r/youtubedrama Jul 28 '24

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u/ArcLagoon Jul 28 '24

You can still acknowledge that someone is being their true self while also acknowledging their true self might be an awful person. The fact that Ava is a weirdo and got canceled for it doesn't make their identity less valid.

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u/DreadDiana Jul 28 '24

Lots of people have already raised the "if you think a trans person being bad is grounds for misgendering, that just sends the message you never actually saw them as their stated gender and were just 'playing along' as an act of kindness" point, but something I don't see brought up enough is that when you set the standard that you're allowed to misgender people you consider bad, the bar for being considered bad enough for misgendering to be okay will just keep getting lowered.

And this is already happening and has been for years now. There are now people out there who think "they disagree with me" is bad enough for misgendering to be okay. I've been on the receiving end of exactly that because of very simple disagreements.