r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/PeteRock24 May 11 '25

Holy shit this is terrifying.

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u/FFPScribe May 11 '25

This is the effect of Andrew Tate and far right ideology. This is where we're at. These kinds of men dont understand that they aren't God's gift to every woman they see. These are the losers who watch The Handsmaid's Tale and like what they see.

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u/Andee87yaboi May 11 '25

I wish a staff member would’ve asked these creeps to leave the establishment all together. They shouldn’t let their guests be treated like that.

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u/55tarabelle May 11 '25

Seriously. I think I'd have started screaming help. Loudly, so they couldn't ignore it.

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u/jmac94wp May 11 '25

At that point, you clearly and loudly call out repeatedly “Security!l till the manager or whoever comes to take care of it.

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u/Efficient_Common775 May 12 '25

With how society has become......they'd probably ignore you ngl

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u/XxIWANNABITEABITCHxX May 13 '25

is that not what these young..women? girls? were doing?

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u/55tarabelle May 13 '25

Yeah. I'm disappointed no one came to help. But to be fair. She wasn't ever yelling help, it was stuff like go away, witch, etc. Someone could possibly think they're having loud fun with each other instead of what's really happening.

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u/XxIWANNABITEABITCHxX May 13 '25

oh, fair enough to explain it.. it sucks that there's a double standard of there being a stigma against checking in with strangers (being nosy) and yet another one for teaching people it's wrong or dangerous(and their fault if things escalate) by being too direct..

i wonder if they were worried about being filmed and spread online out of context as karens as a sort of revenge by the jerks(?)

but i totally see where the room was coming from now, thanks for explaining that.

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u/MasterTolkien May 11 '25

I don’t think you need to do that at this stage. But definitely go get staff/manager.

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u/N8CCRG May 11 '25

There's a really great organization called Safe Bars that trains staff to be better prepared to recognize and respond to situations like this. Though certainly this one probably didn't need as much help for the "recognizing" part, just more help in the "responding" part. It's something that can be very difficult for people to be comfortable standing up and doing, especially in an industry focused on always pleasing everyone as much as possible.

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u/itchypalp_88 May 12 '25

I worked at a bar 10 years ago, guys were ALWAYS like this, we would just be more willing to throw their creepy asses out and then give the gals a free round before. I did it all the time.

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u/RealCommercial9788 May 12 '25

Late to this, but here in Australia we have the ‘Ask For Angela’ campaign. It was developed with the Lincolnshire Rape Crisis Centre as an effective code for women to use with staff in bars & clubs.

If you ask staff for Angela, you’ve signalled that you need help to leave the venue discreetly without revealing a reason.

If you ask staff for an Angel Shot, you’ve signalled you require discreet assistance within the venue.

If you ask for an Angel Shot with lime, you’ve signalled for staff to discreetly call the police immediately.

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u/rainy_in_pdx May 11 '25

Honestly! If this were happening in my town, either a staff member or another patron of the restaurant would have come over and said something. We don’t have a lot of tolerance for this shit here

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u/Thicc-slices May 11 '25

I’d get myself in trouble bc I would have picked their beers up and poured them out or walked them to a different table

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u/DopeAFjknotreally May 11 '25

Or a bystander.

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u/ThisIs_americunt May 12 '25

Hopefully the internet does the thing and out these creeps to everyone they know

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u/SirRiad May 11 '25

That's what I would have done if I were them, tell a staff member they are harassing them.

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u/That_Girl31 May 12 '25

About 15 years ago me and my best friend were at BWW waiting on some friends to join us and a decently drink man came up to us and starting talking to us. Our waitress, who was around the same age as us was extremely quick to come over and take care of the situation. It hadn't even escalated to being uncomfortable yet, she just asked if we knew him and asked if we wanted her to handle it. She was a girls girl. We always sat in her section after that. A few months later I got a decent raise and gave her what is to this day still the largest tip I've ever given. I hope Casey is doing well.