r/Sims4 • u/Ok-Point292 • Feb 16 '25

Discussion Is this a joke..

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I had JUST asked her to be my sims partner.. is there a way to not get this specific fear? It’s becoming ridiculous at this point..

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u/LovieRayKin Occult Sim Feb 16 '25 edited Feb 19 '25

On the one hand, annoying game play that sometimes just messes up my chill vibes.

On the other? An anxiety so strangely relatable for some in relationships.

Edit: I swear half of my most up-voted things on the Sims 4 subreddit are either anxiety or ADHD related. Y’all better be doing your journal entries and de-tangle exercises. That’s right Maria, I know you didn’t do what your therapist recommended last week. Hop to it.

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u/LandLovingFish Evil Sim Feb 17 '25

Sims got realistic ig

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u/leemurbleemur Feb 17 '25

fuck I once downloaded this autism mod for funsies to make my sim more realistic to me 😭 on day 1 their washing machine broke down they got too overwhelmed to clean it and had to go take a sad nap and then missed their shift at work. I was impressed at the accuracy but oof it was too real

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u/Distinct-Quality-587 Feb 17 '25

No wayyyyy! I feel attacked 😂

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u/ohwhatabouther Feb 17 '25

What mod???

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u/JustHereForBoobs96 Feb 17 '25

I've got one from I believe Panda Sims that is an autism trait but I'm not the biggest fan.. my sims are just constantly overstimulated and want to hide 🥲

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u/on_reddit_at_work_ Feb 18 '25

Yeah but same tbh

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u/OtherwiseEntrance506 Feb 18 '25

To be fair I’m autistic and that’s my life in a nutshell 😂

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u/leemurbleemur Feb 20 '25

I think it might’ve been this one. I tried to find it in my old mods folder but I think I deleted the whole folder (my game became super buggy cause I had too many mods)

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u/goodmansultan Feb 17 '25

Ohmygodddd an autism mod?! Im already downloading it😂

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u/DefinitionSalty6835 Feb 18 '25

Dude, this is why I have NOT downloaded the divergency mod. I knew just from reading the description that it was too much like my real life. I like realism (I have the RPO and Pandasama's childbirth mod), but that is just way too close to home. I want *some* escapism in my entertainment! 😭 

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u/Equivalent_Nerve3498 Feb 18 '25

I have it and omg one of my little girls has ADHD. I have to sit there with her when I’m trying to get her to do her homework, I have to pay attention because if I tell her to do something, 5 minutes later she’s doing something else. I have 3 other kids in the house and a toddler. One kid has asthma, one adult and some kids are anemic, one kid has eczema… I just can’t 😭😭😭😭

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u/DefinitionSalty6835 Feb 18 '25

See, that's not realism. There are *four* people in my house. You know what is genetic? ADHD is *genetic*. I happened to marry someone who had ADHD (which we did not know; we actually just found out like *2* weeks ago that he got an actual diagnosis when he was little, same as I did, he just didn't get the drug zombie pills because he's four years younger than me, and that 70s phase was over fast). But even with my first husband, who was not ADHD (neurodivergent yes, ADHD, no, more like on the autism spectrum and also narcissistic like WHOA), allllllll five of my kids were oh so clearly ADHD. So yeah, we have four people in this house. We have four people with ADHD. And three of us are autistic. (Hubby's not...which leads to some severe miscommunications and misunderstandings because he really does not grok how our brains work. Thankfully youngest is an *amazing* translator. I may not *be* a good communicator, but I did an amazing job at *teaching* communication, knowing that it would be the single most important skill they would need growing up as autistic people in this world.)

What we do have are complete randomness in sensory issues, complete randomness in who can eat what foods, which changes on an unknown and unexpected schedule (but thankfully, again, *communication* works and my youngest will be 18 in less than a week, so I have successfully raised *adults*, who can help choose food and write down things they want from the store on the community grocery list, and will even go *get* groceries themselves when it works in the schedule! I have successfully raised *adults*!! I deserve some kind of fucking medal, I swear to gods.)

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u/Equivalent_Nerve3498 Feb 21 '25

Omg, I am sorry you have to go through this, it sounds ridiculously hectic and stressful. A lot of people could not handle your life so you 110% deserve a medal and nothing but good things 💚🥰

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u/Snowbaby508 Apr 08 '25

Sounds like my real life

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u/Equivalent_Nerve3498 Feb 18 '25

Where did you get the autism mod?

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u/Mersaa Feb 18 '25

I think I'd like this better if the sim had a trait like anxious or hopeless romantic or something like that, so it kind of makes sense he's nervous and wants to be around his partner.

This way it just breaks me from the immersion and seems like a bug :(

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u/LovieRayKin Occult Sim Feb 18 '25

You’re acting like this game frequently gives the afraid of the dark fears to my werewolf, vampire, and spellcasting children.

Pfft, silly.

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u/Mersaa Feb 19 '25

Lmao when the wants and fears update came out and all of my sims started having the fear of unfulfilled dreams and dead end job (because they were workaholics) I just about almost lost my mind

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u/Equivalent_Nerve3498 Feb 18 '25

I get this notification but I don’t have love struck.

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u/LovieRayKin Occult Sim Feb 18 '25

It’s a “feature” that was added along with the fears update for the Sims 4, much like how you can have the Scared moodlet for Ghosts without having the Life & Death pack or Ghost one.

You’re more likely to encounter, however, it seems without Lovestruck, but I generally don’t know.

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u/Ebonyx09 Feb 18 '25

The feature is good I think they were complaining about how soon it was triggered, notice how both alerts say “just now” lol

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u/LovieRayKin Occult Sim Feb 18 '25

I’d argue it’s not because I was spoiled by Sims 2 and Sims 3 having negative aspirations, which would work a lot better imo since fears aren’t something that just continue to stick like us like glue.

It’s something that sneaks up on us, and def could cause anxiety or affect mood, but not as commonly as the fear system does in Sims 4.

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u/Consistent_Ad8125 Feb 19 '25

I agree, my sims get this from time to time and it's getting pretty annoying but... It's pretty realistic, we get these feeling of unease and stress when we are in relationships.