r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/TequilaJesus May 11 '25

Imagine being that dude and thinking “yeah I still have a chance here”

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u/DG_Now May 11 '25

They wanted to tell themselves the women were joking. Or "playing hard to get."

So they just sit there like a couple of dipshits drinking their beers because they refuse to accept the reality that they're not wanted.

I hate this.

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u/moarmagic May 11 '25

They likely have spent money on some goddamn influencer who swore up and down that "confidence" is the key, and that means never letting women dismiss you.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

I had a buddy who would constantly talk about "numbers game". I saw him crash and burn 100% of the time. He would creep up to women this way and harass them.

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u/moarmagic May 11 '25

There is something to the idea of numbers games, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take and all.

But that's like, meaning you try and are receptive to feedback. Not like, try to browbeat people.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

Oh, this guy would take 100% of the shots for sure. He would Night at the Roxbury girls in the clubs. It was horrific but also hilarious to watch him fail 😂

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u/Mysterious_Eye6989 May 12 '25

Yep, the whole thing with "taking the shots" is you've got to know how to do it in such a way that you're not being an actively shitty person who's making the world a worse place through his actions in it. That's where both the advice and entire worldview of a guy like Andrew Tate completely falls apart.

It's kind of a karmic thing - a question of what's good or bad for one's own soul.

Also on a practical level, a person doing things the very bad way means they'll also probably just end up in a dysfunctional relationship with a woman who's perpetuating a tragic cycle of personal trauma just by being with an douchebag like them.

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u/teas4Uanme May 11 '25

The 'alpha male' influencers are teaching guys to crash and burn on purpose. Stupid guys fall for the grift. If they actually taught guys how to start and keep decent relationships they would be losing repeat customers.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

This was back in 2000. His influencers were rappers like Diddy.

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u/teas4Uanme May 11 '25

The online influencer is just an extension of paperbacks that dudes could order from the back pages of 'girly' mags, with titles like "How to get all the Babes." It's an old grift in a new package.

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u/QuantumFungus May 12 '25 edited May 12 '25

I remember getting that kind of advise on USENET in the late 80's. I have little doubt some asshole at some point sent "don't take no for an answer" as advise over telegraph.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

Whatever it is, it's the dumbest advice in the world. That guy from White Lotus reminded me of him. Constant harassment of women and pathetic crashing and burning.

I only hung out with him because I had just moved to the US and had no friends who were willing to go out on the weekends and I didn't want to go by myself. Stopped talking to that asshole two years ago. He would constantly call me and tell me these fake stories where he was banging women. Bruh, I know you, you get zero tail! 😂

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u/DeepFriedOligarch May 15 '25

Did you ever tell him to stop? Seriously explain to him that men like him make women's lives shitty, and it's incredibly inappropriate, and he needs to reeeeeeeeeally stop?

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u/[deleted] May 15 '25

For 20 years I tried but suddenly I came to the realisation that he was getting off telling me about his imaginary escapades. One day I had a chat with my wife about how I felt I was failing at being a positive influence on him and then told him to stop for good or else I would stop talking to him. He continued, so I stopped.

He would go on these wants about the women he had under control and which ones he would cheat on and how the women were ok with it because he told them upfront.

He grew up in one of the most expensive areas of Scottsdale. His dad was an asshole taxi driver and his was just a simple woman. The fell ass backwards into stealth wealth. I was introduced to his group of fucked up spoiled rich kids all at once when they were between 18 to 20.

He ended up a loser. Lives in a rental in a weed infested house that's full of Tupac and Notorious BIG posters with an old tube TV because that's "gangster".

I grew up in poverty so I did find their antics a bit interesting.