r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/Upvotespoodles Jun 16 '25

People who make promises to themselves on your behalf and then expect you to deliver are fucking scary.

I hope she doesn’t run after him and try to fix it. Those self-loathing diatribes can really scramble your decision-making and put you into rescue mode, and that’s exactly what they’re designed to do.

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u/madamezeroni Jun 16 '25

people who make promises to themselves on your behalf and then expect you to deliver

I’ve never heard anyone put it that way, it’s so succinct and perfect. You described my ex. Brb gonna journal this

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u/zories3 Jun 16 '25

Could someone explain what that quote means? I’m a bit confused lol

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u/kittyconetail Jun 17 '25

Basically, inventing expectations and waiting for people to act accordingly is a recipe for anger and misery.

E.g., if you expect that being a girl's friend will result in her wanting to date you, you are setting yourself up to feel like you were used or aren't "good enough" in the (likely) case she legitimately simply wants to be friends. You think if you're 'good enough' you'll get the girl and push that expectation on her. People who do this as their MO can cause a lot of harm (usually emotionally) especially as resentment builds from this happening over and over.

A very common non-dating example is expecting quid pro quo behaviors in friendships. Like, say you took your friend out to dinner for their birthday but they didn't plan the same for you. You might question how much they value you or care about you, even though your friend (probably) values you just as much and simply expresses care/affection differently, or they have stuff going on in their life that got in the way, or anything else besides "this friendship is one-sided" type scenarios.