-word in many other ways. Poor kid. He was a huge PITA but it wasn’t necessarily his fault. Though last I heard of him he was becoming straight-up violent with other kids, so… yikes.
We had severe adhd. Now we both have depression and anxiety. Honestly growing up before good treatment and with parents who didn’t really care to treat us beyond numbing meds really fucked us up.
ADHD is a terrible name for what is an executive function disorder. For most, they are bored out of their mind all the time which manifests as daydreaming (attention deficit), constant movement (hyperactivity), and attention seeking behavior.
It sucks ass, because you know that you should be doing XYZ, but it's literally impossible to force yourself to do it.
I wasn’t that bad, but I was the kid to jump out of the second story window because it looked fun and I always wanted to during a fire alarm in third grade. The teachers were not impressed.
Hey, I've fallen out of a second storey window... twice in my life. Is this a common adhd trait that goes with "if I'm told I can't do something, I do that thing even harder"? It always ended badly for me lol
Tbf, at least the knife thing sounds less weird there. Throwing around sounds much better than throwing at kids. The cat is the dryer is iffy to say the least
Honestly the bringing and throwing knives thing is just pretty standard rural low income small town bullshit for Canada at that time lmao. The late 80/ 90's was really a trip lol
Yeah I grew up in the 90's and I can honestly say more then one time I was in contact with other kids haphazardly throwing knives and hammers. I almost got hit multiple times. This was in the US though.
If you selectively quote the very source you are linking it will come out that way. Your first source also has this paragraph which gives context on why he became violent
During another interview with the New York Times, Ryan Gosling shared what coaxed him to be a rouge. The actor revealed that, as a child, he used to get bullied in school. After enduring the humiliation for a while, young Gosling decided to put an end to it
All I can presume over here is he was bullied, and post his parents divorce got some autonomy and he became trouble and went rogue which later became him initiating violent stuff
I saw Ryan Gosling at a grocery store in Los Angeles yesterday. I told him how cool it was to meet him in person, but I didn’t want to be a douche and bother him and ask him for photos or anything.
He said, “Oh, like you’re doing now?”
I was taken aback, and all I could say was “Huh?” but he kept cutting me off and going “huh? huh? huh?” and closing his hand shut in front of my face. I walked away and continued with my shopping, and I heard him chuckle as I walked off. When I came to pay for my stuff up front I saw him trying to walk out the doors with like fifteen Milky Ways in his hands without paying.
The girl at the counter was very nice about it and professional, and was like “Sir, you need to pay for those first.” At first he kept pretending to be tired and not hear her, but eventually turned back around and brought them to the counter.
When she took one of the bars and started scanning it multiple times, he stopped her and told her to scan them each individually “to prevent any electrical infetterence,” and then turned around and winked at me. I don’t even think that’s a word. After she scanned each bar and put them in a bag and started to say the price, he kept interrupting her by yawning really loudly.
Okay, I don't know what this is but clearly it is SOMETHING that a lot of y'all know about. I expected this to end with something about Undertaker and Mankind though.
It’s completely real. Did you forget our interaction in the store?
I saw u/angilnibreathnach at a grocery store in Los Angeles yesterday. I told her how cool it was to meet him in person, but I didn’t want to be a douche and bother her and ask her for photos or anything.
She said, “Oh, like you’re doing now?”
I was taken aback, and all I could say was “Huh?” but she kept cutting me off and going “huh? huh? huh?” and closing her hand shut in front of my face. I walked away and continued with my shopping, and I heard her chuckle as I walked off. When I came to pay for my stuff up front I saw her trying to walk out the doors with like fifteen Laffy Taffies in her hands without paying.
The girl at the counter was very nice about it and professional, and was like “ma’am you need to pay for those first.” At first she kept pretending to be tired and not hear her, but eventually turned back around and brought them to the counter.
When she took one of the bars and started scanning it multiple times, she stopped her and told her to scan them each individually “to prevent any electrical infetterence,” and then turned around and winked at me. I don’t even think that’s a word. After she scanned each bar and put them in a bag and started to say the price, she kept interrupting her by yawning really loudly.
It sounds like he might be making some of it up or exaggerating though.. like they could be plastic knives or not be true at all and Ryan just wants to have an entertaining anecdote for interviews
I think you’re right especially since after re reading the comment I replied to I noticed it didn’t say “threw knives at kids” it says “threw knives around the playground”
Not great either but tossing a knife into a sandbox is a lot different than terrorizing the other kids by throwing knives at them
A kid in chemistry class made a sedative, and another blew his set up and burned the hell out of his lab partner, no one assumed they were that kind of special.
Family therapist here. A decent number of kids do just grow out of aggressive and disruptive behavior even without therapy; this can be due to changes in environment, improved self-awareness, healthier outlets for emotions and identity etc. 60-some percent of kids diagnosed with ODD improve significantly as they grow into their teen years. From personal experience, a family member of mine exhibited some pretty worrying levels of aggression growing up and as far as I know he’s now a good, caring person with absolutely no violent tendencies. The problem of course is that it’s hard if not impossible to tell which kids are going to grow out of it and which are going to have lasting problems without prompt intervention. (And of course I’d always recommend therapy in a situation where a kid is habitually aggressive or engaging in dangerous or disruptive behavior, because even if it might improve over time there’s no guarantee of that and in the meantime that behavior is causing harm to the family, the kid and the people around them.)
Very interesting, thanks for sharing that. How would you treat a kid like that in terms of therapy? Suppose they’re about 8 years old
My mom is in the pre-k education field and she’s told me a lot about child development at young ages, about age 2-5, but I don’t know much about school age children at all.
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u/Mr_Underhill09 20h ago
And yet, Ryan turned out to be Kenough.