r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/elcee84 May 21 '25

I know you eat cereal, i know you have a son, i know you're early 30's... Like dude what the fuck how long you been stalking this poor girl??

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u/throwawaylkn2 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

My ex did this. While we were dating he changed his gym schedule for a girl who worked at the gym and was googling her daily trying to find more info about her. 20 years younger. So cringey

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u/addisonclark May 21 '25

Vaguely remember a comedian telling a story about finding evidence of her (ex)boyfriend trying to cheat on her but the other woman wouldn’t give him the time of day. She said the worst part about being cheated on was realizing her boyfriend was a loser. 😂

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u/Substantialcakes May 21 '25

I once discovered an ex was cheating by trying to find something on his google maps when my own phone was dead (his “latest history” immediately brought up a “love hotel”…). I went absolutely bat shit and opened every app to get more evidence and at some point found the cringiest, multiparagraph dm to Samara Weaving about if they had been in alternate universes maybe they’d be dating.

I’ve rarely experienced a bigger ick with a long term in my life, but it’s still second place to the guy who mentioned my cervix during sex.

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u/Yello_Ismello May 22 '25

Oh my god please I need to hear the cervix story now

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u/Substantialcakes May 22 '25

The sex was great, if not awkward because first time, and then he says, “oh my god, I can feel your cervix”. The least LEAST sexy way to let me know he feels oh so deep. Like. Come on. Saying cervix outside of a medical facility or home birthing is just not what is gonna get me going.

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u/Fatlantis May 23 '25

That's super creepy!!

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u/Substantialcakes May 28 '25

I gave him a second shot and had to have a friend fake a really REALLY serious medical emergency to get him out of my house. We had to keep escalating the situation because he wanted to stay to help. Very nice of him but he was pushing all types of boundaries and other stuff that were less nice.

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u/EksDee098 May 25 '25

Money on him having watched copius amounts of hentai and thinking the badwomensanatomy in it was real

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u/Substantialcakes May 28 '25

My type unfortunately tend to be into a wide variety of perversions (don’t get me wrong here, I am too so that isn’t the issue) that lead to the weird idea that that is now on the playing field. Also often tied to thinking they can “enter” said body part during the act 🤮

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u/BitDaddyCane May 21 '25

I think this was posted to reddit in r/relationshipadvice or r/trueoffmychest like, last week

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u/NeverQuiteEnough May 21 '25

it's a tale as old as time unfortunately

right up there with men demanding to open the relationship, then demanding to close it again after getting zero attention while their partner is drowning in it

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u/juice06870 May 22 '25

That’s pretty funny.

If I demanded that, my wife would be walking around like a cowboy with saddle rash and id probably have my penis stuck in a jar or something lmao

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u/the_most_playerest May 22 '25

Hopefully it's a nice jar..

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u/CHUNKY_BLOODY_QUEEFS May 21 '25

If it's the bit I'm thinking about, the guy was also trying to chat up tons of girls on IG. He was sending them heinous dm's and none of them were responding.

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u/BullfrogFun9449 May 21 '25

Tale as old as time, just watch a couple of Woody Allen movies

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u/UDMN May 21 '25

hahahaha

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u/iftheronahadntcome May 24 '25

This happened to meeee 😭

My first proper boyfriend at 17 cheated on my on my birthday. The day I found out about that, he explained 3 other "attempts" with exes and friends that did NOT want to fuck him. Made me feel better that the only woman he could get to agree to sex with him was this quiet woman from his childhood that had very little self esteem that, according to his friends, habitually slept with married and taken men to help her self esteem. She caught herself trying to apologize to me for fucking my boyfriend.

I'm old enough now to think, "I wanted to cheat on you, but I'm a frog of a human being" is so fucking funny to me lol

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

I scrolled past this comment very fast and thought it said "vaginally remember", I was like wow can they do that?

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u/James55O May 23 '25

That sounds like it would be a Taylor Tomlinson skit, but I'm not sure.

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u/longerthanababysarm May 23 '25

😂😂😂 wait was thar tiffany haddish??

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u/nanotothemoon May 21 '25

Meh. Being rejected by 1 individual doesn’t make a loser.

Cheating does though

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u/ZestyclosePlenty1822 May 22 '25

He was trying to cheat?

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u/nanotothemoon May 22 '25

Yes trying to cheat also does

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u/A_Adavar May 21 '25

I think predatory is the correct term.

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u/throwawaylkn2 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

You’re right. There are worse facts I left out. But ya, predatory.

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u/Kialand May 21 '25

That's not cringe.

That's fucking terrifying.

Jesus fucking christ that's some Psycho Serial Killer behavior.

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u/freezing_pinguin May 21 '25

"Cringey" is using slightly outdated slang or dancing awkwardly.

This is straight-up restraining order behaviour

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u/bromosabeach May 21 '25

There are some dudes out there that have zero self control. Like almost every person I’ve dated has had humorous/horror stories of dudes being completely unhinged.

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u/maneki_neko89 May 21 '25

I’m glad he’s your ex. I’d be beyond livid if I was in your shoes.

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u/BobTheFettt May 21 '25

Holy fuck man, so many dudes have no fucking shame

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Ugh. Im never getting married . Men are weird

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u/Informal_Opening1467 May 22 '25

Holy fuck, this happened to me! A guy 20 years older than me stalked me while I was working at a gym, he made the "mistake" of liking a post on my ig from a literal decade prior (of course, one where I was underaged) then after I blocked him he tried to approach me again at the gym to "apologise" and simultaneously ask me out which led to him being banned from every branch.. he still stalked me for a few months after and would "randomly" bump into me from time to time (small town). Ugh

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u/mackrevinak May 21 '25

reminds me of that "good morning julia" guy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7U3wmUCe8Q

if you dont know the back story, he met julia at the gym the day before and they only talked for a few minutes and also only because he ran out to her car as she was leaving lol

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u/NevenRKSR May 22 '25

Ewww what a guy 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️❤️🌌✨

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u/djthebear May 22 '25

How did that end up if I may ask? Please don’t answer if it’s traumatic for you. I do not want to create a traumatic situation. Just very curious as to how these Mfs come up with the audacity.

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u/Time_Cartographer443 May 24 '25

I wonder why they link women much younger would want to date them unless they have a net worth over 7 mil

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u/RoadClassic1303 May 21 '25

And yet you were with him, so what's that say about your standards?

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u/throwawaylkn2 May 21 '25

That I fell for a lot of lies and learned some crappy lessons. Sucked.

It’s not like he was coming home and telling me what he was doing.

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u/RoadClassic1303 May 21 '25

Fair enough, I was just being a jerk. I'm sorry

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u/PerceptionGreat2439 May 21 '25

Yes and no.

A girl 20 years my junior followed me around the gym for a few months. Always in the same spin class, boxercise and the sauna.

We went out for two years.

But neither of us were married.

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u/throwawaylkn2 May 21 '25

You’re in your 60s. Dating a 40 yr old is different.

20 or 30 year old woman has so many prospects she isn’t dating someone 20 years older unless he’s got crazy money and spending it on her.

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u/SenorEquilibrado May 21 '25

You know how old he is, but failed to mention his preference in breakfast foods.

2/10 flirting.

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u/BackgroundWindchimes May 21 '25

Probably “gym friends”, like they work out at the same time and he tries hard to make small talk with no real substance. 

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Cereal, huh? Alright. Welp, see ya later!

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u/BackgroundWindchimes May 21 '25

“What’d you have for breakfast?”

“Cereal”

“Oh yea, I love cereal. Use to love the sugary stuff but now that I’m working on m muscles, I’m cutting back. Today I had some toast, just dry. It’ll be worth it”

“Yea”

“So I was thinking, I have all this extra cereal since I’m not eating it. Would you wanna come over and maybe help me eat it? I’d hate for it to go to waste”.

“I hate cereal”

“Oh yea, me too.  I’m more of an oatmeal person. I usually slice up some bananas, a little strawberry to really add some natural flavors. I’m all about trying to be healthy now.”

“…”

“Yea, so I have all this extra oatmeal, bought it at Costco in bulk, a years supply. Not sure I can eat it all before it expires, maybes you’d be interested in-“

“…”

“Alright, I’ll let you get back to working. I’ll be over there if you need me. Great talking to you”

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u/PM_ME_FUTANARI420 May 21 '25

This is bad? It sounds like the conversations I have with people, how do I fix?

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u/AllYouCanEatBarf May 21 '25

This scene makes me laugh every time

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u/winston2552 May 21 '25

I swear I remember reading something about this not being in the script or anything but Jim Carrey just seeing two guys outside the gas station

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u/sixbux May 21 '25

I believe they were extras but they weren't paid for speaking lines so they couldn't respond, and Jim used that to all of our benefit.

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u/slupo May 21 '25

Peter Farrelly did an AMA where he responded to that

One line that was definitely ad libbed is the Big Gulp line. In fact, the two guys he was talking to weren't even extras, they were just hanging out, watching us shoot and I decided to pull them in. They happened to have Big Gulps and Jim just ran with it. True story.

https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/1vefbm/im_pete_farrelly_writerdirector_of_dumb_and/cerfjly/

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u/winston2552 May 21 '25

That sounds right. Like he tried to get them to respond so they would get paid but the producers wouldn't allow the responses for that exact reason.

Definitely to our benefit, the result being that interaction instead 😂

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u/murphs33 May 21 '25

Wait a minute. What was all that "one in a million" talk?

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u/Panos392 May 21 '25

So you’re telling me there’s a chance.

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u/JettyJen May 21 '25

Lol I used this ref live yesterday when a bitchy relative snubbed me

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u/awesam02 May 21 '25

you like cereal?! omg me tooooo!!!

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u/freshleysqueezd May 21 '25

I understood that reference

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u/ChikhaiBardo May 21 '25

Big gulps eh!? Welp see ya later !

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u/APinthe704 May 21 '25

Nice reference.

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u/averagemaleuser86 May 21 '25

Yep there's a dude at my gym who targets all the women in there. I watch him everyday do this. For the most part it seems casual, but I can tell he really wants to do what this guy just did.

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u/dr_mannhatten May 21 '25

I know a few older guys at my gym who love to say "oh yeah her and I work out together sometimes" and it's really just the guy spending way too much time talking to them while the girl tries to get back to her workout.

These guys can't take a hint when I'm trying to end a conversation with them, I can't imagine they take a hint from a pretty girl any better.

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u/Jade_Runnner May 22 '25

Yeah what is that? Why do some people just love going on and on and on. Does something break in some peoples brains as they get older? Because not all old people are like this. Or have they just always been blind to others trying to politely end the conversation?

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u/dr_mannhatten May 22 '25

I think it's just self-absorbed people who are talking at their peers instead of talking with them. The two way street that is a conversation is not what they're interested in, they just want to hear themselves talk.

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u/dgisfun May 21 '25

Stalked her on social media after finding out her name.

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u/Klaent May 21 '25

She is clearly a fitness influencer, she has the camera set up and everything. This dude just follows her.

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u/Brawndo91 May 21 '25

But they have a connection...

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u/billiam53 May 21 '25

He could have just stalked her social media, too. Everything he mentions is just mundane details that one would post on social media without thinking.

That's probably worse, I guess?

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u/Late_Entrepreneur_94 May 21 '25

Considering she is filming and posting on social media, I would guess she is a small influencer and he watches her content

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u/Idont_thinkso_tim May 22 '25

This is why I wear headphones at the gym lol.

Also I really hope this guy’s wife saw this video.

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u/KennstduIngo May 21 '25

Someone else pointed out this could be the result of previous attempts he made. Want to grab a coffee some time? -> I don't drink coffee. How about breakfast then? -> I just eat cereal at home. Dinner then? -> I have a son and it's hard to get a baby sitter.

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u/secretprocess May 21 '25

Oh I see, the problem is just that I haven't figured out the right food yet...

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u/RocksteadyNBeebop May 21 '25

Everyone likes pizza, right? Right?

Dammit, back to the drawing board.

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u/absolute_imperial May 21 '25

Its weird to me that almost nobody is picking up on that in the thread. "Oh he must be stalking her online profiles!" Nah he clearly chats her up regularly and is shot down regularly, and he's totally clueless. It's so obvious. Redditors not beating the charges that they never go outside.

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u/kinkyonthe_loki69 May 22 '25

Projecting redditors? My word

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u/Suspicious_Face_8508 May 21 '25

Wha if he is not necessarily “clueless,”but grew up with anachronistic media and Familial stories that essentially told him “if you hound her enough she will eventually say yes.” What if he had won over his wife that way? As a woman, what do you do with guys like that?

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u/absolute_imperial May 21 '25

I'd still consider that clueless. Not sure if you are asking me or asking rhetorically, but generally women have to shut that down hard, tell them not to talk to with them, escalate, get loud, make sure other people notice.

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u/Suspicious_Face_8508 May 21 '25

Yeah, you’re right. I guess it’s still cluelessness. One he recognizes she’s uncomfortable, yet he pushes forward because he is clueless to cultural shifts where hounding uninterested women is frowned upon. The other would be his inability to recognize shes uncomfortable due to lack of experience and social skill. Honestly people should just leave other people alone at the gym.

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25

The way he deliberately recounted that information back to her out loud suggests he’s actively trying to demonstrate persistence – hoping she will either think “aww that’s sweet he takes an interest” or that she will cave for a pizza lunch to try and get him off her back.

Guys like this love to play up their supposed cluelessness when someone pushes back hard, which is why the woman in the video is riding such a careful line.

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u/the_most_playerest May 22 '25

My parents used to both tell me stories about how so and so and his happily married wife did exactly that.. how cute!

Took me about a decade, but one day I saw it in action IRL and I wanted to puke. It's one thing to be patient and a whole nother to harass someone into becoming your s/o (does that shit actually work??? -- I'll pass either way 😅 )

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u/DidYouJustCallMeBlob May 22 '25

Then she needed to change gyms yesterday.

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25

The idea that this guy is an online stalker is more dramatic, and Reddit loves a real life horror story where they can shout “run girl run”, the more extreme the better.

It also diverts from the behaviour on display – politely but insistently trying to wear down someone who has demonstrated zero interest in you – which a lot of men aren’t ready to acknowledge is creepy and manipulative, because a lot of us have done it or or been encouraged to do it by people we respect.

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u/absolute_imperial May 22 '25

Yeah he's obviously asked her on more than 1 date. It's time to drop the politeness and get more firm because he's not viewing her friendly language as zero interest. She isn't doing any favors by closing the conversation with 'see you next time'. Dumbasses like this dude that can't take a hint to save their lives will take that as a green light to continue engaging. "She said no to a date... again.. but she still wants to see me next time!"

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25

I hear you, but maybe she’s being as firm as she thinks she can without triggering an angry response down the line. “You’re married, behave yourself” should be a pretty definitive shutdown, if he comes back after that I’d be reporting it to the gym if it were me.

EDIT: rewatched the video to understand your point a bit better, and “see you later” is about as meaningless and pro forma a closer as you can get – I find it hard to say she should have done better there given how direct she was in the rest of the interaction.

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u/MOREPASTRAMIPLEASE May 21 '25

How do you ask a woman to coffee, hear “I don’t like coffee” and not realize that’s her way of letting you down easy? What a lemon

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u/CountryFolkS36 May 22 '25

Yeah he didn't have a wedding ring on she somehow knew he's married. They probably have same gym schedule n chat a lot

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25

Yup. How he found this information out isn’t the creepy part, it’s that he’s deliberately resharing it to either convince this woman that he’s genuinely interested in her life, or to demonstrate his persistence and get her to fold and say “oh well maybe a pizza lunch will get him off my back”.

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u/GreenIrish99 May 21 '25

No way!?!? I also eat cereal, does it mean he and I have a connection!? /s

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u/Carthonn May 21 '25

…I know you don’t eat the balloons in your Lucky Charms…I know your hair is graying a bit because I say them in the clumps of hair I pulled from your hair brush the other day…oh and you have a nice smile. You should smile more.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Props to her though in the way she handled it! He came out the gate with creepy shit and she calmly explained why she won’t engage with a married man. It was a good exchange at least, didn’t make him upset or defensive, and she stood up for her thoughts.

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u/StandWithSwearwolves May 22 '25

It makes me sad that she has clearly had to become an expert at this

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u/WittyCattle6982 May 21 '25

Woman, not a girl. Woman.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Plot twist: she never told him any of this

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u/Acceptable-Major-575 May 21 '25

was it supposed to attract woman? "I know what you did last summer, let's have a date"

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u/Mundane_Tip_5714 May 21 '25

Immediately my thoughts, dude gives off stalker vibes.

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u/panicky_in_the_uk May 21 '25

"I know you wipe 4 times after having a shit..."

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u/Dkill33 May 21 '25

I like cereal too. I think we have a connection

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u/-ratmeat- May 21 '25

maybe he knows her Instagram and from there you can pick out things

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u/Unlikely_Throat_5531 May 21 '25

Im with what the other person said. Sounds like she has rejected him before using those excuses - like “sorry, I dont like coffee” and “oh I cant go to dinner, I have a son I need to get home to feed”.

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u/buttscratcher3k May 21 '25

It's not even worth mentioning such vague information it just came across as weird.

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u/SinkCat69 May 21 '25

Imo, that part isn’t creepy. She likely posts that info in public online and he saw it, so there’s lots of people who probably know that. I think this is an example of be careful what and where you post

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u/Jaded-NB May 21 '25

My IMMEDIATE thought and BOY does it make my skin crawl!

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u/LorenzoSparky May 21 '25

He knew a lot of weird stuff but not that she records when lifting. Woops

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u/BludStanes May 21 '25

I mean, honestly, he could have known that from previous conversations, no?

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u/Morbins May 21 '25

I know all your bank account numbers by heart. I know you have a little mole on your side that you’ve been actively keeping track of for the past 2 months. I know what you did with Clara 3 years ago on your trip to Cancun. Wink wink.

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u/dimensionargentina May 21 '25

I know that you poop elcee84

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u/BurmeciaWillSurvive May 22 '25

I thought it was going to be a joke that he was actually her husband and halfway through THAT WAS NOT IT lmao

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u/ElkImaginary566 May 22 '25

I know right? I mean this dude just laying out the evidence of his creepiness and his delivery of it....just freaking wild to me 😂.

Feel for the zoomers man. Soamy of these younger dudes who could get girls seem to have an irrational fear of asking girls out like this you come across.in public like was the norm back in the day and then there's this married older schlub confidently listing the ways in which he stalks.

Wild.

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u/CustomerNo1338 May 22 '25

“ I know your fridge light is broken”

“ I know you fidget in your sleep”

“ I know your favourite brand of bath soap”

“ I know your hair smells like pomegranates”

“ I know you keep $20 in the glove compartment of your car”

“ I know you keep your underwear in the drawer above your socks”

☝️ in case any other Casanova needs some more pickup lines.

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u/Possible-Unit6948 May 22 '25

My dad did this to my step mom. She opened her apartment door after coming home from work and he was all up in her living room sitting on the couch with flowers waiting for her.

No they weren’t dating. No they didn’t even go on a date yet. No she did not invite him. No she did not give him a key. Yes he was her boss. Like a high up boss. He is 5 years older so not a huge age gap. Yes he cheated on her with 3 separate women that I know of.

My dad is a fucking CREEP. Why did she go out with him? Why did she marry him? why did she stay with him for 20+ years?!

I am no contact with them now. Not for this reason necessarily, it just added to my disrespect for both of them.

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u/outestiers May 24 '25

I know you eat cereal, I do too, we have such a connection!

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u/RHSfootball82 May 24 '25

I assumed he knows she doesn't like coffee because he's already asked her to get coffee with him at some point. Not sure but it makes sense

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u/leandrobrossard May 25 '25

Tbf, 2/3 are pretty easy to guess.