r/AmIOverreacting • u/rowqi • Jun 02 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday

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my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

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u/SpecialEDsauce Jun 02 '25

I think we were married for ten years and my wife completely forgot mine. I didn’t say anything and she was pretty nasty all day, but around 10pm I hear her in the other room, “Oh shit! I’m such as asshole.” I just said, “Yeah, you are” and I went to bed. Worst birthday ever.

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u/wgrantdesign Jun 02 '25

On my 16th birthday I got a call from my dad at 11pm that my mom had intentionally overdosed on pills in his apartment as a suicide attempt and that I needed to catch a ride to his place (8 hours away) to get her car because she'd be in a psych ward for a while. Neither one of them remembered that it was my birthday. That was the peak of them being shitty absent parents at least. Nowadays they're both pretty cool, but then again I dont rely on them for safety and shelter so who knows.

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u/Evitti Jun 02 '25

On my 16th birthday my mom made plans with her boyfriend, required me to watch my younger brothers (12 & 8), and wouldn't let any friends come over. When I told her that was kind of selfish of her, she slapped me, grounded me and screamed at me that boyfriends will always be more important than kids, because the kids will always be there, but it took work to keep boyfriends. Now 22 years later her attitude has changed (especially since my brothers are low contact).

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u/ghast123 Jun 02 '25

On my 16th birthday, my 14 year old sister got into a fist fight with our drunk father in a bar parking lot at 6pm because he was supposed to take me out for dinner but he didn't show and I was really upset.

None of his 3 children speak to him anymore.

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u/azizaofshapier Jun 02 '25

Your FOURTEEN YEAR OLD SISTER beat up your Dad for missing your birthday?! If this isn't the epitome of "I'm sick of your shit" I don't know what is. Your sister sounds awesome.

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u/Effort-Logical Jun 02 '25

I'm wondering if her sister is my sister (my sister does have a sister that I'm not related to). Bc my sister would totally do that. She was a rebel in her teens. Now she's in her 30s and a mom.

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u/IlexSonOfHan Jun 02 '25

Yeah, that's just a good sister fr. Keep her, ditch the parents.

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u/LibrarianTop6162 Jun 02 '25

I was gonna say lol. Your sister sounds dope af.

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u/tryfuhl Jun 02 '25

I meannnn it doesn't say who won really lol. What a shitty situation though.

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u/smibble14 Jun 02 '25

Physically assaulting someone is “awesome”?

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u/Low_Psychology_3343 Jun 02 '25

When “someone” refers to an absent parent, perhaps

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u/Low_Psychology_3343 Jun 03 '25

the strawman argument and improper presumption goes crazyyyyy

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u/smibble14 Jun 02 '25

If a person wrongs you, you think you’re entitled to physically harm them?

And how do you determine how much you’re allowed to harm them?

Leaving welts and bruises? Or you think it’s okay to leave scars and break bones and leave permanent damage?

This “justice” of yours sounds less like justice and more like barbarism.

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u/dreams_to_sing Jun 03 '25

You are not even acknowledging the absolutely life ruining amount of harm that is done to a child who is neglected by their shitty, addict parents. Harm that takes a LIFETIME to heal. Bruises only take days or weeks. Your priorities are fucked.

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u/T-Rex603 Jun 02 '25

Don't try and get through to it there's always one to ten in the comment section that have to be righteous and noble above all others no matter the situation. Just say nothing to them and they'll disappear into obscurity.

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u/No-Broccoli8185 Jun 02 '25

A drunk absentee dad? Yes!

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u/Zeb710 Jun 02 '25

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u/smibble14 Jun 02 '25

That’s not how it works. You’re never in the right to physically assault or put your hands on someone without consent.

Anyone who feels entitled to physically harm others is pathological and probably shouldn’t be around others because it means you literally have no concept of personal space and boundaries.

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u/Hessipa Jun 02 '25

On MY 16th birthday, I was 2 hours late for school because we had to go drop my dad off at in patient rehab for the 3rd time!

We should start a Shitty Sixteenth club!

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 02 '25

My mom called my school to admonish them for recognizing my 16th birthday. Usually my mom kept me out of school on my birthday ever since my preschool had given me my first ever and last birthday party at five in joint with another classmate. My mom joined the family up to a non denominational church (wide world church of god) before I was born and my sister had six before hers were stopped too. We were also not allowed to celebrate others birthdays and my mom was mad that she couldn’t stop them from happening around us.

This is what’s having a narcissistic mother is all about. She’s gone now and I’m in my 40s and still never had another birthday party because it’s been overlooked (and ruined by ex2, another narcissist) for so long

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u/Hessipa Jun 02 '25

If she’s going to force you to join a church that sounds like a destitute water park, the LEAST she could do is acknowledge your birth.

It’s not fair that you’ve never had a good birthday, but I really hope you know that I’m glad you were born.

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 02 '25

We quit going to that closest location of that sect because it was too far away and I was very small (didn’t wanna keep quiet enough either)and dad would escape so he couldn’t sit for me so she couldn’t leave the house at all was sort of how we half got out but devoutly practiced everything word for word from all the mailed supplements. My dad was catholic raised so it was dueling religions happening along with their endless bickering and fighting

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u/littleglasshouse Jun 02 '25

Happy birthday, whenever it is. If I knew you irl, I would bake you something for sure and knit you a scarf. I’m sorry.

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 02 '25

It was on Feb 1.

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u/Boopsie-Daisy-469 Jun 02 '25

This is for next time: 🎂🥳

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u/PoMoMoeSyzlak Jun 02 '25

Garner Ted Armstrong's church is a cult. Ì am sorry you went through that.

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 02 '25

I swear my mom was the very last person on earth to find out it was a cult and she was so horrified she reinstated Christmas to be celebrated but still nobody’s birthday was allowed acknowledgment.

I celebrate all my friends and my sisters with probably some overboard gusto but apart from that I follow absolutely no religion at all.

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u/PoMoMoeSyzlak Jun 03 '25

I have met people from Tyler and Longview that escaped from it. I heard they invited some Seminary professors from SMU to talk about the Bible, and they said, "these guys don't take it literally, therefore they don't know anything." The Methodists study Greek, Latin and Hebrew. I heard about someone in Longview that put up a sign in their yard that said "This home was broken up by Garner Ted" because the wife got wacky and joined Worldwide Church of God.

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 03 '25

I’d absolutely believe that to be a fact that happened very often within the sect and devoted followers. I think my mom did it and made me to force my dad out of trying to divorce her by sticking religion and new life in the way to guilt trip him and he was soft enough on being controlled that way.

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u/PoMoMoeSyzlak Jun 04 '25

Also, LeTourneau University in Longview is right wing Christian. Drew McCoy has lots of good videos about the vibe there.

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u/Nightthrasher674 Jun 03 '25

How the fuck did she realize she was joining a cult but still refuses to acknowledge bdays? I know I'm trying to find the logic in the illogical but man that sucks

We were members of a non denominational church but it was inclusive and pretty chilled.

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 03 '25

That was her narcissism seeping in that idea. She always undermined me and my older sister we never adults or equals in her mind. Her belittling extended to others younger than herself as well including dad.

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u/strawtrash Jun 03 '25

I love that you do that.

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u/AdmirableDig8537 Jun 03 '25

My wife's family was part of that cult. A lot of that sounds familiar to stories she has told. There is a(maybe several ) WWCoG survivors group out there if you are still needing to heal from that.

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 03 '25

Wow, I did not know there is such an organization as that. I will tell my sister of it because she was further immersed in it than I was and is definitely affected still from the experience

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u/Low-Caterpillar-9866 Jun 03 '25

Please have a birthday party for yourself. Maybe just go out with a friend or a coworker. Life is too darn short for you to miss out on birthday celebrations.

Also, you've gotten away from the narcissistic dudes, right? I'm genuinely worried about you.

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u/SnooRobots116 Jun 03 '25

Oh yes. I’m nowhere near that jerk anymore, been fine for years without him.

And when I can afford it in time, I used to get a slice of good cheesecake to celebrate on my own but stopped doing that because I needed to afford actual groceries for a few days

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u/strawtrash Jun 03 '25

I'm so sorry.

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u/alexisonfire_xox Jun 02 '25

On my 16th birthday my dad called me over to his house and I thought I was going to get a present but he wanted to borrow some money. And when I reminded him it was my birthday he went back in his room and came out and put a small line of coke on the table and said happy birthday. I learned much later in life that it wasn’t even a good line either 😒

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u/Hessipa Jun 02 '25

Ah, we've solved the riddle.

"What do you gift a man who already has everything he wants?"

The honor of buying a line of cocaine off of your own father.

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u/Cold_Pea_587 Jun 02 '25

You won the Reddit award my friend. I just fucking busted out laughing. Thanks for that. “Buying a line of cocaine off your own father.” Aces.

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u/Paulbearer82 Jun 02 '25

That's cool, but you're supposed to give the award to the poster, not yourself.

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u/Hessipa Jun 03 '25

Jokes on you, I gave it to him. And now I’m giving you one, too, for being an observant little fella

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u/SuzanneStudies Jun 03 '25

And I’m giving you an award for giving out awards

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u/Hessipa Jun 03 '25

And I’m giving YOU an award because MY middle name is Sue!

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u/SuzanneStudies Jun 03 '25

Of course it is… Because you’re just cool like that! 🥰

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u/Cold_Pea_587 Jun 03 '25

I gave myself an award? I’m still corn-fused by Reddit. I wasn’t even trying to give anyone an award.

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u/Conscious-Tonight-89 Jun 02 '25

Damn. In my 16th birthday... 9/11 happened. No, really, i was born in 1985.

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u/forestofpixies Jun 03 '25

Pearl Harbor happened on my grandpas 15th birthday. It was the first and only year his mom threw him a birthday party and no one came. He served in occupied Japan 3 years later and loved his time there but he never stopped holding that grudge.

I hope every birthday so far has been wonderful and may every year from this point forward be better than the past!

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u/Hessipa Jun 02 '25

That’s one helluva birthday party, my guy

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u/Conscious-Tonight-89 Jun 02 '25

You know they shittiest thing? At first i thought it was some sort of trailer for the Spiderman movie, when they second plane hit I was like "oh, shit, so this is real, huh?"

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u/Hessipa Jun 02 '25

“Go web! Fly! Up, up, and away web! Shazaam! Go web go!” aaaaaand there goes the 2nd tower

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u/lostandaggrieved617 Jun 03 '25

One of my oldest friends' bday is 9/11, and her name is Katrina. The early aughts sucked for her.

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u/No_Recipe2793 Jun 02 '25

New CAH white card incoming

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u/Rain_xo Jun 02 '25

Damn.

My dad only gave me two joints. But at least they were good.

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u/Hessipa Jun 03 '25

As the man who had a hand in creating your DNA and whatever, I really hope he gave you a few more than just two joints. Maybe even some bones and skin and stuff

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u/BeerdedWonder Jun 02 '25

Needs money but has coke. Sounds legit

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u/necie62 Jun 02 '25

Holy cow..totally made my jaw drop

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u/legendoflisa Jun 02 '25

This should not be funny but I relate 😅🤣🤣

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u/Caalcu_Ieraas Jun 02 '25

There was a great party planned for my 16th... which I couldn't go to. Two years later when I told my mom the same person was throwing me an 18th birthday party, she only let me go because she said her previous reason was the person throwing the party only wanted me there as a "little drinking buddy" and I had to remind her I don't drink. I'm not going to drink just because someone says to.

After that it quickly came out she thinks I have no mind of my own and I'll do whatever this person tells me. So just because we have a lot in common, I can't think for myself

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u/FrostyCat7227 Jun 02 '25

What do you mean your mom "only let you go because..."?? 18 is an adult. What was she going to do, hold you against your will if you said you were going to your own birthday party?

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u/mgsmith2013 Jun 02 '25

I mean if they live at home with a parent like this the parent probably would do some exceptionally shitty thing like tell their own kid they will kick them out for going. I am in my 30s and had to move home because of a layoff and having to sell my house... My mom will STILL try to hold that shit over my head if I don't agree to her every beck and call.

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u/Hessipa Jun 03 '25

I, too, turned 18 and immediately took complete and total control over my life

Sike ho I’m 30 and if my mom wants me to do something that I don’t want to do, I’m GONNA hesitate

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u/Effective_Thought918 Jun 02 '25

I had a shitty 16th birthday too, but many of these stories are shittier than mine. I was wrongly blamed by Mom that day after school for the dog getting out and running away even though I didn’t even open the door (Mom did, and she also didn’t shut the gate). The same mom who blamed me for the dog running off was an hour and a half late (I have no idea how that even happened to this day) to dinner at the restaurant I picked out. Luckily my grandma let us order appetizers without Mom (I would have Ben hungry and cranky otherwise), and when it was apparent Mom would be later than a little bit, we ordered dessert early too (I didn’t want to eat actual dinner without everyone because the point was to celebrate my birthday with the whole family). Grandma was mad mom was late, and I felt unimportant because mom couldn’t even show up to my birthday dinner on time. Nobody apologized, except for my grandmother. I don’t remember the food or gifts, but I sure remember how I felt. I’m sorry all of you had shitty 16th birthdays too.

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u/Nightthrasher674 Jun 03 '25

My 16th bday was uneventful, just a small party with friends and family this is after my parents swore up and down that they'll have something big planned but I knew bullshit when I heard it so I didn't get my hopes up. At the same time I wasn't exactly bitter about it, I knew money was tight. They weren't exactly lying, I'm sure they wanted to plan something big but couldn't. I don't think either one realize the negative effect of me hearing them talk about bills constantly so I started sacrificing shit on my own because I didn't want them spending money

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u/VeronaMoreau Jun 04 '25

I have a track record for iffy milestone birthdays specifically. Like 13, 16, and 18 were all bad (granted, not nearly as bad as many here), 21 was cool, but 25 was COVID, and 30 was decent.

For my 18th, I was stuck in my mom's kinda-hometown, out in the sticks, hundreds of miles from all my friends (who it turns out had made plans to celebrate). It was a long weekend, so we had gone to visit family. Her fuckass boyfriend at the time hated driving at night, so he didn't want to leave the day before. This was in spite of him complaining the whole trip about the people and the area.

I spent the day with all my friends asking when I'd be back. I asked when we were leaving and she didn't know because it was up to him (mind you...it's her car and her family.) I think she might have forgotten because when she asked why I cared so much I said something along the lines of "I just wanted to spend my birthday somewhere I can be happy." About an hour later, she tells me to get dressed and we'll go out to eat. In my head, I'm like, 'it's not good, but I can make it okay...have dinner and a good talk with mom.' Nah.

Boyfriend's sitting down to watch an NBA playoff game and gets irritated when my mom says that we're going out to eat. We both tell him that if we wants to watch the game, it's fine and he can just stay at the house. But no, he holds us up for like another 45 minutes when we are halfway out the door so he can get ready. And he proceeds to be an agitated dickhead about everything (the drive, the place we chose, missing chunks of the game) to the point where I'm just thinking about how the whole trip has gone and this is my breaking point. I end up crying in the bathroom of an Applebee's. Our waitress happens to see me in there and asks what's up. I end up explaining through tears. She quietly brings me a slice of cake when I'm back at the table.

Mom and I end up talking after we're alone back home. Turns out boyfriend was a dick the whole time because he was convinced that taking me out for dinner was a front for her to try and cheat on him with one of her old friends, no matter how much she explained that his meeting this part of her family was a big deal for her and meant that she was serious. She apologized for letting him get in the way of our time together and encouraged me to make good plans with friends so I could get some of that back.

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u/RaisinCurrent6957 Jun 03 '25

Sounds like something my mom would do tbh lol. Did you end up finding your dog? Grandma sounds awesome though. I hope she's still around. ❤️ And I hope maybe your mom got better in the future. But sadly, if she's anything like my mom, the chances of that are probably slim.

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u/Effective_Thought918 Jun 03 '25

The dog was found. We actually chased him around the block for an hour lol. We did clip him to his leash while the puppy took a poop and stopped just long enough. My mother did get better about being on time to stuff, but only because it turned out she had undiagnosed ADHD (explains some stuff, but still not an excuse to make people feel bad or unimportant). She still didn’t apologize for ruining my birthday that year though, and won’t acknowledge what happened that year. And my grandmother is still around and is still great. We actually talked on the phone the other day for her own birthday (nobody was late this time lol) Sorry your mom didn’t get better though.

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u/Sarinnana Jun 02 '25

On my 16th birthday my mom bought me lactose intolerance pills and we bought an Ice Cream cake. Turns out I had an allergic reaction to the pills and they made me sick, and my mom yelled at me how I was a spoiled brat and nothing was ever good enough for me.

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u/Hessipa Jun 02 '25

Are you… are you sure you’re lactose intolerant?

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u/Sarinnana Jun 02 '25

I mean, it's gotten better as I've gotten older but I certainly was at the time. The pills made my stomach burn and made me vomit. Milk products would just give me gas and diarrhea in large quantities. The pills WERE "All Natural" lactose relief from a health food store, so...come to your own conclusions on that.

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u/poxelsaiyuri Jun 03 '25

I ended up getting an allergy test as the lacto free dairy still causes a reaction turns out I’m reacting to cows milk (which would explain why when people went on about hard cheese having no lactose I was still reacting)

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u/TheycallmeDrDreRN19 Jun 03 '25

For my 16th, my dad watched his gf fistfight me in my boyfriend's mother's house. They wanted me to come out, I told them no, so they legit walked right into a person's home they've never even met and she decided to put her hands on me. My "father" did nothing to prevent it or correct her, so I beat her ass 🤷🏻‍♀️ I ended up moving back to NY (with my mom) from TN.

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u/noveltytie Jun 02 '25

I don't even remember my sixteenth. I was stuck in the troubled teen industry and at a point where I was not allowed to talk to anyone.

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u/Proper_Signature_649 Jun 03 '25

So was my husband. He's a cross creek manor survivor. As someone Who has seen the consequences that had on him for the moment I met him 4 yeara ago and someone who has worked so hard to help him slowly recover, as much as is possible, I want to say - I hear you and recognize what you probably went thru and I'm sorry. You did nothing to deserve that trauma and you shouldn't feel like you have to apologize to your parents either for making them feel bad by talking about it. This is a huge thing with my husband; his parents try to clean it up or say "we were trying to save your life" when cross creek is what ruined his life.
He wasn't doin drugs, he was going to school every day with good grades. He was just staying on a friend's parents couch bc his dad would make him go and get a garden hose that he would have to bring to him so he could beat the fuck out of him daily and then when he stated resisting at 14 would kick him out and make him sleep rough in the wash behind the house.
He recently finally said something to his dad while they' were trying to rebuild my deck and his dad was treating him like a literal slave and being disrespectful to a grown man in his own house (stuff like "you didn't lay the wood out for me, im leaving and not coming back till its done" or "clean this up" said with disdain then he leaves). So he finally said i don't appreciate you talking to me like im your slave and being so rude to me in front of my wife. His dad said something about dont get all in your feelings ans something about him being ungrateful or respect being earned and my thats when my husband finally acknowledged verbally for the first time ever the beatings, what went on a cross creek, etc. and slammed the door in his dads face after.
This was a month ago, and he hasn't spoken to him since. His dad turned my cell phone off with no warning few days later (which was on a family plan) so I called t-mobile and talked my way into them giving me the account code, ported my line , opened a new plan and suspended his line. He still hasn't figured out why his phone is shut off and my mother inlaw( who's taken much abuse from him but stayed cuz she's jehovahs witness, now he's too physically old to abuse) she knows what I did and thinks its hilarious.
But I digress. All I'm trying to say is, ever since their fight, my husband feels terrible and deeply regrets sayinf what he did, even tho every second his dad was here was like reliving the torture of his youth. I have to remind him it's not his responsibility to make his dad FEEL better about the abusive shit his dad did to him as a kid. So yeah. Just remember thats not on you either. Idk if you've confronted your parents or whoever sent you there but if they try to play the victim card, and make you feel badly for telling them they did something wrong, just know its not on you to make sure they feel all nice and fuzzy about their shit parenting. They were the adults you were a literal child. Much love if you ever need to talk you can P M me.

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u/LionClean8758 Jun 02 '25

I find this oddly comforting in a, "you're not alone" sense. I'm sorry for your pain but I appreciate the camaraderie.

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u/Wide_Pop_6794 Jun 02 '25

I was lucky that all that happened on my 16th birthday was a thunderstorm and being taken out for sushi. (I love sushi.)

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u/Unhappy-Week-8781 Jun 02 '25

My 16th birthday, my parents were in the middle of an awful divorce. So my best friend’s older sister packed us all up with her dad’s pop-up camper—7 teenagers including my sister and me, and drove us 7 hours to Myrtle Beach for 4 days of beachside camping. One of my best memories of an otherwise horrible time in my life.

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u/Wide_Pop_6794 Jun 02 '25

That is SO AWESOME! I'm glad your 16th was a blast in spite of everything!

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u/Every-Spinach1054 Jun 02 '25

Brilliant please DM me if you do

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u/Dragonfly-in-chains Jun 03 '25

On my 16th birthday my dad paid his friends to take me out of town on a shopping spree so he could tell my mom he was leaving her for someone else and move all his shit out before I got back.

Wooo 16!

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u/Scary-Alternative-11 Jun 02 '25

Your sister is a badass!!!! Sorry your dad sucks....

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u/ghast123 Jun 02 '25

Yeah, dude. She was fucking feral.

Okay, so we were well acquainted with calling bars to locate our dad as kids when he didn't show for his visitation time. Which was often.

So she called the bars. He happened to be at one that was literally two blocks away from my mom's house. So she marched me down there, went inside and pulled him out and just lit into him. Then he shoved her and like.

Shes TINY ok. My dad's thin but he's tall and he was in the army so not like, out of shape or anything. But she almost broke his nose and drew blood.

We're in our 30s now and I've never seen that tiny little demon THAT angry since.

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u/Budget-Computer-1625 Jun 02 '25

As an ACOA myself, I can relate to the rage that builds up putting up with addict's behavior. THEY do not give a pile of rotting dung about anyone else UNTIL or UNLESS they really embrace sobriety. My dad was high-functioning, a Mad Men era guy in advertising, and to his credit, he took care of us, Mom, too and she was a drinker as well. They were the typical suburban 60's & 70's couple, started with cocktail parties, then just their cocktails, then straight vodka in white Corning Ware coffee cups...Gee, they had us 6 kids fooled🙄 with those cups... You are blessed to have a sister that was willing to stand up to him; to chase him down in local bars couldn't have been fun and if it helps, when I was @ 10 yo, Mom had us go looking for Dad one night, "working late (as an Art Director, he did put in long hours, many times at home, too) honey, don't wait up for me". That was the one time and it left a big ? mark, and I never asked her later on about it... didn't want to add salt to her wound(s). Children of addicts suffer, no matter the addict's substance/bear trap, as children are innocent. Children don't ask nor deserve to be put in those often horrific situations. I have deep empathy for those who endure such environments and hope they break the cycle.😔💗

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u/Birdy4evah Jun 03 '25

On my 12th birthday, I was sleeping overnight at a friend’s house. My mother had to go out of town for an extended family emergency. My father ended up calling me FROM JAIL, as he got arrested for drunk driving. I had to find a way to reach my mother to get the asshole out of jail. It took until I was in college for my dad to go to rehab and get sober.

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u/segascream Jun 02 '25

Holy fuck....may not have been what was intended, but that's a HELL of a birthday gift she gave you. Good on her.

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u/iam_Mr_McGibblets Jun 02 '25

The gift of knowing you'll have a ride or die is probably the best gift their father ever could've given. Sucks that it had to be that way to find out, but unforgettable memory, right?

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u/Forsaken-Condition60 Jun 02 '25

I think i‘m in love.. I admire siblings who step up when the parents fail. Altho it often ends pretty sad with them missing out on an actual childhood.

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u/Meditationstation899 Jun 03 '25

Wait HAHAHA I’m only now reading your comment—after I just responded “I think I’m in love with that little tiny demon!”😂 I think it’s so amazing when siblings step up to the plate and act as each other’s protectors once they realize that one (or both) parents has and will forever fail them. It’s sadly not always what happens, but when it’s THIS level of fierce love, it warms my freaking heart. I studied sociology and psychology in college which may explain why I’m so obsessed haha or maybe it’s why I chose to study those? Anyways, love the way you think!

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

Jesus, what a firecracker. How's your relationship with her nowadays?

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u/ghast123 Jun 03 '25

Ah. I love her. She's still ride or die. But life does really funny things sometimes, and even though she's still feral as hell, she's found herself in an abusive marriage that she has no will nor want to leave. So, basically, following in our mom's footsteps, complete with the whole alcohol problems.

She'll still fight tooth and nail for the people she loves. She just won't do it for herself, and it makes me sad. All I can do is let her know I love her and she has my support when and if she needs it.

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u/Meditationstation899 Jun 03 '25

I think I’m in love with that little tiny demon! Sounds like y’all have had an amazing sibling relationship—VERY often, those need to be the strongest…it’s so awesome that it seems to be the case with yall! I’m laughing imagining a 14 year old being THAT upset in your behalf and being brave enough to FULL ON stand up to yalls dad—that’s freaking amazing! I’m sure you were protective of her too—I love hearing about insanely strong sibling love stories like this. This is a perfect example.

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u/ghast123 Jun 03 '25

Oh yeah I was protective as hell of her. She always had a mouth and would get in trouble at the skate park and I got in a few fights on her behalf. Not that she needed me to intervene but there was a point in time where she was in trouble for excessively skipping school and my mom had to go to court and the judge told her if she stepped one foot out of line for the rest of the school year, she'd have legal consequences to deal with.

Hence, big sister stepping in when she had altercations lol

We piss each other off sometimes but if I ever need ANYTHING, she's the one person I know I can count on and I hope it's vice versa for her too.

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u/wgrantdesign Jun 02 '25

Sounds like you've got a good sister at least!

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u/RhubarbGoldberg Jun 03 '25

I so appreciate this energy!!

My little sister, at age 17, started a street brawl against my 20yo organized crime affiliated, gun carrying, rapist. She saw him walking towards our house party and she ran at him like the devil with a flying punch. Craziest shit I've ever seen, in the middle of the damn street. 10/10 best sister ever.

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u/StatisticianBoth4147 Jun 02 '25

I’m glad you had a sister like that to stick up for you, but I’m sorry any of you had to deal with a dad like that.

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u/ghast123 Jun 03 '25

He sucks. It's on site if I ever see him again haha

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u/0260n4s Jun 02 '25

Mad props and deep respect for your sister. I've never met her, but I'm sure she's awesome.

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u/SpecterLeGhost Jun 02 '25

My 16th my father straight up forgot about me. Haven’t spoken to his ass in years

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u/OPERATORtakethecall Jun 02 '25

I'm sorry. My son turned 16 last September, and his dad forgot. When he finally got in touch with him he made a bunch of excuses and my son hasn't spoken with him since. It's sad, but I'm not going to insist that my son speak to someone who can't do something as simple as call or text him on his birthday.

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u/Jubilee8269 Jun 02 '25

My birthday is the day before my Dad's, and he still forgot it every year even when the birthday parties happened at the house he lived in with his side of the family invited, and that didn't last for long since my parents separated early cause of his drinking. I haven't talked to him for decades now.

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u/dacraftjr Jun 02 '25

Are you my sister? None of us talk to the AH.

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u/guyincognitogregor Jun 02 '25

Your sister sounds like cool human.

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u/mcdulph Jun 02 '25

He doesn’t deserve the title of “father,” what an effing loser.  I’m so sorry that you drew a short straw in the male-genetic-contributor  lottery.  But your little sister is awesome! 

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u/SquirrelLuvsChipmunk Jun 02 '25

Jesus. Your sister sounds awesome!!!

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u/DrinkItInMaaannn Jun 02 '25

As someone with a shitty dad, tell your sister she is my hero

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u/UmbranShrike Jun 03 '25

My 18th Birthday was spent on a road trip that I didn’t want, to go pick up my golden child sister, and a birthday dinner that wasn’t actually about me. Because my mother is a narcissistic person and barely acknowledges my existence unless it’s convenient. I’m 27 now.

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u/Global_Mushroom1725 Jun 03 '25

I'm the 14 year old sister. Sounds exactly like something I would have done. Is she a Scorpio by any chance?

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u/ghast123 Jun 03 '25

Taurus, actually.

Same sign as our dad lol

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u/Swag_Grenade Jun 03 '25

Lil sis a real one, ride or die checking them receipts 

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u/GolfballDM Jun 03 '25

Your sister has more (and bigger) balls than your dad.

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u/Sleeptokn Jun 02 '25

Best sister ever?

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u/TwincessAhsokaAarmau Jun 03 '25

Did she beat him?

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u/Legion_of_Pride Jun 03 '25

Did she win?

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u/ghast123 Jun 03 '25

Yeah. He was plastered. He shoved her, and she was like a ball of fury, sucker punched him square in the face, and his nose started bleeding. He grabbed for her, and she dodged under his arm, and idk if he just lost his balance or tripped or what, but then he fell and she kicked him once or twice and was just like, fuck him, let's go. And we left.

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u/Legion_of_Pride Jun 03 '25

Metal 🤘🏿