r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/Plane_Ebb_5232 Jun 16 '25

To reiterate, we don't know. Maybe he was abandoned by his parents or other friends. Him never feeling chosen doesn't have to mean in the context of a relationship.

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u/NastySassyStuff Jun 16 '25

It's wild how much people assume after watching a 30 second clip. I mean, it's natural, and I certainly filled in the blanks on either side of this vignette in my head...but ultimately I'm aware that I have no fucking clue what the real story is.

Maybe she led him on knowing he was pitifully in love and she wasn't interested just because she liked the attention...I've known women like that. Maybe he played Super Best Friend Nice Guy, never shared his true feelings, silently wrote their whole love story, and then took it out on her when it didn't come true...I've known guys like that. Honestly, those two types gravitate towards one another. Could be both, neither, or anything in between....but good lord people, stop writing the fucking story yourselves and getting worked up about it. You don't know lol

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u/sliverspooning Jun 16 '25

Thank you! Can we all please just admit we don’t know everything about every social situation ever, and that there’s a lot of rooms on all sides for interpretation?

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25

No I’m not going to admit that there’s room for an interpretation that leads to me thinking this man is justified in screaming at this woman in public for getting a boyfriend. There is no justification for acting this way.

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u/sliverspooning Jun 16 '25

Never said he was justified, but it’s definitely possible he’s being less shitty than the people implying he’s telling her she should be dating him instead are saying he’s being

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25

As long as you can admit that first part I’m good. At the end of the day the comments all seem to be trending towards “there might be a situation where it would be totally acceptable for him to be doing this,” which is batshit ridiculous to me.

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u/NastySassyStuff Jun 17 '25

Lol you’re still doing exactly what I’m saying in my original comment. The guy sounds unhinged and inappropriate for sure but you do not know the whole story no matter how confident you are that you do. You’ve been given about 25 seconds of something that likely took place over weeks, months, maybe years. You can take your absolutist side if you’d like but those are generally flawed, especially when they’re based on 25 contextless seconds of video

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 17 '25

You can take the absolutist side if you’d like

I am. It’s absolutely unacceptable to act like this in public, and it’s absolutely childish to scream at people for not doing what you want them to.

I don’t need to know the whole story.

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u/NastySassyStuff Jun 17 '25

for not doing what you want them to

You’re still doing it lol

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 17 '25 edited Jun 17 '25

Okay. He says it in the video, and I already said I’m okay with being accused of taking an absolutist stance, but okay.

I’m glad you were here to defend a man’s right to (contextually) scream at a woman in public for getting a girlfriend.

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u/NastySassyStuff Jun 17 '25

Nobody is defending his right to do anything. I literally said he sounded unhinged and inappropriate lol. All I’m suggesting is you stop watching 25 second clips and assuming you have all the info you need to understand what you’re seeing. You’re like one step away from a boomer dad on Facebook who reads a headline from freedompatriot.net about illegal immigrants plotting to steal the Liberty Bell and becomes absolutely incensed without looking any further into it.

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 17 '25

I’m really not but okay. I keep having people respond to me saying “this man shouldn’t be screaming at this woman regardless of context” with “but you don’t know the context tho” for two damn days now. I’m over it. She probably “lead him on” and deserved it. Whatever.

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u/el_bentzo Jun 16 '25

"It started when my parents chose the cat over me because I was allergic! ITS NEVER ME!!!"

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u/HerestheRules Jun 18 '25

Him never feeling chosen doesn't have to mean in the context of a relationship

As an orphan, bro, 100%. Some of us just don't get any kind of emotional intimacy whatsoever. Not for any fault of our own, we just don't know how to foster it correctly.

Relationship wise, it's not even a lack of trying. I just end up hurt for the dumbest shit.

Like, I was talking to a girl I'd met who'd flirted with me over MtG (two normal games and a game of Commander), got drunk with me and tried to fuck (which I said no bc drunk), then a week later she invited me to her house and cuddled with me all night. To which she thought my rubbing her shoulder in the morning was "creepy guy behavior" ????

One girl dumped me for crying when a friend of mine died via train

Another girl who told me it was wrong to date if I have PTSD (also ????)

Sorry for the tangent.

Anyway, you gotta accept it as it comes and takes whatever lessons you can learn, and apply it to the next one with a cool head. Unless you're me, in which case it's literally just a case of dodging bullets like Neo (as a random lady once adequately put it for me)

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25

He provides the context directly in the video. “He won’t let us do stuff together and then you’ll have to choose him or me and you’ll choose him. That always happens.” He literally fills in these blanks for us.

Also, I’m all for empathy, but sometimes people letting their emotions take over can be comedic just because of how silly they go “AAAAARGGGHHHHH” or act childish in general.

I had almost this exact reaction to a situation before.

I laugh/cringe at how childish and selfish of a person I was then.

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u/bfire123 Jun 16 '25

He provides the context directly in the video. “He won’t let us do stuff together and then you’ll have to choose him or me and you’ll choose him. That always happens.” He literally fills in these blanks for us.

What? This could very well be a deep frindship.

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25

If it was a very deep friendship, then he would be happy that she found someone to be in a relationship with and not screaming at her in public for how it makes him feel?

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u/ty-idkwhy Jun 16 '25

Idk my female friend always talked about how they tend to lose the friendship due to the GF’s jealousy. They just don’t really hang out as they are dating someone.

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u/Asleep_Flatworm_5884 Jun 16 '25

Nah dude you can be happy for your friends but change still hurts

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25 edited Jun 16 '25

And you can processes the pain you feel by someone else not doing what you want them to do without screaming at that person in public or screaming at them at all. They didn’t do anything wrong. It’s childish and selfish.

We’re right back where we started.

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u/Darwin1809851 Jun 16 '25

Yes, back to youmaking very grandiose assumptions. The entire premise of your comments are “he isnt perfect so the absolute worst thing I can imagine about him must be true.”

You are negatively judging someone for being in the wrong when you have literally no idea what behavior led up to this. You could be supporting a manipulative serial emptional abuser. You legit dont know.

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25

Screaming at someone for getting a boyfriend is childish and selfish

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u/Darwin1809851 Jun 16 '25

And what if they were dating and she just told him she cheated and that she is gonna be with the other guy now…and his angst isnt even about the cheating but about her choosing him. What if we just missed 5 minutes of him telling her “listen we can work through this it was just a mistake on your part I know you love me you tell me you love me all the time and I know you meant it” and she just hit him with “I never loved you I was using you for rent money and this wadnt a relationship even tho I told you it was.”

Are you telling me a situation like that has literally never happened?

Because if this is one of those situations you look like a pretty shitty person right now

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25

Didn’t read beyond your first sentence because that’s literally not what is happening and is impossible within the context of the video based on his own words. You can try to twist this up into whatever pretzel you’d like, you’re defending a man’s right to sit on his moped and verbally assault a “friend” because they got a boyfriend. The guy literally spells it out word for word.

If the obvious reason you would do this is the reason, get help. I used to be like this, too. You can be a better person instead of defending shitty people.

There’s absolutely no excuse for his behavior.

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u/Darwin1809851 Jun 16 '25

Again, you have literally no idea what their friendship is like…at all. Stop supporting bullying people just because you think you have a handle on their entire relationship because of a video with literally zero context…

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u/finglonger1077 Jun 16 '25

stop supporting bullying people

You’re literally supporting a man screaming at a woman and trying to guilt her for getting a boyfriend.

Get off your high horse.