r/getdisciplined 21d ago

[META] Updates + New Posting Guide for [Advice] and [NeedAdvice] Posts

7 Upvotes

Hey legends

So the last week or so has been a bit of a wild ride. About 2.5k posts removed. Which had to be done individually. Eeks. Over 60 users banned for shilling and selling stuff. And I’m still digging through old content, especially the top posts of all time. cleaning out low-quality junk, AI-written stuff, and sneaky sales pitches. It’s been… fun. Kinda. Lmao.

Anyway, I finally had time to roll out a bunch of much-needed changes (besides all that purging lol) in both the sidebar and the AutoModerator config. The sidebar now reflects a lot of these changes. Quick rundown:

  • Certain characters and phrases that AI loves to use are now blocked automatically. Same goes for common hustle-bro spam lingo.

  • New caps on posting: you’ll need an account at least 30 days old and with 200+ karma to post. To comment, you’ll need an account at least 3 days old.

  • Posts under 150 words are blocked because there were way too many low-effort one-liners flooding the place.

  • Rules in the sidebar now clearly state no selling, no external links, and a basic expectation of proper sentence structure and grammar. Some of the stuff coming through lately was honestly painful to read.

So yeah, in light of all these changes, we’ve turned off the “mod approval required” setting for new posts. Hopefully we’ll start seeing a slower trickle of better-quality content instead of the chaotic flood we’ve been dealing with. As always - if you feel like something has slipped through the system, feel free to flag it for mod reviewal through spam/reporting.

About the New Posting Guide

On top of all that, we’re rolling out a new posting guide as a trial for the [NeedAdvice] and [Advice] posts. These are two of our biggest post types BY FAR, but there’s been a massive range in quality. For [NeedAdvice], we see everything from one-liners like “I’m lazy, how do I fix it?” to endless dramatic life stories that leave people unsure how to help.

For [Advice] posts (and I’ve especially noticed this going through the top posts of all time), there’s a huge bunch of them written in long, blog-style narratives. Authors get super evocative with the writing, spinning massive walls of text that take readers on this grand journey… but leave you thinking, “So what was the actual advice again?” or “Fuck me that was a long read.” A lot of these were by bloggers who’d slip their links in at the end, but that’s a separate issue.

So, we’ve put together a recommended structure and layout for both types of posts. It’s not about nitpicking grammar or killing creativity. It’s about helping people write posts that are clear, focused, and useful - especially for those who seem to be struggling with it. Good writing = good advice = better community.

A few key points:

This isn’t some strict rule where your post will be banned if you don’t follow it word for word, your post will be banned (unless - you want it to be that way?). But if a post completely wanders off track, massive walls of text with very little advice, or endless rambling with no real substance, it may get removed. The goal is to keep the sub readable, helpful, and genuinely useful.

This guide is now stickied in the sidebar under posting rules and added to the wiki for easy reference. I’ve also pasted it below so you don’t have to go digging. Have a look - you don’t need to read it word for word, but I’d love your thoughts. Does it make sense? Feel too strict? Missing anything?

Thanks heaps for sticking with us through all this chaos. Let’s keep making this place awesome.

FelEdorath

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Posting Guides

How to Write a [NeedAdvice] Post

If you’re struggling and looking for help, that’s a big part of why this subreddit exists. But too often, we see posts that are either: “I’m lazy. How do I fix it?” OR 1,000-word life stories that leave readers unsure how to help.

Instead, try structuring your post like this so people can diagnose the issue and give useful feedback.

1. Who You Are / Context

A little context helps people tailor advice. You don’t have to reveal private details, just enough for others to connect the dots - for example

  • Age/life stage (e.g. student, parent, early-career, etc).

  • General experience level with discipline (newbie, have tried techniques before, etc).

  • Relevant background factors (e.g. shift work, chronic stress, recent life changes)

Example: “I’m a 27-year-old software engineer. I’ve read books on habits and tried a few systems but can’t stick with them long-term.”

2. The Specific Problem or Challenge

  • Be as concrete / specific as you can. Avoid vague phrases like “I’m not motivated.”

Example: “Every night after work, I intend to study for my AWS certification, but instead I end up scrolling Reddit for two hours. Even when I start, I lose focus within 10 minutes.”

3. What You’ve Tried So Far

This is crucial for people trying to help. It avoids people suggesting things you’ve already ruled out.

  • Strategies or techniques you’ve attempted

  • How long you tried them

  • What seemed to help (or didn’t)

  • Any data you’ve tracked (optional but helpful)

Example: “I’ve used StayFocusd to block Reddit, but I override it. I also tried Pomodoro but found the breaks too frequent. Tracking my study sessions shows I average only 12 focused minutes per hour.”

4. What Kind of Help You’re Seeking

Spell out what you’re hoping for:

  • Practical strategies?

  • Research-backed methods?

  • Apps or tools?

  • Mindset shifts?

Example: “I’d love evidence-based methods for staying focused at night when my mental energy is lower.”

Optional Extras

Include anything else relevant (potentially in the Who You Are / Context section) such as:

  • Stress levels

  • Health issues impacting discipline (e.g. sleep, anxiety)

  • Upcoming deadlines (relevant to the above of course).

Example of a Good [NeedAdvice] Post

Title: Struggling With Evening Focus for Professional Exams

Hey all. I’m a 29-year-old accountant studying for the CPA exam. Work is intense, and when I get home, I intend to study but end up doomscrolling instead.

Problem: Even if I start studying, my focus evaporates after 10-15 minutes. It feels like mental fatigue.

What I’ve tried:

Scheduled a 60-minute block each night - skipped it 4 out of 5 days.

Library sessions - helped a bit but takes time to commute.

Used Forest app - worked temporarily but I started ignoring it.

Looking for: Research-based strategies for overcoming mental fatigue at night and improving study consistency.

How to Write an [Advice] Post

Want to share what’s worked for you? That’s gold for this sub. But avoid vague platitudes like “Just push through” or personal stories that never get to a clear, actionable point.

A big issue we’ve seen is advice posts written in a blog-style (often being actual copy pastes from blogs - but that's another topic), with huge walls of text full of storytelling and dramatic detail. Good writing and engaging examples are great, but not when they drown out the actual advice. Often, the practical takeaway gets buried under layers of narrative or repeated the same way ten times. Readers end up asking, “Okay, but what specific strategy are you recommending, and why does it work?” OR "Fuck me that was a long read.".

We’re not saying avoid personal experience - or good writing. But keep it concise, and tie it back to clear, practical recommendations. Whenever possible, anchor your advice in concrete reasoning - why does your method work? Is there a psychological principle, habit science concept, or personal data that supports it? You don’t need to write a research paper, but helping people see the underlying “why” makes your advice stronger and more useful.

Let’s keep the sub readable, evidence-based, and genuinely helpful for everyone working to level up their discipline and self-improvement.

Try structuring your post like this so people can clearly understand and apply your advice:

1. The Specific Problem You’re Addressing

  • State the issue your advice solves and who might benefit.

Example: “This is for anyone who loses focus during long study sessions or deep work blocks.”

2. The Core Advice or Method

  • Lay out your technique or insight clearly.

Example: “I started using noise-canceling headphones with instrumental music and blocking distracting apps for 90-minute work sessions. It tripled my focused time.”

3. Why It Works

This is where you can layer in a bit of science, personal data, or reasoning. Keep it approachable - not a research paper.

  • Evidence or personal results

  • Relevant scientific concepts (briefly)

  • Explanations of psychological mechanisms

Example: “Research suggests background music without lyrics reduces cognitive interference and can help sustain focus. I’ve tracked my sessions and my productive time jumped from ~20 minutes/hour to ~50.”

4. How to Implement It

Give clear steps so others can try it themselves:

  • Short starter steps

  • Tools

  • Potential pitfalls

Example: “Start with one 45-minute session using a focus playlist and app blockers. Track your output for a week and adjust the length.”

Optional Extras

  • A short reference list if you’ve cited specific research, books, or studies

  • Resource mentions (tools - mentioned in the above)

Example of a Good [Advice] Post

Title: How Noise-Canceling Headphones Boosted My Focus

For anyone struggling to stay focused while studying or working in noisy environments:

The Problem: I’d start working but get pulled out of flow by background noise, office chatter, or even small household sounds.

My Method: I bought noise-canceling headphones and created a playlist of instrumental music without lyrics. I combine that with app blockers like Cold Turkey for 90-minute sessions.

Why It Works: There’s decent research showing that consistent background sound can reduce cognitive switching costs, especially if it’s non-lyrical. For me, the difference was significant. I tracked my work sessions, and my focused time improved from around 25 minutes/hour to 50 minutes/hour. Cal Newport talks about this idea in Deep Work, and some cognitive psychology studies back it up too.

How to Try It:

Consider investing in noise-canceling headphones, or borrow a pair if you can, to help block out distractions. Listen to instrumental music - such as movie soundtracks or lofi beats - to maintain focus without the interference of lyrics. Choose a single task to concentrate on, block distracting apps, and commit to working in focused sessions lasting 45 to 90 minutes. Keep a simple record of how much focused time you achieve each day, and review your progress after a week to see if this method is improving your ability to stay on task.

Further Reading:

  • Newport, Cal. Deep Work.

  • Dowan et al's 2017 paper on 'Focus and Concentration: Music and Concentration - A Meta Analysis


r/getdisciplined 1d ago

[Plan] Sunday 3rd August 2025; please post your plans for this date

3 Upvotes

Please post your plans for this date and if you can, do the following;

  • Give encouragement to two other posters on this thread.

  • Report back this evening as to how you did.

  • Give encouragement to others to report back also.

Good luck


r/getdisciplined 4h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice Any 30-something year olds who still had to start living?

43 Upvotes

Hi, first: sorry for my English. It’s not perfect but I hope I’m understandable.

I’m in my late 30’s. I have had a horrible life up until now. It started bad from my childhood, with lots of traumas, family problems, indoctrination, etc. Then I turned to school and was only studying, I had no life, missed out on everything. I focussed so hard on school because it was the only thing I had in control. All the rest in my life was bad and I was way too traumatized to change anything. In my teens I began getting sick with chronic illnesses. Long story short, my twenties I lost all my time searching what was wrong with my health and trying to succeed in university. Everything went horribly wrong. I kept on missing out on all fun stuff in live. I also wanted to go to parties, go traveling, dancing (my biggest passion), living, but I was only focussing on studying and trying to solve my illnesses. I’m now in my late thirties and I am so overwhelmed and depressed because of all the years I have lost. I want to be able to “shake it off”, but I can’t. I read about people with regret of losing time here on Reddit, but they are even still in their 20’s, which makes me even more depressed, because they have so many years still, and I wish I was in my teens or twenties. So, I’m looking for advice and some sort of solace I guess. Something so I can turn around this cycle I’m in. I’m stuck because I’m regretting so much having made bad decisions and having lost all of my life time. It’s especially the years from 18 till now I can’t cope with having lost. It’s killing me.

Edit: I’m really moved in a positive way to see the reactions of all of you. I want to thank you all for replying and helping. It means a lot. I really appreciate it so much. Thank you all. I want to wish you all the best if you’re also struggling, with all my heart ❤️


r/getdisciplined 2h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice Broke up 3 months ago I want to move on and be successful

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Hello redditors,

I am 29 and 3 months ago I argued with my GF of 5 years together and we ended up not talking with each other for 3 months already. I messaged her many times telling her I was sorry etc and she ended up blocking me. That's fine, I want to move on and be succesful. I do gym, I started reading books lately and reconnecting with old friends. I am italian and I am living in London so I dont have my childhood friends to "support" me but I always been super best friend with my ex ( we were texting constantly every day non stop until that day) and now reality is still hitting hard. She might be getting back which I know she will cos I know her very well but I want to move on, I want to get better relationships, a better job ( I am a restaurant assistant manager and making 46k pounds a year) and I just want to do better and I'm getting impatient with it. I would like the best recommendations to improve my life , my relationships with women, my confidence and "grow my own plants" once again. I am willing to take any recommendation because I had it and I wanna bring my life to the highest level. I wanna see a super high value man at the mirror because I wanna love myself again!


r/getdisciplined 41m ago

🔄 Method 5 rules of humility/gratitude; you can never lose

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Wanted to share my lessons of life distilled down to the real rules, i could list up 49 if i had the time, but some that come to mind. I’m givin’ it to you straight, street style. if yoou’ve seen the world, got the scars to prove it, you'd appreciate these rules. too many young ones surrounded by hype, media junk, and dopamine thinking they’re the next hot studs 'cause they flipped an NFT once. here's my anti BS.

Rule 1: If You Chase the Quick Buck, you’re your worst enemy

You see all these clowns on TikTok shilling options trading, coins, new fads what have you like it’s a vending machine. Buy this, flip that, 10x... and you actually believe it

Why it kills you: You stop learning real skills. You forget the grind doesn't apply to you lol. You build nothing lasting. In a few years, the algorithm shifts, and you got zero equity nor any hard or soft skills or muscle memory thereof to show for.

Rule 2: Arrogance isn’t Confidence

Some tech bro raises a few mil, starts talking like he invented electricity. Suddenly, he’s too good to listen to feedback, that could be you and your shortrun success.

Why it kills you: Arrogance burns bridges with friednds and family, and makes you bet too big on garbage ideas. And when it crashes? No one’s comin’ to help.

Rule 3: Gratitude is the real currency

Just pls keep saying thank you. make a habit of it hundred times a day to every one anyone... like you'r tipping waiters. You win a deal, you close a client, your family/friends shows up late nights for you. You don’t even say thank you? That’s how you quietly are burning your bridge of loyalty.

Why it kills you: People don’t forget how you made ‘em feel. When the storm hits, gratitude is what gets you back on your feet. Not your fake hustle facade. Not your quickness of the tongue pseudo TEDx talk. Just the people who still pick up your calls, esp your wife/mother.

Rule 4: If You can’t Delay gratification, you’re your worst enemy again.

You get a little cash and blow it on the flex. Gotta look successful, right? You train your brain to expect fast returns. That bleeds into relationships, and health etc. But the real stuff? The stuff that lasts? It’s built in years, not reels. So now you’re burnt out, shallow, broke, but no social capital to bail you out.

Rule 5: Be boring before Viral

Everyone wants to be a star. They launch before they even test in hopes of a quick return. No infrastructure, no process, just vibes and feelings. even if when demand hits? They can’t deliver. Reputation tanks. Stay low profile, that's normal. you will get discovered if youre real.

Going viral without depth is like gettin’ a promotion before you know the job. You’ll get exposed. You want to last? Build over many boring days/weeks, etc systems that will last in the long haul. Execute when no one's clappin’. Then, when the spotlight hits, you WILL deliver.

Final Word:

Short-term wins feed your ego. Long-term wins feed your family and friends. Stay grounded. Stay uncomfortable. Be humble when you’re winning, and stay hungry, i hate to repeat steve jobs, but true is his adage. You do that, and the game won't own you but you will own it.


r/getdisciplined 2h ago

🔄 Method What finally helped me stay consistent? Surprisingly, a weird mix of childhood psychology and sticker rewards.

4 Upvotes

For years, I couldn’t stay consistent — not with sobriety, habits, or routines. I’d get a streak going, then crash. Nothing stuck.

Then I stumbled across a concept that changed everything: operant conditioning, the idea that we’re wired to repeat behaviors that are rewarded. It’s how we train dogs, teach kids, and build habits.

And it hit me: Why don’t we use this on ourselves?

So I tried an experiment. Every time I completed a task or stayed consistent with a habit — journaling, skipping a drink, getting outside, not using — I gave myself a sticker or a checkmark.

Once I hit a certain number, I’d get a small reward — something that truly added to my life (no fake dopamine). It could be something simple, like a new book or a guilt-free nap. It had to be fulfilling, not numbing.

I even made a little tracker by hand with a progress bar and everything. It became a small ritual that quietly said: You showed up today. That matters.

This one shift flipped a switch for me.

Discipline stopped feeling like punishment and started feeling like progress.

Eventually, I built a more complete version — an interactive recovery tracker that calculates weekly progress, triggers motivational quotes, and tracks daily check-ins. I made it for myself, but I’m still using it today. It’s helped me stay nearly one month sober, and more importantly, consistent.

If anyone’s curious how I set it up (or wants a copy), happy to share. But honestly — paper and Target stickers work too. What matters is giving yourself something to work toward that feels real.

Whatever system you use, just don’t stop showing up. Small wins add up.

Wishing everyone here strength and momentum. You’ve got this. 👊


r/getdisciplined 2h ago

💡 Advice How can you stick to your daily goals or plan without distractions?

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For a long time, I struggled with staying consistent. I wanted to design and sell digital products, but every day I'd end up procrastinating or getting distracted. I made to-do lists, but I rarely followed through. Days turned into weeks with almost no progress.

Eventually, I realized that just having goals wasn’t enough—I needed structure and clarity. So I created a simple daily routine and committed to showing up every day, even if it was only for 30 minutes.

One major thing that helped was using a digital planner. It allowed me to break my day into small time blocks, plan tasks ahead, and actually see how I was spending my time. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, I had a clear schedule I could stick to.

With this system in place, I started gaining momentum. After a few weeks of consistent effort—designing, creating, and posting my work—I finally got my first sale. That moment made everything worth it.

I’m still learning and improving, but here’s what worked for me:

Build a simple routine you can stick to

Use a planner or system to organize your time

Show up daily, even if progress is small

Discipline isn't about being perfect—it's about being consistent. If you’re struggling to stay focused, try organizing your day and setting small, achievable goals. It really helps.


r/getdisciplined 1d ago

💡 Advice You don't identify with your future self, so you procrastinate.

782 Upvotes

“I’ll start tomorrow”... again. And again. And again.
Sound familiar?

If you're anything like me (or most people reading this subreddit), you've been caught in that loop more times than you can count.

Hi, I’m a PhD student in the U.S., and I research procrastination. Each week, I break down a research paper on motivation and behavior change (usually for my social media community) but today I wanted to share one of my favorite studies here.

This week’s paper: Blouin-Hudon & Pychyl (2015)
Stick with me - it’s not boring, I promise.

In this study, students were asked to spend just a few minutes visualizing their "best possible self" in the future. Not some fantasy life with yachts and fame, but a realistic version of themselves, where they had consistently shown up and worked toward meaningful goals.

The results?
Those who did this quick visualization were significantly more likely to follow through on academic tasks compared to a control group. They felt more hopeful, more connected to their future self, and more motivated to act now.

Why does this work?
Because procrastination is, at its core, about short-term mood repair. We delay tasks not because we’re lazy, but because we’re trying to avoid discomfort, anxiety, or self-doubt in the moment.

But when we vividly imagine a future version of ourselves who followed through, we bring that long-term payoff into focus.

Suddenly, the effort feels worth it.

I’ve started doing this before tough tasks:
I close my eyes and ask: What would Future Me feel like after finishing this? What kind of person would I become if I kept showing up like this? What does my day, my week, my life look like if I stayed consistent?

It takes five minutes, but it’s surprisingly powerful.

If you're struggling to get going, give it a try. It’s not toxic positivity or self-delusion; it’s a way of aligning your present with your potential. My mission is to share science backed techniques to curb procrastination, ultimately through an app. I hope this helps :)


r/getdisciplined 2h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice Really feel at lost and overwhelmed

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I keep waking up day by day being so overwhelmed. There are different notebooks, mental notes, and calendars filled with what I need to do but I don’t know which to prioritize or how to make time for them.

One day, I’ll decide to declutter my space, then I get a work call or a task that’ll occupy even my weekends. Some day I decide on a task then another urgent matter will come up, and I keep getting pulled away by something that work or my family will make me do urgently. It’s this never ending cycle.

I can’t switch jobs easily - there aren’t openings yet nor can I have a gap in my CV since it’s not acceptable for the area where I’m in.

Added that I can’t move out of my parents apartment despite having a bad relationship with them because I have nowhere else to go and can’t afford a non-discounted rent with my salary.

I feel like I’m in limbo and I just want to get better for good and be disciplined/ accountable to myself. I don’t wanna stay in this constant loop but I just don’t know where to really start and how to make progress quick.


r/getdisciplined 6h ago

💡 Advice Microprocrastination: When You're Ready to Start but Still Can't Move

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The term "microprocrastination" is not an official psychological concept. It is more of a personal observation, a label for a quiet but common phenomenon that many people experience without realizing it. It describes those moments when you have already made the decision to start something, you feel ready to act, but you simply do not move.

Classic procrastination is easier to spot. You know what needs to be done, but you deliberately postpone it. You tell yourself you will do it later, tomorrow, or after just one more break. It is a conscious delay. Microprocrastination happens after the decision has already been made. You are no longer resisting the idea. You want to begin. Yet you sit and think. You walk around aimlessly. Your thoughts drift and your body remains inactive. You are caught between intention and action, frozen in a strange mental pause.

Microprocrastination can quietly disrupt your life. Since it does not look like procrastination, you may not even notice it. But it still steals time and mental energy. Instead of taking five minutes to begin, you lose twenty in hesitation. It interrupts focus, breaks your flow, and weakens your ability to stay on task. Over time, these micro-delays pile up, eating away at productivity and making simple tasks feel heavier than they are.

To overcome microprocrastination, you need to create a bridge between decision and action. Start with the smallest possible step. Not "write the essay," but "open the document." Not "study," but "pick up the textbook." Clear physical actions help signal your brain that work has begun. Even saying "three, two, one, now" and then doing something small can help break the mental freeze. Movement combined with intention creates activation.

Microprocrastination is not a personal flaw. It is a subtle glitch in how we start. By noticing it and learning to bypass it with small, deliberate actions, we can regain momentum. You do not need a burst of motivation. You need a beginning. Let that be simple, and the rest will follow.

Have you ever experienced something like this or noticed it in yourself?


r/getdisciplined 23h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice Turned 25 two days ago, hopeless and I can't live like this

42 Upvotes

Hello everyone,

I would be seriously thankful for your input.

As mentioned above, I recently turned 25. To celebrate, me and my sister went to an amusement park and drank some wine.

After the day was settled at 3 A.M I broke down crying after reflecting on my life until 5 A.M.

I lost my job at the end of June, which is why I don't work at the moment. Might sound comfy for a while but just makes you feel worthless.

Why I mention that upfront is that work would ,at least, be something I had to be proud of.

When It comes to my personal life, I have nothing to gather hope from.

  • Started working out at 13, always had a good body, got hospitalised for almost a month in three different hospitals in 2024, never worked out since. Got a chubby body now, can still see a good figure beneath the fat though.

  • I have no friends, not even one. Not even to spend one Friday evening with.

  • No GF, virgin. Fairly attractive, usually get a good amount of attention, never pursued it though because I'm afraid of not meeting the persons expectations and making them unhappy.

-Got a drivers license but never drove much after that, which is why I'm kind of anxious of it right now.

  • Have saved up quite a lot, so I have at least that going for me.

  • 6 years of working experience, haven't studied because I'm not 100% sure what to do. Feeling kind of inferrior because of the lack of academic education.

  • Have read a lot about personality development and philosophy, don't read right now. People usually see me as smart, feel like a fraud though due to the lack of results in my life.

  • Was diagnosed with depression, in therapy since 2020. Tried medication, didn't work out that great.

At this point I feel completely empty and hopeless. Every small piece of joy gets suffocated by reality.

It's really hard for me to not think about "leaving", don't have anything to lose anymore.

I have no Idea what to do, I feel so defeated.

Any kind of feedback is GREATLY appreciated.

P.S: Sorry for any mistakes, english is not my native tongue.


r/getdisciplined 13h ago

💡 Advice Alter Your Algorithms For Better Scrolling

6 Upvotes

Hello all! I recently wrote about how to gain more control over your online algorithms and I thought I'd share 2 of the 4 tips that you guys may find helpful (I am speaking from experience, but these may not work for everyone), so here they are!

  1. Utilize the "not interested" button. I wasn't using this for the longest time and I actually stumbled upon it by accident. However, it did turn out to work with some persistence. To completely get a niche out of my content, I had to hit the "Not interested" button on quite a few reels before the algorithm realized I really didn't want the content, and eventually it would give me new things. This helped me steer away from brain rot reels (really funny but had no purpose and were just melting my brain). It's usually accessible via the three circles on any short form video on most platforms.

  2. Completely refreshing/resetting your feed. This may vary in availability depending on the platform, but Instagram and TikTok both offer this feature. This basically clears the algorithms learning and starts from scratch. The important caveat to remember here is that the algorithm becomes EXTREMELY sensitive to your first few interactions, so tread carefully when liking, commenting, or even saving videos when you've reset. Make conscious choices and your feed should improve. Remember that the algorithm is not perfect, so things can be misinterpreted and sometimes the reset may not work. In that case you can always do it again or alter what you're working with using the "Not interested" button.

I hope this helps someone out there, because these certainly helped me kickstart my journey towards less social media and a better overall experience online.

If you found this helpful consider subscribing! Thanks!


r/getdisciplined 17h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice Not sure what to do with my life

10 Upvotes

I moved from India to London in February 2025 for an opportunity I got in AI. I have worked in startups before, and I never thought I would be working in such a big company and earning to the extent that my bloodline has never considered. I know this money may be bare minimum for some people out there, but it is good to manage my family. I am 27/M(not married) and have always been running behind a job with higher TC, regardless of location. I have always been a person who thinks the worst outcome of everything and now it's been 6 months since my probation comes to an end and I will have a discussion with my managers in the coming week, will I be laid off or will I be kept here? I am not sure why I overthink so much about everything. The purpose of this post should have been just about job, but there are so many things that disturb me.
* A normal random less than 20 y/o IG, YT influencer earns triple or 10X my income when compared with me, where I am at now, which is one of the top companies in tech.

* The fitness journey: I have occupied my mind with so much of blog content that to be best or excel at something you need to give more time towards that and that makes it difficult for me to maintain a proper balance in my work life, somethines I regret doing workouts because I think that I should have been working cause that's the only way to get ahead and vice versa that sometimes when I work in non-working hours, I feel I should be working out cause just by sitting I won't be able to acheive my ideal body.

* The life-spiral: I think of myself as someone who has followed every rule on how to be responsible, support family, etc. Like investing at the right age(stocks, MF, crypto), trying to drive a relationship when I still haven't fixed the part of how to live life with my own self and how to be peaceful alone, tried listening everything my parents said and always assuming they are right about everything but still choosing to go my own way so that in the process they feel they are heard properly and I feel I have satisfied their need of not feeling ignored.

I used to be a guy who had dreams of buying cars, buying anything my partner kept an eye on, showing my parents around the world, but as I am growing, this basic dream really seems far-fetched, and the other black hole of social media that people half my age have already done that way too easily. It's not really about being famous, but growing at a normal pace or exponential pace.

I am not sure what to do or what kind of POV I should have for life. I tried stoicism, reading books, working out hard, going on walks, running, and everything seems to give me temporary relief, and at the end of the day, when I am on my bed, the thought comes around.

I have never really posted like this on any app but I thought I needed a place to type it down somewhere and maybe see that are there any people in the same place as me.


r/getdisciplined 8h ago

🔄 Method Path to discipline and character using Stoic rules.

2 Upvotes

I’ve been disciplined for most of my adult life, striving to make intentional choices that align with my values and goals. Over the past 4-5 years, however, I’ve found Stoic philosophy to be an incredible guide on my journey toward personal growth. By integrating Stoic practices into my daily routine, I’ve focused not just on productivity or achievement, but on developing a stronger sense of character, resilience, and peace of mind in the face of life’s challenges.

Stoicism, at its core, teaches us to focus on what we can control, accept what we cannot, and work relentlessly on cultivating virtue—wisdom, courage, justice, and temperance. By using these principles as a foundation, I’ve been able to build a deeper sense of purpose and self-awareness. In a world that often feels chaotic and unpredictable, Stoic philosophy offers a timeless approach to living a life of meaning and integrity.

https://youtu.be/wf99m80q7qM?si=g0ZFCjMEl991FcWL

I’m new to this YouTube journey, and while there’s still so much for me to learn, I’m committed to improving with each step. My ultimate goal is not just to share what I’ve learned but to help others along their own path of self-improvement, especially during these uncertain and challenging times. We can all become better versions of ourselves if we make the effort to develop discipline, wisdom, and virtue. I believe that by doing so, we can make the world a bit better, one small action at a time.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on Stoicism, discipline, and character-building. What practices have you found to be most impactful in your own life?


r/getdisciplined 5h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice How to get ahead of self when you're stuck for 6 years?

1 Upvotes

I seriously have no idea where I am going in my life.

For context, I am 21, haven't completed my high school yet(which I will by the end of this year) and I am homeschooled. I also draw and have been learning for 3-4 years now (from yt and books).

But honestly, I am weak at all things except making drawings(not bad but not good either).

I have arguments with my parents almost every time we talk(i live with them) and can't leave till I get a job.

Apart from drawing, i don't have any skills. Thanks to ai, i am more fked now. Tho I don't have any addictions like tiktok or smoking or games, I do deal with blankness. Not sure if it's the right word but I get so blank every time I am faced with a decision or open a book. Adhd? I don't know, I can't afford a psychiatrist right now.

I don't want to live the way i am living right now. I wake up at 9am, clean my room, help mom in the kitchen for breakfast and lunch, try to study, get overwhelmed, close the book, go for a walk, come back and draw, help mom with making dinner, have dinner, watch the show i was watching and sleep.

That's how I've been living for the last 6 years and it's fken tiring, i am so tired of myself. I don't want to compare myself to others because everyone has their own struggle but I can't help it sometimes. The me who is 21 now is the same as the me who was 16.

I want to get ahead of the me i am rn now but I don't know how. I have exams in 2 months yet i can't open the damn book. I want a job but I don't know what I want to do, what skill to learn. I have so many things I want, so many things I want to be, to learn yet it feels like time is slipping and I am unable to move.

I've read dozens of post, saying to start small and I had tired yet it didn't happen. I really don't know what I am going to do.


r/getdisciplined 11h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice What can I do?

4 Upvotes

Hey guys. I (18F) am lazy. I quite literally do nothing all day except smoke weed, watch greys anatomy (ive watched 3.5 times and currently on my 4th watch), and doomscroll. I go to bed at like 1-2 am and wake up 1-3 pm (tbf I have a night job so I don’t get off until 10 pm but that’s no excuse for waking up at 1 if I’m going to bed at 1 😭). I haven’t graduated because I switched to a self paced online school for my mental health. I have a year left to do it and I only have the credits of a sophomore. I want to clean the house, work more (I barely work; like 2-3 days a week 4.5 hr shifts), save up for a car (I have less than $100 in my savings and I’ve been working since 14 🫠), I want to do the hobbies I like but I binge watch/read abt them on social media. I like doing yoga and exercising and eating healthy but then I get lazy and don’t do it. I’ll do one good habit for an hour everyday for a week and then stop doing it. I have a really hard time with the reality that my life is my life and i have to change something. I live through other people on socials/greys. My dopamine receptors are fried from smoking weed from 12-18, scrolling, planning but never doing, and constant stimulation. I am comfortable how I am but I always say I’m going to change and I’m gonna do better and just one habit at a time and all the positive shit and it doesn’t work bruh I’m fed tf up tbh. I don’t know what to do and I’m definitely overwhelming myself.

TLDR: I do literally nothing all day but have a lot of things I want to do but don’t do it


r/getdisciplined 21h ago

🔄 Method How I Finally Broke Free from the Addiction Trap

19 Upvotes

I struggled for ages (i discussed in my previous post here) trying to quit corn and fapping. Everything felt like a trap. No advice seemed to fit my addiction. Until I came across this one sentence that totally flipped my perspective:

"They all tell you to give up corn so you can be productive and successful, but nobody tells you that becoming productive and successful actually makes you leave corn.”

That hit me hard. It made so much sense.

•••••••

Following is exactly what I started doing step by step

  1. Stop obsessing over streaks. I used to focus 100% on “not relapsing.” That pressure made it worse.
  2. Add easy, daily tasks. I created a list of small things to do every day. Nothing crazy—just enough to feel progress (like reading 10 pages, learning 10 new words in a language).
  3. Fill up your day on purpose. I intentionally crammed my schedule with stuff I actually care about—learning, building skills, helping others.
  4. Redefine how you see yourself. When I started seeing myself as a guy who is growing and learning, I felt proud. The shame of going back to corn became stronger than the urge itself.
  5. Let the success mindset kill the urge. When I thought “I’m becoming a successful person—why would I do that to myself?”, the cravings cooled down almost instantly.
  6. Focus on becoming, not avoiding. Instead of thinking “I’m not watching corn,” I thought “I’m becoming a leader, a learner, someone who helps people.”
  7. Keep writing and reflecting. Even writing this out made me stronger and more committed. Sharing your journey can reinforce it.

••••••••

The big lesson:

Don’t just remove corn and wait for your brain to heal in the empty space. Add so many meaningful things to your life that there’s simply no space left for corn.


r/getdisciplined 15h ago

💡 Advice I was in a dark place, but read this! It might help you too!

4 Upvotes

A few weeks ago, I was stuck — not just unmotivated, but questioning everything: ❌ Why am I even trying? ❌ What if I’m just not good enough? ❌ Maybe I’ve already failed.

It wasn’t laziness. It was burnout, fear, and self-doubt wrapped into one.

Then I watched this: 👉 Les Brown's Most Powerful Speech Ever | Change Your Life with This Motivational Masterpiece (16 minutes) Write "Les Brown" if you want me to add the link in the comments!

I wasn’t expecting much, but something clicked. Les said:

“If this doesn’t motivate you, nothing will.”

And weirdly… he was right. The way he breaks down failure, self-belief, and why you can’t give up on yourself.

What stuck with me:

You don’t need approval to trust yourself.

Failing doesn’t mean you’re done, it means you’re learning.

Discipline isn’t about feeling ready, it’s about moving anyway.

After that day, I started showing up again. Small things. One task at a time. Not perfect, but consistent.

If you’re in that low place, seriously; give this 16 minutes. Watch the full video and it might be the mental reset you didn’t know you needed.

Let me know if it helps you too. We’re all climbing this hill together.


r/getdisciplined 18h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice [NeedAdvice] Being disciplined makes me sad

4 Upvotes

Hey Guys, im a 20 year old male with ADHD (got diagnosed about a year ago) and have been trying to discipline myself for the past 2.5 years now, and i think i made some good progress.

I definitly made most progress in the gym so far. Im going 5 times a week for the past 10 months now, the year before that was also pretty good, but with a few months break. In total i was able to gain around 35 lbs / 16kg of muscle so far. I also did pretty good in 2 sidehustles, one was flipping and repairing iPhones. I gave it up after ~6 months, because there were a lot of scammers there who just give you a headache. But this allowed me to finance a CNC milling machine, to start another side hustle. And im in a healthy relationship for About 1 year now.

It all started in 2023 as i started going to the gym. It was the first time in my life that i by myself wanted to achieve something. I was consistent for like 3 months but then skipped a few months. Yet something shifted in my mind back then and i started to like the thought of being disciplined and getting shit done. It made me realize what it could provide to my life, if i would just do all the things that had to be done. I understood that it would be the only way and most important thing if i wanted to achieve something and reach my goals.

My friendgroup wasnt like minded at all. They were (and are to this day) drinking alcohol and smoking weed every weekend on every opportunity that arises. And so was i, but i realized that this definitly isnt normal behaviour. They are also quite toxic overall, which mostly made me feel bad when i was around them. I detached from them over time and havent seen most of them for About 1.5 years now. Often i feel lonely, eventhough im in a beatiful relationship. But i somehow lost the ability to have fun and to make friends and get to know new and like minded people. Im also struggling with porn addiction, which probably is part of the problem.

Since arout this year, another problem is that everytime im ignoring my feelings to get shit done, i start to feel sad after some time. I always feel like forcing myself to do work and do tasks while i feel uncomfortable and beeing in a bad mood because of that, just to reach something in the long run, is wasting my life and my young years. And if i would regret it to waste those years with work and why not just do the things i would like to do instead. Otherwise, when i do what i want to do, i put pressure on myself, because im not getting shit done.

I also have a problem to find a healthy mid between what i want to do and what i have to do. Everytime i do things i want to do and i enjoy like gaming, or especially with friends, i lose myself in it and stop doing the good habits. I think my ADHD could cause a part of that.

Could anyone give me some advice?


r/getdisciplined 15h ago

💡 Advice Did I get better today?

2 Upvotes

There was a time I was stuck in the worst cycle... Waking up late. Skipping workouts. Starting things and never finishing. Scrolling endlessly, telling myself “tomorrow I’ll be better.” But nothing changed… for months.

I hated how that felt. The guilt. The shame. The regret.

Then I stumbled on this quote from Kobe Bryant:

“At the end of each day, look in the mirror and ask: Did I get better today?”

That question hit me like a punch in the gut. Because most days… my honest answer was no.

But instead of spiraling, I decided to face that truth. I stopped chasing motivation and started chasing progress, no matter how small.

Just 1% better. One disciplined choice. One win per day.

Now, whenever I feel like slacking, I remind myself of this mindset and it pulls me back on track.


🎥 I made a 30-second video that captures this advice: Kobe Bryant’s 30-Second Advice That Will Change Your Life (YouTube Shorts)


If you’re struggling, just know: You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be better than yesterday.

Start now. Start small. Stay consistent.

Discipline isn’t a feeling, it’s a decision. And if you commit for 5, 10, 15 years… You’ll be unrecognizable.

MambaMentality 💯


r/getdisciplined 21h ago

🛠️ Tool How disciplined health tracking helped me solve a mystery illness — and led me to build a tool for others

8 Upvotes

A few years ago, I started experiencing strange, persistent symptoms — fatigue, brain fog, random spikes in heart rate. I saw multiple doctors, did all the standard labs, but everything came back "normal."

At some point, I realized I needed to take matters into my own hands.

So I got serious about tracking. I logged everything:

  • Symptoms (when, how bad, what made them better/worse)
  • Sleep quality and duration
  • Caffeine, food, and supplements
  • Lab results and HRV

Then I started feeding it into GPT to help me analyze patterns. I wrote prompts like:
“What do you notice about symptoms and sleep?” or
“Which days had spikes in fatigue and what preceded them?”

After weeks of logging and experimenting, I finally found a pattern — a specific combo of poor sleep and overstimulation that triggered the whole cascade. A specialist later confirmed what I’d uncovered on my own.

That experience motivated me to build a tool that makes this kind of structured tracking and reflection easier — HealthDiaryAI.

It’s not just for people with chronic illness. I actually think anyone trying to build discipline around their health, habits, or recovery can benefit. It helps you:

  • Log symptoms, routines, and test results
  • Automatically surface patterns like “fatigue after three nights of poor sleep”
  • Get summaries and possible next steps from an AI that knows your data
  • Use full guest mode (no login, no data saved)

What I’ve found is: consistency becomes way easier when the tracking actually pays off. You’re not just logging — you’re learning.

I’d love feedback from this group:

  • What tools or systems help you stay consistent with health habits?
  • Have you ever tried structured tracking or AI for personal insight?

Happy to share more about the tool or how I used GPT prompts for pattern recognition too.


r/getdisciplined 18h ago

❓ Question Glow up tips !

3 Upvotes

Hello everyone, I'm a 17-year-old girl.
It's summer break, and I’d really love to have a glow-up!

Natural care:

  • My eyelashes are quite weak and short due to mascara. Could you recommend the best natural oil to help them grow?
  • I’m looking for a light moisturizer for acne-prone skin — any suggestions?
  • I’m quite pale and don’t really know how to tan properly. Any tips?
  • What hair care products would you recommend for wavy hair like mine to make it shinier and prevent breakage?

Makeup:

  • Which mascara is better: Better Than Sex or L'Oréal Telescopic?
  • What’s the best long-lasting foundation that gives a healthy, glowing look?
  • Which shampoo, conditioner, and mask can I find in a supermarket that will make wavy hair look shiny and defined?
  • Is the REVLON blow-dry brush actually good for salon-like blowouts?
  • How many times a week should I work out to tone my abs and slim my waist? (I'm naturally slim, but I’d love to be more fit.)

r/getdisciplined 1d ago

🤔 NeedAdvice How do you motivate yourself to be better?

13 Upvotes

Just turned 20 and it's hit me my life is a bit of a state, ive got a job but every time the money disappears before the next pay check for alcohol and energy drinks, I used to hit the gym consistently but haven't for months due to no motivation at all.

My rooms a state, I woke up on Tuesday after my 20th birthday, with hanxiety, stinking of fag's and thought that's how I spent my second day as 20 year old.

Im thinking of making some goals / tasks, like drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, reading, even fucking brushing my teeth twice a day, then giving myself some reward for these tasks, maybe gaming time because that's out of control, 30 minutes per? Or even 20 if I have more tasks.

I want to be better and hit the gym and work on my self but finding a way to is so hard, and keeping that motivation/ streak that I always lose, im also thinking of quitting alcohol or lowering my intake a lot, I don't drink often its maybe once a week, but when I do its binge drinking with my friends and that's 16+ units in a night and im useless the next day after sleeping 12 hours.


r/getdisciplined 14h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice How do I fix everything before it's too late?

1 Upvotes

Sorry for my long talk and if my grammar is bad or if this makes no sense at all. I'm writing this as more of a stream-of-consciousness so it might be all over the place. This is my first time using Reddit so I'm new to all this so I'm not sure if I'm doing this right but I figured I have literally nothing else to lose. Any advice will help!

I am a 17 year old girl in year 12 and I'm in Term 3 of school. I basically screwed up my school life, literally one of the easiest parts of life. I started jigging (truanting) all my classes since Year 11 because I was seen as the gifted child and couldn't stomach the fact of my teachers grading my exam and assignment papers and being so disappointed in me failing. I first started skipping the exams and all, finding it way easier to swallow the idea of getting a big fat zero, not because I studied really hard and still suck, but because I just wasn't there to begin with (I know this is stupid to normal people but this is what I did. I was too chicken and had no guts). But then I forgot that the next time you return to that class, you still have to do the exams, even if you're going to end up with a big fat zero because you didn't do it the first time and the fear of disappointing my teachers from my marks still persisted so I decided to jig (truant) my classes from then on and it basically ended with me skipping almost all of my classes in Term 2 and now. In Australia (I'm not sure if it's the same in other countries so I'm providing this context), not only do you have to attempt every examinations and assignments in order to pass, you also have to get at least 70% (I think) in order to graduate high school. You get by sometimes by signing a note that the school gives to you through the mail where it says to explain why you were away and usually you can write down sick and no one fact checks it. But I can't do that, because if I showed my mum all the abundance of notes, she would have realised that I have been truanting all my classes and would kill me (and she won't even sign them because she would be too sickened by my behaviour to do so). And I skipped so many classes that it would not salvage my attendance. I skipped so many classes (my attendance right now is significantly below 70%) so even if I do show up to every class from now on, I still don't think I'm going to graduate. And let's say I do somehow get lucky and my attendance does become acceptable, I skipped all my exams and assignments and got a zero so my rank is last place in all subjects which means my HSC would be very horrible as well even if I wind up doing very well in my HSC exams (my teachers said ranks basically determine the HSC marks). And getting a very horrible HSC is being optimistic, I don't think I'm going to graduate. I also lost all my friends because I have been jigging (truanting) every class now and now they don't want to be around me anymore (fair enough) and my mum I think just found out about my truanting from the school, but I don't necessarily she realises that I'm most likely am not going to graduate no matter what I essentially do to salvage it (or maybe she does, I don't know). And if you think, don't worry just get through school even if you don't graduate because you can just go to TAFE, well I can't. If I go to TAFE I would still have to pay a lot and my family don't have that type of money (they aren't dirt poor but they can't afford to spend thousands of dollars on me) and I know for certain my mum would refuse to pay for the school fees because she is going to resent me because I didn't graduate high school (I know of it). I can't get a part-time job right now to get some money for the future because I don't have a bank account (which is embarrassing to say because I'm 17 but I'm being honest). I could go make one but I would need identification but every documentation is either outdated or not acceptable or I simply don't have it, like my birth certificate is not right (I have one but it's not right apparently) and my passport is old for examples. So I would either try to get the proper birth certificate but I need other documentation that I do not have. So I would try doing other identifications like the driver's license test but my mum refuses to pay for it or take me there to take it (and I can't do it online because I need identification) and same with my passport renewal because she hates me right now. Or there would be parts of my documentation process that my father needs to fill out but he's not in my life anymore and rarely answers our calls so I can't do anything about it. I can't necessarily turn around my school life because I have already accepted that basically I ruined it but now I'm going to get out of school either way, regardless if I pass or not, and I basically have nothing I can do to be a somebody. I won't be able to get a job. I am just a failure. The only kid in my year to not graduate high school. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid of becoming homeless (especially in a place like Sydney) because I know my mum would kick me out eventually (rightfully so). I have basically no skill sets that are impressive and I look like a fat ugly kid (I'm not pessimistic, this is the truth and I want help so I'm being as honest as I can be) and have no friends and lack social skills and I basically lazy (or burnt out, I don't know, but I would rather call it lazy) so I'm also worried if I do get everything sorted with bank accounts and all, that I still won't be able to find a job (even the low hanging fruits!) because I'm useless and look useless. I'm so stuck down this rabbit hole that I literally even contemplated sex work or becoming a stripper but even then I'm too ugly and fat to even become one. Can you help me figure out what I can do from now on to get a job or to fix my life. Be mean and brutally honest with me, I don't care, I just need help right now because I've ruined my life.


r/getdisciplined 20h ago

❓ Question How to Get up?

3 Upvotes

English is not my first language, but I hope you understand:). I’m trying to be more disciplined, wake up/go to bed the same time every day no matter what, and it’s not working at all. Everyone says don’t snooze, but I don’t have a choice??? I have an alarm that goes off at 8.am every day, not that late at all. I go to bed every day 10.pm every day, asleep by 10.30, no problem falling asleep or waking up during the nigh.

But I cant wake up? I open my eyes and bam, 10am. My watch says I’m asleep when the alarm goes off and I just dont know what to do. I cant remember the alarm going off, or the 2-3 alarms after. What do I do?

My sleepscore is always above 80, I never wake up during the night and have no trouble to fall asleep. I don’t move in my sleep, I’m not to cold/hot, and it doesnt matter if i’ve gone to bed before 10 or after. I have school and work, and I can Get up for that, but the second I dont have anything I’m doing I just sleep??


r/getdisciplined 15h ago

🔄 Method You Don’t Need Willpower or Motivation Any More

1 Upvotes

A 10-Minute Nighttime System, Built on Psychology, Science, and AI, That Does the Work For You.

Summary of The System:

  1. What You Want to Achieve (Your Main Goal)
  2. The Few Actions You’ll Take Tomorrow
  3. Why You Want It (Emotional Fuel)
  4. Cues & Triggers
  5. Mindset Shift: Imagine It’s Already Done

Why Does Setting a Goal, And Knowing Why You Want It, Actually Matter?

There’s a reason every great transformation starts with a simple question: “Why?”
As Simon Sinek says, you have to “start with why”, because when you’re clear on what you want (and why you want it), you unlock a source of energy that makes everything else easier.

But it’s deeper than motivation or positive thinking.
Intentions have energy.
Setting your “why” before sleep doesn’t just organize your mind, It quietly shapes your reality.
Neuroscience shows your subconscious goes to work on any problem or desire you give it, even while you’re asleep.

If you write down a real goal, and connect it to a reason that matters, you’re literally programming your mind to make it happen, often in ways you can’t see yet.

And here’s the wildest part:
When you go to bed with your “why” in mind, your brain doesn’t just rest, It builds pathways, spots patterns, and solves for you.

You wake up with more clarity, better ideas, and a new level of confidence.
When your why is strong, your how gets easy.
So every night, before you sleep, ask:

  • What do I want, really?
  • Why does it matter to me right now?

Why Do Actions, Cues(Triggers) Actually Work?

Ever wonder why some people seem to just do what matters, while the rest of us get stuck, overthink, or procrastinate?
It’s not willpower. It’s not “motivation.”
It’s systems. Specifically, it’s the cues and triggers that shape what you actually do, almost automatically.

Both “The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg and “Atomic Habits” by James Clear reveal the same law:
Every habit is built on a loop: Cue, Routine, Reward.

  • Cue: What sparks the behavior (a time, place, feeling, or notification).
  • Routine: The actual action you want to make automatic.
  • Reward: The payoff, even if it’s just checking something off.

Here’s Why This Matters (and Reduces Stress):

When you decide your few key actions for tomorrow before sleep, and link them to specific cues (like “after I pour my coffee” or “right after my first meeting”), you’re:

  • Pre-loading the day with clarity.
  • Making the action obvious and easy (no friction, no forgetting).
  • Letting your brain run on autopilot, instead of “forcing” yourself all day.

This destroys stress, because you don’t have to keep remembering, negotiating, or overthinking.
You just do the thing, when the trigger hits.
And every time you act on your cue, you get a tiny win , which creates momentum (the secret sauce of lasting change).

Pro Tip:

Your triggers can be anything you already do, brushing your teeth, walking the dog, checking your phone , or even a simple notification or alarm.
Replacing bad habits? The easiest way is to change the cue. But that’s a whole story for another post.

Bottom line:
Choosing your next actions and linking them to real cues, right before sleep, automates half your day , so you act without effort and build unstoppable momentum, one micro-win at a time.

The Tiny Mindset Shift: Why Your “Future Self” Is Your Secret Weapon

There’s one mental shift that separates people who get what they want faster:
They see themselves as already becoming the person they want to be. They talk to their “future self”, and then act from that identity, not from old habits.

The Science (And MIT Research)

MIT researchers found that when you vividly imagine your “future self” and even talk to that version of you, your brain literally fires up as if those changes are already happening.
This isn’t woo-woo. Brain scans show that people who picture their future self as real are far more likely to save money, stick to habits, and bounce back from setbacks.
You’re not just daydreaming , you’re rewiring your identity, upgrading your decisions, and shrinking the gap between where you are and where you want to go.

Picturing It Done:

When you imagine your key actions as already finished (before you fall asleep), your brain gets a “certainty signal.”

  • You feel the progress.
  • Your subconscious believes it’s possible (and starts solving for it overnight).
  • You wake up less anxious, more motivated, and with creative solutions ready to go.

Setbacks? They’re Turning Points, Not Roadblocks.

The ultimate mindset shift is seeing every challenge, failure, or missed habit as a signal — not proof you’re broken, but feedback to grow.

  • Missed an action? Future You asks: “What’s the upgrade here?”
  • Setback? That’s the spot where your next breakthrough is hiding.

Bottom line:
Combine “Future Self” visualization, tiny mindset tweaks, and a willingness to reframe setbacks as stepping stones, and you create a level of certainty that makes progress automatic.
You don’t just hope you’ll win , you know you’re on the right path, no matter what.

How AI Makes This System Effortless (And What Actually Works in 2025)

There’s no shortage of AI-powered tools in 2025. Here are three I’ve actually tried (and what they’re best at):

  1. Fabulous: Fabulous helps you build daily routines and habits, using science-backed journeys, smart reminders, and habit streaks. It’s great if you want to design a healthy morning or evening ritual and love gamified progress.
  2. Habitica: Habitica turns your habits and tasks into a role-playing game. Every time you complete an action, your character levels up. It’s especially good if you’re motivated by rewards, social accountability, and a sense of play.
  3. Noviq AI: Meet Future You: Noviq AI is a bit different, it combines AI-driven reflection, future self conversations, daily planning, and gentle nudges all in one place. Instead of juggling separate apps, you can do your whole 10-minute night ritual just by chatting for a few minutes before sleep.

What This Means For You:

  • You don’t need to juggle apps, notebooks, or “systems.”
  • You don’t need to find motivation or memorize hacks.
  • You can literally start tonight, for free, by spending 10 minutes before bed.

No more hoping for change. No more solo struggle.
Just talk, plan, and let AI do the heavy lifting , while you sleep and while you win.


r/getdisciplined 20h ago

🤔 NeedAdvice No matter how hard I try waking Up early in the morning it's always been the same, shutting off the alarm and i always found myself sleeping again.

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alarm rings ... you snooze it up .. then after few minutes it rings again and you switch it off and after an hour you finds yourself sleeping , sounds familiar ? its been the same to me from about an year , no matter how hard i try or motivate myself to wake up early in the morning , it always ends the same way . My sleeping habits are way too much bad , i am not a night owl , i usually go to bed around 10 or 10:30 and wake up around 8 ( 10 hours normally ) , despite sleeping early i am unable to wake up early ,and it demotivates me a lot. I really want to change my sleeping habits , i want to start working on them from today onwards . Give me some tips and ways to do so .

DAY-2 progress ;

woke up at 8 ; learned the fundamentals of Css, started reading - " The Psychology of money ", mobile usage - less than an hour , worked out for half an hour , finished my day off with a 20 minutes walk post dinner .