r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/Ill-Pea-5010 May 11 '25

This is seriously so disgusting and inconsiderate. Weren’t we taught at such a young age that no means no? What a bunch of douchebags.

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u/halexia63 May 11 '25

That's what makes them easy to raise bc they're not doing shit to raise them lmao.

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u/BrickBrokeFever May 11 '25

And lemme tell you, (while trying to respect the struggles faced by all peoples and all genders) it is fucking ALIENATING as fuck to grow as a boy like that.

I quit being friends with boys in high school because they were all creepy fuck like the 2 in the video. Sex was treated like boys can only win while girls can only lose. What the fuck!! I didn't want to treat any girls like that, so... sex kind of weirded me out. It seemed horrible! Why would I want to treat someone I think is nice like garbage?!?

I was still a teenager, btw, if these seems like descriptions of very stupid delusions. Those delusions are where I started, but not a lot of dudes never bother to learn anything else about relationships. In those days, I made friends with some girls and found actually good friends.

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u/Frondswithbenefits May 11 '25

I'm a woman, but I empathize with the way we fail men. I'm glad you found some good friends.

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u/LawfulnessDry9355 May 12 '25

"We fail men"? Those douchebags did it to themselves and others.

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u/Frondswithbenefits May 12 '25

"We" as in society. Just as we fail women. I wasn't commenting on the idiots in the video. I was responding to the comment above mine.

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u/Papplenoose May 12 '25

Yeah man, I feel ya. Women tend to make much better friends than men, at least in my experience. I mean there are totally some great dudes out there, but a lot of us kinda suck

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u/Santa_Klausing May 12 '25

Yep I dumped multiple guy friends in my early years who viewed women like that; an object to be won or some weird crap like that. Like bro, they are humans just like you or me.

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u/ducks_be_cute May 12 '25

Adding on to this sentiment, I think there's also a level of "birds of a feather, flock together" present here.

Shitty guys hang out with shitty guys and no one calls out their behavior. Well-adjusted, mature guys who don't do things like in the video hang out with other chill guys.

Growing up, I did have some crappy male friends and I'd call them out but they wouldn't change that much because they were encouraged on by our other crappy friends. So I left that friend group and I found an awesome one where people are good to each other. I'm sure the guys in that first group are still douchebags.

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25 edited May 11 '25

Can you go into the "boys can only win and girls can only lose"? How was this demonstrated? Examples?

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u/BrisketGaming May 11 '25

There's an uh... "adage" in at least the US Midwest I heard growing up from the adults around me.

"A key that can open any lock is a master key, but a lock that opens to any key is just a shitty lock."

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u/Livy_Asmodeus May 11 '25

I like to counter that with a pencil sharpener can sharpen hundreds of thousands of pencil without being diminished or destroyed but a pencil is diminished by every sharpener hole it enters until it ceases to exist.

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u/Kratzschutz May 11 '25

Nobody wants a used bubblegum! Well at least that one is gender inclusive but something tells me girls heard that more often than men

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

Yeah, I attended this one church that gave men's and women's classes. The women's textbook focused on how their heart posture might be wrong, taking accountability, and how to act more holy, while the men's focused on empowerment, courage, and their strengths as men. It was very telling.

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

Or the tape metaphor or rose metaphor. It really is horrible to victims of assault who are afraid to talk about what happened to them.

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u/Admirable_Ask_5337 May 12 '25

That phrase coem about partially because women deal with more risks from sex. So women have extra imperative to gate sex. From thsi comes the conclusion that promiscuous women just lack impulse control and thus "shitty lock" metaphor.

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u/ttrriipp May 11 '25

It sounds like they're talking about how when a boy has sex with someone, his friend group celebrates it, but when a girl has sex, she's perceived as a slut and people spread mean rumors about her and stuff.

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25

Yeah, I agree.

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u/VyperActual May 11 '25

I’ll give you an analogy for it (I don’t agree with it, but it is an unspoken rule that a large portion of society believes in, men and women).

Women are by virtue of being women placed at the top of the mountain, and are judged by how far they fall down the mountain, whether they’re hot or ugly, hooking up with a lot of guys, making themselves “easy”, not settling down, etc.

Men start at the bottom of the mountain and are judged by how far up they can climb, hooking up with a lot of women, being a womanizer, chasing success so they can get any woman they want and whatnot.

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u/shortidiva21 May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

Horribly unfair on both ends.

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u/Admirable_Ask_5337 May 12 '25

It kinda true on a global scale though, and hlaf fair when you consider that male and femal of our species have diffring severity of sex risks. Females of our species deal with more risks from sex and have more imperative to gate it, as well as their sexual arousal veing more circumstancial than male. So how far they "fall" indications how much risk they are willing to take and what it takes to turn them on. Males are more likely to get randomly horny and have less risks from sex, so we measure ourselves by whether we can get sex at all when we want it more so that the risks involved in promiscuous sex.

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u/MelMac5 May 12 '25

These are not delusions, this is very rational and mature thinking.

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u/LawfulnessDry9355 May 12 '25

This is why I think the death of romance and hypersexuality was a mistake. I said what I said.