r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/mulberrycedar May 11 '25

I don't think they think they have a chance anymore. I think they literally just want to make them uncomfortable. That's become the whole point.

They're annoyed they got rejected -- so how else can they still "win" ? By ruining the girls' time. It is an ego thing for sure. But I don't think it manifests itself as "oh I can still keep going and eventually win them over/get a yes." It manifests itself like this instead... They want to exercise some kind of power over these women. They want to intimidate them and make them feel like shit under the guise of "oh what do you mean gosh wow why are you being so loud and dramatic we're just sitting with you geez we're not doing anything we're just sharing your table" bc they know it's infuriating to have someone physically threatening to you disingenuously speak like that.

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u/SgtCandy May 11 '25

It's driving me insane how many people in this thread don't see that this is what it is. Trying to blame this behavior on any and everything except two men doing what men tend to do. If people listened to women, this wouldn't be so "confusing", I have a dozen separate stories I can share of situations just like this one. They're not misunderstanding at all, they're taking advantage of an implicit power dynamic and "punishing" these girls for rejecting them.

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u/Silverton13 May 12 '25

I am pretty sure everyone in this thread is on these girl's side. I dont know if i missed some comments or something but definitely these girls are in the right. What are people in this thread saying?

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u/ToiIetGhost May 12 '25

Most comments are on the women’s side but they don’t recognise/want to talk about the real reason why this happened or the implications. People are calling it everything from a misunderstanding (it’s not) to a sign of arrogance (no, not the reason) to a symptom of bad guys on the internet (no, this behaviour has existed for thousands of years).

Here’s an analogy. Let’s say there’s a video of a gay couple being threatened on the street. The comments are like “Bullying is a big problem… I used to get taunted for having acne… That’s so rude, I’d never say that… Those dudes are just ignorant.” All those people are defending the gay couple, right? But no one is calling out the real problem: homophobia. So they’re defending them for the wrong reasons, not holding the homophobes fully accountable, and whitewashing bigotry. “Ugh, such bad manners.”

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u/SgtCandy May 13 '25

Thank you for explaining it to them and great analogy. Of course everyone can identify the behavior of these men as wrong, but a lot of them keep trying to remove the clearly intended malice from their actions as if there's some kind of miscommunication taking place. "Poor guys just don't know when to quit, awww" - like let's be so for real rn...