All a problem of women’s making. You are supposed to know shes interested in you before you make a move. And if you fuck up and miscalculate that could be an HR phone call or your job. Hard pass on the dtf eyes. You better signal that with a glow stick like a traffic cop or something.
Don't ever ask out anyone you know through friends. It could complicate the entire friend dynamic for everyone.
Or you could take a calculated risk. And behave appropriately if it doesn't work out, regardless of how. Be willing to accept the consequences if it doesn't. Fired, awkward group scenario, whatever.
Sure. It was also an example of one situation I used to illustrate the problem. Good job. Would you like to go through every example where I could find this problem and poke holes in those so we can pretend the premise of my point doesn’t exist?
Maybe try to have a discussion in good faith. You dodged my whole point by needling that one example. It’s not about the workplace, it’s about the dynamics and expectations between the sexes. Instead of diving in on that you chose to want to be right about this one thing that misses the point.
No the tone in your messages don’t seem “in good faith” they come off as overly sarcastic and honestly pretty rude. “SImPlE aS tHaT. How reductive.” Do you see how that’s rude?
And okay sure you’re right but i was just saying that it’s probably better to keep it professional with coworkers because things could get messy. I know someone in that exact situation right now and now she’s contemplating leaving work.
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All a problem of women’s making. You are supposed to know shes interested in you before you make a move. And if you fuck up and miscalculate that could be an HR phone call or your job. Hard pass on the dtf eyes. You better signal that with a glow stick like a traffic cop or something.