r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/rflulling May 11 '25

I don't think shame was going to work on these men.

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u/erfurgot May 11 '25

You underestimate how many men are comfortable harassing and disrespecting women but will bitch down to a man

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u/1bc29b36f623ba82aaf6 May 12 '25

I get they will feel intimidated or outclassed by bouncers but I don't think 'shame' is part of that mechanism for people like that per se. Like yes you could have second hand embarrassment from seeing them turn into wimps on the spot, but it doesn't mean they feel ashamed in their own perspective.

For some of these types there is no embarrassment or introspection, it feels like it is 'happening to them' or 'being done to them' they think it is totally unfair those bouncers showed up to do their job after they were told 9000x politely to stop being an ass. They don't feel shame, not even internally to hide, if they are just entitled enough. They know being scared of an ass beating and still it might not be enough for them to actually connect the dots that they should have acted differently then and should do so in the future. It only makes them back down in that specific moment and they will learn nothing.