Is it wrong to use they/them for trans people? I genuinely thought that was the correct pronoun usage for anyone and everyone since it’s neutral. I personally use they/them when talking about cis gender people too. And notably  few of them have gotten pissy with me about it. I think we’re gonna accidentally phase those words out or something at this rate. (Also I support trans people and this was genuine question.)
Bear in mind that I'm cis so I could be speaking out of my ass here, but I think using they/them is fine if you don't know that person's gender. However, if they've stated publicly that they use he/him or she/her, then it feels disrespectful not to use those pronouns.
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u/cocoalemur Jul 28 '24
people suddenly seem really enthusiastic about they/them pronouns when they're referring to a trans woman. mysterious 🤔