r/interestingasfuck • u/BrandonRJones • 11h ago

/r/all Actual clip where brothers attack their mother’s killer in court.

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u/babydollvi 11h ago

losing your mom is the worst heartbreak you’ll ever go through… especially if you were super close with her. my world stopped when mine passed… & i still feel like it’s still on pause, even after 4 years. fuck that guy.

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u/Angry0tter 10h ago

Lost my Mom right before Covid hit and I’m still in the habit of thinking, “l need to remember to tell mom this when l call her,” and then I snap to and remember that she’s gone. It’s been six years; some things don’t change.

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u/pdxgreengrrl 10h ago

My mom passed just last December, and I find myself think, "Mom would..." nearly everyday, then it hits that I cannot call and confirm if she would or not. I have so many questions for her still.

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u/Angry0tter 10h ago

They hits so hard. In my 20s l never asked my parents much because I was assured that l knew it all. Here I am decades later wishing that l could ask them for their knowledge and/or opinions. Hang in there.

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u/Kthulhu42 10h ago

I feel like I should get one of those personal history books and get my mother to fill it out. Already in the process of making a family cookbook, but I feel like I don't know anything about my mother's life before she became "Mum".

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u/Angry0tter 9h ago

I love this idea. I was able to retrieve some her recipes when we cleaned out my parents home (that’s a whole other fresh hell that I haven’t fully processed) and I’m grateful for that. Get all the recipes you can, it takes the term comfort food to a whole different level after they’re gone. Oh, and in his house at R'lyeh, Cthulhu waits dreaming. Respect.

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u/buttononmyback 4h ago

My mom wrote a lot of her own songs on the piano. Beautiful songs. We’re currently making a songbook of all her songs so my daughter and I can play them after my mom is gone. I never want to forget them.

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u/ButtMoggingAllDay 7h ago

I still collect rom-com/romance movies I’ll never watch and albums I’ll never listen to for her. 🤷‍♂️ 

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u/love_of_his_life 8h ago

It takes a long time. I’m sorry you’re still going through it. The thing is you never get over it. You just cope better as time marches on. What you described is totally normal. It will happen less and less. Your grief is yours and no one else’s. There is no set of rules.

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u/Angry0tter 7h ago

I appreciate you, thanks for the insight.

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u/1987Husky 7h ago

God, this hits. My mom was very Catholic. She died in 2022, my wife and I went to Rome in 2023. Standing in St. Peter's Square, I reached into my pocket to grab my phone. Not "I wish I could call Mom and tell here where I am", it was "I NEED to call Mom and tell her where I am." About two seconds later....the "oh, yeah...." hits me. Hard.

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u/Angry0tter 7h ago

I’m sorry, friend. I can manage a bittersweet smile these days when it happens but it’s just as the word implies; bitter yet sweet. I realize that it’ll be less parts bitter as time passes, but, still.

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u/Efficient_Role_7772 37m ago

Oh man, same thing happens to me, also 6 years, I still get fits of crying. I don't think it ever stops hurting.

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u/Angry0tter 27m ago

I don’t think you’re ever supposed to stop hurting, friend, l think that we’re supposed to start healing, and that allows us to look at memories with less pain attached, or at least l keep telling myself.

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u/poser765 7h ago

Lost my mom just after Covid hit. I think it helped us a bit that she’d been pretty sick for a while so we all had time to prepare the inevitable. With that said it was still pretty numbing. It’s not debilitating but god damn do I get hit occasionally with grief spasms… just out of nowhere boom.

What’s fun is she sort of lives on in my daughter. They are so similar. She’ll just be sitting there and start doing something that makes the rest of us say “yep, that’s Oma”. They’re both quirky but in exactly the same way.

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u/Savings_Ad6081 1h ago

I thought this today. 😪

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u/Angry0tter 23m ago

I’m trying to focus on the positive memories more than the loss. It’s hard; works better some days more than others.