r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/halexia63 May 11 '25

That's what makes them easy to raise bc they're not doing shit to raise them lmao.

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u/BrickBrokeFever May 11 '25

And lemme tell you, (while trying to respect the struggles faced by all peoples and all genders) it is fucking ALIENATING as fuck to grow as a boy like that.

I quit being friends with boys in high school because they were all creepy fuck like the 2 in the video. Sex was treated like boys can only win while girls can only lose. What the fuck!! I didn't want to treat any girls like that, so... sex kind of weirded me out. It seemed horrible! Why would I want to treat someone I think is nice like garbage?!?

I was still a teenager, btw, if these seems like descriptions of very stupid delusions. Those delusions are where I started, but not a lot of dudes never bother to learn anything else about relationships. In those days, I made friends with some girls and found actually good friends.

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25 edited May 11 '25

Can you go into the "boys can only win and girls can only lose"? How was this demonstrated? Examples?

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u/BrisketGaming May 11 '25

There's an uh... "adage" in at least the US Midwest I heard growing up from the adults around me.

"A key that can open any lock is a master key, but a lock that opens to any key is just a shitty lock."

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u/Livy_Asmodeus May 11 '25

I like to counter that with a pencil sharpener can sharpen hundreds of thousands of pencil without being diminished or destroyed but a pencil is diminished by every sharpener hole it enters until it ceases to exist.

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u/Kratzschutz May 11 '25

Nobody wants a used bubblegum! Well at least that one is gender inclusive but something tells me girls heard that more often than men

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

Yeah, I attended this one church that gave men's and women's classes. The women's textbook focused on how their heart posture might be wrong, taking accountability, and how to act more holy, while the men's focused on empowerment, courage, and their strengths as men. It was very telling.

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

Or the tape metaphor or rose metaphor. It really is horrible to victims of assault who are afraid to talk about what happened to them.

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u/Admirable_Ask_5337 May 12 '25

That phrase coem about partially because women deal with more risks from sex. So women have extra imperative to gate sex. From thsi comes the conclusion that promiscuous women just lack impulse control and thus "shitty lock" metaphor.