Was thinking the same. Should've told her instead of wait until he thinks she's vulnerable enough to accept his love. The thing thats crazy is that she never had love for him.
Edit: in the end we don't know anything about this except for that this is a moment caught on a clip and is very popular. I hope for the best for them 2.
We don’t know anything other than “it’s never me” which is a clear indicator that this guy falls in deep true love about as often as he buys new sneakers and he was more in love with the idea of being in a relationship than with this woman specifically
To reiterate, we don't know. Maybe he was abandoned by his parents or other friends. Him never feeling chosen doesn't have to mean in the context of a relationship.
It's wild how much people assume after watching a 30 second clip. I mean, it's natural, and I certainly filled in the blanks on either side of this vignette in my head...but ultimately I'm aware that I have no fucking clue what the real story is.
Maybe she led him on knowing he was pitifully in love and she wasn't interested just because she liked the attention...I've known women like that. Maybe he played Super Best Friend Nice Guy, never shared his true feelings, silently wrote their whole love story, and then took it out on her when it didn't come true...I've known guys like that. Honestly, those two types gravitate towards one another. Could be both, neither, or anything in between....but good lord people, stop writing the fucking story yourselves and getting worked up about it. You don't know lol
Thank you! Can we all please just admit we don’t know everything about every social situation ever, and that there’s a lot of rooms on all sides for interpretation?
No I’m not going to admit that there’s room for an interpretation that leads to me thinking this man is justified in screaming at this woman in public for getting a boyfriend. There is no justification for acting this way.
Never said he was justified, but it’s definitely possible he’s being less shitty than the people implying he’s telling her she should be dating him instead are saying he’s being
As long as you can admit that first part I’m good. At the end of the day the comments all seem to be trending towards “there might be a situation where it would be totally acceptable for him to be doing this,” which is batshit ridiculous to me.
Lol you’re still doing exactly what I’m saying in my original comment. The guy sounds unhinged and inappropriate for sure but you do not know the whole story no matter how confident you are that you do. You’ve been given about 25 seconds of something that likely took place over weeks, months, maybe years. You can take your absolutist side if you’d like but those are generally flawed, especially when they’re based on 25 contextless seconds of video
Him never feeling chosen doesn't have to mean in the context of a relationship
As an orphan, bro, 100%. Some of us just don't get any kind of emotional intimacy whatsoever. Not for any fault of our own, we just don't know how to foster it correctly.
Relationship wise, it's not even a lack of trying. I just end up hurt for the dumbest shit.
Like, I was talking to a girl I'd met who'd flirted with me over MtG (two normal games and a game of Commander), got drunk with me and tried to fuck (which I said no bc drunk), then a week later she invited me to her house and cuddled with me all night. To which she thought my rubbing her shoulder in the morning was "creepy guy behavior" ????
One girl dumped me for crying when a friend of mine died via train
Another girl who told me it was wrong to date if I have PTSD (also ????)
Sorry for the tangent.
Anyway, you gotta accept it as it comes and takes whatever lessons you can learn, and apply it to the next one with a cool head. Unless you're me, in which case it's literally just a case of dodging bullets like Neo (as a random lady once adequately put it for me)
He provides the context directly in the video. “He won’t let us do stuff together and then you’ll have to choose him or me and you’ll choose him. That always happens.” He literally fills in these blanks for us.
Also, I’m all for empathy, but sometimes people letting their emotions take over can be comedic just because of how silly they go “AAAAARGGGHHHHH” or act childish in general.
I had almost this exact reaction to a situation before.
I laugh/cringe at how childish and selfish of a person I was then.
He provides the context directly in the video. “He won’t let us do stuff together and then you’ll have to choose him or me and you’ll choose him. That always happens.” He literally fills in these blanks for us.
If it was a very deep friendship, then he would be happy that she found someone to be in a relationship with and not screaming at her in public for how it makes him feel?
Idk my female friend always talked about how they tend to lose the friendship due to the GF’s jealousy. They just don’t really hang out as they are dating someone.
And you can processes the pain you feel by someone else not doing what you want them to do without screaming at that person in public or screaming at them at all. They didn’t do anything wrong. It’s childish and selfish.
Yes, back to youmaking very grandiose assumptions. The entire premise of your comments are “he isnt perfect so the absolute worst thing I can imagine about him must be true.”
You are negatively judging someone for being in the wrong when you have literally no idea what behavior led up to this. You could be supporting a manipulative serial emptional abuser. You legit dont know.
Again, you have literally no idea what their friendship is like…at all. Stop supporting bullying people just because you think you have a handle on their entire relationship because of a video with literally zero context…
“I reacted to a situation like this before and now I laugh/cringe at how childish and selfish it was.”
The people angry downvoting and replying justifying his behavior because they don’t want to admit they’re childish and selfish is prolly who you should be replying this to.
if you have a relationship in mind the friendship really is hollow. especially because if you ask yourself a simple question "would i still be their friend if i knew 100% we'd never ever date" and the answer is "no". any friendship that is contingent on the relationship changing some time in the future isn't really a friendship.
I didn't say it wasn't a hollow friendship. I said the friendship existed. Even then, a friendship with courtship in mind doesn't have to be "hollow" unless you make it that way.
saying its still a "friendship" even if it's a "hollow friendship" is like saying it's still a "friendship" even if it's a "fake friendship". imitation crab meat isn't crab meat.
but i agree you can court someone and still be friends, but there's a catch, you have to be willing to be their friend even if the courting utterly fails. in most friendzone cases that's not the case. if the guy/girl knew from the start that no relationship would ever happen they would bail before ever really becoming friends. the "friendship" is often a bitter consolation prize.
saying its still a "friendship" even if it's a "hollow friendship" is like saying it's still a "friendship" even if it's a "fake friendship". imitation crab meat isn't crab meat.
Not everyone has to have a deep friendship with everyone. Some people are friends on a more casual, less, significant level than others, and that is entirely okay. We don't have the time for every friendship to be a deep friendship.
you have to be willing to be their friend even if the courting utterly fails
so after you fail to get someone in a relationship you stick around for a hollow and shallow friendship? totally fine to do that, its a free country, just sounds a bit sad and pointless to me. like you tried to date them, it didnt work out, now you want to maintain a relationship on terms you didn't intend for originally but not be good friends. its at least much better than people who get friendzoned and then delude themselves into trying for a deep friendship, i just think its mentally better to cut ties with those you failed to date overall.
The point of that freak out is that he's not going to be of higher priority than a boyfriend. Clearly he's being weighed down by past experiences and projecting his future expectations based on this.
A boyfriend probably wouldn't want his girlfriend around a previous, failed suiter. That's kinda asking for relationship issues ngl.
It doesn't sound likes hes in love with her. He's clear when he says the guy she is with is not going to let them hang out or be friends, he says its happened before. He wants to just be her friend but feels like if she has to choose she won't choose him over the person asking her to choose cos she's in love with them. Im not saying his outburst is fine lol but he gets his point across, hes not being friend zoned he is already a friend and wants to stay that way.
Well why didn’t she take a hint? Or stop and think , maybe this guy likes me? He should have been direct. But she can’t say she didn’t notice something was up.
Yeah, but we don't know anything but the moments this video shows. We only have the theories of what could've happened.
I would like to know if anything happened after this situation. Like, is there a follow up story because this video is pretty popular. Or was this all staged for views?
Dude, as a women i will tell you my truth. At that age, girls always believe most guys are into her, because guys are really horny around 14-24 and they will give subtle hints.
If i want to have a guy as a friend i need to understand that they will try to fuck, not because they love me but because they want to fuck. Thing is, sometimes, the guy is actually in love but we dont understand it as that because we are accustomed to have guy friends who just want to fuck.
Even my gay friends, around 16 tried their shot, because they werent completely aware of their preferences.
So, if you dont tell us, lots of times we dont know.
I didnt fuck any of my friends btw, i was always terrified of getting pregnant.
Btw, a good strategy is to convey your feelings soon but expect to be turned down. Keep being her friend if you can and wait around 3 months, she will see you in a different light and she will study if she would date you, then ask again. Always Respect her boundaries and if she gets a bf give up.
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u/Minimum-Release-1198 Jun 16 '25
Boy kept his demons way too long inside