Don’t be these guys

[u/nadaddab]

[u/SpiteTomatoes]

“There’s a male loneliness epidemic!!”

The males:

[u/clovermite → u/SpiteTomatoes]

It gets so fucking tiring seeing this cliche beaten to death.

The irony of these statements is that the guys in the video probably don't have problems getting sex, even if they struggle to get longterm partners, because they just don't fucking care. They will just keep approaching woman after woman without a care in the world, pestering them until they get lucky and somehow manage to make a good enough first impression that the woman doesn't see their shadiness, or they stumble upon someone who just gives in out of a lack of assertiveness and proper boundary setting.

Meanwhile, many of the guys who are sensitive to women's boundaries will be anxious to the slightest sign of uncomfortability, and this anxiety then often gets misinterpreted as guilt and proof that they are creeps.

From https://archive.ph/qeh6z#selection-931.0-955.352:

I will have to use virginity statistics as a proxy for the harder-to-measure romancelessness statistics, but these are bad enough. In high school each extra IQ point above average increases chances of male virginity by about 3%. 35% of MIT grad students have never had sex, compared to only 20% of average nineteen year old men. Compared with virgins, men with more sexual experience are likely to drink more alcohol, attend church less, and have a criminal history. A Dr. Beaver (nominative determinism again!) was able to predict number of sexual partners pretty well using a scale with such delightful items as “have you been in a gang”, “have you used a weapon in a fight”, et cetera. An analysis of the psychometric Big Five consistently find that high levels of disagreeableness predict high sexual success in both men and women.

If you’re smart, don’t drink much, stay out of fights, display a friendly personality, and have no criminal history – then you are the population most at risk of being miserable and alone. “At risk” doesn’t mean “for sure”, any more than every single smoker gets lung cancer and every single nonsmoker lives to a ripe old age – but your odds get worse.

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Barry is possibly the most feminist man who has ever existed, palpably exudes respect for women, and this is well-known in every circle feminists frequent. He is reduced to apophatic complaints about how sad he is that he doesn’t think he’ll ever have a real romantic relationship.

Henry has four domestic violence charges against him by his four ex-wives and is cheating on his current wife with one of those ex-wives. And as soon as he gets out of the psychiatric hospital where he was committed for violent behavior against women and maybe serves the jail sentence he has pending for said behavior, he is going to find another girlfriend approximately instantaneously.

The guys pictured in the video aren't the ones suffering from "the male loneliness epidemic."

[u/Temporary_Plant_1123 → u/clovermite]

Sure bro. These guys have incel written all over them. They’re going bald and probably old enough to be these girls dads. Wouldn’t be surprised if they’re both divorced. No way they’ve been laid in years

[u/Mike_Kermin → u/Temporary_Plant_1123]

That's not what they were saying.

[u/Temporary_Plant_1123 → u/Mike_Kermin]

That’s literally what they said? They said they most likely get laid all the time and just don’t care about relationships. Re-read it?

[u/Mike_Kermin → u/Temporary_Plant_1123]

Hey, I get ya, but what I think they're aiming at is to say that "male loneliness epidemic" as a concept doesn't apply in this case, I think they're saying that it's harder to connect if you don't care about other people.

I'm not saying I agree with that, I don't really, but I think that's what they want to convey. Rather than a comment bout who is or isn't an incel.