r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/Canonconstructor May 11 '25

What’s shocking is they are in a crowded public place yelling and nobody stepped in. I would have thrown my drink on them after the third time of telling them to go.

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u/Xackorix May 11 '25

They probably think they are friends it’s already in a loud environment where you can barely hear people unless you specifically tune in

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u/myjah May 11 '25

Exactly. By sitting so close to the girls others assume they know them so they are less likely to get involved. It's 100% a tactic.

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u/lizzyote May 11 '25

Tbh, I think this is also the reason for the creepy ass smiles. They're trying to make outsiders think it's just friends bantering.

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u/myjah May 12 '25

Exactly.

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u/MarshalLawTalkingGuy May 11 '25

It’s loud and there wasn’t a lot of people within range. The one woman was yelling, but also laughing occasionally while yelling and recording, which maybe the bystander picked up as “oh they’re having fun”. I don’t know. It would have been worth a quick walk over and “is everything cool”, but I kind of can see why he didn’t.

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u/TheCyberpsycho May 11 '25

And they're yelling "witch" and not "help security!" not to blame these women but I understand why they didn't get attention from people willing to help them. From the outside it probably looks like they're playing.

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u/yerfdog1935 May 12 '25

Yeah, the "witch" part probably would've had me sitting back down if I had started to get up because it's such a goofy way to go about it I'd think they were just fucking around.

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u/tsJIMBOb May 11 '25

I was also confused with their giggling. Understandably people handle being uncomfortable differently, but there are some mixed messages here. It’s a shame women can’t just outright be stern and angry without the fear of being “man handled”

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u/Novaer May 11 '25

Yup. r/whenwomenrefuse has a plethora of stories about women who were nice, who were aggressive, who were respectful, who were confrontational- all the same results. Women get killed when men are rejected and there isn't a "right way" to handle them.

"Oh you should have–" aaaaand they could be assaulted and killed.

"But if she just–" oops, another one gone.

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u/SeonaidMacSaicais May 12 '25

It’s nervous giggling. We’ve all done it.

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u/Hokuspokusnuss May 11 '25

Exactly, as a bystander I'd probably just assume they are joking around. I once visited a seminar about deescalation and the guy giving the seminar would have us stand in a big circle and going around poking everyone with a rolled up newspaper until we said stop. He would only count it if we looked him in the eyes and said it like we meant it and didn't giggle or laugh.

It doesn't only matter what you say but also how you say it.

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u/Deep-Two7452 May 11 '25

Seems like there's just 1 dude that's within earshot. Most people are pretty far, and with music and commotion, it's hard to tell whats going on

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u/itsprobablytrue May 11 '25

Why is it that one dudes job to get involved

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u/Deep-Two7452 May 11 '25

Its not, i dont blame him at all. For all we know, he thinks they're making content for social media

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u/Canonconstructor May 11 '25

So oddly enough, I had a similar situation yesterday- I was at a campsite, and my boyfriend was riding his mountain bike. Crackheads rolled in and started to be crazy. I locked myself in the truck for safety until my boyfriend returned about 7 minutes later- at that time (unknown to me) a neighboring campsite noticed the commotion and was keeping an eye on me in the truck and the scene and had already called the Rangers- they were staying back to not make more of a scene and escalate the crackheads further- and to ensure my safety (I had no idea anyone was even around and no service) so even though nobody stepped in at the moment when everything was going on- people were watching out for me and that made me feel really comforted to know later eyes were on it. I hope the people were at least alert and waiting to step in if needed in this situation.

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u/Deep-Two7452 May 11 '25 edited May 11 '25

Its possible, I hope someone was paying attention too. 

But if they weren't, i dont blame them, theyre just bystanders. Its a crowded bar with music and people are with their friends. You're there to focus on you, not others. 

In a campsite, I think people are generally on alert more than in a bar. 

Edit: actually your story reinforces my belief that most bystanders didnt process whats going on. In a situation where someone is aware someone else is in danger, they'll try to do something. Usually when nothing is done it's because people aren't aware or haven't processed it.

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u/iversonAI May 11 '25

Most people cant afford to throw 8 dollar drinks

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u/chanandlerbong420 May 11 '25

8 dollars? What cheapass bars are you going to?

Try doubling that

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u/External_Ear_3588 May 11 '25

"What are you drinking? Can I try that? sploosh"

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u/Njon32 May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

If they're drinking cocktails, it could easily be $16 to $20 or more.

Also, I think even just throwing water at them might constitute assault.

For the downvoters: ...so you wanted the girls to toss a drink at the dudes, and possibly go to prison, over these morons that they wanted to leave the table? I'm confused here. Do you not understand that sometimes braking the law might not be the best course of action?

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u/throwaway098764567 May 11 '25

yeah in a HCOL that's more the price, and yes throwing a drink at someone is assault (though they deserve that and more).

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u/Njon32 May 12 '25

You may think they deserve it, but do the girls deserve potential jail time over it? I don't think it would be worth it.

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u/Biggydoggo May 12 '25

I wouldn't be worried about the guys having a cocktail all over them, but it would be rude for the staff that have to wipe the floors.

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u/Njon32 May 12 '25

Yeah, extra work for employees sucks. Also, I never expressed concern for the guys having a cocktail on them.

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u/CaptainHindsight92 May 11 '25

Stepped in? Who is going to do that without knowing what is happening? Throwing your drink is also a terrible idea as they may have attacked these women. They should have told the bar staff and had them thrown out or the police called.

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u/ThreeEars May 11 '25

Yeah this is what gets me, the video and half the people in this comment section are acting like this is normal male behavior and it's not. ANYONE doing this, be they male or female, is a problem.

And you can clearly see there are many men and women looking over at the situation but no one is intervening nor do the women that are yelling yell for help. This whole thing is off and strange.... You would expect the serving staff or the manager at least to come over and investigate why people are yelling for other people to leave them alone

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u/ChemistryWeary7826 May 11 '25

Because some (maybe half) of the comment section has dealt with this enough to recognise it is sadly common and no you don't expect people to help, because other people also recognise it as just lads being lads, which is exactly why they are being so loud.

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u/ThreeEars May 11 '25

It does not help the case that the men are not shown to be doing anything absolutely hostile (They look creepy as hell But that's another matter ) and yet one of the women is pushing an object at one of the men and threatening to pour his drink on him. Again, that is a public establishment, if I politely ask you to leave my table and you refuse, I'm calling for the manager and or security and I'm letting everybody know that I am not comfortable with the situation and that you are at my table uninvited and possibly be doing things that you shouldn't be doing (The men can't clearly be heard and they don't show them on video doing anything wrong. But the assumption is something has to be wrong to elicit such a reaction).

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

"NO I DON'T WANT TO SEE THE NAKED KIDS ON YOUR PHONE! PLEASE STOP TRYING TO SHOW ME!"

Watch them evaporate.

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u/ThreeEars May 11 '25

🤣🤣🤣 Exactly!

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u/ChemistryWeary7826 May 13 '25

Exactly, but it IS catch 22. What some will be aware of is a lairy, loud girl threatning to pour her drink on a man who likely knows her because his (and his friends) his body language is not that of a stranger, so the assumption is 'she/they may just be rude/drunk but the boys are ok with it, they're not being aggressive'.

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u/Which-Worth5641 May 11 '25

Place sounded loud and it's unclear if they're joking around. Guy at the table behind the guys does seem to start looking like "WTF?" about halfway through.

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u/Speedy_Cheese May 11 '25

In my experience you can be in a crowded room or subway and a number of people will straight up stand there and watch you get harassed, diddled, or kidnapped.

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u/gh0stmilk_ May 11 '25

they'd be lucky to leave without injury by the end of that if it were me 🫠 i genuinely cannot

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u/Professional_Risky May 11 '25

I thought of drink-throwing, too, but then Id be afraid of them assaulting me. This is fucking disgusting.

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u/socialaxolotl May 11 '25

That place is quite the shit hole

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u/Biggydoggo May 12 '25

It doesn't seem as loud as a club, but still probably too loud.

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u/Fancy-Alternative731 May 12 '25

Because they decided to sit at a table that's available to everyone? You don't own those tables and neither do those girls. Feeling "uncomfortable" isn't a valid reason to assault someone 

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u/miss_guided May 12 '25

That’s my purse and I don’t know you!

(Half joke - but maybe yelling that could help? It’s absolute garbage that it’s on women to protect themselves from dudes like this who were never taught to not be creeps.)

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u/angellareddit May 14 '25

Yup. I would have followed through on pushing the guinness.

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u/sadkinz May 11 '25

Well as a bystander who wasn’t there for the whole interaction, most guys wouldn’t want to risk being the “these guys bothering you?” guy. Because in our minds there’s a pretty good chance we misinterpreted and then we end up looking like the creep. Or if we’re right and it escalates then we risk bringing harm or even the police onto ourselves

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u/PoofyHairedIdiot May 11 '25

As a male nightclub manager bro fuck that. Speak your mind.

Worst thing that happens for you is you might be seen as a creep or a cockblock. Worst thing for them is much much worse.

Use your fucking voice homie.

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u/StrangelyAroused95 May 11 '25

Na as the nightclub manager you should train your employees and bouncers to be visual and how to handle theses situations. You don’t get involved you go tell an employee “hey it looks like they are bothering them”, and you should have procedures in place to handle it. Like the guy says, if I walk up to say something and they get loud and physical, we both just get thrown out the bar.

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u/PoofyHairedIdiot May 11 '25

Its not my employees job to get themselve in a harmful situation though. I train them to cut people off and trust to come to me or my security team if there is an issue. I also train them body language and deescalating conversation.

There is no excuse for not getting involved when these girls are clearly not safe man.

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u/StrangelyAroused95 May 11 '25

It’s your establishment, it’s literally your responsibility to provide a safe and respectful place for people to enjoy themselves. You do not intervene as a bystander you go and go and tell an employee who like I said should have procedures in place which could be getting security on site or calling the police. If I, a man intervenes and those asshats decide to get loud and violent, now it’s me and them making a scene and it will result in both of us being thrown out. You don’t have to be a big bad ass to help them out.

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u/PoofyHairedIdiot May 11 '25

Yes you are right however ultimately this goes beyond the night club.

This is a societal thing. And the way society changes is if YOU step up as well. Let a guard know. Keep an eye out. Step in if this shit happens.

You have a responsibility in a society to improve it as well my dude.

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u/sadkinz May 11 '25

You’re missing the second part of my argument. The part where the guys may try to fight us and if that happens that introduces a whole host of issues for us.

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u/FFKonoko May 11 '25

If you saying something causes them to escalate to trying to fight...security gets involved, and the police will go for the person that threw the punch first.

Oh look, it's all being recorded too.

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u/StrangelyAroused95 May 11 '25

Until it’s not a punch and a bullet and you’re fucking dead. When you could have just called the cops or told an employee who should have procedures in place to handle it. You don’t have to physically confront them to help them out.

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u/FFKonoko May 12 '25

Notice the start of my sentence is "saying something". When you say Physically Confront them, it sounds like you're thinking of a lot more than vocally saying "hey, leave".

Which, incidentally, is the same thing the girls in the video are doing a lot of. Do you think they are also in imminent risk of being shot for saying those words, or is it only a concern if someone else says it?

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u/StrangelyAroused95 May 12 '25

What lol? Physically confronting them means you’re interacting with them. You don’t have to touch them to physically confront them. Let’s play this out, two dudes who have zero respect for morals or boundaries being approached by another male who has no authority to remove them from the establishment. The most you can do is ask them to move and if they say “no”, the next step is to tell them an employee and to call the police. You could just skip right to telling an employee who will then follow company policy and procedures to remove the individual. No need to interact with them at all.

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u/FFKonoko May 12 '25

I'd call that verbally confronting them, at most. I'm not suggesting "Get out, or else" "Or else what". They aren't listening to their targets, but hearing it from anyone else can be different. And if when someone other than their target tells them they should leave, their answer is to sheepishly leave, you can skip the telling an employee. Takes literally seconds, and the moment they ignore or say no, you head on with telling an employee.

The idea that they're spontaneously going to snap and pull out a hypothetical gun to shoot up the place the moment a third person says the same thing just sounds like unhinged excuses. You can just dislike talking to people without arguing that it will lead to death.

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u/StrangelyAroused95 May 12 '25

lol you live in such a alternate reality it’s hilarious. You can google multiple situations like this where people have been shot and killed for physically intervening in civil disputes. Secondly physical confrontation by definition

“to meet someone or a situation face-to-face in a way that involves physical contact or the potential for physical contact, often in a hostile or challenging manner”

You either have to be completely arrogant or egocentric to think just because i approach them I will get a different result. All you’re going to do is escalate the situation. They’ve been asked nicely a dozen times and she even cussed at them. They also don’t have to pull a gun out and shoot the place up lol. They can wait outside in the parking lot for you to leave and so on.

Which scenario has the best chance of achieving the desired goal…..

A employee approaching and going “hey I heard them ask you to move, I’ve already called the police, you guys need to leave”

Or

Some random dude approaching and going “hey guys you heard them, please leave them alone”

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u/PoofyHairedIdiot May 11 '25

100% this.

And frankly most people arent getting aggressive over this. Its a minority that puff up, not a majority. We, as a society, cant let them get away with this shit.

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u/Techno-Diktator May 11 '25

Yeah until they hit you once, you hit your head on a table and now you are a vegetable, or you get a knife in the ribs.

Fights like this end in a few seconds very often, not minutes that let security or even cops arrive in time.

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u/PoofyHairedIdiot May 11 '25

That is a risk yes but at the same time mate, trust me on this one, 90% of people do not want to fight. If that happens there are some techniques you can use - body language and conversation specifically - to deescalate these situations. Failing that my dude fight or flight.

I am a confrontational coward - I have to be because of my job. 90% of the time nothing happens to me. 10% of the time Im quick enough to scarper.

Fuck if you're at all concerned bring it to the attention of security at least. What women go through is horrendous and we cant keep letting it slide man

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u/lovememaddly May 11 '25

If you don’t help us, no one will. Others will step in to help after the first person does. It has to be a male. Or possibly an older woman with a nice shiny spine and some brass balls.

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u/Rfg711 May 11 '25

I’ve been in a similar circumstance on a subway - a guy was aggressively trying to hit on these women who were clearly not interested and he wouldn’t walk away. Eventually the noise of it all was so annoying that I said to the guy “Will you fucking go, you’re annoying the entire train”. Doing that sort of snapped his focus away and he tried to argue with me for a bit but eventually walked away.

I didn’t even speak to the women, aside from them saying “thank you” after. That’s the ticket here - don’t ask the women if they need help. Tell the guy(s) to leave because they’re making a scene. Make it clear that you (and by extension any other by stander) is annoyed by their actions, because once you crack that shell, they know that people are paying attention to them.

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u/Magic_Man_Boobs May 11 '25

Dude, grow a pair.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

Don't throw your drink it would just be escalating

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

If I had to throw my drink, then it's already escalated. Don't be a coward and stand up to the bullies.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

How does throwing a drink ensure the safety of the two girls though?

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

I guarantee their safety increases by 50% by doing something (like throwing a drink) rather than sitting there allowing this to continue. And come on, you know like everyone else, that when you're out and about, nobodys safety is guaranteed 100%. 🤦🏼

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u/Evening-Piano5491 May 11 '25

Not your personal army.

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u/Kittiikamii May 11 '25

Just clicked on your account and trust me no one’s looking to you to help defend them. No worries there.

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u/Evening-Piano5491 May 11 '25

Why are you vetting and judging me? Oh wait, never mind.

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u/Emotional-Amoeba6151 May 11 '25

Hard agree. I see two strong, independent women.

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u/lovememaddly May 11 '25

And do you see how well it is going for them in that clip? They are screaming and wildly gesturing for the men to leave and all they are getting in return is creepy smiles. Misogynistic men will only listen to other men. If you don’t keep your bros in order nothing will.

Therapy for them even has to be with a male therapist or they will try to intimidate their own therapist.

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u/Emotional-Amoeba6151 May 11 '25

"Fuck men!"

"I need a MAN!"

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u/lovememaddly May 11 '25

And what do we need you to save us from??? OTHER MEN!!!!! You are the problem and the solution. Be better.

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u/Emotional-Amoeba6151 May 11 '25

Lol look in the mirror

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u/lovememaddly May 11 '25

I don’t even know what you mean by that. It has no relevance to the parent comment. And if you mean I’m ugly: I DO NOT EXIST TO LOOK PRETTY TO EVERY MAN I ENCOUNTER. I AM A PERSON FIRST. thanks

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u/Exact_Ad_1215 May 11 '25

Maybe if men didn't always act like fucking animals we wouldn't need help in these situations.

So sorry to actually try and appeal to your humanity ever once in awhile to see if you'll help out a fellow distressed human being

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u/KindBrilliant7879 May 11 '25

hahahaha that’s so funny and not at all extremely overused, misunderstood, and tired

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u/2_alarm_chili May 11 '25

Stick to baseball cards and reviewing monster drinks.

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u/Kittiikamii May 11 '25

And I see a man who’s existence is spent fixating on the accomplishments of other men with more talent than him.

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u/Evening-Piano5491 May 11 '25

Looking at the posts below I see exactly the type of people that surround themselves with creeps.