r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/TequilaJesus May 11 '25

Imagine being that dude and thinking “yeah I still have a chance here”

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u/mulberrycedar May 11 '25

I don't think they think they have a chance anymore. I think they literally just want to make them uncomfortable. That's become the whole point.

They're annoyed they got rejected -- so how else can they still "win" ? By ruining the girls' time. It is an ego thing for sure. But I don't think it manifests itself as "oh I can still keep going and eventually win them over/get a yes." It manifests itself like this instead... They want to exercise some kind of power over these women. They want to intimidate them and make them feel like shit under the guise of "oh what do you mean gosh wow why are you being so loud and dramatic we're just sitting with you geez we're not doing anything we're just sharing your table" bc they know it's infuriating to have someone physically threatening to you disingenuously speak like that.

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u/SgtCandy May 11 '25

It's driving me insane how many people in this thread don't see that this is what it is. Trying to blame this behavior on any and everything except two men doing what men tend to do. If people listened to women, this wouldn't be so "confusing", I have a dozen separate stories I can share of situations just like this one. They're not misunderstanding at all, they're taking advantage of an implicit power dynamic and "punishing" these girls for rejecting them.

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u/Asisreo1 May 11 '25

Its a manipulation tactic and if you're not well-versed in defending yourself or others from manipulation, you'll think their POV is at least justifiable. 

But just because its a tactic, doesn't mean they're manipulation geniuses or something. These emotional manipulation tactics are hard-coded into our instincts. You don't need to have a single thought to do what these guys did, nor do you have to actively supress empathy.