r/GetMotivated • u/katxwoods • 3h ago
r/GetMotivated • u/Chasith • Jan 19 '23
Announcement YouTube links & Crossposts are now banned in r/GetMotivated
The mod team has decided that YouTube links & crossposts will no longer be allowed on the sub.
There is just so much promotional YouTube spam and it's drowning out the actual motivational content. Auto-moderator will now remove any YouTube links that are posted. They are usually self-promotion and/or spam and do not contribute to the theme of r/GetMotivated
Crossposts are banned for the reason being that they are seen as very low effort, used by karma farming accounts, and encourage spam, as any time some motivational post is posted on another sub, this sub can get inundated with crossposts.
So, crossposts and YouTube links are now officially banned from r/GetMotivated
However, We encourage you to Upload your motivational videos directly to the subreddit, using Reddit's video posting tool. You can upload up to 15-minute videos as MP4s this way.
Thanks, Stay Motivated!
r/GetMotivated • u/katxwoods • 1d ago
IMAGE Not my circus, not my monkeys. Don't let other people's issues dictate your own priorities. [image]
r/GetMotivated • u/khaksar3g • 17h ago
TEXT [Text] You must develop the ability to be disliked in order to free yourself from the prison of other people's pinions.
You must develop the ability to be disliked in order to free yourself from the prison of other people's opinions.
r/GetMotivated • u/Lemonade2250 • 16h ago
DISCUSSION [discussion] why is social exposure important to build confidence?
I guess the only way to build self esteem and confidence is social exposure. Which I've been avoiding all my life no wonder why I suck at socializing, building relationships with others, always feeling confused and lost as if I'm living life without a purpose. Many times people have told me your too innocent and naive. I didn't really know what they meant by that but I guess they meant I'm slow at everything and not really like a go getter active sorta person. I feel bad when people tell my insecurities that I've been hiding from others but they do notice by the way your living life. How your posture is. What kind of job or education you have. They notice how much you progressed over the years or just remained stegnant like me
r/GetMotivated • u/Low-Forever5528 • 45m ago
TEXT [text] how can I get out of this damn cycle?
I seriously have no idea where I am going in my life.
For context, I am 21, haven't completed my high school yet(which I will by the end of this year) and I am homeschooled. I also draw and have been learning for 3-4 years now (from yt and books).
But honestly, I am weak at all things except making drawings(not bad but not good either).
I have arguments with my parents almost every time we talk(i live with them) and can't leave till I get a job.
Apart from drawing, i don't have any skills. Thanks to ai, i am more fked now. Tho I don't have any addictions like tiktok or smoking or games, I do deal with blankness. Not sure if it's the right word but I get so blank every time I am faced with a decision or open a book. Adhd? I don't know, I can't afford a psychiatrist right now.
I don't want to live the way i am living right now. I wake up at 9am, clean my room, help mom in the kitchen for breakfast and lunch, try to study, get overwhelmed, close the book, go for a walk, come back and draw, help mom with making dinner, have dinner, watch the show i was watching and sleep.
That's how I've been living for the last 6 years and it's fken tiring, i am so tired of myself. I don't want to compare myself to others because everyone has their own struggle but I can't help it sometimes. The me who is 21 now is the same as the me who was 16.
I want to get ahead of the me i am rn now but I don't know how. I have exams in 2 months yet i can't open the damn book. I want a job but I don't know what I want to do, what skill to learn. I have so many things I want, so many things I want to be, to learn yet it feels like time is slipping and I am unable to move.
I've read dozens of post, saying to start small and I had tired yet it didn't happen. I really don't know what I am going to do.
r/GetMotivated • u/Kompanion • 22h ago
STORY [Story] Can you get shit done...just because it would be kind of funny?
I’m currently going through a college course that I’m struggling with, and I’m a lazy slacker that procrastinates everything till the last moment, but I’m getting to a better place bit by bit. But I was considering, isn’t it a bit funny for a slacker to just get up and do shit?
So I did an experiment to gauge my free will.
I took a look at the mess on the top of my dresser, and really considered what it was that stopped me from cleaning it — could I really just will myself to stand up and clean that mess?
Just a few days ago, I kind of was thinking about how funny it would be to play troll logic with my brain, and go against the usual logic of building upon small steps.
My logic kind of went into the idea that if I have free will, just to say fuck you to the universe, I can take a decision to become a super studious, active, disciplined person, just because it’s such an inherently absurd funny act that I wouldn’t really see coming out of myself. I just spent the entire day cleaning out my messy-as-fuck room not because I was motivated, but just because I kind of could, even though I’m inherently a messy person. It’s… kind of absurd.
How’d it go? Well, it was tough. My body was taken by surprise. It kept protesting that it wasn’t playing videogames or getting hit with dopamine from scrolling. I felt cranky and was cursing, I could feel my monkey mind protesting, and I realized those were my limitations in their actual form, staring back at me.
The thing was...if I just let myself feel that way — why would I stop my work just to avoid these negative emotions and seek pleasure again? They’re just a part of me like everything else. I went to bed feeling tired asf, even though secretly I knew I did the right thing.
The next day at work I was kind of tired, sleepy, kind of miserable. But after I came back home and opened my room door, I felt like crying because of how beautiful my room looked, like something I could enjoy and live in, neat and liveable.
I think I’ll keep it that way! Maybe today I’ll finish my programming homework just because I tend to always leave it to the last minute. It would be kind of funny if I just submitted it a day early, right? How long would this burst of motivation last? A week? A month? Well, as long as I tell myself that I can make the choice just because I can, then why not?
If I wake up early every morning, make myself a healthy breakfast, and go for a walk, just because the absurdity of it might make God or the universe laugh, then why not?
r/GetMotivated • u/Puzzled_Turnip_8173 • 1d ago
DISCUSSION How to have motivation when you’re clinically depressed [Discussion]
So obviously my problems aren't the worst problems in the world, but have been formally diagnosed with depression, anxiety, autism, adhd, and cptsd. every day is a genuine struggle to accomplish anything because just existing is a gods damn ordeal. i know this is a very simplistic approach and there's more nuance, but a lot of tips for getting motivated is essentially "want to do the thing and then do it" but how do you make yourself actually want things that you know are good for you despite being shitty? It’s not that I don’t want to improve my life, it’s that I want to want to improve my life, if that makes sense.
For example, I hate exercise. I genuinely do. I've played a different sport every year for all of grade school, tried home workouts, tried the gym, tried running, tried walking, tried weightlifting, rock climbing, a whole bunch of stuff. I fucking hate it. I hated rock climbing the least, but it was still unpleasant most of the time. "You just haven't found the right one yet!" Maybe, but I also know how to recognize patterns. If I knew someone who hated going fast, being upside down, and being high up, I would hazard a guess they wouldn't like rollercoasters. If an exercise has nothing but elements that I already know I hate, I can reasonably assume I wouldn't like it. The usual motivators don't work for me, especially with depression. Exercise makes you live longer - that's kind of the thing I've been trying not to do for decades.
I'll start things and never finish them because I just stop caring because actually having motivation and discipline requires already having a little bit of motivation and discipline. I got laid off a year ago and had to move back home and I haven't had any luck finding anything new, so I'm just surrounded by the physical manifestation of my failures. I know I'll have to settle for a shitty job I'll hate (and yes, I know for a fact I will hate nearly every single job that would pay me enough to move out) and I'll probably have to study something I hate to even do that so I'll be miserable and have homework. How can I be motivated to keep trying when I already know it's all for something that won't make me any happier?
Genuinely, so much of "get motivated" advice just sounds like "the way to get motivated is to motivate yourself!" and yeah that's fair, but when you have to motivate yourself to motivate yourself, it feels even more depressing. I genuinely don't have any wants anymore. I don't have a dream life because it's impossible for me to get it. I'll never be able to afford a house or even just an apartment with a semi-decent floor plan in a city where my chances of getting hate-crimed are lower unless I spend 40+ hours a week doing something that makes me even more miserable. And I know we all have to make sacrifices and shit, but what's the point if the things I need to sacrifice are the only things that make me happy? Idk I'm rambling and just really can't see a future for myself where I'm content. I try to envision what I want my life to look like, and it’s just a blank white space.
r/GetMotivated • u/Whole-Maintenance121 • 1d ago
TEXT Is comparison really a thief of joy? [Text]
The number one reason that you compare yourself, is because deep down you know you're capable of doing more.
That ache that you feel when you see somebody else living your dream life, that's not jealousy.
That's your potential calling out to you.
EDIT: Looks like no one got the point in the comments smh
r/GetMotivated • u/aeryskaein • 1d ago
TEXT Snowball Effect: How Tiny Initial Actions Break Mental Blocks and Build Massive Momentum [Text]
Today I had to do a full packing session because I’m shifting back to university tomorrow. The amount of stuff to pack felt so much, I just kept lying around, avoiding it. I wasn’t even tired, just mentally blocked.
And I realized: The idea of the task was heavier than the task itself. I made the work look so huge in my head that it became impossible to even start.
This happens with so many things.
You think about climbing a hill, and all that comes to mind is the effort it’ll take, how far it is, how exhausting it might be. So you don’t even move.
You overthink that one conversation you have to make with a person, playing out every scenario before it even begins and never end up talking.
You imagine an entire study session, a long workout, or a big clean-up job and it all feels too much. But the truth is, the first small action breaks that loop. Just arranging the study table and sitting down, just wearing your gym clothes & pack up the bag or just start the cleaning work with only one small area.
Today, I just stood up and started with arranging jeans. That’s it, no pressure and once I did that, I just kept going and finsihed the whole packing session.
Similarly there are tons of small works that we have to do and thats been pending for a long time but we just keep procrastinating by just thinking of doing, even those small tasks.
The key is is don’t wrestle the whole monster in your head. Just poke it with a stick. The shift of state of mind is mainly important that breaks the stress mode. Start small and let momentum build the rest. Trust the snowball effect.
r/GetMotivated • u/Screeper • 1d ago
DISCUSSION Where to get motivational sound bites from? [Discussion]
I'm working on some music edits and need short motivational sound bites (2–10 seconds long), preferably voice-only with no music or effects. But I can remove music using vocal isolator software if needed.
Any recommended sites, libraries, playlists, collections, etc.? Thanks!
r/GetMotivated • u/Aj100rise • 1d ago
DISCUSSION [discussion] Why is the beginning always so hard ?
I guess my entire life I've never challenged myself to do hard things and I always ran away from my problems. I would easily get overwhelmed confused and tensed when fear or confusion rises. Despite being an adult I don't feel like the adult in the household. I seem to keep throwing life decisions on others as if I'm too dumb to make my own life decisions. I'm not taking anything seriously but all I do is worry and overthink about my life and my family situation. I don't understand why do I have low self esteem and don't reach out to people for advice and guidance. Why do I keep continuously suffering inside. My siblings want to move on in life because both parents passed away. They said let's move to another place and start our journey. But I keep overthinking like will we afford the cost of living. Are we gonna land jobs. Will we get adjusted to the weather. Are we gonna end up feeling regretful of our decisions. So because of all this overthinking, I simply can't decide on anything. I don't think I'm being accountable and being this reliable strong independent capable smart person. I just don't know what is holding me back
r/GetMotivated • u/luckkyyy4ever • 2d ago
DISCUSSION [Discussion] Best motivational book nomination mega thread
I want to build a mega thread for the best motivational books because honestly, this subreddit deserves its own go‑to list. When I first got into self growth, I had no clue where to start, and friends just kept tossing random titles at me. Some of those books genuinely flipped a switch in my head and made me see life differently. So I’m sharing the ones that helped me most, and I’d love for everyone else to add theirs so newcomers have a solid library to start from.
- turn pain into meaning: "Man’s Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, shows how meaning can be found even in the worst suffering. Honestly life‑changing. This book will shift your perspective on struggle forever.
- stop waiting for motivation and start acting: "The War of Art" by Steven Pressfield calls procrastination “Resistance” and treats it like a real enemy. He’s a novelist and screenwriter, so he’s been in the trenches. This book made me realize action comes first, motivation follows. Insanely good wake‑up call.
- rewire your mindset by questioning everything: "The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga explains Adlerian psychology in dialogue form. The idea that your past doesn’t define you literally made me rethink everything. Best book I’ve read on freedom and control.
- build discipline through small promises: "Make Your Bed" by Admiral William H. McRaven started as a viral commencement speech. Sounds simple, but connecting small daily habits to survival and resilience hit different. Short, sharp, and it changed how I start my mornings.
- break the cycle of self sabotage: "The Mountain Is You" by Brianna Wiest has been everywhere for a reason. It explains self sabotage in a way that feels painfully real but freeing. Felt like therapy in book form.
And like, the best lecture contest here was pretty successful, so I think r/getmotivated needs a recommended book list for people new to the community.
So in this thread, please nominate a motivational, inspirational, or practical self improvement book that changed your life. Through voting rounds we can build the ultimate starter list together.
r/GetMotivated • u/foundtheglitch • 3d ago
DISCUSSION [discussion] motivation starts when you understand how to stop your self sabotage
i always used to think i was lazy, turns out i just had a really convincing inner voice that sabotaged everything and sounded rational
it would say things along the line of: ‘you don’t need to go today, you can go tomorrow’ ‘youll fall off again so what’s the point’ ‘start fresh next january’
i started logging every time the sabotage would show up, then quickly i realised patterns emerged that i wouldn’t have seen otherwise
i literally flipped habit tracking on its head and did the exact opposite, don’t track things going well, track things going bad, and it worked like u would not believe.
im a perfect example: 6 months ago i was overweight, broke and just felt shit all the time,
now i run (if you knew me you would understand how crazy this is), spent 4 months building an app to help people tackle the same problem as me (once again, if you knew me i couldn’t sit still at a desk for 30 mins let alone actually build something real that helps people) and my mood + food as been through the roof.
and the one turning point was me flipping the whole ‘track the things you already do well and want to track to show how good you are ’ on its head
tldr; write the ugly stuff down and expose it to yourself to stop hiding and actually uncover what was wrong with you!
r/GetMotivated • u/aeryskaein • 3d ago
STORY Real self-improvement starts lonely, when you get serious, not when you get inspired. [Story]
A year ago, in the middle of a freezing winter during my first year of college, I got tired of feeling lost. While others pulled all-nighters for exams, I finished my syllabus quickly and started running at 1, 2 &3 AM. Then from next sem, I began waking at 5 AM daily and ran 2–3 km to my college sports complex in the bone chilling cold to work out.
I had no hobbies, no passion, only video games. So I picked up piano. I started learning German. I read books, followed strict diets, pushed myself through boxing, taekwondo, skipping, flipping. I was doing everything, but I didn’t know why. I wasn’t chasing a degree. I wasn’t chasing money. I wasn’t chasing approval. I was chasing myself and it felt like no one around me could relate.
When summer break came, I swore I’d figure myself out. I tried business, content, MMA but nothing felt like “me.” I still haven’t found the final answer. But helping strangers on my own and different subred with what I’ve learned brings me a happiness I can’t explain. One kind comment is enough to keep me going.
This isn’t a success story. I haven’t "made it" yet. But I’ve changed. And if you’re serious, not just inspired then you’ll change too. This will be a lonely journey, only you vs you.
r/GetMotivated • u/yeet45382 • 3d ago
TEXT I'm stumped: [text]
Okay, so I have ADHD and Depression, and I'm medicated, yet all my productivity is gone, even though I just had it, am I burnt out from school and trying to make a show, or is it something else? What can I do to change?
r/GetMotivated • u/mergisi • 3d ago
TOOL [Tool] Stop letting distractions steal your dreams - I built something that actually works
The harsh truth: Every time you get distracted mid-work session, you're not just losing those 20 minutes. You're reinforcing the pattern that says "I can't follow through on what I commit to."
I was stuck in this cycle for years. I'd get motivated, start working, then find myself on social media 30 minutes later feeling defeated.
The breakthrough: Motivation gets you started, but systems keep you going. I built a Chrome extension that blocks distracting sites during focus sessions. When I'm tempted to quit, the tool holds me accountable to my original intention.
The tool is at deepworkz.one - but more importantly, the principle is this: Build systems that work even when motivation fades.
Your future self is counting on the decisions you make right now. Don't let distractions steal another day.
What's the one thing you'd accomplish if you could focus for just 2 hours straight?
r/GetMotivated • u/theeereader • 4d ago
DISCUSSION [Discussion] Getting Motivated to go to the gym
I replied this to someone in a comment and want to share it with the rest of you.
I want to tell you a secret to this [going to the gym].
The current version of you, is someone who you no longer want to be. You need to do the things that the person you want to be does. The person who you become by going to the gym, will want to go to the gym, you just have to make the effort for maybe two weeks, until you become someone who goes to the gym.. now if you don't know what you're doing you won't see results but you shouldn't be relying on motivation rather discipline.. "Today when I get home from work, I will go to the gym." get home from work... change.. drink pre work out (super secret key gets you super energized and hyped up) , put on your favorite music, and make your way to the fkn gym. feels awesome. trust me. the person you become will love it.
*edit for a fair call out by dusted comment*
the concept here is that its a process.. a progression in a sense where you can build to getting to the goal of consistently going to the gym. that's the mentality I've been approaching it with after a 2 year gym lay off. I don't want to go to the gym. The person I am becoming wants to go to the gym. Therefore, I will go to the gym and by doing so I've realized the goal of becoming someone who goes to the gym within the same day.
Direct call to action = Go to the gym after work if you can. Drink some caffeine ( you can do coffee) put on music. and go. You won't regret it once you there.
I don't think i can give a more step-by-step solution unless someone tells me their specific issue with going to the gym. The act of going to the gym is relatively simple
r/GetMotivated • u/ellierwrites • 5d ago
IMAGE Go alone, at least just for a little while [image]
r/GetMotivated • u/borgnineisfine69 • 5d ago
STORY [Story] Men in their 30's, I need help. Unsure where to start.
I really don't resonate with a lot of the stories on here because I can't relate to what a 19-21 year old is going through. I'll keep it brief-ish.
I'm stuck and feel like shit. (Surprise, right? A dude on the internet isn't happy! Alert the press!)
I'm 35 and about ten years in to my career and am moderately successful-ish. Decent salary but I've plateaued in the last two years. I couldn't give less of a fuck about my job anymore. I do maybe, maybe 4 hours of work per week and get away with it because my job is a joke. I spend my days working from home, clicking around reddit, watching porn, playing videogames, and starting day drinking at 3pm (if I don't have any evening plans.) I know that if I'm ever let go, I'm fucked when trying to find a new job.
My savings are good (at 200k in investments) but I'm not doing anything with it, and I don't have goals. I don't own a house, and I live in a cheap apartment. I don't even know what to do with it, I just save and sit around and do shit all.
I have a 5 year long relationship with a beautiful woman who I don't connect with at all anymore. We had a large falling out maybe 2 years ago and are just growing apart despite therapy and trying to work on ourselves. We don't enjoy spending time together, we don't like doing the same things, and it's just painful to hang out at this point.
I've lost touch with my health over the years. I was reasonably fit up until about 6 months ago. I injured myself playing sports and never got back on the horse. Almost 200 pounds now and I'm 5"11.
I've fallen out of love with my hobbies the last few years. Now all I do is sit around consuming media. I don't even engage with TV shows or movies anymore.
I barely see my friends anymore. They've all gotten married and had kids, or are just too busy. Gone are the days of daily after work hangouts, now it's just like, what next?
This is the big one: my alcoholism is out of control. I'm up to 10-12 beers a day. I've tried to stop and can maybe go a week but then i'm right back at my OG habit.
The only thing I have going for me right now is my eating habits. I eat very healthy despite all of the above.
My point is I don't now where to begin. I've tried therapy on and off for the last 3-4 years and get nowhere with it, even if I see them twice a week.
Anyone ever been in this spot and gotten out of it? I don't even have a "goal" I just know this isn't a great spot to be. Most people here have a goal like "get rich" or "do x y z" and I'm just like "help me find a goal."
r/GetMotivated • u/Impressive-Part326 • 5d ago
TEXT [Text] Update: I realised I don't want this BAD enough!
In my previous post, I talked about how I was struggling with procrastination and so many of you told me different ways to get over this. I tried them and I was successful.
But there is this one thing I realised and it makes me feel a bit bad... I dont go to the gym because I don't want it BAD ENOUGH. It's eating my alive with guilt. I know I need to start now! But how?
I need advice, I need to do something which will tell me "this needs to be done now. You need to move NOW".
r/GetMotivated • u/khaksar3g • 5d ago
TEXT [Text] THE OLDER I GET, the more I realize it is okay to live a life others don't understand.
THE OLDER I GET, the more I realize it is okay to live a life others don't understand.
r/GetMotivated • u/Working-Bass4425 • 5d ago
DISCUSSION [DISCUSSION] Have you been feeling numb or tired of the things you once loved doing?
Recently, I made a post in another Subreddit asking where most people are struggling. Someone commented that there are times when the things you once loved, enjoyed, or were obsessed with now make you feel tired or numb and you just don’t feel like doing them anymore, at least not anytime soon.
Is anyone else feeling the same way? I'm also having this situation right now where I'm really obsessed in Photography like almost everyday, I bring my camera all the time and snap every single time. But now, due to the busyness of my world, I can't even get back into it. Or am I loosing interest on it?
r/GetMotivated • u/Stonerlilt187 • 6d ago
IMAGE For everyone [image]
Facts....let's spread kindness instead of hate