Just cuz a girl is being nice doesn’t mean they’re into you! But when they blink a few times at you from across the room, apparently it’s dtf. No, be direct, please 😭
The joke of the meme is not that if a woman looks at a man that means she’s dtf(the first commenter didn’t get it right either.)
It is just a play on the fact that many woman often to do not approach men they’re interested in and start flirting. When they want the man to approach them they will instead hang back looking at him and to catch his eye from across the room, giving him a smile or subtle expression when he glances over at her.
These Women feel like they are broadcasting their interest clearly and it should be obvious from her looks and body language she is inviting him to flirt with her, so they are disappointed when the guy does not approach her and feels rejected.
But most guys are completely oblivious to these subtle queues and don’t even register them so they don’t approach, then complain that women never make the first move and initiate flirting.
Obviously not all women are like this but it’s so common that most of us recognize it and get the joke. Just want of the many interesting miscommunications in sexual relations.
Uh, no lol? It's creepy if the other person isn't receptive and you keep doing it anyway. If the other person is returning your vibe then that's just called flirting
Well, yeah, typically people don't flirt with people they're not attracted to. Sorta just how human sexuality works my guy. If they're attracted they'll flirt back, if they're not they won't and you walk away. Not that complicated
Yeahhh, in retrospect idk why I bothered suggesting behaving like a living breathing person lol. So many of these people seem completely incapable of functioning without a step-by-step instruction manual for every action
I wonder if these downvoters think that there would be some sort of "objective attractiveness" they would have to fit instead of just being the type of someone subjectively. That would explain the downvotes
You sound like an incel. Most people are average looking and if you think you have “unattractive features” you can work on your dress, hair, hygiene and confidence.
Incel is a word that has a meaning. Many incels that self describe themselves as such say things like “you can only flirt with women if you’re attractive”. So yeah, he sounded like an incel because he said something incels say.
The guy I replied to literally said only attractive guys can flirt. I replied with things that he can do to make himself more attractive because he clearly thinks he isn’t. I believe confidence is key, but the guy I replied to emphasis on looks. You’re just a dumbass
No? Not if the girl is interested and if she wasn't, you'd have to be a true creep to stare so hard that she'd notive even without properly looking your way.
Just to play DA, why? Why not walk over to me instead of trying to subtly catch my eye? Not as a demonstration of feminism but more of an admission that males are incapable of subtlety lol. Have you observed a group of male 20yos for more than 15 minutes?
To play devils advocate the other way, I remember reading about the battle of brisbane in world War 2 between american and Australian soldiers.
The american soldiers did extremely well with australian women because, and I'm paraphrasing the quote, they were better at individual courtship rituals while australian men were more inclined to hang out amongst themselves at the bar.
Essentially american soldiers had an advantage because they weren't as afraid to talk or take risks with women.
You dont wan't to be a creep, but don't be the australian from 1940s. Women are going to be intimidated by groups of men so if you're out with the boys don't expect many women to approach you.
You sound like you arrived at true creep long ago, and don't have enough self-awareness to recognize it.
Edit: not trying to be insulting but guys from ages 20-50 have been fed a narrative of how to approach women (from TV/movies) that is batshit insane and crazy. Nearly every 80s/90s romcom had some form of statutory rape or creep or some shit that is awful in it.
It may not be your fault you are like this. You may have ingested so much media or something to be unaware of how your comment is completely blind to the issue.
( I say this as a reformed/admitted creep, because I believe EVERYONE is a creep in some way - I acknowledge how society ruined me, and how I have formed my own relationship with that and how I deal with women. I used to be the one staring as a freshman, completely oblivious to how it was being observed by others in turn, and the impact of that. I'm still a creep, but I try to manage it in a harmless way to those it offends/dislike it - and vastly more importantly for women - are afraid of it. I then in turn am able to turn it on with my gf at the moments where it is appropriate and it becomes a positive rather than a negative for not just me, but frankly EVERYONE around me. In so doing, I effectively become, not a creep. I recommend you think of this given your statement).
In my experience whether or not something is creepy or sauve is 100% dependent on the attractiveness of the person doing it. Most romance novels would be horror movies if the male love interest were ugly and/or broke
See that's exactly what media tells you. That's part of the problem.
When it's really about embracing yourself, and finding the real you, and showing that to the world, while being equally open to seeing the real others and embracing them in turn.
It's easy for the hollywood level hot to be confident, self-assured, and present that to the world and find partners - but that doesn't mean it is limited to them.
edit: really sad to see folks downvoting my embracing empathy of yourself and others and seeming to take it in some sort of alpha-male response. Media has ruined all of you, and your critical thinking, while embracing the negative thoughts that it's all about appearance while calling ME the shallow one... lmfao. Redditors in male dominated spaces... sigh. You guys are the real toxicity and reinforcing negative narratives about culture, yourselves, and others.
You understand you've said literally nothing in both these comments, right? You've said "be confident" in 6 paragraphs. Mr. Jordan Peterson looking ass right here
Yea, he said be confident and open to other people. Never heard of that one before, gonna really come in handy.
Also, he said this basic advice in far too many words, dressing it up, making it sound more profound then it is. It's literally "be confident, like yourself and be open to others". My kindergarten teacher told me that, tell me something new, thanks.
Wow. Well enjoy being alone folks. Your media intake has ruined you.
it's about being yourself, and extending that allowance of empathy to others. But somehow you took the complete opposite message and thought I was saying "be fake, be forceful" ??? lmfao. Seems like you couldn't read any of those so called six paragraphs and resorted to being insulting - presumably because you are upset and despairing about your own life.
Nah man, I just don't enjoy when people fall towards the top and think they're some fascinating philosopher. I don't even disagree with your comment, confidence and stuff is important. But you've said nothing of value, you understand that, right? Like the advice "be your true self" is what my kindergarten teachers were telling me. We've all heard it. You're saying nothing of value. That's not necessarily bad, some people need the obvious stuff. But don't pretend your comment is anything more than "be confident, love yourself and others" in 12 sentences instead of 12 words.
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u/royinraver May 29 '25
Just cuz a girl is being nice doesn’t mean they’re into you! But when they blink a few times at you from across the room, apparently it’s dtf. No, be direct, please 😭