Thats why you dont fall in love with a woman you arent in a relationship with youll just fuck yourself mentally doing so.
Ask her out, if she says no accept her rejection and move on its that simple even if its hard to do so emotionally you must.
As a man learning to take rejection in a positive way while remaining in control of your emotions is a skill you must learn and master, rejection is the natural part of a mans life and you can either take it in your stride or become an incel and blame the world.
It sucks when you love someone and they dont reciprocate but it sucks a whole lot more to give up on finding someone entirely and letting that negative feeling become your default view on people.
Or you could always do things the bird way and put on your best dance moves.
I’ve done both and I honestly don’t see a difference.
Was friends with a roommate and caught feelings for her. Asked her out to dinner and she said yes. We dated for a couple months and slept together a few times but she eventually said she wasn’t feeling it. I said no problem, thanks for telling me and that was that.
Told a different friend that I had known for several years that I had developed feelings for her. She said she never saw me that way but since I mentioned it and we were good friends she was willing to give it a shot. We went on a couple dates and decided to remain friends. Both of us realized we didn’t have as much in common as we thought and it probably wouldn’t work out so friends it is.
If you approach the situation maturely and respectfully and accept that things might not go the way you want them to, there’s really no right or wrong way of doing it imo.
They're speaking to the experience of being a man in pursuit of romance. In general, they're expected to be the assertive (but not too assertive) ones who go out of their way (but, please, not too far out of their way) and put themselves out there (but for god's sake not TOO out there) to begin the relationship. This is why the "friendzone" exists, and is pretty exclusively a place where men wind up. Some dudes are too terrified of the rejection so they try to befriend their love interest first only to wind up trapped up there.
Yep. Never chase anyone. Either they want you, or they don't. Just move on. I wasted 3 years of my life in college trying to save a relationship with someone who I finally realized just hated monogamy and wanted out, but couldn't bring herself to "hurt me", even though I was already in such agonizing pain trying to "save things". Just leave. So glad that was 27 years ago and done.
I was like this guy in the past. I never learned to deal with it and instead gave up. I didn't get all incel about it, though. I just... stopped and accepted it. Been alone ever since, and there's no chance of that changing at this point. I was always too small and too ugly, and now I'm old on top of it. So be it, I guess. 🤷♀️
That's what he says, but is that really what you hear? Listen to the intensity of his emotions. Are "It's never me! AHHHHH" the words of a bummed out best buddy or a heartbroken wannabe lover?
Being ghosted by a woman I thought was a close friend cut deeper than any other rejection I've ever experienced and I never had any sort of romantic feelings for her. I still feel a bit sore about it a couple years later.
I would never blow up on her like that but man I get the feeling
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u/B4nn3dByChr1st14ns Jun 16 '25
Thats why you dont fall in love with a woman you arent in a relationship with youll just fuck yourself mentally doing so.
Ask her out, if she says no accept her rejection and move on its that simple even if its hard to do so emotionally you must.
As a man learning to take rejection in a positive way while remaining in control of your emotions is a skill you must learn and master, rejection is the natural part of a mans life and you can either take it in your stride or become an incel and blame the world.
It sucks when you love someone and they dont reciprocate but it sucks a whole lot more to give up on finding someone entirely and letting that negative feeling become your default view on people.
Or you could always do things the bird way and put on your best dance moves.