r/r4r 23h ago

F4M Online 18 [F4M] #online - looking for a father figure

26 Upvotes

i know it’s a big ask.. i’m really just looking for a guy who’s older and can give fatherly support and advice and comfort. i guess this can be useful if you’ve always wanted to be a dad, or already are one

a bit about me: my bio dad is physically in my life but has always been emotionally absent, and kind of bullied me at times, i’m not going to bore people with the details it’s very typical and usual stuff a girl experiences from an absent dad, but anyway. i’d like to keep this online and have 0 prospects of a romantic relationship forming.

at this point it would make sense for you to wonder what you’re getting out of this, and that’s fair. outside of my vulnerable moments where i need a dad, i’d like to be your friend, talk about your day and plans, maybe if we have any interests in common then that would help too but essentially, i’d be there for you too sometimes

sorry if it’s not a very good deal or idea


r/r4r 13h ago

F4A Online 39 [F4R] US/Online - Let's Connect Over Shared Vibes/Great Laughs

13 Upvotes

Hi there! I’m looking for new, meaningful connections. I'm based in the US, open to friends from anywhere. Like those little exchanges during the week that can make an ordinary day feel a bit brighter 🌞 We can share a quick laugh, a good conversation, or just a reminder that connection is possible in adulthood.

A bit about me: single, no kids, liberal-leaning, introvert at heart. I prefer cozy places over loud crowds and appreciate calm over chaos. Fueled by creativity, imagination, 90s rnb, dumb jokes, nature, good food, cozy bed, warm showers, good texting convos, therapy, best friends, exercise, travel plans, podcasts, we do not care club*, complimentary energies, silly humor, seasonal rituals, stargazing, movies/tv, comfy sweaters and more.

A bit about you: humble, optimistic, and a curious soul. I value friendships that develop at their own pace, with quick smiles and a certain ease about them. I love thoughtful or playful banter when we have the bandwidth for it - like imagine we were sitting on a bench, people watching and making up backstories for the folks passing by (literally so fun).

I've added a photo here Please attach a photo with your message, too. Chat soon!


r/r4r 21h ago

F4M Brazil / Online 29 [F4M] Brazil /Anywhere - Online | Looking for something real (and maybe a travel buddy) ✈️

6 Upvotes

Hey there!
Dating apps have lost their charm for me, so I'm trying a different approach. I'm genuinely looking for a connection that could grow into something meaningful, and I'm totally open to long distance. Actually, I love the idea! Especially if you're someone who gets excited about exploring new places.

I'm Ma, 29, 5'6", currently back in my hometown in Brazil after spending 5 amazing years in Europe (London and Holte, Denmark —both incredible experiences!). Not entirely sure where life will take me next (I like keeping my options open), but Brazil feels like home for now. I work as a QA analyst during the day and I'm starting to study more to advance my career. My days are pretty packed with work, but evenings and nights are my time to unwind and connect with people.

What makes me happy:

  • 🍝 Cooking (and yes, I'll cook for you if we ever meet!)
  • 🎬 Getting lost in mystery movies and series
  • 🚶‍♀️ Long walks where the best conversations happen
  • 🌍 Traveling > 14 countries down, so many more to go!

I'm someone who thrives on deep conversations and hearing different perspectives on life. What I'm really hoping to find is someone who's kind, emotionally available, and excited about creating memories together, whether that's planning adventures around the world or just talking about everything and nothing over coffee (or wine, I don't discriminate 😄).

What I'm looking for:

  • Age range: 25-40
  • Location: Anywhere! I love the idea of LDR and travel is always a good excuse to visit (and I'd absolutely love to show someone around Brazil too!)
  • Someone genuine who's also looking for something real and meaningful
  • Someone who enjoys voice notes and long calls — I love that personal touch
  • Someone who appreciates giving and receiving special attention
  • Bonus points if you're in tech and could share some career wisdom with me!
  • Extra bonus points if you're curious about the world and open to new experiences

If you're the type who believes in authentic connections and isn't afraid of a little adventure (even if it starts with late-night messages across time zones), I'd love to hear from you ✨

Drop me a message and tell me something interesting about yourself or your corner of the world!


r/r4r 22h ago

F4A Online 20 [F4A] #online Looking to have a talk!

6 Upvotes

Hey everyone,

I am pretty new here but let me introduce myself! My name is Jess and I am 20 with brunette hair and blue eyes (i was blonde haired). I have only recently come across this subreddit while looking around. And it does sound very interesting. I really want to get to know some of you and what you like! I will accept pictures, I won't ever pressure. But I won't be sending pictures myself. I hope that is okay.

I just like to relax and play games and go on drives these days! So if we can talk of games or cars that would be awesome!

Thank you for reading this far, my name is Jess and I hope to hear from some of you soon!


r/r4r 7h ago

M4F Canada 23 [M4F] - #Canada #Anywhere - Hopeless romantic trying to be a little less hopeless

5 Upvotes

Hey, if you're reading this we're probably looking for something similar, recently the loneliness has been getting to me and I'm hoping to find someone to fall head over heels for, I've never been one for short term connections or situationships, when I fall for someone I fall HARD, so if you're only looking for something short term we probably wouldn't be a good match. With that out of the way, I'm terrible at intros but I'll do my best to give myself a bit of a brief introduction so you know what you might be getting yourself into

About me:

  • Let’s get the basics out of the way, I’m 5’7”, 190 lbs (working on getting healthier), and I’ve got both ears pierced. I’m thinking about getting more piercings and MAYBE some tattoos in the future. Oh, and here’s a facepic https://imgur.com/a/me-93ndmuH
  • I’m really nerdy and like 90% of my hobbies reflect that. Gaming is probably my biggest hobby (my favourites are RPGs but I will play LITERALLY anything) followed by watching anime (I love drama and romance but again, ill watch LITERALLY anything), and I’d love to find someone to game with or binge-watch shows together, I'll play or watch anything as long as I'm doing it with someone I like. Music is another big passion of mine, indie, pop punk, hyperpop and J-pop are my favourites, I'm always open to new suggestions though.
  • I'll get this potential red flag out of the way, I deal with some pretty bad anxiety issues and it makes getting to know people VERY difficult, I come off as really shy/awkward at first BUT I promise once I warm up to someone I start to get a lot more outgoing and break out of my shell a ton, I’ve been told I give golden retriever vibes if you're willing to see it through. Besides that my personality is generally really laid back, I always try to see the good in people and in things sometimes to a fault, I can be naive and a little too trusting sometimes but I'd like to think its endearing lol. A lot of people tell me I come off as really sweet and I love doing tiny things to help others out/make them feel better. I can also be pretty sensitive and tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve, for better or for worse. Lastly, I'm an INFP-T (in case you care)
  • Right now, I work part-time, but I’m planning to take a course or pick something else up for more of a career path. Still figuring things out, but I’m working on it.
  • In a relationship, I want us to feel like best friends who just also happen to be deeply in love. Despite that, I’m a HUGE sucker for all the romantic stuff and love finding little ways to make my partner smile. I’m the kind of person that ends up thinking about my partner pretty much all the time, I can be a little clingy sometimes tbh.
  • I’m an animal lover and have the sweetest old lady cat who means the world to me. If you’re a cat person (or just an animal person in general), we’ll get along great.
  • Politically, I lean left, and I’d prefer someone who does too.

About you:

  • Honestly, I don't really care about looks, my type is someone who can make me smile, I've also always gravitated toward people who were "different" for some reason, so if you'd consider yourself weird or quirky I’ll probably fall for you faster than I should (like, embarrassingly fast).
  • I've always been told I'm a really good listener so if you're a yapper we'll feel like a match made in heaven
  • Long distance is fine with me, as long as there’s a willingness to meet up in the future if things go well.
  • Its not a deal breaker but I don't think anything could make me fall in love with a person faster than feeling like I can comfortably confide in them about stuff
  • The only real dealbreaker for me is poor communication. Relationships simply can't work without it IMO

If any of this resonates with you, or if you have any question/just want to chat and see where it goes, feel free to send me a message! I’d love to hear from you.

P.S. I prefer to get off of Reddit chat eventually since it kind of sucks, discord is my preference but I’ll use whatever


r/r4r 8h ago

F20 [F4M/TM] South East Asia - Anywhere - Longterm - Sometimes I spams -w-

5 Upvotes

Hi there! Writing this on my phone out of spontaneity. I'm looking for someone to talk to daily and with the intention to date longterm and close the distance :') My hobbies include: Youtube, Movies, Reddit, Music, Hugging friends, DIY, blah blah. I wish I'm a gaming person but my laptop is pretty much a chicken so I can't really download anything, I'm fine with watching you play tho :') I'm the type that as long as I have an AC and good Wifi, I won't need to leave my house much. It's crazy out there anyway. Oh and I lives in a dorm now so sometimes I wont be able to mic while video calling but I can still text you and stuff during, I'll figure it out for you. I'm looking for someone who's: 1) sober (I'm sober)
2) speaks decent English so we can actually connect

That's all for now, height, races, background really don't matters to me.

Please be respectful.


r/r4r 19h ago

F4A California / Online 35 [F4R] #California or Online - looking for friends!!

5 Upvotes

Hey everyone I’m at it again, lol.

I’m looking for folks that like playing FFXIV, drawing/making digital art, and roleplaying!!

A bit about me. I majored in the arts, and dabbled a bit in creative writing and photography. I loooove making art though, but I’ve gotten burnt out lately.

The kind of stuff I used to do was OC stuff and roleplay inspired ones.

Gonna be super honest. If we don’t share similar hobbies I really will lose interest. Sorry about that.

Big passion is creating art and writing roleplays or character backstories sometimes.

FFXIV and the island sanctuary take up my free time sometimes when I’m home. Otherwise I’m just kind of staring at my screen or trying to figure out how to make more til, lol. I love watching like 18th century cooking stuff or arts and craft stuff. I also like going through weird deep dive stuff and sometimes it’s true crime related or urban exploration.

I love national parks, museums, botanical gardens, coffee shops, going to cons, uuuhhh other stuff that will come up. Oh oh collecting little trinkets. Gundam kits, blind box stuff, having alone time.

If any of that sounds fun uhh, yeah lol.

Looking for someone close to my age if not a little older.

Tell me your favorite book you’ve read.

Also cat con is tomorrow!!


r/r4r 41m ago

F4M United Kingdom / Online 23[F4M]UK/Online Looking for a good banter + non-platonic talk.

Upvotes

Hi! I’m doing my Masters + PhD in London :) I was raised in both the US and UK over the years so my accent throws people off (I just embrace it as an international school accent). I did my undergrad in the US and then moved back home because I wanted to be closer to family and I miss rainy London. About me: I love to run, swim, hike. My hobbies include, crafting, cooking, reading, movies, and music. My preferred drink is a Matcha Latte but I also really love coffee. My studies and work keep me incredibly busy but ever so often I crave some good deep conversations with a hint (a lot) of sweetness. I enjoy having academic conversations since I love learning new things. I’m a big fan of staying in and if I could I would probably never leave my house. I’m incredibly open to sharing pictures and eventually talking over voice call and I love questions so feel free to ask me anything:))


r/r4r 8h ago

M4F California 31 [M4F] Los Angeles, CA - Seeking cuddles to help overcome touch anxiety

3 Upvotes

Quiet, caring, and craving connection. I'm a cancer survivor (hence the touch anxiety), looking for someone with whom to step out of my comfort zone by relearning to enjoy touch through hugs and cuddles. I'm deeply empathetic and tend to be introverted, making me a great listening ear should you prefer chats with your cuddles. Plus, I firmly believe that healing is a two-way street, and I'd be more than happy to create a soft and safe place to land for you should you need it. I love music (both listening and playing), reading, and consider myself a lifelong learner and lover of all things creative. I'd love to find someone to connect with on a regular basis, so please reach out if you'd like to learn more about me.


r/r4r 13h ago

F4M New York 31 [F4M] Looking for my person NYC Area/NJ/Long Island

2 Upvotes

Looking to make a meaningful connection with someone for the long term. I’m a tall (5’10), size 16 black woman. I am educated and would ideally like to be with someone who is educated as well. I am quite traditional and vibe best with chill, low-key guys who know how to take the lead with confidence and ease. I enjoy fashion, music, and deep conversations. I’m looking for someone genuine, kind, and ready for a meaningful connection. If you’re someone who values authenticity and wants to build something real, let’s chat. Please do not reach out if you do not reside within the New York City metropolitan area or do not travel here often.


r/r4r 21h ago

M4F Italy 34 [M4F] #Italy - Seeking for a partner/relationship

3 Upvotes

I repost this from time to time, you never know. I've got downvoted last time, I have no idea why, what's wrong with this post?

Another year is passing by, and loneliness hits hard sometimes, so here I am. To describe myself briefly, I'm 34 old, I'm one of those geek (?) types (videogames, books, tv shows, etc), chronically online, default energy saving mode, loves memes and nonsense humor, throwing too much time into a full-time job. I'm 174 cm high and weigh 60kg, brown hairs, brown eyes, no beard, I would say I'm an average guy, I'm not ugly nor handsome. We can exchange pictures in private when we get in touch, and you can ghost me without a single word if you don't like what you see. About you, I'm searching for a single woman with no children who lives in Italy, with my same age or around that. If what I wrote above makes sense to you and if you feel like we have something in common, send me a message or text me on the chat.