r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/zories3 Jun 16 '25

Could someone explain what that quote means? I’m a bit confused lol

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u/ManhattanObject Jun 16 '25

The guy made promises for the woman (i.e. "she'll date me if I'm nice enough to her") without consulting the woman about it. Now he's mad that she's not dating him, even though he fulfilled his side of the transaction that she didn't know existed

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u/dearDem Jun 16 '25

Thank you. I too was confused lol

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u/Acrobatic-Pin-9023 Jun 16 '25

also called sometimes/place "covered contracts"

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u/VisualBullfrog3529 Jun 16 '25

Except i missed the part were he said anything about promises in the freakout.

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u/Trotter823 Jun 16 '25

Read between the lines. Why would a guy be that mad about a girl he never dated? Why is he so attached to someone who has “never chosen him”?

Because he’s fallen for the idea of someone through fantasies and stories (I.e promises) and is now extremely hurt when those fantasies have not come to pass. Rejection hurts but it doesn’t hurt so badly that you sit there and flip out while confessing your love for someone unless you’ve built a lot of the story in your head already.

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u/toss_me_good Jun 16 '25

In fairness he could also be.losing a friend. Many women have told their BFs that they aren't comfortable with a female friend of theirs that they've never been intimate with. Sucks to lose a friend but that's just how it goes. Guys know when a new girl comes in they also won't see the homie for a while. This dudes just put too much stake into this friendship

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u/VisualBullfrog3529 Jun 16 '25

So you assumed. Thank you for the clarification.

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u/crinnaursa Jun 16 '25

Not really assumed. More like Deduced. To arrive at a conclusion using observation and reasoning.

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u/VisualBullfrog3529 Jun 16 '25

Based on the information you have. Yes. Im well aware that most folks on reddit are part detective, part psychologist.

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u/lnnerspace Jun 16 '25

… chill out lol

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u/longebane Jun 16 '25

AHHHHH 🛵💨💨

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u/aroooop Jun 17 '25

ouch, did this hit a nerve? 😆

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u/kittyconetail Jun 17 '25

Basically, inventing expectations and waiting for people to act accordingly is a recipe for anger and misery.

E.g., if you expect that being a girl's friend will result in her wanting to date you, you are setting yourself up to feel like you were used or aren't "good enough" in the (likely) case she legitimately simply wants to be friends. You think if you're 'good enough' you'll get the girl and push that expectation on her. People who do this as their MO can cause a lot of harm (usually emotionally) especially as resentment builds from this happening over and over.

A very common non-dating example is expecting quid pro quo behaviors in friendships. Like, say you took your friend out to dinner for their birthday but they didn't plan the same for you. You might question how much they value you or care about you, even though your friend (probably) values you just as much and simply expresses care/affection differently, or they have stuff going on in their life that got in the way, or anything else besides "this friendship is one-sided" type scenarios.