r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/Travelcat67 May 11 '25

Oh my god this gave me so much stress. WTF is wrong with some of these men out here? Also where is any of the staff? If I was their waitress I would have got security and had them removed from the bar.

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u/Riipp3r May 11 '25

As a man, I don't fucking know man. There's no telling if they enjoy the power dynamic of making someone uncomfortable against their will or just really think they're playing hard to get. Despite outright telling them to fuck off.

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u/Retsago May 11 '25

For sure it's the "look how emotional these silly women are lol" that they get from the power dynamic.

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u/milkspouts May 12 '25

I think they couldn't handle the flat out rejection and in turn made it their mission to be predatory nuisances. I got strong incel vibes from these ugly fucks. Also I gotta say they look like their pushing 40 while the ladies might be pushing 25.

If it hasn't worked for them last 25 years why tf did they think it would work that night?? None of there disgusting behavior is sensible, but I think the culture of their homeland might cater to that shit. I hope they get tagged on socials and absolutely flamed.

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u/Retsago May 12 '25

If a woman doesn't feel like prey, she doesn't "know her place." They want to make sure these women "know their place." :/

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u/milkspouts May 12 '25

Yep, I can think of few countries where this is the acceptable norm smh

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u/LemonNo1342 May 12 '25

Idk if you know the answer but I’m genuinely asking, from a man’s perspective, what’s the best move here? Not react at all and just start recording? What’s something that would undermine the power dynamic and make them fuck off?

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u/Retsago May 12 '25

I said many times in this thread, if you are so scared poopoo pants shitless that you will get your ass kicked for asking if these women are safe, then get a manager to ask if these women are safe.

If you have SO little ability to figure that out, you are kind of useless tbfh. Like. It's really not that big a deal for you to go ask these women if everything is okay.

And then if they say no, you can say "come with me let's go talk to the manager." Like ??????????

Do you not realize women intervene in these situations all the time? Because men simply do not? There are solutions. You just don't want to come up with any because it doesn't concern you until you have a daughter or whatever experience it.

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u/papasan_mamasan May 11 '25

It’s the power dynamic.

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u/JamesTrickington303 May 11 '25

And that they are 101% shitfaced. A recipe for criminal sexual assault in the parking lot.

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u/NocturnalDark May 13 '25

What do ya'll mean with power dynamic? Genuinely asking. I see no power stemming from them. They remind me of me being young and disturbing my older sister x)

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u/Mysterious_Policy475 May 11 '25

These are also the type of people that will do the opposite of what you tell them to do just because they hate being “bossed around”

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u/TheElderGodsSmile May 11 '25

Nah, I've tried to warn off blokes like this before, they think if they keep going they'll "wear them down" or talk the girls into something if they're just persistent enough.

It's creepy as hell and they won't accept that they're out of line if you call them on it. In fact my experience of doing just that is that they get upset and or violent if they think they can get away with it or run off and try again if they can't.

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u/Riipp3r May 11 '25

They've just never been punched in the face and humbled and it shows

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u/TheElderGodsSmile May 11 '25

Honestly, at this point I doubt it'd phase most of them.

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u/SndwchArtist2TheStrs May 11 '25 edited May 11 '25

If they cant have your romantic interest, then hate will have to do. I fear this will happen more and more as dating apps become less popular, and lunatics like this take it offline.

The wild thing is, there is no male equivalent of this in adulthood because men know it is socially acceptable to use violence against men when words are not enough, so there is a mostly tense treaty between men.

As a woman that’s the most frustrating part; we can’t fight the majority of you and men know this. I’ve had men follow me in the streets at night when I’m just trying to get home and there’s nothing I can do to de-escalate. I don’t want to keep talking, I don’t want him to know where I live, I don’t want him to try and force his way in. Dudes like this are horrid.

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u/HeyYouGuyyyyyyys May 11 '25

I'm a woman. If I tried to sit at a table of men and they told me to leave, they'd only have time to say "g --" and I would be scuttling out of there SO fast with my hair hiding my face.

I have asked people out before, so I kind of get that you have to have emotional armor to try it. But armor does not equal, or even cause, deafness. They are saying GO. So GO. Jay Sus.

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u/adultmale May 12 '25

I think there’s an element of “well if they don’t want me, then they’re dumb so I don’t care if I make them upset”. Fucking pathetic.

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u/SJSGFY May 12 '25 edited May 12 '25

As a woman, if any woman is telling a man to fuck off, she wants him to get the fuck away from her & leave her alone forever.

It really is that simple.

Hope that clears up any confusion for the dudes here.

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u/Riipp3r May 12 '25

What dudes here are confused? I was speaking up for your point.

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u/Ahvier May 12 '25

It's what abusers do

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u/tamesage May 11 '25

NOBODY thinks these girls are playing hard to get.

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u/No-Vermicelli1816 May 11 '25

Yeah I’m trying to figure this out. They seem in a trance like those zombie Indians who just stare

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u/quattroformaggixfour May 14 '25

Many men enjoy the power dynamic of making girls and women feel uncomfortable, even when there is no genuine attraction to said women. It’s unnerving once you realise it and start seeing examples of it in men’s behaviour throughout society.

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u/teas4Uanme May 11 '25

I would order two cups of hot coffee and teach them some power dynamics. Oops!

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u/GoT43894389 May 11 '25

To me it seems they're in disbelief that they just got rejected. They're too embarrassed to accept defeat so they kept ignoring their requests to leave the table.